Indlela yokuphatha i ukungazithembi ? Le yinto exhaphake kakhulu kunokuba ibonakala. Abaninzi sele benoloyiko lokungabi nakulunga ngokwaneleyo. Oku kuqhelekile ngokupheleleyo, kuba kuyinxalenye yenkqubo yokwenza ubuntu bukabani. Kodwa unokukuphatha njani ukungazithembi xa sele kudlule ixesha elide?
Kuvela phi ukungazithembi?
Ukuphulukana nokuzithemba kunokuba nemvelaphi eliqela. Oku kusenokwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kuhambo oluhambileyo.
1. Imeko yobuntwana enzima
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Umntwana okhulele kwindawo engakwaziyo ukukhula ngokukhawuleza unokuphelelwa ukuzithemba. Ukuba uhlala kwindawo enetyhefu kakhulu, ukuzinza kwakhe kwengqondo kuya kuthatha ukubetha. Oku kunjalo ngokukodwa kwiintsapho apho abazali besoloko bebajongela phantsi abantwana babo. Uya kwandula ke azive ephantsi njengomntu omdala, kuba abantu ebekufanele ukuba bamtshabalalise.
2. Ukulahlekelwa ziibheringi zakho
Ngokuqhelekileyo ihamba ngendlela efanayo nobuntwana obungazinzanga. Nangona kunjalo, kule meko ukuphazamiseka ngokukhawuleza kuvela kukungabikho komfanekiso womzali. Akanaye umkhokeli okanye umcebisi wokumnceda ngamaxesha akhe okuqala. Umntu woyika kakhulu onke amava amatsha, kuba akanalo akukho ndawo ekunokubhekiswa kuyo xa wenze impazamo.
3. Ukwenzakala
Imeko yokugqibela inokwenzeka nje ngexesha lobuntwana okanye umntu omdala. Enyanisweni, umntu uya kufumana umothuko oya kumenza alahlekelwe ukuzithemba kwakhe. Izinto ezibangela umonzakalo zininzi, ziyakubangela ukuba umntu athandabuze ngokwakhe. Ukuba ukwenzakala kunxulunyaniswa nezakhono, umntu uya kuzijongela phantsi aze azixelele ukuba akalungelwa lilize.
Ukuphatha njani ukungazithembi? Iingcebiso ezi-5 ezilungileyo
Nanga amanye amacebiso okunyanga ukungazithembi:
- Ungoyiki ukujongeka. Unobuchule njengabanye. Yeka ukuziva usoyika ngalo lonke ixesha ujongana nomntu emehlweni. Sukujonga phantsi!!!
- Zama ukwenza uqhagamshelwano. Wonke umntu uba novalo xa edibana okokuqala. Ngokuthabatha inyathelo lokuqala, uya kuba lula kwingxubusho.
- Uzihlalela. Ungakhe ulinge uxelise omnye umntu, lonto iza kukuxinanisa. Kunokuba luncedo ukusebenzisa umntu njengomzekelo. Noko ke, ngokuxelisa uzibeka esichengeni sokuphulukana nobuntu bakho.
- Qeqesha usukelo olufikelelekayo. Ngokulawula ukwenza izinto ezincinci, uya kuba nokuqonda kakuhle izakhono zakho. Kwaye ngenxa yoko uya kukwazi ukutyhala kancinci ukutyhala imida yakho kwaye uvele.
- Zamkele iimpazamo zakho. “Ukusilela kukusilela kuphela ukuba uyeka, ukuba uyaqhubeka yinxalenye nje yenkqubo”. Ngokuzamkela, ufunda kwaye uguquke ngokufanelekileyo.
Impawu zokuzithemba okuphantsi
Kukho iimpawu ezahlukeneyo ezibonisa ukuba awuzithembi.
- Iintloni ezigqithisileyo zinokude zibe yi-phobia yokwenyani ekuhlaleni
- Uziphepha zonke iimeko ezinokukhokelela kungquzulwano
- Ukuba nokuziva unetyala ngokuzithandela
- Ukoyika ukubeka uluvo lwakho ngokuchasene nolo lwabaninzi
- A utyekelo lokuvumela izinto zenzeke kwaye ungabi nobuganga bokunyanzelisa amalungelo omntu
- Ukuziva unexhala malunga nokusebenza kwakho kuzo zonke iindawo
- Kunzima ukwamkela ukugxekwa okanye ukuncoma
- Ukwenza ukhetho olunzima ebomini bakho
- Ukoyika ukuhlala ulunge kakhulu kunabanye
- Tending ukuzithelekisa nabanye
- Ukoyika ukuhlala uphazamisa kwaye ngenxa yoko awukwazi ukucela uncedo…
Le miqondiso ayinyanzelekanga ukuba ibekho yonke. Enyanisweni, kwenzeka ukuba umntu uvakalelwa kuphela ukungaphantsi kobunzima kwiindawo ezithile. Unokuziva ephantsi emsebenzini kubudlelwane bakhe bomsebenzi okanye ekuhedeni. Oku kunokumtyhala ngakwi-a kufuneka ukonwabisa kwipsychology ukuzibanga.
