Ubumbini: indlela eya kwibhalansi yangaphakathi

Wakhe wacinga ngengcinga yobumbini ebomini bakho? Lo mbono unomdla unokusinceda siziqonde ngcono kwaye sifumane imvisiswano kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Masiphonononge kunye ukuba ubunye bunokuba sisinxulumani esixabisekileyo kuhambo lwethu lobuqu.

Yintoni ubunye?

Ubumbano kukuhlalisana kwemiba emibini ebonakala ichasene ngaphakathi kwinto enye. Kubomi bethu, kubonakala ngeendlela ezininzi: imini nobusuku, okulungileyo nokubi, amadoda kunye nabasetyhini. Kunokuba kube ngumqobo, ubunye bunokuba ngumthombo wobutyebi kunye nokukhula komntu.

Kwabasetyhini abaye bathandana nomxhasi we-narcissistic, ubumbini bunokubonakala kwiimvakalelo eziphikisanayo abazifumanayo: uthando kunye nentiyo, ithemba kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba, amandla kunye nokuba sesichengeni. Ukuqaphela kunye nokwamkela obu mbini linyathelo elibalulekileyo kwinkqubo yokuphilisa. Ivumela ukuba siqonde ukuba ezi mvakalelo ezichasayo ziqhelekile kwaye ziyingxenye ebalulekileyo yendlela yokuzakhela kwakhona.

Ubumbini njengesakhelo sobukho bethu

Cinga ngobumbini njengomoya esiwuphefumlayo – usijikelezile, awubonakali kodwa ukho kuyo yonke indawo. Ilizwe lethu lakhiwe lijikeleze izibini ezichaseneyo ezincedisanayo:

• Imini nobusuku
• Kushushu kwaye kubanda
• Ulonwabo kunye nosizi

Ezi zintlu-mbini azikho iingqiqo ezingabonakaliyo, kodwa ziyilaphu lenyani yethu yemihla ngemihla.

Ubunye phakathi kwethu

Ngamnye wethu unemiba emibini ngaphakathi kwethu:

• Amandla kunye nokuba sesichengeni
• Ingqiqo neemvakalelo
• Amabhongo kunye nesidingo sokuphumla

Ukuqaphela kunye nokwamkela ezi nkalo zahlukeneyo zobuntu bethu linyathelo lokuqala elikhokelela kwibhalansi engcono yangaphakathi.

Ngaba ubunye bunefuthe njani kwimbono yethu?

 

Ingqondo yethu kunye nobunye

Ubusazi na ukuba ubuchopho bethu ngokwemvelo bucwangciselwe ukucinga ngokwezinto ezimbini? Yindlela yokuba sibe nengqiqo ngehlabathi elisingqongileyo. Umzekelo, sihlala sihlela izinto “njengezilungileyo” okanye “ezimbi,” “zikhuselekile” okanye “ziyingozi.”

Ubumbini kukhetho lwethu

Yonke imihla sijonga kulwandlekazi lokukhetha kabini:

• Umsebenzi okanye ukuzonwabisa?
• Gcina okanye uchithe?
• Thetha okanye umamele?

Ezi zigqibo zithe gqolo zisikhumbuza ukuba siphila kumacala amabini.

Indlela yokusebenzisa ubumbano ukuze uchume?

• Kwamkele ukuchasana kwethu:

Kunokuba silwe nokungavisisani kwethu kwangaphakathi, masifunde ukuzamkela. Umzekelo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive unamandla kwaye usengozini ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko.

• Hlakulela ukuba bhetyebhetye:

Ubumbini bumema ukuba siphuhlise ukuguquguquka kwethu. Ukukwazi ukungenelela kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zethu ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko kunamandla okwenene.

• Ukufumana ibhalansi:

Injongo ayikuko ukukhetha icala, kodwa ukufumana i-medium eyonwabileyo. Umzekelo, ukulinganisa umsebenzi kunye nobomi bomntu ngumceli mngeni wezinto ezimbini esiwaziyo uninzi lwethu.

