I-Sadomasochism kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator: Ukuqonda ukuzikhulula ngcono kuyo

Sadomasochism ithathwa njengesenzo sokwabelana ngesondo esithob’ isidima kunye nokugula okwexeshana. Olu qheliselo lugcina imfihlelo ethile. Izothe kwaye iyakhathaza kwabanye, kodwa inomdla kwaye iyimfihlakalo kwabanye. Ke ngoko siza kukucacisela ukuba lo mkhuba ubandakanya ntoni na. Sexual Sadism : yiprofayili yengqondo enokufumaneka kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo. Eyona nto inxulumene nesini ngokuqinisekileyo yeyona ibangela umdla, ide iphazamise. Inyani yokuba oku kuchaphazela isondo, esisisifundo esingathandekiyo, ayincedi kwaphela ekuqondeni usizi lwezesondo. 

Sadomasochism: yintoni na?

Sinokuyichaza i-sadomasochism njengesenzo sesondo apho ukusetyenziswa kokulawula, intlungu kunye nokuthotywa. Injongo kukufumana ulonwabo. Le nkcazo ye-sadomasochism ivuselela ubukho bamaqabane amabini.  Kwelinye icala, umntu onomnqweno wokungeniswa kwe-masochism. Kwaye lowo unomnqweno wokulawula, oko kukuthi sexual sadism.

Kodwa ke, yintoni umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwe-sadism kunye ne-masochism? I-Sadism yeyona ndawo iyingxaki kulo mkhuba. Yiloo nto ke kunzima ukuyamkela. Kwiimeko ezinamandla kakhulu, i-sadomasochism egqithisileyo inokukhokelela ekuhlaselweni okanye kudlwengulo, umzekelo. Siphawula ukuba le yimeko yabantu abanobuntu obaphukileyo.

I-Sadism kubuntu be-narcissistic: inyathelo elinye elikufutshane nobumnyama

Esona sitayela sibalaseleyo sobuntu esinoburhalarhume sabelana ngeempawu kunye ne-narcissism kunye ne-psychopathy, kodwa iya phambili. Aba bantu bafumana ulwaneliseko olukhethekileyo ekuthotyweni ngabanye. Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni we-narcissistic manipulator engafuni kukulawula kuphela, kodwa uyonwaba ngokwenene ekukwenzeni ubandezeleke. Uyoyikeka, akunjalo?

Iimpawu zeTelltale ze-Sadistic Narcissistic Manipulator

Nazi ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezinokubonisa ukuba ujongene ne-narcissistic manipulator enotyekelo olulusizi:

• Inkohlakalo yangabom
• Imfuneko emandla yolawulo
• Izenzo zokugrogrisa rhoqo
• Ukuthotywa okuphindaphindiweyo
• Ukuthintelwa kwenkululeko yakho

Ukuba ezi mpawu zivakala ziqhelekile, yazi ukuba akuwedwa yaye asilotyala lakho.

Yintoni i-sexual sadism disorder?

Usizi ngokwesondo luchazwa njengeprofayili yengqondo yomntu othi afumane uyolo ekubandezelekeni kwabanye. Usenokuba ngumbhali okanye umkhi-mkhanya nje. Umntu uziva evuselela ngokwesondo apho umntu oqhelekileyo ebenokoyika okanye engoyiki violence.

Le nkohlakalo yezesondo ekhoyo kubantu abadabukisayo yinto eyenza ukuba adlulele ngaphaya kwengqondo. Ngamanye amaxesha kuchazwa njengento elula eccentricity ngokwesondo, le yokugqibela kude kakhulu kakhulu ngendlela ethile.

Kutheni le nto i-narcissistic manipulator iba lusizi?

Ngokungafaniyo ne-narcissist “yakudala” efuna ukubuyisela ukungakhuseleki kwakhe, i-narcissist elusizi ibonakala ikhutshiwe kulo lonke uvelwano lomntu. Kuba ngathi kukho ikhefu elipheleleyo kunye nento eyenza sibe nenkathalo ngabantu. Oku kungabikho kokuzisola ngokupheleleyo kunokuba buhlungu ngokukodwa kumaxhoba.

Ifuthe elibi kumaxhoba

Ukutyhileka kwi-narcissistic manipulator elusizi kunokubangela ukwenzakala ngokwasengqondweni. Amaxhoba ahlala echaza imvakalelo yokuba phambi kobubi obupheleleyo. Umothuko unokuba mkhulu kangangokuba iziphumo zasemva koko zinokuqhubeka iminyaka ukuba aziphathwa ngendlela eyiyo.

Ngaba i-sadomasochism isigulo?

