Ngaba sinokungaphumeleli kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic xa sisazi ukuba akanaluvelwano? Nabani na oye waba namava othando kunye ne-narcissist uyazi ukuba kunzima ukufumana uthando. Ngenye imini uyawa ngenxa yakho, ngenye imini uphosa yonke into ebusweni bakho. Phakathi kokungabikho kothando kunye nothando lwe-cyclical, akukho nto ekugqibeleni isendaweni yayo. Ukuba ufuna ukuvusa ukurhoxa kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic emva kokwahlukana, nazi iingcebiso ezi-5 ezisebenzayo.
Ngaba i-manipulator ye-narcissistic isilele ngokwenene?
Ewe kwaye hayi! Naluphi na ulwalamano lothando okanye lobuhlobo lujolise ekuzaliseni isithuba seemvakalelo okanye ukwanelisa imvakalelo yothando. Le nyaniso isebenza kubudlelwane obuphilileyo kunye nobudlelwane obungenampilo.
Kutheni ewe?
Ke ngoko unokwenza le ntsila yeemvakalelo kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic kwimeko yokuqhekeka kobudlelwane bothando okanye obunobuhlobo. Oku kuya kusebenza kuphela ukuba unokumenza azive ukungonwabi xa ungekho. Bekuya kufuneka abe nemvakalelo yokunganeliseki yenye yeentswelo zakhe enokukwaneliswa nguwe kuphela.
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Kutheni kungenjalo? I-
Nangona kunjalo, kuhlala kunzima kwi-narcissistic manipulator ukuba kwicala lothando. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba ugqweso lwe-narcissistic ivela kwinto yokuba ungena kubudlelwane ngenjongo yokukwenza ube nenkohlakalo. I-narcissist ayikwazi ukunika uthando, ikukhumbula, kwaye ayikwazi ukukuthanda ngokwenene.
Ukuba uza kuwe okanye uvakalisa ukuswela kwakhe, oko akukho ngaphakathi kwesakhelo sothando lokwenene. Usisixhobo nje esilula emehlweni akhe anokuthi asilawule ngokuthanda kwakhe kungekho mntu uza kumnqanda. Ukhetha ukuhlala ekhanyela ngokupheleleyo nawaphi na amava angokweemvakalelo.
5 Iingcebiso zokwenza i-Narcissistic Manipulator ikuphose
Nokuba uyazi ukuba awuzange ube neentsuku ezilungileyo kubudlelwane, ukubuyisela i-narcissist emva ukwahlukana inokuba kuphela kwendlela yokubuyisela ukuthembela kwakho.
Icebiso #1: Cinga njengaye
Qala ukuba nengqondo efanayo neye-manipulator yakho. I-narcissist iza kuwe kuba ikubona njengomthombo wokubonelela. Ke, sebenzisa olu nikezelo ukumenza azisole ngesigqibo sakhe.
Atip #2: Kuphephe ukuxhatshazwa
Yeka ukudlala ixhoba xa uhlala ne-narcissist. Kufuneka umshiye ilizwi lokugqibela njengoko enqwenela. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ihlala yodwa ekuthatheni isigqibo ngobudlelwane, ngoko ungaphindi uzinike njengexhoba phambi kwakhe. Ungaphinde uchithe ixesha uzama ukulungisa indlela yokuziphatha embi. Kwamkele ukugxekwa kwakhe!
Ingcebiso #3: Fumana i-narcissist ukuba ikuvulele
Ngaphandle kokubanda kwakhe, i-narcissist ingaphezu kwakhe wonke umntu oneemvakalelo, nokuba akazibonakalisi ngokwaneleyo. Ngoko thatha ixesha lakho kwaye umenze akuvulele ngokuthe ngcembe. Unokumcela ukuba akuxelele ngaye, amaphupha akhe, iiprojekthi zakhe, njl.
Ingcebiso #4: Hlala ukhumbula imvelaphi yobudlelwane bakho
I-narcissistic manipulator ihlala ikhangela izinto eziluncedo ngokwenene kuye. Uya kuhlala ekhangela imali, amaqabane anomtsalane, amandla onke, njl njl. Hlala umkhumbuza ngezinto ezintle zobudlelwane bakho, ukuqala kwayo, njl.