Ubumbini kubudlelwane bethu

Ubudlelwane bethu, nokuba bothando, usapho okanye ubuhlobo, buhlala buyindawo yezinto ezimbini:

• Ukuzimela kunye nobumfihlo
• Yipha kwaye wamkele
• Ukufana kunye neeyantlukwano

Ukuqonda kunye nokwamkela ezi zintlumbini kunokuphucula kakhulu umgangatho wonxibelelwano lwethu.

Imithambo esebenzayo yokuphonononga ubumbini

1. Ukubhalwa kweendaba: Bhala malunga nezakho izinto ezimbini ezingaphakathi.
2. Ukucamngca: Gxininisa ekuphefumleni, ukuphefumla/ukuphefumlela phezulu njengophawu lobubini.
3. Art unyango: Yenza umsebenzi wobugcisa omele imiba emibini yakho.

Ubumbini njengesixhobo sophuhliso lomntu

Ngokwamkela izinto ezimbini, sivula umnyango:

• Ukuzazi ngcono
• Imfesane engakumbi kuthi nakwabanye
• Ubuchule obukhulu ekusombululeni ingxaki

Imingeni yokuphila kubini

• Enye/okanye iTrap -Omnye wemiceli mngeni emikhulu yokuphila kwizinto ezimbini kukuphepha ukuwela phakathi nokuba / okanye umgibe. Ubomi abusoloko bumnyama namhlophe, kwaye kulungile!
• I-Balance, ubugcisa bokuphila – Ukufumana ibhalansi kwihlabathi elimbini kunokubonakala ngathi uhamba kwi-tightrope. Kodwa khumbula, kukulo lungelelwano apho intlalo-ntle yethu idla ngokulala.

Yamkela izinto ezimbini ebomini obutyebileyo

• Ukwamkela ukuchasana – Ukuphila ngokupheleleyo kwizinto ezimbini kuthetha ukwamkela ukuba sinokomelela kwaye sisengozini, sizimisele kwaye sidlale. Ezi mpikiswano zibonakalayo enyanisweni zingamandla ethu.
• Duality njengomthombo wokuyila – Kuhlala kuxinana phakathi kweepali ezimbini apho ubuchule buzalwa. Sebenzisa izinto ezimbini njengesixhobo sokuthetha kwakho!

Uqheliselo olusebenzayo lokujonga izinto ezimbini

1. Ijenali yombulelo kabini: Bhala phantsi into enye “elungileyo” kunye nenye “embi” suku ngalunye onombulelo ngayo.
2. Ukucamngca ngokuphefumla: Gxininisa ekuphefumleleni nasekukhupheni umoya njengemiqondiso yobunye bobomi.
3. Umngeni wemibono: Xa ujongene nemeko, zama ukubona omabini amacala engqekembe.

Ubumbini kunye nobudlelwane bethu

Ubudlelwane bethu busipili esigqibeleleyo sobumbini esiphila kubo. Zibandakanya:

• Yipha kwaye wamkele
• Ukusondela kunye nokuzimela
• Ukufana kunye neeyantlukwano

Ukuqonda oku kunokusinceda sihlakulele ulwalamano oluhle ngakumbi nolulungeleleneyo.

Ukuqukumbela: Ukudanisa ngezinto ezimbini

Ubumbini awungomthwalo, kodwa lithuba. Ngokuyamkela kubomi bethu, sizinika ithuba lokuphila ubomi obutyebileyo, obunentsingiselo ngakumbi nobanelisayo. Ukuphila kumacala omabini akusoloko kulula, kodwa ngumdaniso onika umdla. Ngokuqaphela ukuba inyaniso yethu ilukiwe kwezi zichasi zincedisanayo, sinokufunda ukudanisa kamnandi phakathi kwezi zibonda.

Bahlobo abathandekayo, khumbulani ukuba ubomi abukho ukhetho phakathi komnyama nomhlophe, kodwa i-palette ecebileyo ye-shades. Yamkela ubumbini bobukho bakho kwaye ubone ukuba bunokutyebisa njani yonke inkalo yobomi bakho!