Kutheni i-narcissistic manipulator ilithiya ixhoba layo? 

I-narcissistic manipulator iyalicaphukela ixhoba layo kuba likhumbuza into ayithiyileyo ngaye. Ixhoba lakhe uligqala njengembonakaliso yokungafezeki kwakhe ukuswela uthando nokungabi nantlonipho kumntu wakhe. Inene, umntu okhohlisayo ufumana iimpazamo kunye nobuthathaka bakhe, kwaye akanakukunyamezela ukubona oku komnye umntu.

Kutheni i-narcissistic manipulator ifuna ixhoba?

I-narcissistic manipulator inesidingo esisisiseko sokuba ixhoba ligcine ibhalansi yakhe yengqondo ebuthathaka kunye umfanekiso-ngqondweni ukudumba. Le ntshukumo inetyhefu ivumela ukuba alawule, abonise ukongama kwakhe, kwaye azalise isithuba esinzulu seemvakalelo. Ixhoba liba sisipili esibonisa ubukhulu bawo obukhohlisayo, ngelixa lisebenza njengendawo yokwamkela ukungakhuseleki kunye nokukhathazeka.

Ngokulawula kunye nokulawula ixhoba lakhe, umxhasi we-narcissistic womeleza amandla akhe kwaye afihle iimpazamo zakhe. Le nkqubo yokuphathwa gadalala imnika ukuqinisekiswa rhoqo kunye nomthombo wengqwalasela ayinqwenelayo. Ngaphaya koko, ukubandezeleka kwexhoba kukhulisa isidingo salo sokuziva sibalulekile kwaye sibalulekile. Olu dlelwane olungalungelelananga lubalulekile kumbhexeshi we-narcissistic. Ngaphandle kwexhoba, ebeya kuzifumanisa ejamelene nokusilela kwakhe kunye nemvakalelo yokuziva engento yanto afuna ukuyiphepha.

Kutheni i-narcissist ekhohlisayo ithanda impixano?

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic inomdla kakhulu kungquzulwano kuba ifumana izibonelelo ezininzi zengqondo kuyo. Ungquzulwano lusebenza njengebala lokubonisa ukongama kwakhe nokulawula abanye. Ukubona njengethuba lokusebenzisa, ukudodobalisa nokulawula, ngaloo ndlela egxininisa amandla akhe.

Iimeko zongquzulwano zimvumela ukuba azibeke njengexhoba okanye iqhawe, kuxhomekeke ekubeni yintoni eyenza umdla wakhe okwangoku. Ukongezelela, ungquzulwano lubangela ingqalelo enzulu, yondla intswelo engapheliyo yomntu yokuqondwa. Usebenzisa la maxesha ukuze abonise ukungakhuseleki kwakhe kwabanye, ngelixa ephepha ukuzihlola. Isiphithiphithi seemvakalelo esidalwa yingxabano sikwavumela ukuba agcine abathandekayo bakhe bekwimeko yokudideka kunye nokuxhomekeka. Ekugqibeleni, i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ihlala ibona ukulalanisa njengobuthathaka. Impixano ke ngoko iba yeyona ndlela ayithandayo yonxibelelano, nto leyo emnika inkohliso yokuba esoloko enesandla esiphezulu.

Yintoni eyona nto isithiye kakhulu i-narcissist ekhohlisayo?

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic inzondo ngaphezu kwayo yonke into esongela umfanekiso wakhe wokufezeka kunye nokulawula. Ukungakhathali mhlawumbi yeyona nto ayithiyileyo kakhulu, kuba imvimba ingqalelo kunye nokuqinisekiswa akunqwenela ngamandla.

Kananjalo akakwazi ukunyamezela ukugxekwa okanye ukubuzwa ngezenzo zakhe, njengoko oko kujongela phantsi ubuso bakhe bobungangamsha. Ukuzimela kunye nokuzimela kwamaxhoba alo kubonwa njengezoyikiso ezithe ngqo kwimpembelelo yayo. Ukuthiyile ukujongana neziphene zakhe okanye ubunyani bokuziphatha kwakhe okuyityhefu. Ukulahlekelwa lulawulo, nokuba kukwimeko ethile okanye phezu komntu, akunyamezeleki. Imida ebekwe ngabanye abantu ibonwa njengokuthotywa kobuqu.

