Ungathetha njani noMbhexeshi weNarcissistic? 5 Iingcebiso

Sonke sifuna ukuziva siviwe, siqondwa, siqhagamshelwe kwaye sixhaswa kwiincoko zethu. Kodwa akusoloko kunjalo xa ufuna ukuthetha nomntu okhohlisayo. Ukuba lo mntu uhlala kunye ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic okanye unotyekelo lwe-narcissistic, ukwazi omawukutsho (kwaye ungakuthethi) kunokukunceda unxibelelane kakuhle.

Iingcebiso ze-5 malunga nendlela yokuthetha ne-Narcissistic Pervert

Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntu ebomini bakho ubonisa iimpawu ze-narcissistic, kukho iindlela zokuthetha nabo ezinokuba sempilweni kuni nobabini.

Qwalasela ezi ngcebiso zi-5 kwixesha elizayo xa uncokola nabo.

1. Babuze imibuzo ecacisayo

A i-narcissistic manipulator usenokungayiqondi indlela angekho ngqiqweni okanye abuhlungu ngayo. Qala ingxoxo yakho ngemibuzo embalwa malunga nezenzo zabo ukuvusa ulwazi lwabo. Basenokuziqhelanisa ukuze bakwazi ukuhlala ngakumbi okanye bangabi nankathalo kangako. Kwaye oku, xa beqonda indlela yokuziphatha kwabo okungalinganiyo, okuyingozi okanye okungafanelekanga ngayo.

2. Mamela ngenyameko kwaye ubonise umdla:

Ukubonakalisa umdla kubo kuphela kwendlela yokugcina ingqalelo yabo. Bonisa ukuba unikele ingqalelo ngokugqabaza oko akuthethayo ngamaxesha athile. Uncumo lwesiqingatha olungathathi hlangothi kunye nokunqwala kwinto ayithethayo ihamba indlela ende ekumgcineni ezolile kwaye egxile.
Bajonge emehlweni ngelixa bethetha nawe. Oku kubonisa ukuba umamele, kodwa kwakhona ukuba uzithembile kwaye womelele. Zama ukubangabaphazamisi ngelixa bethetha. Ukuba kukho imfuneko yokungenelela, khangela indawo yokuthetha kwaye ulindele ukuba badibane nawe phakathi.

3. Babonise uvelwano

Jonga kwiimvakalelo zabo ukunciphisa umsindo wabo okanye ukuzithethelela. I-narcissist ifuna ukuba uvume iimvakalelo zabo kuba kufuneka bazive ngathi balungile kwaye basabela ngokuchanekileyo. Thetha izinto ezinje:

“Kufuneka uzive ukhathazekile ngale nto ndiyithethileyo, kwaye ndiyasiqonda isizathu sokuba uvakalelwe ngolo hlobo” Sebenzisa amazwi athi “thina” ukubonisa ukuba nikunye kule nto kwaye niqukene ekuziphatheni.

Yithi, “Sihambe ngeenyawo ezingalunganga,” okanye “Singazama le ncoko kwakhona kamva.”

• Musa ukwenza iinkcazo ngawe ngaphandle kokuba kukucela uxolo (eli lixesha kuphela i-narcissist eya kukhathalela indlela oziva ngayo).
• Khumbula ukuba, uvelwano lufundisa ukuba novelwano. Ukwenza umzekelo wovelwano yindlela esebenzayo yokutshintsha indlela i-narcissist eyenza ngayo ixesha.

4. Zidlule izithuko zabo

I-Narcissists iba khohlakeleyo kuba ifuna impendulo engalunganga kuwe. Banovelwano kwaye bayanyusa iingxabano ukuze bakwazi ukuqaqambisa umsindo wakho kunye nokukhathazeka kwaye bazenze babonakale bephakamile.

Ukuba uqala ukukuhlambalaza, ungayihoyi ingqumbo yakhe – xa engakwazi ukufumana impendulo enamandla evela kuwe, ulahlekelwa amandla akhe okuncokola. Sukuthatha izithuko kumntu osebenzisa i-narcissistic manipulator ngokwakho. Unokuziva kamnandi kuphela xa uziva kakubi, yaye ukukuthuka kwakhe kubangelwa kukungakhuseleki okunzulu. Uburharha kunye nobukrelekrele zizixhobo ezinkulu zokophula uxinezeleko kunye ne-narcissist. Ukuba bayakwazi ukuhleka indlela abaziphethe ngayo, banokuqhelana (okwexeshana).

