Ubucinga ukuba wenziwa ngobu budlelwane obuyityhefu, kodwa ngoku u-ex wakho ubuyile. Le ndlela yokuziphatha inegama: “hoovering”. Masifumanise kunye le nto ikhethekileyo kwii-manipulators ze-narcissistic kunye nendlela yokujongana nayo.
I-Hoovering: Inqaku eliphambili loBudlelwane beNarcissistic
I-Hoovering yindlela ye-emotional manipulation esetyenziswa ngabaqhatha be-narcissistic ukuzama ukubuyisela iqabane labo langaphambili kubudlelwane. Basenokusebenzisa naliphi na ithuba lokuthumela umyalezo okanye benze inkangeleko engalindelekanga. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ezi nzame ukuba ziyintoni na: ukukhohlisa okusulungekileyo nokulula.
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Igama elithi “hoovering” livela kwi-brand vacuum cleaner ye-Hoover. Emva kokuhlukana okanye ixesha lomgama, ufuna ukuphinda adibanise kwaye akubuyisele kubudlelwane. Igama elithi “hoovering” lichaza indlela i-narcissistic manipulator inokuzama ukukubuyisela kubudlelwane, nokuba ubashiyile okanye bakushiyile.
I-Hoovering: kukuzingca, kungekhona ubungqina bothando
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba i-hoovering eyenziwa ngumcuphi we-narcissistic ayinanto yakwenza nothando, okanye nawe njengomntu ongatshatanga. Ezi nzame zokudibanisa kwakhona aziphenjelelwa ziimvakalelo zokwenyani okanye umnqweno onyanisekileyo wokuvuselela ubudlelwane obunempilo. Enyanisweni, i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ifuna kuphela ukwanelisa iimfuno zakhe zokuzingca. Emehlweni akhe, uyindlela nje yokuphumeza iinjongo zakhe zobuqu. Akanamdla kwimpilo-ntle yakho, iimvakalelo zakho okanye ukukhula kwakho.
I-narcissistic manipulator inokujolisa ngokulula komnye umntu ukuba bahlangabezane neemfuno zakhe zangoku. Olu lwazi, nangona lubuhlungu, luyakhulula: lukuvumela ukuba uqhawuke ngokweemvakalelo kwaye uxhathise ezi nzame zokukhohlisa ngempumelelo.
Ubuchwephesha boHovering obuqhelekileyo
Abenzi bobuqhetseba beNarcissistic banamaqhinga angaphezulu kwesinye ukuze bazame ukukubuyisela:
“Ubomi bam buyoyikeka ngaphandle kwakho” – Isibheno sokuziva unetyala: “Andinakuphila ngaphandle kwakho, ndiyakufuna.”
Eli qhinga lidlala kumathemba akho kunye nentelekelelo. I-narcissist iya kukuxelela yonke into oye wafuna ukuyiva: “Ndandingalunganga”, “Ndikukhumbula kakhulu”, “andikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwakho”. Lumka, la magama avakala kamnandi endlebeni, kodwa akabonakalisi utshintsho lokwenyani. Nantsi imiba ephambili yesi sicwangciso:
- Guilt: Iinzame Yenza ukuba ixhoba lizive linetyala ngokuhamba okanye ukonwaba kwalo.
- Ukuxhatshazwa: Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic uzibonakalisa njengexhoba elibandezelekileyo ukuze enze inceba.
- Idealization: Ithetha ukuba ubudlelwane bebugqibelele kwaye bungenakubuyiselwa.
- UkuXhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo: Amabango okungakwazi ukusebenza ngaphandle kwexhoba.
- Ukulawulwa ngokweemvakalelo: Kudlala ngeemvakalelo zexhoba zovelwano noxanduva.
- Ukunciphisa Ukuxhatshazwa Kwangaphambili: Ukungahoywa okanye ukujongela phantsi izizathu ezikhokelele ekwahlukaneni.
- Uxinzelelo olucetywayo: Ucebisa ukuba ixhoba kufuneka libuye ukuze “lisindise” i-narcissistic manipulator.
- I-Nostalgia eyenziwe: Iinzame zokuvuselela iinkumbulo ezintle zobudlelwane.
- Izithembiso zobuxoki: Zisenokukhatshwa zizithembiso zokutshintsha okanye zokuphucula.
