Ngokunikela ngobomi babo ngobuqhetseba, abaqhatha be-narcissistic bamisela ukuba iimeko zangaphandle ziye zabeka esichengeni ngokusisigxina eyona nto ibalulekileyo kubo. Ngokufutshane, imalunga nokunconywa, ukuwongwa nokuhlonitshwa ngabanye njengomntu okhethekileyo, ophakamileyo nowongamileyo.
Ukuqonda okungcono unxibelelwano phakathi kwe-narcissism kunye nokuzibulala kufuna uvavanyo olunzulu kunye novavanyo olubanzi ukuba kuya kuphetshwa ngokufanelekileyo.
Ingcamango yokuzibulala-Yintoni leyo?
Iingcinga zokuzibulala zinokusuka kwiingcinga ezidlulayo malunga nokufa, njengokuzibuza ukuba kunjani ukufa ukukuthetha “Kuthekani ukuba ndilele kwaye ndingavuki?”, kumalungiselelo angqalileyo okuzibulala, njengokucinga ngendlela nexesha onokuthi ububulale ngalo ubomi bakho. Iingcinga zokuzibulala zokwexeshana zinokuba mbi ngakumbi ukuba azinyangwa. Ukuba ulwa nayo nayiphi na yezi mvakalelo okanye ukuziphatha, lixesha lokufuna uncedo:
- Ukuziva uvaliwe kwabanye okanye ukurhoxa kubahlobo kunye nosapho (narcissistic usapho olubi).
- Ukuziva uvaleleke kwimeko enganyamezelekiyo.
- Ukuziva njengomthwalo kwabanye okanye ukuxelela abanye ukuba baya kuba ngcono ngaphandle kwakho.
Ukuba uneengcinga zokuzibulala, kubalulekile ukufumana inkxaso yempilo yengqondo rhoqo ngesikolo okanye kwikhampasi yengcali okanye umcebisi. Kukwabalulekile ukwazi xa kufuneka ufumane uncedo olukhawulezileyo.
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Kutheni i-narcissistic manipulator ithetha ngokuzibulala xa ijongene nayo?
Umbhali okhohlisayo wathi injongo yamazwi akhe yayikukucaphukisa umntu wabo omthandayo. Kungenxa yokuba bayayazi into ecingwa ngabanye abantu ngokuzibulala, ibe babefuna ukubona enoba abantu babo ababathandayo banokwenza nantoni na ngako. Yiyo loo nto xa bedibene ngento abayenzileyo, bathetha ngokuzibulala ukwenza umntu azive enetyala umntu ophambi kwakhe.
I-manipulative narcissist iyenzela ukucaphukisa umntu oyibonayo, kwaye iyazi ukuba yeyona nto imbi onokuyenza kumntu okuthandayo. Ingakumbi ukuba bahlala malunga neyure ukusuka apho kwaye ugrogriswa ngamapolisa ukuba uzama ukubanqanda.
Kumbhexeshi wokwenyani we-narcissistic, ungomnye nje isixhobo sokukhohlisa esisetyenziselwa ukufumana ingqalelo kunye nosizi kubantu abangamaziyo. Ngesi sizathu, umntu olilize njenge-narcissist unokuzibulala ngengozi.
i-narcissistic manipulator kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala-Imiqondiso ekufuneka ilumkise
Ukuba yi-narcissist ekhohlisayo kukuphazamiseka kobuntu okubangela ukuba abantu babe nombono ophakamileyo wokubaluleka kwabo kunye nesidingo esinzulu sokunconywa kunye nokuqinisekiswa.
Oku kuthetha ukuba ii-narcisists ezikhohlisayo zinokuba sesichengeni kakhulu kwiimvakalelo ezibuhlungu zehlazo, ukuthotywa, kunye nokoyiswa xa begxekwa okanye bekhatywa.
- Eli hlazo, lidityaniswa nokungazithembi kwalowo uzenza i-narcissistic manipulator, kunokubakhokelela kwizisongelo zokuzibulala, kwiingcinga zokuzibulala, kwanamalinge okuzibulala xa bephoxekile okanye behlazekile phambi kwabanye.
