I-Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Yintoni ekufuneka bayazi abafazi

Kwindawo entsonkothileyo yobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic (NPD) sisihloko somdla okhulayo kunye nenkxalabo, ngakumbi kubafazi abazifumana bekubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Eli nqaku lijolise ekukhanyiseleni abafazi abangamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulator malunga neenyani ze-NPD, ukubonakaliswa kwayo, kunye neendlela zokuzikhusela kuyo.

Ukuqonda i-Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-Narcissistic kukuxilongwa kwengqondo okubonakaliswa yipateni eqhubekayo yobukhulu, imfuno eqhubekayo yokunconywa, kunye nokungabikho kovelwano okucacileyo. Ngokuchaseneyo nenkolelo ethandwayo, i-NPD ayifani tu nokuzingca okanye amampunge agqithisileyo. Kukuphazamiseka okunzulu okuchaphazela indlela umntu alijonga ngayo ihlabathi kunye nokunxibelelana nabanye.

Abantu abane-TPN bahlala bene:

• I- yokuzenzela umfanekiso-ngqondweni we-
• Ukuziva unelungelo lamalungelo akhethekileyo
• Utyekelo lokuxhaphaza abanye ukuze bafezekise iinjongo zabo
• Ukungakwazi ukuqaphela okanye ukuqinisekisa iimvakalelo kunye neemfuno zabanye

Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba, ngokwezibalo ze-epidemiological, i-TPN ichaphazela ngaphantsi kwe-3% yabantu bonke. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba ukrokrela umntu ukuba yi-narcissist, kubalulekile ukuba ungatsibi kwizigqibo.

Imvelaphi ye-narcissistic personality disorder

I-Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) luphazamiseko lwengqondo oluntsonkothileyo olunemvelaphi yezinto ezininzi. Nangona izizathu ezichanekileyo zingaqondwa ngokupheleleyo, izinto ezininzi zikholelwa ukuba zinegalelo:

1. Imiba yeGenetic: I-Genetic predisposition inokudlala indima, nangona uphando kule ndawo lusanqongophele.
2. Imeko yosapho: Imfundo enophawu:
   • Uqikelelo olugqithisileyo nolungekho ngqiqweni lomntwana
   • Okanye ngokuchaseneyo, ukungabikho kwengqalelo kunye nokuqinisekiswa kweemvakalelo
   • Abazali be-Narcissistic ngokwabo bakhonza njengemizekelo
3. Amava obuntwana:
   • Ukwenzakala okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo
   • Ukungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo
   • Ukuncamathela okungakhuselekanga kunye namanani abazali
4. Iimeko zentlalo :
   I-
   • A uluntu oluxabisa ngokugqithisileyo impumelelo yomntu ngamnye kunye nomfanekiso wobuqu
   • Impembelelo yeendaba zoluntu kunye nenkcubeko yabantu abadumileyo
5. IiNdlela zoKhuselo: I-Narcissism inokuphuhlisa njengokhuselo kwiimvakalelo ezinzulu zokungaphumeleli okanye ukuzithoba.
6. Neurodevelopment: Ukwahluka kwisakhiwo kunye nokusebenza kwemimandla ethile yobuchopho edibene novelwano kunye nokuzithemba kuye kwabonwa.

Iimpawu ezixelayo zobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist

Kubafazi abazibuzayo ukuba babudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist, iimpawu ezithile zinokuxela:

1. Ukuphathwa rhoqo ngokweemvakalelo
2. Ukungabi naluvelwano ngokuphandle
3. Imfuneko egqithisileyo yokunconywa nengqalelo
4. Utyekelo lokugxeka abanye ngeempazamo zakho
5. Ukungakwazi ukwamkela ukugxekwa
6. Umona ogqithisileyo kunye nokulawula
7. Ukutshintshana phakathi kwe-devaluation kunye nokuhla kwexabiso

Ezi ziphatha zihlala zidala imeko yeemvakalelo engazinzanga neyityhefu yeqabane.

Impembelelo ye-narcissistic personality disorder kumaxhoba

Abasetyhini kubudlelwane nabantu abaphethwe yi-NPD banokufumana iziphumo ezibi ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo:

• Ukuphulukana nokuzithemba
• Ukuxhalaba okungapheliyo
• Ukudakumba
• Ukuziva unetyala rhoqo
• Ukungazithembi kunye nombono womntu ngobunyani (gaslighting)
• Ukwahlukaniswa koluntu

Ezi ziphumo zinokuqhubeka ixesha elide emva kokuphela kobudlelwane, kugxininisa ukubaluleka kokunyamekela okwaneleyo.