Ngokusekwe kwiSifundo seMasochism kwiPsychology, esi ayisosifo. Uthathwa njenge sexual eccentricity. “Zonke iincasa zikwindalo “, asinakubugxeka ngokwenene ubukho bolu qheliselo. Okanye ade abagwebe abantu abakwenzayo oko. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukuba akuthintelwanga, kuyingozi kakhulu. Yiloo nto imvume phakathi kwamaqabane ibalulekile.

I-Sadomasochism – oonobangela bolu qheliselo

Izizathu ezinokuthi zikhokelele kolu qheliselo lwezesondo zininzi kakhulu:

• Umdla olula. Abanye abantu banokuzibuza ukuba yintoni inqaku. Abantu abenza lo mkhuba banokuziva njani. Okanye ndazi njani ukuba ndingumashi? Umntu ekubeni esisilwanyana esinomdla ngendalo, oku kunokumenza umdla. Kwaye ngokuzama abanye abantu bafumana incasa yayo kwaye bangene kuyo.

• Umnqweno wokungeniswa. Kwi-masochist, inyani yokungeniswa ithetha umbono wobuthathaka. Oku kubangela i-lack ethile yokuzithemba ngokwezinye iingcali zengqondo. Ngokwenene, umntu ozithobayo ulahlekelwa kuko konke ukubakho kobunkokeli. Akusekho mfuneko yokuba azicingele. Kuluntu olufana nolwethu apho isigqibo ngasinye sibalulekile, okanye uphantsi koxinzelelo oluqhubekayo, esi senzo sibonwa njengendlela yokuzonwabisa. Umntu unako ngokwenene ngeli xesha lokuphuma kwindima yakhe kwaye athathe enye ukukhulula uxinzelelo lwangaphakathi kunye nokukhungatheka.

• Umnqweno wokulawula. Umnqweno wokulawula kunye negunya okhoyo kwi-sadism uquka umnqweno wokulawula. Kwiimeko ezininzi, sicinga ukuba lo mntu usekude ukuba azaliseke. Ezinye izazi ngengqondo zithi lo mnqweno wokulawula nokuzisa ukubandezeleka kuthetha ukuba umntu ngokwakhe uziva ecinezelwe. Ngoko ke ukuze azibambe, aze ke ngoko abaleke kolu guqulelo lucinezelweyo, uba ngumcinezeli.

I-Sadomasochism-Ngaba sisenzo esisempilweni?

Sinokubhideka kakhulu kulo mbuzo. Ukuthetha ngokuphandle ukuba lo mkhuba awukho mpilweni kukufanelekela ukuba yi-narcissistic perversion. Kwaye ukuthetha ukuba kusempilweni kukuvula ibhokisi yePandora. Singaxoxa ukuba oku kuya kuxhomekeka ikakhulu kumaqabane.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngokungabikho kwemvume oku kunokuba yingozi ngokwenene kwi-masochist. Isenokuwela ezandleni zomntu oneenjongo ezimbi yaye loo mkhwa usenokukhukuliseka. Emva koko uya kuba sengozini kuba ukwenzakala emzimbeni kuko okuphawula lo mkhuba. Ingakumbi ekubeni umthuthumbisi enokugqithisa imvume yexhoba lakhe eliya kubandezeleka.

Ngaba i-sadism sisifo?

Lo mbuzo unobungqina obuthile. Impendulo kukuba le yokugqibela iba sisifo, kuphela xa kuthatha aulwaphulo-mthetho kunye nomlinganiswa ophindaphindayo. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha kuyahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwinqanaba le-sadism. Oku kuthetha ukuba i-sadism kwinqanaba lezesondo linamanqanaba ahlukeneyo. Benza okokugqibela kungabi sempilweni njengoko inqanaba lenkohlakalo lisanda.

Ingxelo yethu isenokubonakala ingafanelekanga. Ukuba sijonga ngamehlo engqondo, i-sadism yingxaki enkulu yengqondo. Noko ke, imbono ephangalele ngolo hlobo ayinakuziswa kwimeko yethu.

Ukuxilongwa ukutyhila ityala lokuphazamiseka ngokwesondo ngokwesondo – Iimpawu

Ngokutsho kwe-MSD, i-sadism yezesondo sisifo esibangela umnqweno wokutshatyalaliswa kwinqanaba elithile. Ngabantu ababangqongileyo abachanabeka kwiingozi zokwenene. Esi siphazamiso sijonge ukubandezeleka okubalulekileyo ukuze kubangele umntu.

Nazi iimpawu ezahlukeneyo zokubona esi sifo:

1. Umntu ufumana isimilo sakhe. Kwaye kwezinye iimeko, akakwazi ukuthintela iimvakalelo zakhe. Ngaloo ndlela, akawulawuli ngokupheleleyo owakhe umzimba. Singatsho nokuba ukwidaze kwaye akasacingi ngokuqhelekileyo.