5. Gcina unxibelelwano lufutshane kangangoko kunokwenzeka

Thetha kancinci kwaye uzinike indawo. Ukuba incoko iba nzulu kakhulu, thatha ikhefu-sebenzisa indlu yangasese, fumana isiselo, okanye ufumane isizathu sokuhamba okwethutyana.

• Ukuba ufuna ukuguqula umbandela, mphazamise ngento anomdla kuyo okanye faka imuvi okanye inkqubo yeTV ukuze uthabathe ingqalelo yakhe kuwe.
• Kuphephe ukuthi “ewe” kwizicelo zabo rhoqo. Awusoze ubafumane kwicala lakho ngokubacenga kwaye iya kwandisa intsebenziswano yakho.
• Ungalibali ukuzikhusela. Ukuba ufuna ukubaleka kubo, shiya igumbi de ube kwimeko yengqondo apho unokunxibelelana kwakhona.

Uziphatha njani xa ujongene ne-manipulator ye-narcissistic?

Ukulawula ubudlelwane nomntu obonisa iimpawu zobuntu be-narcissistic kunokuthatha umngcipheko kwintlalontle yakho kunye nempilo yengqondo. Zama amacebo afana nokubeka imida ecacileyo kunye nokuxhomekeka kwinkqubo yenkxaso yabantu obathembayo.

1. Fumana malunga ne-TPN

Abantu bahlala bechaza umntu onobuntu be-narcissistic njengonomtsalane kwaye uyathandeka, onokunceda ukungahoyi ezinye zeendlela zabo zokuziphatha eziyingozi. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uqhelane neempawu zobuntu be-narcissistic ukuze uziqaphele ngokulula. Kwakhona kunokukunceda uqonde ngakumbi amandla kunye nobuthathaka bomntu, ngoko unokuzilungiselela ukuhlangabezana nazo naziphi na iingxaki ezivelayo.

Thetha nengcali yezempilo yengqondo okanye ufunde iincwadi ezibhalwe ngoochwephesha bempilo yengqondo. Oku kunokukunceda ukuba ufunde ezona ndlela zilungileyo zokunxibelelana nomntu omthandayo obonisa iimpawu zobuntu be-narcissistic.

2. Yomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho

Ngokuphuhlisa ukuzithemba okunempilo, kulula kakhulu ukulawula kunye nokumelana nezinye zeendlela zokuziphatha ezinokuba yingozi onokudibana nazo xa ukubudlelwane nomntu okhohlisayo. Ukwamkela ukuthetha okuhle, ukuzikhathalela, kunye nokufumana inkqubo yenkxaso enempilo kunokukunceda uphuhlise impilo yakho ukomelela kwaye womeleze ukuzithemba kwakho.

Ukuzixabisa okuphuculweyo kunokwenza kube lula ukubeka imida ecacileyo, ukuqina, nokumela izinto ubani anomdla kuzo. Izinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo zokugcina ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator.

3. Thetha ngokungafihlisiyo

Ngamanye amaxesha ukungahoyi into okanye ukuhamba nje kukukhetha impendulo yakho yedabi, akunjalo?

Ukuba uziva ngathi imida yakho iweliwe xa ubunxibelelana nomntu one-NPD, zama ukungasabeli, ubonakale ukhathazekile, okanye ubonise ukungonwabi kwakho.

Kufuneka umxelele indlela amazwi akhe kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe okuchaphazela ngayo ubomi bakho. Cacisa kwaye ungaguquguquki malunga noko kungamkelekanga kunye nendlela ofuna ukuphathwa ngayo, kodwa zilungiselele ukuba kuya kuba nzima kulo mntu ukuqonda okanye ukuvelana neemvakalelo zakho.

Error yokuPhepha xa uncokola neNarcissistic Pervert

1. “Ayikho ngawe.”

Owu, kodwa kunjalo. Yonke into injalo. Ukunyuswa kwengcali nganye, ukukhulelwa ngalunye kunye nebali ngalinye elitsha lothando lomhlobo lithuba elitsha lokuphinda agxininise kwimbono yodwa anokuthi adibanise nayo: eyakhe. Usenokungayiqondi into ayenzayo, kodwa ukuyikhomba kuya kumenza azikhusele ngakumbi.