Kutheni amaxhoba ecinga ukuba aneNPD?

Into enomdla kwaye ephazamisayo kukuba amaxhoba amaninzi e-narcisists aphela ezibuza ukuba bona ngokwabo baphethwe yi-NPD. Oku kuchazwa yimiba emininzi:

1. Uqikelelo lwe-narcissist: Abantu beNarcissistic badla ngokuveza iziphene zabo kwabanye. Basenokutyhola iqabane labo ngokuba lizicingela okanye li-narcissistic.
2. Ukwenza ukuzithandabuza: Ngokukhohlisa kunye nokulayita igesi, amaxhoba alahlekelwa yintembelo kwisigqibo sawo kwaye aqalise ukuzithandabuza.
3. Iingcinga ezigwenxa: Amaxhoba anokuba neengcinga ezingalunganga malunga nomxhaphazi wawo, ezinokuthi zibenze bazive benetyala kwaye bacinge ukuba “babi” okanye banarcissistic.
4. Medical Student Syndrome: Njengoko amaxhoba afuna ulwazi malunga ne-NPD, anokuqala ukuchonga iimpawu ezithile, into eyaziwa ngokuba yi-“medical student syndrome.”

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ezi ngcinga ziqhelekile kwaye azithethi ukuba une-NPD. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, zidla ngokuba ngumphumo wokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni.

Ukubaluleka kwemfundo nokwazisa

Ulwazi ngamandla, ngakumbi xa kuziwa ekuhambeni kumanzi amdaka obudlelwane be-narcissistic. Okukhona abafazi bekwaziswa malunga ne-TPN kunye nemiphumo yayo, baya kuxhotyiswa ngcono:

• Ukuqaphela iimpawu zakwaQala zoBudlelwane obuxhaphazayo
• Qonda ukuba ayilotyala labo
• Yazi nini kwaye njani ukufuna uncedo
• Ukophula uMjikelo wokuGwatywa kweNarcissistic

Kubalulekile ukuqhubeka uthetha ngokuphandle ngesi sihloko kwaye wabelane ngezixhobo ezikhoyo.

Ireferensi yebhayibhili malunga nesihloko esithi “narcissistic personality disorder”

Nalu uluhlu lweembekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi malunga ne-narcissistic personality disorder:

1. Kernberg, O.F. (1996). Les troubles sévères de la personnalité : le diagnostic et la psychothérapie. Paris : PUF.
2. Rosenfeld, H. (1971). Approches psychanalytiques du narcissisme et des troubles narcissiques.
3. Chasseguet-Smirgel, J. (1985). Le narcissisme à l’épreuve du transfert.
4. Psychomédia (2020). Trouble de la personnalité narcissique : de nouveaux critères diagnostiques proposés.
5. Érudit (2011). Psychopathologies narcissiques et psychothérapie focalisée sur le transfert (PFT).
6. Afifi, T. et al. (2011). Études comportementales sur le développement du trouble de la personnalité narcissique.
7. MSD Manuel (2020). Trouble de la personnalité narcissique – Encyclopédie médicale en ligne.

Ukuqukumbela: Awuwedwa

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-Narcissistic kunokuba neziphumo ezibi kumaqabane kunye nabathandekayo babo baphethwe yiyo. Ukuba uyazazi kweli nqaku, yazi ukuba akuwedwa yaye uncedo luyafumaneka.

Khumbula ukuba ukuzithandabuza okanye ukuba neengcinga ezingakhiyo akukwenzi ube yinkazana. Ezi mpendulo ziqhelekile kukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni. Ukubuyiselwa kwakhona kunokwenzeka, kwaye ngenkxaso efanelekileyo kunye nezixhobo, unokoyisa iziphumo zobudlelwane be-narcissistic kwaye wakhe kwakhona ubomi obanelisayo.

Ungalibazisi ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha kwaye ujikeleze nabantu abanenkathalo. Impilontle yakho kunye nempilo yengqondo ixabisekile. Ufanelwe kubudlelwane obunempilo, obulungeleleneyo, obukhululekile kuqheliso kunye nokuxhatshazwa.