Ukushiya ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator kudla ngokushiya amanxeba anzulu kunye nesigxina. Indlela eya empilweni yangaphakathi kunye nokuyeka isenokubonakala inde kwaye inzima, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uphinde ulungelelane kwaye uchume kwakhona. Kweli nqaku, siza kuphonononga amanyathelo aphambili okuqalisa le nkqubo yokuphilisa kwaye sifunde ukuyeka, ukuze uzakhe kwakhona kwaye uqhubele phambili ngoxolo ukuya kubomi obutsha.
Qonda impembelelo ye-narcissistic manipulator kwimpilo yakho
Inyathelo lokuqala lokuphilisa kukuqonda ubungakanani bomonakalo obangelwa bubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Abenzi be-Narcissistic manipulators bakholisa ukukhohlisa, ukuthoba ixabiso kunye nokugxeka amaxhoba abo, okunokuthi kubangele:
- Ukungazithembi kunye nobuchule bomntu
- Ukuziva unetyala kunye neentloni
- Ubunzima bokuthemba abanye
- I-hypervigilance kunye nexhala
- Ukulahleka kweebheringi kunye nesazisi
Ukuqaphela ezi ziphumo kubalulekile ukuba ukwaziukoyisakwaye uqale umsebenzi wokwenyani wokuphilisa ngaphakathi.
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Yamkela ubunyani bemeko ukuze ukhulule ngcono
Obunye ubunzima obukhulu emva kobudlelwane nomntu okhohlisayo kukwamkela ubunyani bento eyenzekayo. Kuqhelekile ukufuna ukunciphisa okanye ukuthethelela ukuziphatha kakubi, okanye ukuba nethemba lotshintsho olungasoze lwenzeke. Ukuze uqhubele phambili, kufuneka:
- Vuma ukuba loo mntu akayi kutshintsha
- Yazi ukuba awunaxanduva ngezenzo zabo
- Yamkela ukuba ubudlelwane bebusekelwe kubuxoki kunye nokukhohlisa
- Qonda ukuba ufanelwe ngcono kwaye ayilotyala lakho
Eli nqanaba lokwamkelwa libalulekile ukuze ukwazi ukuyeka kwaye uqale inkqubo yakho yangaphakathi yokuphilisa.
Ukuziqhelanisa novelwano ukukhuthaza ukuphiliswa
Emva kokufumana ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni, kuqhelekile ukuzigxeka kwaye uzive uneentloni. Ukuthintela ezi mvakalelo zingalunganga, kubalulekile ukuphuhlisaukuzivela :
- Ziphathe ngobubele obufana nobuya kwenza kumhlobo wakho
- Vuma ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akho ngezixhobo obunazo
- Zinike ilungelo lokwenza iimpazamo kwaye uxolele
- Bhiyozela uloyiso lwakho oluncinci kunye nenkqubela phambili, nokuba incinci kangakanani na
Ukuzicingela sisixhobo esinamandla sokuphilisa esiya kukunceda uphinde wakhe ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye uzikhulule kwityala.
Misela imida esempilweni ukuze uzikhusele
Ii-manipulative narcissists zikholisa ukungahoyi okanye ukugqitha imida yabanye. Ukufunda ukuseka kunye no-ukugcina imida esempilweni kubalulekile kwimpiliso yakho yangaphakathi:
- Chonga iimfuno zakho zobuqu kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni
- Yichaze ngokucacileyo imida yakho kwabanye
- Funda ukuthi hayi ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala
- Zikhwebule kubantu abanetyhefu abangayihloniphiyo imida yakho
Ngokumisela imida ecacileyo, uphinde ukwazi ukulawula ubomi bakho kwaye uzikhusele kuxhatshazo lwexesha elizayo.
Ziqhelise ukwahlukana ngokweemvakalelo ukuze uyeke
Ukubanjwa ngokweemvakalelo bubuchule obunamandla bokuziyeka kwaye uzikhulule kwimpembelelo ye-narcissistic manipulator:
- Jonga iimvakalelo zakho ngaphandle kokuzigweba
- Thatha umva kwiimeko ezinzima
- Yeka ukuziva unoxanduva ngeemvakalelo kunye nezenzo zabanye
- Gxininisa kwinto onokuyilawula: iingcinga nezenzo zakho
Ukunyanzelwa ngokweemvakalelo kuya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane ukuzola kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe uzikhulule kwimpembelelo eyityhefu ye-narcissistic manipulator.