2. Yeka ukuthi, “Awumameli.”

Ukuyeka ukumamela kuya kuthetha ukuqonda ukungakhuseleki okunzulu kwingcambu yazo zonke iingxaki zakhe: ukuba akafanelekanga ukumamela.  Endaweni yokuchaza, thatha indlela eyahlukileyo. “Ndingakuxelela ukuba luhambe njani utyando lwam?” ibona ngcono kuno “Andikholelwa ukuba awuzange undibuze nangotyando lwam!” Amathuba awuzukwazi ukufumana ngaphezulu kwamagama ambalwa kwi…kodwa amanyathelo omntwana.

3. Musa ukuthi, “Yeka ukudlala ixhoba.”

Nantsi into: akukho mdlalo. Ngokwenene uzibona njengexhoba, yaye ngokufuthi, uba njalo ngokwenene. I-Narcissistic behaviour idla ngokuba yimpendulo kumothuko, indlela yokuzikhusela kunye nokufihla ukuba sesichengeni. Ukuqinisekisa inxalenye yentlungu yakhe kudlulela phambili kunokuzisa isibetho kulwakhiwo oluethe-ethe athe waxhoma ukuzithemba kwakhe.

4. Yeka ukuthi, “Asilokhuphiswano.”

Kuba narcissists, mhlawumbi umkhulu okanye uyoyikeka. Akukho phakathi. Yonke into ilukhuphiswano: ngubani owenza imali eninzi, ngubani otya i-hamburger engcono, obomvu obomvu bubukeka bungcono. Vumela i-halo yakho ikhanye ngenxa yokuba, kulo mzekelo, eyona nto ingcono ukuyenza kukujonga imfuno ye-narcissist yokuphumelela njengomsebenzi wokuzithemba kwabo okuphantsi, kwaye uyishiye kubo. Okukhona uzikhathaza kancinci ngamanqaku, kokukhona kuya kufuneka ukuba akhuphisane kancinci.

5. Sukuthi, “Yilibale”

Masithi ulahlwa ngumhlobo wakhe osenyongweni. Ukuba ucebisa ukuqhubela phambili, unokukujikela kwaye akubeke kwelinye icala malunga nendlela embi ngayo iBFF (umama, umntakwabo, umntu osebenza naye, umhlobo), okanye uchitha iyure echaza ukuba akakhathali kuba, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ungcono kakhulu (unamandla, ukrelekrele, usisityebi) kunomntu omenzakalisayo. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, nguwe ekufuneka uyiyeke ihambe. Mamela de iindlebe zakho zimke, emva koko uye kwiklasi ye-yoga yokubuyisela kwaye uyibize ngokuba lusuku.

Uyiphendula njani i-narcissistic manipulator?

Indlela yonxibelelwano ye-narcissistic manipulator ibonakaliswa ikakhulu ngokungabikho kwengxoxo yeendlela ezimbini. Ukuba unomhlobo ophezulu, iqabane, okanye iqabane eline-narcissistic, kunokuba nzima ukugcina incoko iqhubeka. Narcissists ngokubanzi bafuna ukuthetha kuphela ukuba kuya kubanceda bafezekise iinjongo zabo.

• Kubalulekile ukuqaphela amagama ukuze umbaleki angaziva engahoywanga, ebekelwa bucala, okanye egxekwa, kwanangendlela eyakhayo, xa uqalisa incoko. Oko kuthethiweyo, uninzi lwento oyithethayo ayizukwaziwa njengoko bekuya kuba kwincoko yokwenyani. Endaweni yoko, i-narcissist ilindele ukuba oko akuthethayo kuqatshelwe, kuxatyiswe, kunconywe kwaye kuqinisekiswe.
• Qalisa nayiphi na ingxoxo nge- yokuncoma, ukukhohlisa, okanye indumiso ukuze ufumane ingqalelo ye-narcissist. Ukuze ugcine ingqalelo yabo, phulaphula rhoqo.

3 Izinto xa Ucima unxibelelwano neNarcissist

• Basenokuzama ukusibuyisela ebomini babo ngokuzixakekisa ngathi.

