I-narcissistic manipulator: ngaba unyango lunokwenzeka?

Ii-manipulators zeNarcissistic (i-narcissistic manipulator) ngabantu abane-narcissistic personality disorder. Abantu abanesi sigulo bazijongela phantsi. Bafuna ingqalelo eninzi evela kwabanye kwaye inokubenza bangabi naxabiso. THE gqwetha Narcissists musa ukuxabisa iimvakalelo okanye izimvo zabanye kwaye ngoyaba iimfuno zabo. Kodwa ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba baya kuphiliswa kwesi sigulo sengqondo?

Ngaba sifanele simxolele umntu okhohlisayo?

Xa ufuna ukuzikhulula kubudlelwane nolu hlobo lomntu, kubalulekile ukuxolela, okanye ngokuchanekileyo ukwenza uxolo nawe. Le yindlela ixhoba le-narcissistic manipulator liya kuqhubela phambili. Ngaphaya koko, ukuba umntu okhohlisayo unengxaki yengqondo akuthethi ukuba makaxolelwe.

Ukuze kupheliswe la mava abuhlungu, ixhoba liya kuhamba ngezigaba ezahlukeneyo kuquka umsindo, ukwakhiwa ngokutsha kunye nokuxolelwa. Ngaphezu kwako konke, kufuneka uzixolele ukukhulula iimvakalelo ezitshabalalisayo kwaye ukwazi ukuqhubela phambili. Kungcono ukuyiyeka impindezelo ecaleni kuba ibeka emngciphekweni ukukhuthaza imfuno yomgibi we-narcissistic yokukhohlisa.

Ukuphilisa i-manipulator ye-narcissistic: ngaba unokunyangwa?

I-narcissistic manipulator ayikwazi philisa kuphela ukuba ufuna ngokwenene. Umele ukuba uyazi ukuba uyagula. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abane ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic phila ngokukhanyela. Bahlala befuna ukunconywa kwaye bangabi naluvelwano, ukungazithembi. Ngelishwa, abanawo amandla okuqonda ingxaki abaphethwe yiyo.

Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezithile, emva kokungaphumeleli kobudlelwane obuninzi, okanye ukuba abo basondelene nabo benza ukuba bazi, i-narcissistic manipulator inokuzibuza. Ngeli xesha, unokwenza umsebenzi wokuziphatha kwakhe kwe-pathological kwaye afumane unyango lwengqondo kunye nengcali.

Ziziphi iindlela zonyango zokuphilisa i-narcissistic manipulator?

Nangona lungekho unyango lwe-narcissist ekhohlisayo, zininzi iindlela zonyango ezinokunceda. Kodwa nayiphi na i-psychotherapy oyikhethayo, kufuneka iqhutywe kunye nomntu oqeqeshiweyo onamava kunyango lweengxaki zobuntu. Nazi ezinye ezinokusebenza kwi-narcissistic manipulator:

• Unyango lweGestalt

Olu luhlobo lwe-psychotherapy olugxininisa ngakumbi kwixesha langoku kunexesha elidlulileyo. Iiseshoni zonyango zijolise kwimingeni umntu ajongene nayo ngoku ebomini bakhe. Ngexesha lonyango lwe-Gestalt, abantu bahlala becelwa ukuba bafanise intsebenziswano yentlalontle kumzamo wokuphucula izakhono zabo zokunxibelelana.

• Unyango lwe-Dialectical Behaviour

Unyango lwe-Dialectical behavior therapy (okanye i-DBT) yayiyilwe ekuqaleni ukunyanga ukuphazamiseka komntu onomda. Okwangoku, isetyenziselwa ukunyanga ezinye iingxaki zobuntu kunye neengxaki zempilo yengqondo ngokunjalo.

Yindlela yonyango efundisa abantu ukuqaphela kwaye ibancede bafunde ukulawula ngcono iimvakalelo zabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu baya kufumana unyango lomntu ngamnye kunye neqela xa usebenzisa le ndlela yonyango lwengqondo.

Iinzuzo zendlela yonyango lwengqondo kwi-narcissistic manipulator

Le ndlela inokunceda umntu onobuntu be-narcissistic afunde:

1. chonga kwaye ulawule ngcono iimvakalelo zakho;
2. ukumelana namava angonwabanga;
3. ukunxibelelana ngempumelelo ngakumbi;
4. ukulawula ngcono iimvakalelo ezimbi.

• Unyango lwengqondo oluxhasayo

Ezinye iingcali zengqondo zinokucebisa unyango oluxhasayo kwii-narcissists ezikhohlisayo. Le ndlela ye-psychotherapeutic inokunceda ukukhulula iimpawu kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo. Ndiyabulela kuyo, ugqirha unako:

• fundisa izakhono zokulawula iimvakalelo eziyingozi;
• ukubonelela ngonyango lweempawu ezifana nokuxhalaba kunye nokudakumba;
• ukunceda i-narcissist ekhohlisayo iphonononge kwaye isombulule iingxaki kubudlelwane bakhe phakathi kwabantu;
• ukubonelela ngenkxaso kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic (living with a narcissistic pervert) ukuze kuchongwe iingenelo ezinxulumene notshintsho kubuntu bakhe.