- Ukulinganisa: Idla ngokubaxa ubunzulu bemeko kabani ukuze kwandiswe impembelelo yeemvakalelo.
“Ndifuna Uncedo”
Apha, i-narcissist ibonisa ukuba usentluphekweni, ngamanye amaxesha nokuba sengozini. Usenokucela imali okanye inkxaso ngokweemvakalelo. Khumbula: awunaxanduva ngentlalontle yabo. Ukuba unenkxalabo enzulu ngokhuseleko lwabo, qhagamshelana neenkonzo zikaxakeka. Nantsi imiba ephambili yale ndlela:
- Ukubhenela kuvelwano: Usebenzisa imfesane yexhoba.
- Ukudalwa kwemvakalelo yongxamiseko: Cebisa ngemeko yonxunguphalo efuna ungenelelo olukhawulezileyo.
- Ukuguqulwa kwendima: Umkhohlisi uzibeka njengomntu osesichengeni, efuna ukwenza ixhoba libe “ngumsindisi”.
- Ukuxhomekeka okunyanzelwayo: Iinzame zokuvuselela imvakalelo yexhoba yoxanduva kumbhexeshi we-narcissistic.
- Ukulawula ubutyala: Kungenza ixhoba lizive linetyala ukuba liyala ukunceda.
- Ukuqalisa ukutshatana kwakhona: Ijolise ekubuyiseleni uqhagamshelwano kunye nokuba nobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
- Uvavanyo lomda: Uvavanya ukuba ixhoba lizimisele kangakanani ukuya kunceda.
- Ukudalwa kwetyala leemvakalelo: Ukuba ixhoba liyanceda, oku kusenokusetyenziswa kamva ukucela uncedo okanye imbuyekezo.
- Ukunciphisa ukuxhatshazwa kwangaphambili: Iinzame zokulibala izizathu zokwahlukana ngokugxila kwimfuno yangoku.
Isithembiso sotshintsho: “Ndiziqondile iimpazamo zam, ndiza kutshintsha.”
Ungenzi mpazamo: utshintsho lokwenyani luthatha ixesha kwaye lufuna umsebenzi onzulu wobuqu. Nokuba bathi baye kunyango okanye bane-epiphany, lumka. Imikhwa eyityhefu ayipheli ngokukhawuleza. Nantsi imiba ephambili yesi sicwangciso:
- Ulwazi olungeyonyani: Amabango ukuba abe nesityhilelo malunga nokuziphatha kwakhe okuyingxaki.
- Izithembiso zotshintsho.
- Ukubhenela kwithemba: Iinzame zokuvuselela ithemba lexhoba kulwalamano oluphilileyo olunokwenzeka.
- Ukunciphisa Ixesha Elidlulileyo: Ngokufuthi kunciphisa ubuzaza boxhatshazo oludlulileyo ngokulubiza nje ngokuba “ziimpazamo.”
- Ukudala imvakalelo yongxamiseko: Kusenokucebisa ukuba eli lithuba elilodwa loxolelwaniso.
- Ukufuna ukuqinisekiswa: Ufuna ukuba ixhoba libone kwaye livume olu tshintsho.
- Ukuqaliswa komjikelo omtsha: Ijolise ekuqaliseni kwakhona umjikelo wobudlelwane obuxhaphazayo phantsi kwengubo yokuvuselela.
Incwadi ethi “Ungandiphatha Ngoku”
Amandla akho amatsha kufuneka uwasebenzise ukwakha ubomi obungcono, hayi ukunyamezela isimilo esiyityhefu. Le ndlela yokwenza izinto ineenkalo ezininzi ezibalulekileyo:
- Ukuba sesichengeni okungeyonyani: Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic uzibonakalisa “njengolawuleka” ngakumbi, ebonisa ubuthathaka obutsha okanye ukuthozama.
- Ukuguqulwa kwendima
- Isibheno ku-ego: Icebisa ukuba ixhoba ngoku “lomelele ngokwaneleyo” ukuze likwazi ukuphatha ubudlelwane, oko kunokubangela ukuzithemba kwabo.
- Ukunciphisa Impatho-gadalala yangaphambili: Kuthetha ukuba iingxaki ezidlulileyo bezibangelwa “kukungalawuleki” okwethutyana.
