Wenza ntoni umkhohlisi emva kokwahlukana?

Ukuphumelela ekuzikhupheni kwiintambo ze-narcissistic manipulator kukukhulula kubunzima obukhulu. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukugcina umlindo othile unikwe oku yintoni eyenziwa yi-manipulator emva kokwahlukana. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ayiyi Yekela ngokulula, uyalunyukiswa.

Uziphatha njani umxhasi we-narcissistic emva kokwahlukana? 6 reactions

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1. Ukubeka esweni ixhoba lakho
2. Ukubonisa ukungakhathali kunye nokusebenzisa ukuthula
3. Ukudlala ixhoba
4. QUzama ukwenza uzive unetyala
5. Ukuphelisa ukuzithemba kwakho ukuvusa ukuxhomekeka kwam ngokweemvakalelo
6. Zama ukuthethathethana

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1. Ukubeka iliso kwixhoba lakho

Nje ukuba umgama usekwe phakathi kwexhoba kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator. Owokugqibela uya kuligcina ixhoba lakhe kumgca wakhe wokubona. Akayi kulishiyela ixhoba lakhe. Ubume babo be-narcissistic bungathatha umntu. Uya kuzama hlala unolwazi ngezinto ezenziwa ngu ex wakho. Siza kuqaphela, ngokukodwa, into yokuba iya kuthi ubukhulu becala bonakalisa umona onamandla kwezinye iimeko, phezu kwako nje ukwahlukana. Kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic, ixhoba lakhe lelakhe.

Olu qwalaselo ngamanye amaxesha lunobulumko, kodwa kwezinye iimeko lucacile. Umntu ogqwethekileyo wenza loo nto ukuze axhokonxe ixhoba lakhe. Ukuze lo mva ahendeke ekucingeni ngombulali wakhe. Oku kunokujika ngokukhawuleza kube yindlela yokuxhatshazwa kwixhoba.

2. Zibonakalise ukungakhathali kwaye usebenzise ukuthula

Kwezinye iimeko, umntu ogqwethekileyo unokubonisa isimo sengqondo esahluke ngokupheleleyo. Umzekelo, uya kudlala ikhadi elithi cwaka kwirediyo. Xa i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ingasaniki naziphi na iindaba, uya kubonisa ukungakhathali. Ufuna ukubonisa ukuba oku kuqhawulwa akunampembelelo kuye kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke into yokuba lixhoba lolahleko omkhulu. Oku kwenzeka ngokukodwa xa ixhoba libonisa amandla anamandla ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo.

I-narcissistic manipulator ke ngoko iya kuzama ukwenza a utyekelo lweemvakalelo ngelixa ethe cwaka. Umphumo wokuthula komenzi we-manipulator kwixhoba unokumkhokelela kwinto ayifunayo emva kokuhlukana ukuba ixhoba alilungiswanga.

3. Ukudlala ixhoba

Kule meko, i-manipulator iya kubonisa italente enkulu yokudlala. Ngamanye amaxesha uya kuvela phakathi kweqela eliqhelekileyo kunye nexhoba lakhe. Usukelo lwakhe kukuba nosizi ngokubonisa ukuba unengxaki ngokuhlukana kwakhe kwaye ngoyena ubandezelekileyo. Ngaloo ndlela, imiboniso kunye iinyembezi zeengwenya iya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo kuzo zonke iintlanganiso. I-narcissistic manipulator iya kuzama ukucela uxolo ukuze ikubuyisele kuye. Ke, izithembiso kunye namagama amnandi aya kuwa ngalo lonke ixesha.

4. Ukuzama ukuzenza uzive unetyala

“Xa umenzi wenkohliso ephulukene nexhoba lakhe, akafuni ukulibuyisa?” Ukuze aphumeze oku, unokusebenzisa indlela eyaziwa kakuhle nguye. Kukubeka ityala ixhoba lakho. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic inokuzenza ngathi ichaphazeleke kakhulu ngoku kuhlukana. Uya kufaka izityholo kwixhoba lakhe malunga nemeko azifumana ekuyo.