Ekugqibeleni, uvelwano oluyinyani kunye nobudlelwane obulungeleleneyo bungaphandle kwaye busongelwa kuye, kuba bacela umngeni kwinkqubo yakhe yexabiso esekelwe kulawulo kunye nokulawula. Ngamafutshane, nantoni na enokutyhila ubuntu bakhe bokwenene okanye ithobe amandla akhe yeyona nto ayicaphukela ngokunzulu.

Kutheni i-narcissistic manipulator icaphukela ixhoba layo kodwa ixhomekeke kuyo?

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic igcina ubudlelwane obuphazamisayo kunye nexhoba lakhe, ukuxuba inzondo kunye nokuxhomekeka. I-narcissistic manipulator iyalithiya ixhoba layo kuba imele isipili sobuthathaka bakhe kunye nokungaqiniseki alayo ukukuvuma. Ixhoba likwaquka isoyikiso esinokubakho kulawulo lwalo, ngakumbi ukuba ubonisa iimpawu zokuzimela okanye ukuxhathisa.

Noko ke, uxhomekeke kuye ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Ungumthombo wakhe oyintloko wokuqinisekisa, ingqalelo kunye “nokubonelela nge-narcissic”. Ngaphandle kwakhe, ebeya kuzibhaqa ejongene nokunganyamezeleki kwangaphakathi. Ixhoba lisebenza njengendawo yokwamkela iingqikelelo zalo ezingalunganga kunye nebhokhwe yokuhlangula iintsilelo zalo.

Ukongeza, ukuphatha kunye nokulawula ixhoba lakhe kumnika imvakalelo yamandla kunye nokuphakama ahlala ekufuna. Oku kuxhomekeka kudala umjikelo onetyhefu apho i-narcissistic manipulator itshintshana phakathi kokunciphisa ixabiso kunye nokwenza ixhoba lakhe libe lilungele. Akakwazi ukumyeka ahambe kodwa akakwazi nokwakha ubuhlobo obuphilileyo nobulungeleleneyo.

Indlela yokuqonda ixhoba le-narcissistic manipulator?

Amaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulator ahlala ebonisa iimpawu ezibalulekileyo ezibalulekileyo ukuba zibonwe:

• Ukuphulukana nokuzithemba
• Ukuxhalaba rhoqo kunye namathandabuzo

• Ubutyala obugqithisileyo nobungenasihlahla
• Utyekelo lokusoloko uzithethelela
• Ukoyika umgwebo kwabanye

• Ukunciphisa iimfuno zakho
• Ucela uxolo rhoqo

Ireferensi yebhayibhili yokufumanisa ukuba kutheni umbhexeshi we-narcissistic emthiyile ixhoba lakhe

Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili ezijongana nomxholo we-narcissistic manipulator kunye nokutshintsha kobudlelwane babo namaxhoba abo:

1. Miller, J. A. (2012). Le pervers narcissique : Comprendre et protéger les victimes. Éditions Eyrolles.
2. Kets de Vries, M. F. R. (2010). Le narcissisme au travail : Comprendre les pervers narcissiques en entreprise. Éditions InterEditions.
3. Lemoine, C. (2015). Les victimes de pervers narcissiques : Une souffrance invisible. Éditions First.
4. Fischer, A. (2009). Psychologie des personnalités narcissiques et perverses. Éditions De Boeck.
5. Pichot, A. (2018). La manipulation mentale : Comprendre les mécanismes du pervers narcissique. Éditions Leduc.s.
6. Delépine, C. (2017). Narcissisme et relations destructrices : Déchiffrer le lien toxique. Éditions Payot.
7. Gutton, J. (2011). L’âme des manipulateurs : Psychologie du pervers narcissique. Éditions Albin Michel.

Ezi ncwadi ziya kukubonelela ngeembono ezahlukeneyo malunga nokuziphatha kwee-narcissistic manipulators kunye namandla abo kunye namaxhoba.

Ukuqukumbela

Ekugqibeleni, i-manipulator ye-narcissistic igcina ubudlelwane obunzima kunye nexhoba layo, i-oscillating phakathi kwenzondo kunye nokuxhomekeka. Le ntshukumo inetyhefu isekelwe kwimfuno yokulawula kunye nokukhohlisa, ngelixa uveza ubuthathaka bomntu kwabanye. Ixhoba, njengesibuko sokungakhuseleki kwakhe, liba ngumthombo wokuqinisekisa kunye nento yokudelela. Lo mjikelo owonakalisayo ugxininisa ukubaluleka kokuqonda ezi ndlela zokukhusela amaxhoba ngcono kunye nokukhuthaza ukuphilisa kwabo.

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