Atips #5: Hamba kwirediyo uthe cwaka
Ukuyeka ukubhala, ukuphendula okanye ukufunda imiyalezo ebhaliweyo evela kwi-narcissistic manipulator yindlela yokumenza aqonde ukuba awubandakanyi ukubaluleka kuye. Kukwamalunga nokumenza aqonde ukuba awudityaniswanga neminqweno yakhe. Ukungaphenduli kukwathetha ukuba awusenamdla kubudlelwane.
Isebenza nini ivili le-narcissistic manipulator?
Kunzima ukubukela i-narcissist idiniwe. Akalogwala yaye akadinwa msinya. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ayifuni ukuphulukana nolawulo lwakhe kwixhoba layo, ngokuchaseneyo. Khumbula ukuba ulwaneliseko lwakhe olukhulu alukho impumelelo yobudlelwane bakhe. Ukhululeka kakhulu xa evisa abanye intlungu. Ukwenzakalisa iqabane lakho kubonwa njengempumelelo. Yiyo loo nto phantse ingayeki ukuziphindezela, ukwenzakalisa okanye ukutshabalalisa ixhoba layo.
Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba umntu okhohlisayo abuye?
Nangona i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ilahlekelwe ubudlelwane bakhe, uhlala ebuya nje ukuba ingenguye owagqiba isigqibo sobudlelwane. Ukubuya kwakhe kuya kukhawuleza ukuba nguwe ophelise ubudlelwane. Kwaye apho, usebenzisa zonke iindlela ukwenza ukuba ubuye. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kuye kukuba agqibezele umsebenzi wakhe, owokwenza umonakalo ongakumbi.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, xa inguye ophelisa ubudlelwane emva kokutshabalalisa wena ngokwasengqondweni, unokuthatha ixesha lakhe. I-manipulator ishiya ubudlelwane xa iphumelele. Ngokwenza oko, kulula kuye ukuba akhulule okanye tshintsha amaxhoba.
Ngaba kufuneka siziphindezelele kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic?
Akukho mfuneko yokudlula kule ngxaki! Abanye abantu ngokwemvelo banomnqweno wokuziphindezela kwi-narcissist emva kokubandezeleka okukhulu kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kwengqondo. Umntu okuhlaselayo akaqikeleleki kwaye umnqweno wakhe wokwenzakalisa abanye awunamda. Yiyo loo nto, kunokuba uzame ukuyitshabalalisa, kungcono ukuzikhulula kwimpembelelo yayo kube kanye.
Ireferensi yebhayibhili kumxholo: “ingaba umqhathi wenarcissistic uyakukhumbula?”
Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi, ezijongana nomxholo wobudlelwane nomntu we-narcissistic (i-narcissistic manipulator) kunye neziphumo zengqondo ezinxulumene nazo:
- Lévy, J. (2013). La maltraitance psychologique : Comprendre et se libérer du pervers narcissique. Éditions Eyrolles.
- Marty, M. (2010). Les pervers narcissiques : Comprendre et agir. Éditions de l’Atelier.
- Ménard, F. (2012). Pervers narcissiques : Comment s’en sortir ? Éditions First.
- Bélanger, C. (2018). Les impacts des relations avec un pervers narcissique sur la santé mentale des victimes. Revue de Psychologie, 23(2), 45-60.
- Moulin, S. (2019). Pervers narcissiques et manipulation : comment ne pas tomber dans le piège ? Éditions Leduc.s.
- Grosjean, S. (2020). La relation avec un pervers narcissique : Quand l’amour devient une souffrance. Éditions Érès.
- Ménard, M. (2015). Victimes de la manipulation : Comprendre le pervers narcissique. Psychologie et Société, 10(1), 27-40.
Ezi mbekiselo kufuneka zinike isishwankathelo esilungileyo sezenzululwazi kunye nokusebenza komxholo.
Vous l’aurez compris, vous pouvez manquer à un PN si vous représentez une source d’approvisionnement pour lui. Les narcissiques sont des êtres qui vivent dans le déni de toute expérience émotionnelle. Ils ne peuvent donc pas ressentir des émotions positives comme l’amour, la compassion, la pitié ou encore le remords.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.