5. Tshabalalisa ukuzithemba kwakho ukuze uvuse ukuxhomekeka kwam ngokweemvakalelo.

“Baphela njani abakhohlisayo xa izicwangciso zabo zingasebenzi?” Inqaku elibuthathaka le-manipulator eluthandweni yinto yokuba akanako ukumelana nokungahoywa. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ixhoba lalo lifumana ukuzithemba ngakumbi emva kokwahlukana, oku kunokuwuvusa umsindo womceli. Uya kwandula ke azame ukwaphula konke ukuzithemba kwexhoba lakhe. Eli licebo lokugqibela aya kulisebenzisa ukunqanda ukuphulukana nokubamba kwakhe. Xa i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ibuya, iya kuba kukutshabalalisa ukuzithemba kwexhoba lakhe. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic iya kusebenzisa ubundlobongela ukuba kuyimfuneko, kokubili ngokuziphatha nangokwenyama, ukuze aphule ukuzithemba kwexhoba lakhe.

6. Zama uthethathethwano

Elinye icebo elenziwa ngumqhatha emva kokwahlukana kukubandakanyeka kuthethathethwano. Ewe, i-manipulator ifumana njani ukuthula koonomathotholo? Ebesoloko enexhoba lakhe. I-narcissistic manipulator inokuphosa ixhoba layo, uya kwenza nantoni na ukuyibuyisela. Uya kuqalisa uthethathethwano nexhoba lakhe. Uya kuthembisa ukutshintsha, ukunika izizathu ezininzi. Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, uya kuxoka kangangoko anako kwiingxoxo zakhe ukuze aphinde alawule ixhoba lakhe. Qaphela ngokukodwa ukusetyenziswa kwe Uthando lweBombing ukufumana ixhoba lakhe.

Ukohlukana njani ne-manipulator?

Ukuqhawula amakhonkco kunye ne-manipulator, kufuneka uxhobise ngesibindi kunye nokunyamezela. Akayi kwenza kube lula kuwe. Nanga amanyathelo ahlukeneyo ekuya kufuneka uhambe kuwo:

• Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba ukuqhawula ubudlelwane yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza. Ukukhangela izisombululo ezifana nokufuna ukwenza i-narcissistic manipulator ukuba ithandane yinto elahlekileyo.
• Hlala uqinile xa usenza esi sigqibo. Yeka ukuba ndlongondlongo nokuba rhabaxa ngamazwi akho. Musa ukuwela emgibeni wakhe. Kwaye abo ngokukodwa ukuphepha naluphi na uhlobo lwe-emotional blackmail.
• Zama ukufumana ikhefu lokothuka.
• Hlala uxhaswa kuyo yonke inkqubo kwaye nasemva koko. Ukuba nenkxaso yokuziphatha kubalulekile kweli nyathelo.

Uziva njani umkhohlisi emva kokwahlukana?

Kuza kubakhona i iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo eziya kuhluma engqondweni ye-narcissistic manipulator emva kokwahlukana. Nangona kunjalo, ngumsindo oya kongamela ubukhulu becala. Oko kuthetha ukuba inzondo yakhe iya kwandiswa kalishumi kwixhoba lakhe. Isizathu soku kukuba i-narcissistic manipulator ingaphezu kwayo yonke into engenanto. Uphila ngento anokuyenza kwabanye kwaye ngakumbi into ayenzayo kwixhoba lakhe.

Usabela njani umqhatha osele eza kushiywa?

I-manipulator inokubonisa izimo zengqondo ezahlukeneyo xa ishiywe.

• Uyakwazi u- ukudlala ngokungakhathali kwaye ade athi ebelinde nje loo nto.
• Unako play ikhadi ixhoba ukuzama ukubamba ixhoba lakhe.
• Ekugqibeleni, uya kukhetha i-violence kwaye enze oku kuhlukana kube nzima ngakumbi kwixhoba lakhe.

