I-Narcissistic Manipulative Symptom – Iimpawu ezi-3 eziphambili

Iimpawu ze-narcissistic manipulator zisihloko esixhaphake kakhulu kule mihla. Ngaba kukho umntu omaziyo oyi-narcissistic manipulator? Omnye wamalungu osapho lwakho? oogxa bakho? abahlobo bakho? okanye kwenye indawo, ngaba ungumxhasi we-narcissistic ngaphandle kokuba uyazi? Eli nqaku liza kukukhanyisela. 

Narcissistic Pervert – Yintoni na?

Ngokwentsingiselo yegama ngalinye, i-narcissistic manipulator ngumntu oneengxaki ezimbini zobuntu:

• ubugqwirha okanye ubugwenxa: othanda ukwenza izinto ezimbi, ongcamla ububi,
• narcissism: ngubani onoluvo lokuba usembindini wehlabathi, onomdla ogqithisileyo wokuzithanda. 

Iimpawu ze-narcissistic pervert

Iimpawu ze qaphela i-narcissistic manipulator zezi zilandelayo:

• ukuziva wongamile: kubudlelwane bakhe nabanye, i-narcissistic manipulator inqwenela ukuqondwa kwaye ifuna ukuziva ephakamile. Unqwenela ngokugqithiseleyo udumo, amandla kunye nempumelelo, eya kuthi ekugqibeleni imenze i-megalomaniac.
• imfuneko yokunconywa: I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ihlala ifuna ukuvuselela ukuncoma. Akakwazi ukunxulumana nabantu abangabalulekanga ngenxa yenkolelo yakhe yokuba ngumntu okhethekileyo. 
• ukungabikho kovelwano: akakwazi ukubonisa uvelwano, umxhaphazi we-narcissistic akaze achaze nabanye ukuba unokuziva njani. Ukuze afezekise iinjongo zakhe, i-narcissistic manipulator idla ngokuxhaphaza abanye.

I-narcissistic manipulator ifuna ukuba abanye bahambelane nolindelo lwakhe kwaye nguye kuphela onelungelo lokufumana unyango olukhethekileyo. Ibekwe kwimida yobugeza kwaye ukuze ingaweli ebugeza, i-narcissistic manipulator iya kuzama ukwenza omnye umntu aphambane endaweni yakhe. 

Iimpawu ze-Narcissistic Manipulator kubudlelwane

Kumxholo wobudlelwane, i-narcissistic manipulator ayinavelwano, ithande ukukhohlisa kwaye ine-ego enkulu. Ekuqaleni, i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ayibonakalisi ingxaki yakhe. Ulwalamano lwakhe nabanye luvelisa olu kuphazamiseka. Ngokubanzi, i-manipulator ye-narcissistic inokuba nomdla, ithandeke, okanye ibe nomtsalane. Ngamanye amazwi, banomtsalane, bayacenga, abanankathalo.  Nangona kunjalo, abanye bathule okanye bagcinwe kwasekuqaleni. Enenjongo ephambili yokwanelisa okanye ukukholisa abanye, uyakwazi ukuphendula zonke izicelo zabanye. Esi sigaba sokuqala sinokukhokelela kubudlelwane bokuxhomekeka kwabanye ngokubhekiselele kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic.

Oku kunokubakho phakathi kwabazali nabantwana umzekelo okanye phakathi kwamaqabane. Kodwa kamsinya nje ukuba kuqaliswe ubudlelwane nabanye, i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ingaba nobuso obuhlukeneyo: unokubonisa ubukhosi, umona, ubugwenxa, ububi, ubugwenxa kwabanye. Ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko, i i-narcissistic manipulator uyazi ukutshintsha ubuso bakhe ngamaxesha onke ngenjongo yokukhohlisa abanye ukuze afezekise iinjongo zakhe. 

Iimpawu zeNarcissistic Manipulator – zeziphi izizathu?

Izizathu zeempawu ze-narcissistic manipulator zohlulwe zibe zimbini:

1. Ukuphazamiseka kwemfuza okanye neuropsychological :

Ezinye iingcali ziye zafumanisa ukuba iimpawu ze-narcissistic manipulator zibangelwa ubunzima bokuzakhela kunye nophuhliso lwengqondo. 

2. Ubuntwana obungazinzanga:

Abantu abane a ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic uninzi lukhulele kusapho olungasebenziyo okanye kunye iprofayili yomama onama-narcissistic. Mhlawumbi bakhuselwe kakhulu okanye abahoywanga. Oku kuphathwa kakubi kubangela ukuba umntu azive emkhulu okanye afune ukugqalwa. 

Ukuthetha inyani, izizathu zeempawu ze-manipulator ye-narcissistic azicacanga kwaye kunzima ukuzifumanisa, kodwa abaphandi kunye neengcali baphulaphule umntu ngamnye obonisa le ngxaki ngexesha lonyango kwaye badibanisa onke amanqaku afanayo ukuze ekugqibeleni bafike kwizizathu ezibini eziphambili zeempawu ze-narcissistic manipulator. 