2. Izenzo ze-sadist zinokufikelela ngokugqithisileyo. Ehamba ngaphaya kwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha, unokuphethukela kwisimo esonakeleyo. Oku ingakumbi kwimeko yokungcungcuthekiswa okanye ukubethwa ngogonyamelo. Ezi meko zinokuthi zenzeke kwiimeko zokungavunyelwanga kwe-sadomasochistic practice.

3. Izenzo apho umbhali we-sadist wenziwa ngaphandle kwemvume yexhoba. Singahendeka ukuba sicinge ukuba udlwengulo ngumzekelo olula wesenzo esibuhlungu ngokwesondo. Amanani abonakala ephikisana noku. Ngenxa yokuba ukuphazamiseka ngokwesondo kwakubakho kuphela kwi-10% yabadlwenguli. Ngelixa yayikhona kwi- 37 ukuya kwi-75% yabenzi bokubulala ngenxa yeenjongo zesini.

Uvavanyo lokutyhila ubuntu obulusizi

I-Sadism, nangona kubonakala kulula ukuyiqonda kwinkcazo yayo yesigama. Kunzima ukuyicinezela wakuba uyifundisise nzulu. Ngoko ke, umbuzo xa sisithi umntu ukhohlakele? ngumbuzo onzima.

Kungoku engqondweni apho uGqr Rachel Plouffe egxile kuphando lwakhe. Kule nto, uvavanyo olufikeleleka ngokulula kwi-intanethi likuvumela ukuba ube nombono olungileyo wokuba yintoni i-sadism. Iqulathe uluhlu lwemibuzo yokhetho oluninzi. Iingongoma eziphambili zezi zilandelayo:

• Hlalutya indlela oziphatha ngayo ekuhlaleni. Ukwenza oku, imibuzo iyabuzwa ngendlela ophatha ngayo abo bakungqongileyo.

• Ukulinganisa inqanaba lakho lovelwano. Okukhona buthathaka, kokukhona kuya kuba lula kuwe ukwenza ingozi.

• Umtsalane kunye ne-morbid. Le yokugqibela igqithise kakhulu. Eneneni, abanye abantu banokubonakalisa ukuthabatheka okukhwankqisayo zizenzo zogonyamelo ezigwetywayo yingqiqo eqhelekileyo.

Iimpawu zabahlaseli abakhohlakeleyo?

Njengoko sibonile, abahlaseli abanenkohlakalo baneempawu zabo. Nazi izinto ezahlukeneyo ezinokuphakanyiswa.

• Uphando lubonise ukubauninzi lwabantu abachatshazelwa sesi sifo yayingamadoda. Isizathu sinokufunyanwa kubudlelwane bomzimba nto leyo engalunganga kakhulu owasetyhini. Kodwa yintoni indoda elusizi? ungumntu oya kuvuya ngenxa yokubandezeleka kwabanye.

• Inyani yokuba injongo yezesondo yeyona nto ifunwa ngulo buhlungu iyamohlula kumdlwenguli. Le yokugqibela iqhutywa ngumnqweno wenyama, ngelixa i-sadist yesini ayiyi kuhlasela kuphela ngendlela yesondo. Oko kuthetha ukuba izenzo aza kuzigcina zinentsingiselo eyahlukileyo. Le ukukhangela ukubandezeleka kwenye ibe sisiseko.

• Nikeza kwindawo enetyhefu ngamanye amaxesha relationship. Kule meko, i-sadist iya kuba nexhoba kuye. Ngoko ke uya kusebenzisa eli thuba ukuze aphumeze iinjongo zakhe.

Unyango lwe-sadism yezesondo kunye neemeko ezinxulumene nazo

Ukukhetha amayeza akunakwenzeka kwi-sadism yesondo. Kubonakala ngathi eyona nto ilungileyo luncedo ekupheliseni esi sifo. ukubiza ingcali yezonyango okanye isazi ngengqondo yeyona ndlela ikhuselekileyo. Kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba njengokuphazamiseka kokuziphatha, uninzi lomonakalo usengqondweni.

Ngaba i-narcissistic manipulator i-sadist?

Makungabikho ukubhideka. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ayithethi ukuba i-sadist. Unxibelelwano lunokwenziwa phakathi kwezi zimbini. Uphawu olubadibanisayo kukukwazi kwabo ukutshabalalisa abanye. I-sadist yenza ngokungxamisekileyo ngelixa i-narcissistic manipulator iqhutywa yimvakalelo yokuyimfuneko.