Ngelixa besoyika ukuphulukana nathi, ii-narcisists zinokuqala “ibhombu yothando”. Ngokomzekelo, usenokusithumela ngemiyalezo emide neyothando, okanye asinike izipho ezikhethekileyo ukuze asitsalele ukuba sibuyele kwiwebhu yakhe. Ngelo xesha sinokuziva sithandwa kwaye sikhethekile kakhulu kubo. Nangona kunjalo, sakuba sibuyele kubudlelwane kwaye baziva bekhululekile kunye nathi, babuyela ngokukhawuleza kuhlobo oluthile lokuxhatshazwa.

• Baza kuzama ukusityhola

Ukuba sibaluleke kakhulu kwi-narcissist, unokusebenza ukusenzakalisa ngakumbi ngokuzama ukukholisa abo basingqongileyo malunga nesimilo sethu esibi. Iqhelekile into yokuba ii-narcissists zisibonise njengomntu “ophambeneyo” kubudlelwane ngelixa beveza iimpawu zabo ezimbi kuthi.

Ukongeza, bafuna uvelwano, badlale ixhoba phambi kwabanye kwaye babaxelele indlela esonakalisa ngayo ubomi babo. Kwakhona, oku kuya kunceda ama-narcissists azive “engcono kune” kwaye ephezulu kunathi.

• Baya kuba ngokugqithisileyo

Bayagrogrisa, benze okuthile, bayabachwechwela, babaxabhele abanye, basasaze inkcazelo yobuxoki, bacenge. Kwaye benza izithembiso, benze ngathi baphucula. Ngaphandle koko, bathetha nantoni na ofuna ukuyiva, yiya kunyango, ucele abanye abantu ukuba baqhagamshelane nawe egameni labo, okanye babe nobundlobongela.

AbaNarcissists baya kucenga, babongoze, bavume, baphucule, bakhale, bakhale, kwaye/okanye baphindezele nangayiphi na indlela ukuze bafumane impendulo kuwe.

Ii-Narcissistic manipulators zixhaphaza abantu ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba abahoywa kwaye abafumani mpendulo yeemvakalelo, baziva bengenakunceda, bengenakunceda kwaye bengenakunceda. Abakhathali nokuba bathini na xa bekwenza ukuba usabele.

Ungathetha njani noMbhexeshi weNarcissistic emsebenzini?

Nokuba yeyiphi indima okanye ishishini lakho, ukuhlalisana kakuhle noogxa bakho ngokungathandabuzekiyo kubalulekile. Uya kuhlala usebenza kunye kwiiprojekthi ezahlukeneyo okanye usebenzisane ngexesha leentlanganiso. Oko kuthethiweyo, kubalulekile ukufunda indlela yokuthetha nomntu oyi-narcissistic manipulator.

• Kuphephe ukuzithathela izinto ngokwakho
• Seta imida
• Ungathathi nxaxheba kwintlebendwane
• Kuphephe ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha zakho

Phrases ukuSebenzisa i-Narcissistic Pervert

Ukuphelisa uzinzo kwi-manipulator akusoloko kulula. Ngoko ke, xa unxibelelana nomntu onama-narcissistic, kungcono ukugcina unxibelelwano lufutshane. I-Narcissists inokusilela ekusebenzeni komntu, okuthetha ukuba ukusondelelana kunye novelwano phantse akunakwenzeka.

Kukwabalulekile ukuba uhlale unyanisekile kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, kunokuba nzima kakhulu xa unxibelelana ne-narcissist. Utyekelo lweNarcissistic lubangela ukuba abantu abaninzi benze izinto ebebengayi kuzenza ngokwesiqhelo. Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlala ungathathi hlangothi kunxibelelwano.

Imizekelo yezivakalisi zokuthi:

• “Enkosi ngokwabelana ngale nto.”
• “Kuza kufuneka ndicinge ngayo kwaye ndibuyele kuwe.”
• “Ndiyayiva le nto uyithethayo.”
• “Ndiyayibona le nto uyicingayo.”

Conclusion

Ukujongana nee-manipulators ze-narcissistic kunokuzama. Ngokukodwa xa ingumntu osebenza naye okanye omthandayo onxibelelana naye yonke imihla. Noko ke, akuyomfuneko ukuba ube lixhoba lesimo sakhe sengqondo esiyityhefu. Ukugcina ubuchule bakho, ukungazibandakanyi ekuziphatheni kwabo, kunye nokufuna inkxaso esebenzayo kudla ngokuba sisicwangciso sakho esihle sokuphumelela.

Ukuqhagamshelana:

• Narcissistic igqwetha elixokayo
• Narcissistic Pervert kunye neTelephone