Zithini iziphumo zoku kuphelelwa kukuzithemba?
Imiphumo yoku kulahlekelwa yintembelo mininzi kakhulu.
- Ukwahlukaniswa komntu. Ngokuphulukana nokuzithemba, umntu unokuqalisa ukuzivalela kuye. Esoyika ukwenzakaliswa okanye ukuphoxeka, uya kuluphepha lonke unxulumano nabantu abamngqongileyo. Oku kunokubangela ukuba umntu angakwazi ukuzihlukanisa ngokupheleleyo nehlabathi.
- Utshintsho lwengqondo. Ukuba ukuphulukana nokuzithemba kubangelwe kumothuko kunokuba ngumqobo ngokwasengqondweni. Xa ekwimeko okanye kwindawo awoyikayo, loo mntu uya kuphulukana nazo zonke izinto zakhe.
- Ukuvuza rhoqo. Umntu uya kuhlala ekhetha ukubaleka ngokukhawuleza xa evezwe ngumqobo okanye ingxaki. Emehlweni akhe, ukuzama nayiphi na enye indlela kulilize, kuba ukungaphumeleli kuya kuhlala kukho. Yiyo loo nto ukurhoxa kunye nokubaleka kuya kuba zizisombululo aya kuzithanda.
Ukungakwazi ukuzithemba: inyathelo elikhokelela kuxinzelelo
THE ukungazithembi kunye nokudandatheka zisoloko zijongwa njengezinxulunyaniswa nohlobo oluthile lwe-causality. Ubuthathaka bengqondo bunokwenza umntu afikelele kwimida yakhe. Ukuzifumana bekwimo yokudakumba, umntu lowo uya kuba nobunzima bokuphuma kuko. Esele ebuthathaka ngokwasengqondweni ngenxa yokungazithembi, uya kutshona nzulu kudandatheko lwakhe.
Ukufumana njani kwakhona ukuzithemba ebusweni bomntu okhohlisayo?
Ukuphumelela kwaye ufumane isandla esiphezulu phezu kwakhe, kufuneka ufumane indawo ebuthathaka ye-manipulator, Esi sisisombululo enesithukuthezi ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba uphathe njani ukungabikho kokuzithemba ebusweni bokugqibela. Xa ukwimeko engathandekiyo kuwe, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuzilwela. Yiyo loo nto kufuneka ube krelekrele kunomntu okhohlisayo ukuze uphume kuyo. Fumana ingongoma ekunokwenzeka ukuba imenze anikezele. Isenokuba kukuthula kwakho, imfuno yakhe yolawulo okanye ezinye izinto…
Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic zokunyanga ukungazithembi
Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili malunga nombandela wokungazithembi kunye nonyango lwakho:
- Doré, C. (2017). L’estime de soi : analyse de concept. Recherche en soins infirmiers, (129), 18-26.
- Leibovitz, A. (2019). Ibhokisi yesixhobo sokuzithemba. Dunod.
- Bellerer, L. (2017). Ukuzithemba: kukuphiliswa kukungazithembi. ESF umshicileli.
- Arsandaux, J. (2019). Ukuzithemba phakathi kwabafundi baseyunivesiti: amakhonkco ekuziphatheni kwezempilo kunye neengxaki zempilo yengqondo kunye nomzimba.
- Vignoles, P. (2009). Confiance (en soi). Cahiers philosophiques, (1), 25-50.
- Leibovitz, A. (2023). Ibhokisi yesixhobo sokuzithemba: Izixhobo ze-52 zokujika + iividiyo ezi-2 ezinzulu + 4 zokuzixilonga kwi-intanethi. Dunod.
- Leibovitz, A. (2019). Ibhokisi yesixhobo sokuzithemba. Dunod.
Ezi zikhombisi zibonelela ngesiseko esiluqilima sokuqonda kunye nokujongana nokungabikho kokuzithemba, ukudibanisa iimbono zethiyori kunye nezixhobo ezisebenzayo.
Ukuqukumbela
Ukuqukumbela, ukungazithembi kunokoyiswa ngokusebenzisa amacebo abambekayo kunye nokwazisa oonobangela abasisiseko. Ngokujongana noloyiko lwakho, ukuzamkela njengoko unjalo, kunye nokubeka iinjongo ezinokufikelelwa, kuyenzeka ukuba ufumane ukuzithemba okuhlala kuhleli. Le nkqubo, nangona isondele kwaye ihlala inde, ivumela umntu ukuba omeleze abo ukomelela ukujongana nemingeni kunye nokuphucula impilo-ntle jikelele.
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