- Isithembiso sobuxoki sotshintsho
- Ukudala imvakalelo yobuxoki yonqabiseko: Iinzame zokwenza ixhoba likholelwe ukuba liya kulawula ngesi sihlandlo.
- Uvavanyo lomda: Uvavanya ukuba ixhoba lizimisele kangakanani ukubandakanyeka kubudlelwane kwakhona.
- Ukuxhaphaza ityala: Ukuba ixhoba liyala, lisenokuziva linetyala ngokungamniki “thuba” umntu obonakala etshintshile.
Intetho ethi “Ndiya kulonakalisa ulonwabo lwakho”
Narcissists ukuthiyile ukubona amaqabane abo angaphambili bonwabile ngaphandle kwabo. Ukuba bayabona ukuba uhambile, banokuzama ukuphazamisa ubomi bakho obutsha. Hlala uphaphile kwaye ukhusele ulonwabo lwakho oluzuze kakhulu. Le ndlela ibonisa iinkalo ezininzi zokuziphatha kwabo:
- Ulawulo: Eli linge elithe ngqo lokugcina ulawulo kubomi beemvakalelo zexhoba, nasemva kokwahlukana.
- Umona: Ukungakwazi ukuyamkela into yokuba ixhoba linokonwaba ngaphandle kwabo.
- Impindezelo: Unqwenela ukohlwaya ixhoba ngokufuna ukuhamba.
- I-Sabotage: Iinjongo zangabom zokuphazamisa ubomi kunye nobudlelwane bexhoba.
- Uqikelelo: Rhoqo, umbhexeshi we-narcissistic ujonge usizi lwakhe kwixhoba.
- Ukoyikisa: Olu luhlobo lwesisongelo olujolise ekufakeni uloyiko nexhala kwixhoba.
- Ukuthotywa kwexabiso: Oku kuthetha ukuba ixhoba alifanelanga ukonwaba.
- Ukulawulwa ngokweemvakalelo: Ijolise ekuvuseleleni iimvakalelo zokuziva unetyala, ukuthandabuza nokungakhuseleki.
- I-Obsession: Ityhila ukulungiswa okungenampilo kubomi bexhoba, nasemva kokwahlukana.
- Ukulahlwa kokuzimela geqe: Ukwala ukulamkela ilungelo lexhoba kubomi obunelisayo bokuzimela.
Izipho ngokukhawuleza kunye nengqalelo
Phakathi kwawona maqhinga ahendayo ahendayo zizipho kunye nengqalelo yequbuliso. I-narcissist efuna ukuphumelela umva inokuthi ngequbuliso ibe nesisa kwaye ikhathalele. Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi:
- Uthando lokuqhushumba-Ngobusuku ufumana iintyatyambo, imiyalezo emnandi, okanye izipho ezingalindelekanga. Le avalanche yengqwalasela inokukhohlisa kakhulu kwaye ivuse iimvakalelo zakudala.
- Grand Romantic Gestures – I-narcissist inokulungiselela ukothuka okukhulu, okufana nempelaveki yothando okanye isidlo sangokuhlwa kwindawo yokutyela entle.
- Ukusetyenziswa kwemihla yokomfuziselo – Usenokukhetha amaxesha abalulekileyo njengosuku lwakho lokuzalwa, uSuku lweValentine okanye isikhumbuzo sokuhlangana kwakho ukwenza ezi ntshukumo.
- Izithembiso zotshintsho zenziwe – Izipho zinokukhatshwa zizithembiso zotshintsho. Umzekelo, ukunika amatikiti unyango lwezibini okanye incwadi yonxibelelwano kwizibini.
Isikhumbuzo samaxesha amnandi esiwachithe kunye
Ukukhumbula amaxesha amnandi kunye yi-manipulator ye-narcissistic liqhinga elikhohlisayo elaziwa ngokuba yi “love bombing.” Le ndlela yobuchule isetyenziswa kwi “hoovering”, ejolise ekurhwebeni ixhoba libuyele kubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Nazi iingongoma ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uziqonde:
- Injongo: Injongo kukudala ukudideka ngokweemvakalelo kwixhoba ngokubakhumbuza ngezinto ezintle zobudlelwane.
- Ukukhetha: I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ikhetha ngononophelo iinkumbulo ezilungileyo, ingawahoyi amaxesha angalunganga okanye ahlukumezayo.