Yakha kwakhona isazisi sakho kwaye ufumane kwakhona ukuthanda kwakho
Emva kobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva ulahlekile kwaye unqanyuliwe kuwe. Ukunyanga, kubalulekile ukuba:
- Fumana kwakhona izinto onomdla kuzo kunye nezinto ozithandayo
- Jonga imisebenzi emitsha ekwenza uzive wonwabile
- Qhagamshelana kwakhona neenqobo zakho kunye neminqweno yakho
- Zingqonge ngabantu abanenkathalo abakuxhasayo
Ngokuphinda uqhagamshelane nawe kunye nento ekuqhubayo, uya kuphinda ufumane ukuzithemba kunye namandla okuqhubela phambili.
Ukuhlakulela ingqondo ukuze unciphise unxunguphalo
Ukuqiqa luqheliselo olunokuba negalelo elikhulu ekuphilisweni kwakho kwangaphakathi:
- Funda ukuzibamba ngalo mzuzu
- Jonga iingcinga zakho ngaphandle kokuncamathela kuzo
- Ziqhelise ukuphefumla ngengqondo ukuthomalalisa ixhala
- Khulisa isimo sengqondo sokwamkelwa kunye nokungagwebi
Ukuqiqa kuya kukunceda uthobe ingqondo yakho kwaye ufumane imvakalelo yoxolo lwangaphakathi.
Guqula umsindo ube ngamandla okuqhuba
Umsindo yimvakalelo eqhelekileyo emva kokuphathwa gadalala, kodwa unokuba yingozi xa ungaphathwa kakuhle. Funda uku:
- Yiqonde kwaye wamkele umsindo wakho ngaphandle kokuwucinezela
- Ukuvakalisa umsindo wakho ngendlela ephilileyo neyakhayo
- Ukusebenzisa amandla omsindo ukukukhuthaza ukuba uqhubele phambili
- Guqula amava akho angalunganga abe kukufunda kunye namandla
Ngokuhambisa umsindo wakho ngendlela efanelekileyo, unokuwuguqula ube ngamandla anamandla okutshintsha nokuphilisa.
Zikhulule kwimfuno yobulungisa ukuze uyeke ngokwenene
Kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukuba umgibi we-narcissistic ohlwaywe okanye abone ubugwenxa babo. Nangona kunjalo, ukubambelela kule mfuno yobulungisa kunokuthintela ukuphiliswa kwakho. Ukukhulula ngokwenene:
- Yamkela into yokuba awukwazi ukulawula izenzo okanye ulwazi lomnye umntu
- Gxila ekuziphiliseni kunokuba wohlwaye omnye
- Fumana ezinye iindlela zokuziva uqinisekisiwe kwaye waziwa kumava akho
- Thembela ukuba ixesha liya kuzisa indlela yalo yokusesikweni
Ngokuzikhulula kwimfuno yobulungisa bangaphandle, uzinika imvume yokuqhubela phambili kwaye ugxile ekukhuleni kwakho.
Khangela kwikamva ngethemba nangentembelo
Inyathelo lokugqibela kwi-inner yakho yokuphilisa kukujonga ikamva ngethemba:
- Yiba nombono wobomi ofuna ukubakha
- Zibekele usukelo olusengqiqweni nolufikelelekayo
- Bhiyozela yonke inkqubela phambili, nokuba incinci kangakanani na
- Zingqonge abantu abanesimo sengqondo esihle abakholelwa kuwe
Ngokuba nombono olungileyo wekamva, uzinika amandla kunye nenkuthazo yokuqhubeka nohambo lwakho lokuphilisa.
Ukuqukumbela
Ukuphilisa kwangaphakathi kunye nokuvumela ukuhamba emva kobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator ziinkqubo ezithatha ixesha, umonde kunye novelwano. Inyathelo ngalinye, nokuba lincinci kangakanani na, likusondeza kwinkululeko yeemvakalelo kunye nobomi obanelisayo. Khumbula ukuba womelele kunokuba ucinga, kwaye ufanele ukonwaba noxolo. Ngokuzingisa kunye nobubele kuwe, ungaloyisa le ngxaki kwaye uphume womelele kwaye ulumke.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.