Ubuthathaka beNarcissistic kunye nobudlelwane bothando: yonke into ekufuneka uyazi!

I-Narcissistic manipulators ngabantu abaphethwe yi-pathology. Ngokuqhelekileyo babonwa njengabazingcayo, abakhohlisayo, abangenaluvelwano kunye narcissistic. Kodwa ngaba uyayazi loo nto ii-narcissistic manipulators banokuba neentsilelo ezikhokelela ekuzicingeni kokwenyani ngakubo ? Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi malunga nokusilela kwe-narcissistic.

Yintoni impazamo ye-narcissistic?

Igama elithi “isiphene se-narcissistic” lisetyenziswa rhoqo kwintsimi ye-psychoanalysis. Ngokungafaniyo nobuntu be-narcissistic manipulator, i-narcissist engaphumelelanga ngumntu ohlayo kukuzithemba kwakhe kunye nokuzithemba. Ngamanye amazwi, kunokuba azixakekise ngokwakhe kunye nomfanekiso wakhe, i-narcissist eyoyisayo iyathandabuza yena kunye nokukwazi kwakhe ukuthandwa ngabantu abamngqongileyo.

Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba i ukwenzakala kwe-narcissistic kwaye yahlukile kwi isiphene se-narcissistic. Impazamo inzulu kunenxeba elingaphandle. Ayinakuze iphilise kwaye ibangele ukubandezeleka okungenakulungiseka xa ivuliwe.

Isiphene se-narcissistic kunye nobudlelwane bothando: lubonakaliswa njani?

Ukuba kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator luvavanyo lokwenyani kwixhoba lakhe. Isiphene se-narcissistic sihlala sivela ubudlelwane obuyityhefu, nto leyo edla ngokukhokelela ukuba izibini zahlukane.

Isiphene se-narcissistic sizibonakalisa njani kubudlelwane bothando?

Umntu ophethwe bubuthathaka be-narcissistic uhlala echukumiseka kakhulu kwaye uyacaphuka ngokulula. Uziva engafunwa lula kwaye ukugqala ukugxekwa njengezoyikiso. Ngaloo ngqiqo, iingxabano zemihla ngemihla, kwanezona zincinci, ziba ziingxabano ezinkulu.

Iimpawu zabantu abanobuthathaka be-narcissistic eluthandweni

Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngasentla, umntu ophethwe bubuthathaka be-narcissistic akakwazi ukuzithanda. Ngale ndlela, naye ukholelwa ukuba akanakuthandwa. Unika abanye kakhulu, kuba ukholelwa ukuba yena yedwa akaxabisekanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba angaxatyiswa njengembuyekezo. Ngenxa yoko, udla ngokusoloko efuna ukwenzela abanye okuthile aze awele ekuxhomekekeni ngokweemvakalelo. Ngaphandle kokuziva eziva engonelanga kwaye eziva engonelanga, ukwatyekele ekuziveni enetyala.

Iziphumo zesiphene se-narcissistic kwisibini

Nokuba inkulu, incinci, yakutshanje okanye indala, isiphene se-narcissistic sineempembelelo ezininzi kumntu obandezelekileyo kunye nobudlelwane babo. Xa inganyangwa, ukungaphumeleli kwe-narcissistic kunokuba yimalaise yokwenyani yeemvakalelo..

• Ukuziphatha ndlongondlongo,
• ukulahlekelwa sisidima,
• ukungakhathali kunye nokungakhathali kwempilo yomntu,
• impatho-mbi yakhe,
• ukuzenzakalisa, nkqu nokuzama ukuzibulala,
• ukuziphatha okukhobokisayo okanye ukuxhomekeka kwiziyobisi kunye/okanye etywaleni.
• utshe waphela,
• Ixhoba elilula le-narcissistic manipulators,
• Umsindo weNarcissistic: ukungasebenzi kakuhle kokuziphatha.

Ukungaphumeleli kwe-Narcissistic kuneziphumo ezininzi xa umntu obandezelekayo ekubudlelwane. Umchasi emva koko unokuba:

• ukuziva uphantsi xa kuthelekiswa neqabane likabani,
• ubunzima kubudlelwane nothando,
• ityala elikhulu,
• iimvakalelo eziphakamileyo.

Zeziphi izizathu zesiphene se-narcissistic?

Imvelaphi yempazamo ye-narcissistic ayicacanga. Nangona kunjalo, le ngxaki inokufumana imithombo yayo ngokulandelelana kweziganeko eziya konakalisa ngokusisigxina isiseko somntu we-narcissistic. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ezi ziganeko zenzeka ebuntwaneni. Phakathi kwezizathu, sinokucaphula:

• ukuziphatha okugqithisileyo kwabazali,
• abazali abangenagunya,
• ukungabikho okanye ukungabikho kothando lwabazali,
• ukuxhatshazwa kwabazali,
• ukothuka ngokweemvakalelo,
• ukungaqatshelwa ngexesha lobuntwana,
• uxinzelelo olugqithisileyo okanye ulindelo olubaxiweyo kubazali,
• ukhuseleko olugqithisileyo lwabazali,
• ubundlobongela obuphindaphindiweyo ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasengqondweni.