- Idealization: Ezi zikhumbuzi zikholisa ukwenza ubuhlobo obudlulileyo bube bhetele, bubonisa ukuba bungcono kunokuba bekunjalo.
- Ixesha: Lidla ngokusetyenziswa emva kwexesha elithile lokuthi cwaka okanye xa kubonakala ngathi ixhoba liyahamba.
- Izithembiso zobuxoki: Zisenokukhatshwa zizithembiso zenguqu okanye ikamva elilunge ngakumbi xa nikunye.
- Umjikelo wokuxhatshazwa: Inxalenye yomjikelo oqhelekileyo wofezekiso, ukuhla kwexabiso kunye nokwaliwa kweempawu zobudlelwane kunye nomgibi we-narcissistic.
Ukukhohlisa abo bakungqongileyo ukuba bafikelele kuwe ngokungathanga ngqo
Ukukhohlisa abo babangqongileyo ukuba bafikelele ngokungangqalanga kwixhoba ngokwenene liqhinga elisetyenziswa kumxholo wokuhombisa ngabaqhubi be-narcissistic. Le ndlela ingathanga ngqo ikhohlisa. Nantsi imiba ephambili yesi sicwangciso:
- I-Triangulation: I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ibandakanya amaqela esithathu kumandla okwenza uxinzelelo kwixhoba.
- Inethiwekhi yeNtlalo: Ukusebenzisa abahlobo, usapho, okanye oogxa bethu ukuthumela imiyalezo okanye ulwazi kwixhoba.
- Umfanekiso kawonke-wonke: Ukuguqulwa kwembono yokuba abo babangqongileyo banalo umbhexeshi we-narcissistic kunye nexhoba, amaxesha amaninzi bezibonakalisa njengalowo wonzakeleyo.
- Ukusasazwa kolwazi: Ukukhetha ukwabelana ngolwazi okanye amarhe ukuphembelela uluvo lwabo bakungqongileyo.
- Ukuxhaphaza amaqhina: Ukusetyenziswa kwabantwana, ukuba bakho, okanye amanye amaqhina entsapho ukugcina unxibelelwano olungathanga ngqo.
- Ukudalwa kongquzulwano: Ukuhlwayela ukungavisisani phakathi kwexhoba kunye nabo babangqongileyo ukuze bababeke bodwa.
- Ukucupha ngokungathanga ngqo: Sebenzisa abo bakungqongileyo njengomthombo wolwazi malunga nobomi bexhoba kunye nemisebenzi.
Eli qhinga lisebenza ngokukhethekileyo kuba lidlula kuzo naziphi na iindlela zokuzikhusela ngokuthe ngqo ixhoba elisenokuba liye layibeka endaweni, nto leyo eyenza kube nzima ukubhaqa nokukhawula i-hoovering.
- Auto-Hoovering – Ngamanye amaxesha thina ngokwethu sihendelwa ukuba siphinde sinxibelelane. Ubulolo kunye neenkumbulo zamaxesha amnandi zinokusishukumisela ukuba siphinde siqhagamshelane. Sixhathise esi sihendo: sikholisa ukukhokelela kwiintlungu ezininzi kunye netyala.
Kutheni le nto i-“Hoovering” isebenzayo?
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba sibe sesichengeni kwezi nzame:
- Ithemba lotshintsho lokwenyani
- Ukoyika isithukuthezi okanye into engaziwayo
- Ubutyala kunye nesidingo “sokusindisa” omnye
- Ukunqongophala ngokweemvakalelo kunye neenkumbulo ezintle eziphinda zivele.
Indlela Yokuxhathisa “I-Hoovering”?
Nazi iindlela zokuzikhusela:
- Gcina ukuthula koonomathotholo kwaye uvale onke amajelo onxibelelwano
- Khumbula ukuba kutheni uphelise ubudlelwane
- Zijikeleze ngabantu abakhathalayo nabakuthembayo
- Sebenzela ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukuba uyathandabuza, dibana nengcali yezempilo yengqondo.
Ulangazelelo lothando: I-Narcissistic Manipulator ikuhenda njani kwakhona?
