Xa i-narcissistic manipulator ingasaniki Iindaba?

Xa i-narcissistic manipulator ingasaniki iindaba: Kwakutheni ukuze emke? Kutheni ekude? Ngaba uza kuqhawula ngokupheleleyo ubudlelwane nam? Ukuba i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ayisayi kunika nayiphi na iindaba, kukho iingongoma ezahlukeneyo zokutolika. Ubume obuntsokothileyo be-manipulator ye-narcissistic bumenza umntu ogama izenzo zakhe kunzima ukuziqonda.

Ukuthula kwerediyo yomgibi we-narcissistic: Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwixhoba lakhe?

Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwixhoba lakhe isuka ukuziva udiniwe into eviwa ngumbhexeshi we-narcissistic. Eneneni, ubukho bomntu ogqwethekileyo kufuphi nexhoba lakhe ikakhulu bubangelwa koko linokunikelwa lixhoba. Ukusa kwinqanaba elithile, i-narcissistic manipulator itsalwa kuyo amandla alungileyo akhutshwa lixhoba lawo okanye a imvakalelo enamandla ukuba ixhoba lakhe limnika. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba lo mthombo womile ngenxa yokuziphatha okutshabalalisayo kwe-narcissistic manipulator, uya kulishiya ixhoba lakhe. Into enqwenelwa ngumntu ogqwethekileyo kwixhoba lakhe inokuba ngumzimba, wezinto eziphathekayo okanye ngokweemvakalelo. Oku kuthetha kumntu ogqwethekileyo ukuba ixhoba lakhe alisamniki oko lifuna ukukufumana. Ngenxa yoko, umdla wakhe kulo mva uya kuncipha. Nangona kunjalo i impendulo yomphathi xa uyishiya ngamanye amaxesha ayiqondwa.

Kutheni umgibi we narcissistic engasakwazi ukunika iindaba?

Ngokohlalutyo lweemeko ezinokubonwa, ukuthula kwerediyo kusebenza yi-manipulator ye-narcissistic ngokwe-genesis yayo. Kwimeko apho imeko ikwisibini, ukuthuliswa kwerediyo okuqinisekileyo kwe-narcissistic manipulator kuthetha ukuba igqwetha lifuna ukwahlukana. Izizathu zinokuba zininzi, kodwa ngokubanzi yinyani leyo ixhoba akasenamdla kwi-narcissistic manipulator.

Kwelinye icala, ukuba umntu ogqwethekileyo uthabatha inyathelo lokuqala lokuthi cwaka ngeny’ injongo oku kunokungqineka kusisithintelo kwixhoba. Ngokwenene, kubudlelwane besibini unokuthatha ukuthula njengoko iindlela zoxinzelelo kwixhoba ukuba le yokugqibela uxhomekeke kuye ngokweemvakalelo. I-narcissistic manipulator ke ngoko iya kude ukuze yenze imvakalelo yokuswela, ukuthandabuza, umsindo okanye umona kwixhoba lakhe. Oku kungenxa yokuba ubume bakhe bokukhohlisa buya kuzibonakalisa ngokwenene. Ekubeni echwechwa, wazi kakuhle ukuba ukungcungcuthekisa ixhoba lakhe akusayi kumvumela ukuba alibambe. Kulapho ukuthula kufumanisa khona isicelo sakho ngokusuka kude ukuxhokonxa impendulo kwixhoba layo. Kufuneka ufumane indawo ebuthathaka ye-manipulator ngenxa yokuba ethe cwaka.

Ingaba iqhelekile into yokuba i-narcissistic manipulator ingaphindi inike naziphi na iimpawu zobomi?

Ngaphandle kwalo mbuzo, lowo ukwazi kutheni i-manipulator ingabuyi? badla ngokukhokela amaxhoba. Olu luphawu olucacileyo lokuba ixhoba lichaphazeleka ngamandla ngumthuthumbisi wabo. Impembelelo ye-manipulator ye-narcissistic inamandla kangangokuba ixhoba loyika into yokuba lo mva awusayi kunika naluphi na uphawu lobomi. Nangona kunjalo, xa i- i-narcissistic manipulator isebenzisa i akukho qhagamshelwano ? Ngaba eli asilothuba ekufanele silixhakamfule? Enyanisweni, ukuba lo mva ulixhoba, uvula ulwaphulo olunokuthi lusetyenziswe ukuvula amehlo exhoba elisondeleyo.