Oko kuthetha ukuba into ayenzayo kukugcwalisa imeko yokunqongophala ekhoyo. Yaye ukuba uyahlasela, kungenxa yale njongo kuphela. I-sadist, ngokuchaseneyo, iya kufumana ulonwabo olupheleleyo kwinto ayenzayo.

Isikhundla sikaKrafft-Ebing kunye noFreud

Amagama kaRichard Von Krafft-Ebing kunye noSigmund Freud baneendawo ezibalulekileyo ekuzimiseleni kwe-sadomasochism. Bajonga ukuvela kwesi senzo kwimbali yonke. Iinjongo zabo kukubona ubudlelwane phakathi kwenkanuko yesini kunye nokuxhatshazwa okanyeubundlobongela.

Uhlalutyo lukaRichard Von Krafft-Ebing

Ngokohlalutyo lwakhe, i-sadism kunye ne-masochism ngamacala amabini emali efanayo. Zijongwa ngabo bamva njengee-anomalies zesondo ezihambelanayo. Ngokutsho kwakhe, i-sadism ifumana ukonwabela ukuzithoba kwiqabane lomntu. Ngelixa i-masochism iyonwabisa ukulawula kunye nokwenza gadalala phezu kwabanye.

Indlela kaSigmund Freud

Njengomlingani wakhe, uFrud waqala wagxininisa ukuhambelana phakathi kwezi zibini kuhlalutyo lwe-sadomasochism kwinqanaba lezesondo. Ngokutsho kwakhe, akwanelanga ukuthetha ukuba ezi zi-anomalies ezilula. Zintsonkothe ​​kakhulu kunoko. Iingcamango zesadomasochistic ngokuphathelele isini zahlukile kuleyo ubani anokuyibiza njengesiqhelo.

Kwindlela yakhe, wayigxininisa into yokuba kukho ukuchongwa kabini. Kwelinye icala lomthuthumbisi kwaye kwelinye icala victim. Ukusebenzisa igama elithi ixhoba kwenza kube nzima kakhulu kuba oko kunokuthetha ukuba akavumi ngokwenene. Nangona kunjalo, zombini kufuneka zibe kubude obufanayo ukuze kube luyolo ngokwenene ukwabelana.

Umbono wangoku weSadomasochism

Indlela yangoku yahluke kakhulu. Ewe, kumadoda nabasetyhini, i-sadomasochism ethengiswa kwividiyo kwiTukif okanye ifilimu iyinyani. Ukuqonda imbono yentlalo yeyona nto ibangela umdla kwizazinzulu.

I-masochism inokonwaba njani ngelixa ubandezeleka? Kodwa yintoni i-masochist? Umntu ochazwa njenge-masochist ngumntu othanda ukuziva elawulwa. Olu hlobo lomntu lunokuzibeka engozini kwiimeko ezithile. Abenzi be-Narcissistic manipulators banokuthatha ithuba loku.

Imbono yoluntu nge-sadomasochism

Kuluntu oku kuhlala kunjaloukwenza impikiswano kakhulu. Kuba usentlungwini okanye uvisa omnye umntu intlungu akuyongozi. Ukuqalisa i-sadomasochism ngokusebenzisa izincedisi okanye ukufunda incwadi ngalo mbandela akuncedi. Ukuziqhelanisa nokuba kwiicala elichaseneyo nengcamango yangoku okanye ingqiqo yesininzie. Umbono wokuphila kwaye uvumele uphile kunzima ukwamkela kule meko.

Ngaba i-narcissistic manipulator ngumlandeli weSadism okanye i-masochist?

Lo mbuzo ufanelekile ukuba ubuzwe ngokujonga umlingiswa we-narcissistic manipulator kunye nomntu olikhoboka le-sadism. Lo mbono wokufuna ukuvisa iintlungu kwaye ulawule omnye umntu uvela kuzo zombini ezi meko. Bobabini banokuba nemiphumo ebalulekileyo kwixhoba.

I-nuance ekufuneka yenziwe yile ilandelayo. Umntu osebenzisa i-narcissistic manipulator uhlala ethanda ukuba neminqweno elusizi kumntu amlawulayo. Ngelixa umntu one-sadistic impulses ayinyanzelekanga ukuba ube yi-narcissistic pervert. Usenokuba usebenzisa oku kuphela njengendlela yokukhupha uxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla aluvayo.

A ukuze ungenzi nakuphi na ukubhideka kwaye uzifumane ngaphandle kokubhideka ukuba ungumntu othanda lo mkhuba. Kodwa uyathandabuza ngobunjani beqabane lakho. Isazi ngengqondo sinokukunceda uqonde kwaye uhlalutye imeko yakho. Imbono yangaphandle, ingcali isoloko iluncedo.