Ukongeza kwintlungu eyenzeka ebuntwaneni, isiphene sinokuvela xa umntu eqonda ukuba akayiyo le nto wayecinga ukuba uyiyo. Ngamanye amazwi, xa eqonda ukuba umfanekiso anawo bubuxoki. Yiyiphi imeko xa kukho ukulahleka kwegama, ukulahlekelwa ukuthembeka okanye ukubuza imibuzo.

Indlela yokuhlala kunye neqabane kunye nobuthathaka be-narcissistic?

Ukuhlala ne-narcissistic manipulator inokuba luvavanyo lokwenene mihla le. Ukujongana noku, amanyathelo ambalwa kufuneka amkelwe ukuququzelela unxibelelwano kunye nobudlelwane.

• Fundisisa iqabane lakho ngononophelo: oku kukuvumela ukuba uchonge umthombo wesifo sabo.
• UQonda umjikelo we-narcissistic: ukuziva usongelwe, uxhaphaza abo bakungqongileyo, ukuba lixhoba, ukuziva womelele.
• Dlala umdlalo.
• Yondla i-ego yakhe.

Indlela yokulawula ubudlelwane bothando nomntu onobuthathaka be-narcissistic?

Isiphene se-narcissistic, nokuba sikhulu okanye sincinci, sinokuba neziphumo ezibi kubomi bomntu obandezelekileyo kunye nabo babangqongileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka wazi ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uzikhulule kuyo.

• Awareness: Eli linyathelo lokuqala lokuqhawula amatyathanga exesha elidlulileyo. Ukuthatha inyathelo emva kukuvumela ukuba uqonde ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Ngokuchaza ingxaki (ii)ngxaki, uyavuma ukuba zikhona kwaye ziyingozi kubomi bakho njengesibini.
• Ukushiya iisutikhesi: ngokushiya iisutikhesi ngasemva, umntu ophethwe sesi sifo ushiya ixesha elidlulileyo. Emva koko yenza indawo yangoku, kodwa nakwixesha elizayo.
• Ukuphepha ubutyala: Kubudlelwane, umntu ongathobeliyo uziva enetyala kwaye enoxanduva kuyo yonke into. Ngokufunda ukuzithanda nokuzihlonela ngokwexabiso lakhe lokwenene, uya kuyeka ukuziva enetyala ngenxa yokuba nguye.
• Ukufunda ukuxolela.
• Zithande.
• Mamela kwaye ukhulise ilizwi lakho langaphakathi.
• Zifumanisa wena.

Indlela yokuphilisa isiphene se-narcissistic kwaye ube nobomi obuqhelekileyo njengesibini?

Isiphene se-narcissistic asinakuphepheka. Ukuphilisa kuyo kwaye ube nobomi obuqhelekileyo njengesibini, kufuneka uhambe ngonyango. Ukuphila ngesiphene se-narcissistic kunye nokungaphumeleli kwe-narcissistic kuphelile imihla ngemihla. Ngoko ke kuya kuba yimfuneko ukufumana indlela ukunyanga i-narcissistic manipulator ukukwazi ukuphuma kuyo.

Ukucela uncedo kunceda ukuthomalalisa kunye nokupholisa umsantsa ngokulungileyo. Ngaloo nto engqondweni, kuyacetyiswa ukuba udibane nonyango olukhethekileyo. Aba bamva baya kukwazi ukunika izisombululo ezisebenzayo ezilungelelaniswe kwingxaki yakho.

Ireferensi yebhayibhili malunga “nesiphene se-narcissistic kunye nobudlelwane bothando”

Nalu ukhetho lweereferensi zebhayibhilografi kwisiFrentshi kumxholo weziphene ze-narcissistic kunye nobudlelwane bothando:

1. Kernberg, O. F. (1998). La personnalité narcissique : Structure et traitement. Éditions Desclée de Brouwer.
2. Bocquet, M. (2011). Les relations amoureuses : Entre idéalisation et déception. Éditions L’Harmattan.
3. De Mijolla, A. (2006). Le narcissisme et ses enjeux dans le couple. In Narcissisme et amour. Éditions Érès.
4. Lemaire, A. (2014). Narcissisme et relations humaines : Les enjeux du lien amoureux. In Psychanalyse et narcissisme. Éditions In Press.
5. Zarifian, P. (2012). Les blessures narcissiques en psychothérapie : Un modèle de compréhension des couples. Éditions Le Champ Social.
6. Jouan, F. (2018). Le narcissisme dans la relation amoureuse : Une approche psychanalytique. Revue de Psychologie, 2(4), 12-20.
7. Lemoine, J. (2010). Narcissisme et amour : Les mécanismes de la faille narcissique. Éditions Odile Jacob.

Ezi mbekiselo kufuneka zikunike isiseko esiluqilima sokuphonononga unxibelelwano phakathi kobuthathaka be-narcissistic kunye nobudlelwane bothando.

Ukuqukumbela

Ukuqukumbela, isiphene se-narcissistic simele umba ontsokothileyo nobuhlungu, kubantu abaphethwe siso kunye namaqabane abo. Ukuqonda imvelaphi kunye nokubonakaliswa kwayo kubalulekile kubudlelwane obuhlala buphawulwa kukubandezeleka kunye nokuxhomekeka. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuqala indlela eya ekunyangeni ngokwazisa kunye nenkxaso yonyango. Ngokufunda ukuthandana nokuhlonela iimfuno zabo, wonke umntu unokuba nethemba lokwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo nobanelisayo.