Ukungabikho kweNarcissistic Manipulator-Indlela yokuDibanisa ixhoba lakho?

Ukuthula kunokusebenza njengesixhobo somcuphi we-narcissistic ngokuchasene nexhoba lakhe. Iimeko zokusetyenziswa ziya kwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko kunye nexhoba.

• I-UA ixhoba elijongene nokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo liya kucatshukiswa lula kukuthula kogqwetha. Enyanisweni, kule meko ixhoba linengxaki yokunqongophala okukhulu ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye ngenxa yokunyanzeliswa okucwangcisiweyo ngumgqwetha, ucinga ukuba kuphela kokugqibela okwaziyo ukuzalisa esi sikhewu. Ixhoba ke ngoko lixhoba le-emotional blackmail.
• Kwimeko apho ixhoba lincinci kakhulu uxolelwaniso, ukuthula kusetyenziswa ngokwahlukileyo ngumntu ogqwethekileyo. Okanye, yindlela yokuzenza ixhoba kubudlelwane. Umntu ogqwethekileyo uthatha indima yalowo ubandezelekayo ethule, kwaye ngaloo ndlela ngokungangqalanga ephosa ityala kwelinye. Ngobuqhophololo bakhe uya kukwazi ukuguqula abo bamngqongileyo kwixhoba lakhe ngokuthula. Okanye usebenzisa ukuthula njengendawo yokubaleka ukuze aphume kwiimeko ezithile. Oku kunjalo xa ejongene nobungqina obungenakuphikiswa bezenzo zakhe ezigwenxa. Wandula ke abaleke ukuze aphephe ukungquzulana ngokuthe ngqo.

Xa umbhexeshi we-narcissistic engasathethi?

Ukuba i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ayithethi nawe, oku akufanele kukuchaphazele ngaphandle. Zibuze umbuzo, ngaba inyani ukuba kunjalo Ngaba ukuhlala uthe cwaka kulungile kuye okanye kum? Inyaniso yokuba woyika kakhulu ukuthula kweqabane lakho ithetha lukhulu ngobudlelwane bakho. Ukuba isenzo ngasinye sikuchaphazela ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuhlala uzibuza, oku kunokufihla uhlobo lolawulo. Ke sinokucinga ukuba le yokugqibela ibonisa ngokucacileyo iimpawu ze-narcissistic manipulator.

Ingaba ukuthi cwaka komceli we-narcissistic kuthetha ukuba sikhululekile?

SO, ewe kwaye hayi. Kuya kuxhomekeka ekubeni oku kuthula kunokufihla ntoni na.

• Nokuba i-narcissistic pervert akasafuni ukuhlala nexhoba lakhe kwaye ke ngoko emke kuye. Ke, sinokuthi ixhoba likwinkululeko ebonakalayo. Nangona kunjalo, kule meko kwenzeka ukuba isibakala sokuba i-narcissistic manipulator ishiya ibonisa ukuba ixhoba lakhe litshatyalaliswe ngokupheleleyo. Usenokungakuboni ukumka kogqwethekileyo njengenkululeko, kodwa njengelahleko. Ngokwembono yakhe, usandul ‘ukulahlekelwa ngulowo uzalise isithuba sakhe, nangona yayiyi-manipulator ye-narcissistic eyadala oku kuye. Ukuqonda oku kudla ngokufuna inkxaso yangaphandle ukuze uvule ingqondo yexhoba kunye nokujongana nenyaniso, “Wayenziwe” .
• Kwimeko echaseneyo, umntu ogqwethekileyo uya kuthulisa irediyo ukuze abuyele phezulu . Ubeka nje iqonga. Singatsho ukuba wenza ukuhlehla ngobuchule. Kodwa eli lithuba ekufanele lixhaswe ukutshitshisa oko akucebayo. Njengoko bethetha, ukubetha ngelixa intsimbi ishushu, ngoko ke onke amathuba okuqhawula amabhondi akho afanelekile ukubamba.