I-narcissistic manipulator ikufunxa kwakhona ngokukuxelela le nto ufuna ukuyiva. Bayazi kakuhle into oyidingayo, kuba naso isizathu sokuba ubashiyile. Basebenzisa i-charm, charisma, ukuzithemba, okanye imvakalelo yabo yokuba lixhoba lokudlala ngetyala lakho. Ngamanye amaxesha basebenzisa konke oku.
“Ukuphaphazela kothando” kuquka ukuzixelela oko ufuna ukukuva, ukuthembisa iinguqulelo, nokuvuselela ithemba lokuba ngesi sihlandlo ziya kwahluka. Basenokusebenzisa izijekulo zothando ezifana neeholide okanye ukwabelana ngesondo ukwenza uzive ngathi uphinda ufumane inqanaba lokuqala lokuthandana lobudlelwane.
“I-Guilt Hoovering”: Ukuphathwa kakubi ngokweemvakalelo kwi-Narcissistic Manipulator
Olunye uhlobo lwe “hoovering” yinto endiyibiza ngokuba “ityala”. Nokuba ubunesibindi sokushiya ubudlelwane, umntu okhohlisayo unokudlala ngetyala lakho. Basenokukuxelela ukuba bazamile, batyhubela ixesha elinzima, abanakumfumana umntu onjengawe, yaye babenombulelo xa ubanike ithuba lesibini.
“Ityala letyala” lixhaphaza imfuno yakho yokuba ngumsindisi, ukuba ngumntu olungileyo, okanye nokuba ngumfeli-nkolo wakho owuzuze njengelifa kusapho lwakho lwemvelaphi. Abantu abanovelwano, ngokukodwa, basengozini kakhulu kolu tshintsho.
“Ukunyuka emsebenzini”: Xa iNarcissist izama ukulawula umsebenzi wakho?
Ngamanye amaxesha i-hoovering ayiphelelanga kubudlelwane bothando, inokwenzeka nasemsebenzini. Ukuba usebenze kwindawo ye-narcissistic apho ixabiso lakho lingazange liqatshelwe, i-narcissistic manipulator inokuzama ukukuhenda ngokukunika imali eninzi, uxanduva, okanye izibonelelo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba olu tshintsho lunokuba lokwexeshana, kwaye unokuzifumana uphathwa ngendlela efanayo nangaphambili, kodwa ngomvuzo ongaphezulu kancinci.
Kutheni le nto i-narcissistic manipulator isebenzisa “Hoovering”?
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni ii-narcissists ezikhohlisayo zisebenzise i-hoovering. Okokuqala, bakuthiyile ukwaliwa kwaye bafuna ukubonisa ukuba banokukubuyisa. I-Hoovering ikwasisicwangciso solawulo, esivumela i-narcissistic manipulator ukuba igcine ibambelele kuwe. Ekugqibeleni, basenokuphenjelelwa luloyiko lokuphulukana nolawulo lwakho, nto leyo echasene nemfuneko yabo esisiseko yokulawula abanye.
Ezona zizathu zixhaphakileyo zokuba kutheni i-narcissistic manipulator isenza i-hoovering zezi:
- Ukunqongophala konikezelo lwamandla:
- Ukwaliwa kunye nekratshi elenzakeleyo
- Jealousy
- Q kufuneka ujonge
- Solitude
- Boredom.
Uwulawula njani ngokusempilweni umnqweno “we-hoover”?
- Zama ukuzicingela – Musa ukuzigweba ngezi mvakalelo. Ziqhelekile kwaye ziyinxalenye yenkqubo yokuphilisa. Ziphathe ngobubele obunokwenzela umhlobo wakho okwimeko efanayo.
- Jonga iimfuno zakho zeemvakalelo ezinzulu – Cinga ukuba lo mnqweno utyhila ntoni malunga neemfuno zakho zeemvakalelo ezingafezekanga. Ngaba sisidingo sokuqinisekiswa, ukhuseleko, ukuba nempahla? Ungaqalisa njani ukuhlangabezana nezi mfuno ngendlela yokuzimela nesempilweni?
- Qinisa ukuzithemba kwakho yonke imihla – Gxila kwixabiso lakho langaphakathi, nokuba kukuphi na ukuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle. Bhiyozela uloyiso lwakho oluncinci lwemihla ngemihla kwaye uqaphele iimpawu zakho ezizodwa. Kwaye uhlale ungqongwe ukuba kunokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba ulawulo lwe-kwintlalo yoluntu lwe-narcissistic manipulator kukuzihlukanisa ukuze kulawuleke ngcono.