- Baninzi abanye oonobangela bokuzibulala, abanye babo banxulunyaniswa nemiba yempilo yengqondo njengokudakumba okanye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
- Nangona kunjalo, ezinye izinto zengqondo zibandakanyeka kule nto, njengeukungazithembi, imbali yokuzama ukuzibulala kunye nembali yentsapho yokuzibulala kwi-narcissistic manipulators.
Ukuba sele uneengcinga zokuzibulala, utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho okanye iziganeko ezibuhlungu, ezinjengokufa entsatsheni, ukuphela kobudlelwane, okanye umsebenzi osuka emsebenzini unokwenza ezi mvakalelo zibe namandla ngakumbi okanye rhoqo. Ukuba uziva ngathi iingcinga zakho zokuzibulala ziya ziba mandundu, nantsi imiqondiso elumkisayo ekufuneka uyibukele:
Iindlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi zokuzibulala narcissistic manipulators:
- Ukuqhuba ngokungakhathali, njengokuqhuba unxilile okanye ungafakanga ibhanti lesihlalo.
- Ukwanda kokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okanye utywala (narcissistic pervert and alcohol).
- Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungakhuselekanga.
- Qalisa okanye wandise ukuzenzakalisa.
- Utshintsho kwindlela otya ngayo, nokuba kukuthintela ukutya kwakho okanye ukutya kakhulu.
- Utshintsho kwindlela yokulala, mhlawumbi ukulala kakhulu okanye kuncinci kakhulu (the manipulator narcissistic kunye nokulala).
- Utshintsho olubonakalayo kwimo
- Ukucinga, ukuthetha, okanye ukuthumela kwi-intanethi ngokufa okanye ubundlobongela.
Intuthuzelo Yokwexeshana Yokubandezeleka
Kuyimfuneko ukunikela kakhulu ingqalelo engakumbi kwisakhono sokuzibulala sabenzi be-narcissistic manipulators. Kufuneka sizixabise ngakumbi iimeko ezahlukeneyo ezikubangelayo kunye neyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuphatha abo basengozini kakhulu kuko.
Okumangalisayo kukuba, ukukhuselwa kwabaqhubi be-narcissistic abafuna ukuzibulala kukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bahluke kwabanye kunokuba bazive “bengabakhe.” Nangona kunjalo, kukohlukana kwabo ngokwemigaqo-siseko kuthi sonke okubabeka emngciphekweni omkhulu wokuzenzakalisa.
Bengazi, baxhelekile Udinga ukuziva unxibelelwano olusondele ngakumbi lwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo kunye nabo babangqongileyo. Kungale ndlela kuphela abanokuthi bakhuselwe kwimvakalelo yokungafunwa nto leyo, mhlawumbi ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into, ebenza babe sesichengeni sokuphelelwa lithemba okwenza ubomi babo bungabi safanelekela ukuphila.
Naluphi na unyango olunokubanceda kufuneka ke ngoko lujolise kuko nceda ukudibanisa uluntu olukude kakhulu. Kuba uninzi lweenarcissists ezikhohlisayo ziye zafumana ukungahoywa okuqatha kwabazali okanye ngokuchaseneyo, ukuzinkcinkca kwabazali, unyango kufuneka, ngandlela ithile, “luphinde lubaqeqeshe”. Kwaye oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu, kuba ukhuseleko lwabo luxhathisa kakhulu utshintsho.
Ungaba yinkosi njani yoBomi bakho kwaye ukoyise ukuzibulala?
I-narcissistic manipulator kunye nokuzibulala zizinto ezimbini ezihamba kunye. Ngoko ke, ukoyisa oku, kubalulekile ukuchonga izinto ezibangela okanye iimeko. Ezo zikhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokungabi nathemba, njengokufa okanye ilahleko, ukusebenzisa utywala, okanye uxinzelelo lobudlelwane.
Amava eengcamango zokuzibulala ahlukile kumntu wonke. Ezi ngcebiso zingasentla ziya kuba luncedo kwabanye abantu, ngelixa abanye baya kukufumanisa kunzima ukuzisebenzisa. Ukuba ezi ngcebiso azikuncedi, loo nto ayithethi ukuba awunakuncedwa. Mhlawumbi ufuna nje indlela elungiselelwe ngakumbi kwimeko yakho. Qhagamshelana nomcebisi okanye ezinye iingcali zempilo yengqondo. Banokukunceda.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.