Nokuba siyaqonda malunga nezizathu zokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic manipulator, kubalulekile ukuba singazixhasi. I-manipulative narcissist ayinakuze itshintshe ukuba siyamvumela ukuba aqhubeke nokuziphatha kwakhe okutshabalalisayo kunye netyhefu. 

Unyango lweempawu ze-narcissistic perversion

Unyango lweempawu ze ugqweso lwe-narcissistic isekelwe kunyango lwengqondo. Le yokugqibela kufuneka yenziwe ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye rhoqo ngoncedo lwengcali yengqondo okanye i-psychologist ukuze isebenze. 

Kunyango kukho iindidi ezimbini zonyango:

1. Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo:

Olu nyango luthatha uhlobo lokuqonda kunye nokusombulula iingxaki. Ngamanye amazwi, umnyangi uphulaphula i-manipulator ye-narcissistic kwaye uyayiqonda indlela yakhe yokuziphatha. Ekugqibeleni, i-narcissistic manipulator iya kuthatha indlela entsha yokuziphatha eya kuba luncedo ngakumbi kuye. 

2. Unyango lwePsychodynamic : 

Ngethuba lolu nyango, ugqirha ukhuthaza i-narcissistic manipulator ukuba ichaze ngokukhululekileyo. Kusetyenziswa iindlela zokusebenzisa ingqondo nokudluliselwa. Ugqirha ubuza imibuzo okanye enze amagqabantshintshi kwisigulana sakhe ukuze akhuphe izinto zengqondo ezingazi nto ezinokuba ngumthombo wokungonwabi. 

Ngaloo ndlela, kunqunyulwa ukuba iimpawu zokuguqulwa kwe-narcissistic zinokuncitshiswa ngoncedo olulungileyo kunye nokuqina.  Ubudlelwane kunye nobomi obulungeleleneyo buvulekele abaqhubi be-narcissistic kunye nabo babangqongileyo.  

Kufuneka uqhagamshelane nini?

Kufuneka ubonisane xa ulahlekelwa ukuzithemba, uziva unetyala olucwangcisiweyo, uzenza ikheswa, udandathekile, njl njl. Olu vavanyo lukhohlakeleyo lokuba phantsi kwempembelelo ye-narcissistic manipulator lushiya uphawu lwayo. 

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic inokusebenzisa ubugwenxa bakhe kwaye isebenzise ulawulo lwakhe kwabo bamngqongileyo xa abantu abanxibelelana naye besesichengeni kwaye bebuthathaka. Iingcali ziqaphela inani elikhulu leenguqu ze-narcissistic perversion, ngamanye amaxesha kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane obuphuhliswe yi-manipulator kunye nabo bamngqongileyo.  

I-narcissistic manipulator ayiyazi ukuba i-narcissistic manipulator. Kumntu ngamnye kukho amanqanaba ahlukeneyo okuqonda. Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic uyazi kakuhle ukuba wenza abanye babandezeleke. Uyazi ukuba uyabakhohlisa abanye. I-narcissistic manipulator ayikwazi ukucinga ukuba ungumntu ombi kunye nokuzibuza. Akazange aqonde ukuziphatha kwakhe kwe-pathological. 

Qiniso zeBhayibhiliyografi ngeempawu ze-narcissistic pervert

Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili kumxholo othi “narcissistic manipulators” kunye neempawu zabo:

1. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Le harcèlement moral : La violence perverse au quotidien. Paris : Syros.
2. Tisseron, S. (2013). Les pervers narcissiques. Paris : Éditions Albin Michel.
3. Coutanceau, R., & Garnier, O. (2014). Les narcissiques. Paris : Éditions Odile Jacob.
4. Canevet, C. (2015). Les manipulateurs sont parmi nous : Qui sont-ils ? Que veulent-ils ? Comment s’en protéger ? Paris : Éditions de l’Homme.
5. Cyrulnik, B. (2004). Les vilains petits canards. Paris : Éditions Odile Jacob.
6. Salomé, J. (2008). Le courage d’être soi. Paris : Éditions Albin Michel.
7. Allione, A. (2017). Victimes de violences psychologiques : De la résistance à la reconstruction. Paris : Éditions Dunod.

Le misebenzi ibonelela ngembono enzulu kwiimpawu kunye nokubonakaliswa kobuntu obugwenxa, kunye neendlela zokuchonga nokukhusela ngokuchasene nabo.

Conclusion

Ukuba abo bakungqongileyo bayakuxhasa kodwa awukakwazi ukoyisa le ngxaki, kuyacetyiswa ukuba udibane nengcali, ngakumbi ingcaphephe. Unokumcacisela izizathu zokuncamathela kwakho ngokunganyanzelekanga kwi-narcissistic manipulator. Unokusebenza engqondweni yakho ukujongana ne-narcissistic manipulator. Ekugqibeleni, uya kuphumelela ngokuthe ngcembe ekuthandeni wena, ukuzimela kunye nokuphila ngokupheleleyo.

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