Ubunzima obufunyenwe lixhoba emva kokuqhawula umtshato neNarcissistic Pervert

Ixhoba le-manipulator ye-narcissistic liya kuzifumana lijongene neengxaki ezahlukeneyo emva kokuhlukana. Akufanele acinge ukuba umntu ogqwethekileyo uya kwenza ubomi bakhe bube lula kwaye ahlale ezolile ekoneni yakhe. Kukho iingongoma ezahlukeneyo ekufuneka azithathele ingqalelo.

• Kuya kufuneka ajongane nezinto ezinokwenzeka zokuqhekeka kwaye ngakumbi ingqumbo ye-manipulator. Inyani yokufumana i-indawo ebuthathaka ye-manipulator kwaye aphumelele ukuzikhupha ayimkholisi lo wokugqibela konke konke.
• Ixhoba lisenokuchatshazelwa kukuba lilolo. Isizathu kukuba oku kunokuvela kubukho bokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwi-narcissistic manipulator.
• Uhlaselo oluvela kwimo engqongileyo ekwabelwana ngalo nomntu ogqwethekileyo. Lo mva unokukhohlisa abanye ukuze babe kunye naye ukuze boyise ixhoba lakhe ngakumbi.

Uzakha njani kwakhona emva kokuqhawula umtshato ne-manipulator ye-narcissistic?

Ukuze bazakhe kwakhona, ixhoba kufuneka lazi izinto ezimbini. Okokuqala, Kuya kuthatha ixesha kwaye uya kufuna uncedo.. Inkqubo yokuchacha koko kwafuneka atyhubele kuyo inde kwaye ibuhlungu, yiyo loo nto kufuneka Linda. Ngokuphathelele ukungenzi yedwa, kungenxa yokuba ubuhlungu bakhe bungokweemvakalelo. Ke ngoko udinga unxibelelwano loluntu ukuze aphile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo kufanelekile ukufuna uncedo kwisazi sengqondo. Aba bamva baya kukwazi ukuxhasa ixhoba kwaye babakhokele kulo lonke uhambo lwabo lokuzakha kwakhona. Kwaye ngaphezu kwakho konke ukukunceda ukuba wazi njani ukuba womelele ngaphezu manipulator?

Iingcaphuno zeBibliographic malunga nokuziphatha komntu okhohlisayo emva kokwahlukana

Nanga amanye amanqaku aphonononga indlela abaziphatha ngayo emva kokwahlukana:

1. Cristina Balan. « 9 comportements du manipulateur après rupture ». Perversnarcissique.org, 2 novembre 2024.
2. Imayna. « Que fait un manipulateur après une rupture ». Imayna.fr, février 2024.
3. Emma Laurent. « Que Fait Un Manipulateur Après Une Rupture : À Quoi S’attendre ? ». Asafacon.fr, 2024.
4. La Vie Des Reines. « Que fait un manipulateur après une rupture ». La Vie Des Reines, 2023.
5. Réponse Rapide. « Que fait un manipulateur après une rupture ? ». Reponserapide.fr, 23 décembre 2023.
6. Jolie Family. « Reconnaître et gérer les comportements d’un manipulateur en cas de rupture ». Joliefamily.fr, 17 novembre 2024.
7. Psychologie Pervers Narcissique. « Que fait un manipulateur après une rupture ». Psychologie-pervers-narcissique.fr, 2022.

La manqaku anika iimbono malunga neendlela eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha emva kokwahlukana.

Conclusion

Ukuzikhulula kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic linyathelo elinzima kodwa elibalulekileyo lokufumana uxolo kunye nokulungelelana. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuhlala uphaphile ngokuchasene nokuziphatha emva kokwahlukana kolu hlobo lobuntu. Phakathi kokubekw’ esweni, ukuba netyala kunye neenzame zokufumana ulawulo kwakhona, umkhohlisi unokusebenzisa iindlela ezininzi zobuchule ukuze aphinde alawule. Ukulungiswa, ukuxhaswa kakuhle, kunye nokuxhomekeka kwinkxaso yobuchwephesha zizitshixo ezibalulekileyo zokwakha ngokutsha ngokuzinzileyo nokuqhubela phambili.