Zakhe kwakhona ngaphandle kokulinda “ukugquma”
- Yenza uqhagamshelo olutsha, oluyinyani -Tyala kubudlelwane obuphilileyo nabahlobo, usapho okanye abantu obaqhelileyo abatsha. Zingqonge nabantu abakuxabisayo ngale nto uyiyo ngokwenene.
- Bhala kwakhona ibali lakho lobuqu – Bhala ibali lakho ugxile kumandla akho, ukomelela kunye nokukhula kwakho. Awuchazwa kukungabikho kwe-narcissist, kodwa ngohambo lwakho lokuphilisa.
- Qwalasela ngenkxaso yonyango – Ingcali ekhethekileyo inokukunceda ujikeleze ezi mvakalelo zinzima, uhlele iipateni eziyityhefu, kwaye womeleze ukuzimela kwakho ngokweemvakalelo.
Amaqhinga okuxhathisa ukuhovering
- Gcina ukuthula koonomathotholo -Xa ufumana umyalezo osuka kwi-narcissistic ex-manipulator, khumbula ukuba akunyanzelekanga ukuba uphendule. Ukuthi cwaka kuyeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokusabela xa ubhabha.
- Nciphisa kancinane ukusebenzisana – Ukuba sele uphendule, unokunciphisa ngokuthe ngcembe ukusebenzisana kwakho. Tshintshela kwiimpendulo ezimfutshane, emva koko uzibeke kude ude uyeke unxibelelwano ngokupheleleyo.
- Ukomeleza imida yakho – Hlala ukhumbula ukuba unelungelo lokuthi hayi. Ukuba uvumile intlanganiso ngokukhawuleza, unokuhlala utshintsha ingqondo yakho. Impilontle yakho iza kuqala.
Ukuphinda ujonge kuwe emva kokuzama ukuzulazula
- Jonga amava okufunda – Lonke unxibelelwano nomntu owayesakuba ngumlahli lithuba lokufunda nokomeleza isigqibo sakho. Sebenzisa la mava ukuze uqinisekise isigqibo sakho sokuhlala kude nobudlelwane obuyityhefu.
- Qhudela ukuphindaphindana kubudlelwane bakho – Gxininisa kubudlelwane obunempilo obunikezela ngokutshintshiselana kwangempela. Ukuphindaphinda yinto ephambili yobudlelwane obulungeleleneyo, ngokungafaniyo nento oye wadibana nayo ne-narcissistic manipulator.
- Qeqesha ukuba novelwano kwimeko yokuphinda ubuyele kwakhona – Ukuba uye wanikezela kumzamo wokunyusa, musa ukuzibetha. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo ukuba namaxesha obuthathaka, ngakumbi xa uphuma kubudlelwane obunzulu ngolo hlobo. Into ephambili kukubuyisela ukulawula ngokukhawuleza.
- Ujonge phambili – Emva kokuxhathisa umzamo wokuzama ukunyusa, ngoku lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuphinda uqinisekise iinjongo zakho zobuqu. Gxininisa kwintlalontle yakho kunye nophuhliso lomntu. Khumbula ukuba kufuneka ubudlelwane obusekelwe kwintlonipho kunye nokulungelelana ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukubuyisela kwakhona: umngeni oqhelekileyo kwinkqubo yokubuyisela
Ukubuyela umva kuyinyani rhoqo kwaye ihlala ingaqondwa kakuhle kuhambo lokukhululeka kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator. Ngokufana nokuba likhoboka leziyobisi, ukubuyela kubudlelwane obuyityhefu kunokwenzeka nasemva kwexesha elide lokwahlukana. La maxesha obuthathaka adla ngokubangelwa bubulolo, uxinzelelo, okanye ukulangazelela “amaxesha amnandi” obudlelwane.
Ukuchasa ukuxhathisa kwi-narcissistic manipulator kuthatha ukuziqhelanisa kunye nomonde kuwe. Yonke imihla kude nobudlelwane obuyityhefu luloyiso. Zijikeleze ngabantu abanenkathalo kwaye ukhumbule ukuba unamandla okwakha ubomi obanelisayo, kunye okanye ngaphandle kweqabane.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