Kwezinye iimeko, ugqirha unokucebisa ukuba kufakwe abo babathandayo kunyango. Ngokuziqonda ngcono iingcinga neemvakalelo zabo, i-narcissist ekhohlisayo inokukhulisa isakhono esinzulu sovelwano.

Ngawaphi amayeza okunyanga i-narcissistic personality disorder?

Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba akukho mayeza anokuphatha ngokuthe ngqo iimpawu ze-narcissistic, kodwa amayeza afanelekileyo asenokubonelela ngezibonelelo ezithile. Abantu abane-narcissistic personality disorder bahlala befumanisa ukuba amayeza anokuba luncedo kwiimpawu ezinxulumene nemeko yabo.

Ewe, ngokuxhomekeke kubukhali babo, iimpawu ezinzulu zempilo yengqondo ngamanye amaxesha zinokuthintela impumelelo yonyango lwengqondo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntu uziva exhalabile kakhulu okanye ufumana uxinzelelo okanye i-paranoia, banokuba nobunzima bokuhlala kunyango lwe-narcissistic personality disorder.

Ngoko ke, ugqirha unokumisela i-antidepressants okanye i-anxiolytics ukukhulula ezi zimpawu. Amayeza alungiselelwe iimpawu ze-narcissistic manipulator inokumnceda ukuba abe nolwamkeleko olungakumbi kwi-psychotherapy.

Ngaba uthando luyayiguqula i-narcissistic manipulator?

Ngelishwa, ii-narcissists ezikhohlisayo azithandi ngokwenene abantu. Bathandana neengcinga zabo ngomntu. Amaxesha amaninzi, bajonga iqabane labo njengeqabane eligqibeleleyo. Ngaloo ndlela, uthando lwe-a i-narcissistic manipulator ayintsonkothanga kwaye ixhomekeke kwindlela iqabane lakhe lihlangabezana ngayo neemfuno zalo. Konke kuxhomekeke kwinto abayifunayo.

Ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator ayizinzile kuba isekelwe kwifantasy. Emva kokuba ama-narcissists ayeke ukubeka umgudu ekuzameni ukuchukumisa kunye nokwazi iqabane labo, baphela bephoxekile. Isizathu sikukuba bayaziqonda iimpazamo zokugqibela.

Xa umthandi we-narcissistic efumanisa ukuba awuquki ngokugqibeleleyo yonke into ebesoloko eyikhangela kwiqabane, uya kukucela ukuba utshintshe kuye. Umthandi wakho uya kuqala ngokucebisa iindlela eziya kukuvumela ukuba ube ngcono, ngokwemigaqo yabo.

Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic malunga nokuphilisa i-narcissistic manipulator

Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi kumxholo wokuphilisa i-narcissistic manipulator:

1. Sirota, A. (2017). Pervers narcissiques : comprendre, déjouer, surmonter. Éditions Le Manuscrit.
2. Hurni, M., & Stoll, G. (2003). “Perversion narcissique dans les couples”. Revue française de psychanalyse, 67, 873-893.
3. Racamier, P.-C. (1992). Le Génie des origines.
4. Couderc, P., & Chapaux-Morelli, P. (2005). La manipulation affective dans le couple : Faire face à un pervers narcissique.
5. Bouchoux, J.-C. (2011). Les pervers narcissiques.
6. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Le harcèlement moral : la violence perverse au quotidien.
7. Eiguer, A. (2018). Les pervers narcissiques.

Ezi ncwadi kunye namanqaku anika imbono enzulu malunga nokuguqulwa kwe-narcissistic kunye neendlela zonyango ezinokwenzeka.

Ukuqukumbela

Ngenxa yoku, kubalulekile ukuseka kunye nokugcina imida enempilo xa usebudlelwaneni nomntu oye wafunyaniswa ukuba une-narcissistic personality disorder. Oku kukuphazamiseka okukhulu kwempilo yengqondo kwaye unyango lwesi sifo luyakhuthazwa kakhulu. Ukuze umntu osebenzisa i-narcissistic manipulator aphile, kufuneka ngokwenene azi ngesigulo sakhe kwaye adibane nogqirha wengqondo.

Nangona kunjalo, ukumisela imida kunokunganeli ukukugcina ukhuselekile. Ukuba ucinga ukuba kukho ubungqina bokuxhatshazwa okanye ubundlobongela kubudlelwane bakho, kubalulekile ukuthetha nomntu onokukunceda.