Ngaba wakha waziva uvaleleke kubudlelwane obukuhlutha amandla? Mhlawumbi uvakalelwa kukuba usoloko upha ungakhange ufumane mbuyekezo? Ukuba ezi meko zihambelana nawe, kunokwenzeka ukuba ujongene nomntu oneempawu zobuntu be-narcissistic. Kodwa ungakhathazeki, kukho izisombululo zokuhlangabezana nale nto, kwaye enye yazo inokuba liqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho.
Liyintoni iqela leenkwenkwezi?
Iqela leenkwenkwezi zentsapho yindlela yonyango ekuvumela ukuba uhlolisise usapho kunye nobudlelwane bobudlelwane. Isekelwe kumgaqo wokuba ukuziphatha kwethu kunye nobunzima bethu bangoku bunokuphenjelelwa ziipateni zosapho ezisasazwa ukusuka kwisizukulwana ukuya kwesinye. Ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwi-constellation yentsapho, unokwazi ukuqaphela ezi patheni kwaye uqale ukuziguqula.
Inokukunceda njani iqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho ukuba ujongane ne-narcissistic manipulator?
Xa usebudlelwaneni nomntu onama-narcissistic, unokukhawuleza ulahlekelwe ukuzithemba kwaye uzive udidekile. Iqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho linokukunceda:
Want to break free from this hold?
- Ukufumana kwakhona ukunxibelelana neemfuno zakho kunye neminqweno
- Qonda iintshukumo zobudlelwane ezizise kule meko
- Yomeleza imida yakho ngokweemvakalelo
- Phuhlisa umfanekiso wakho wokuzijonga ngendlela elungileyo nozimeleyo.
Inkqubela yeseshoni yeqela lentsapho
Kwiseshoni, uya kusebenza nomququzeleli kunye neqela labantu. Nantsi indlela eqhele ukwenzeka ngayo:
- Uyayichaza ingxaki yakho
- Ukhetha abameli babantu ababalulekileyo ebomini bakho
- Abameli bazibeka ngentuitively esithubeni
- Umbhexeshi ukhokela inkqubo yokutyhila amandla afihliweyo
- Izisombululo zivela ngokwemvelo, zivumela ukuhlengahlengiswa kwenkqubo
Iinkwekwezi zeentsapho ezikwi-Intanethi: indlela entsha enebhokisi yamaphepha
Iinkwekwezi zoSapho ziqhelana nobudala bedijithali, zinika ithuba lokuqhuba iiseshini ze-intanethi ezisebenza ngokufanelekileyo njengomntu. Indlela enomdla kakhulu isebenzisa iibhokisi zekhadibhodi ezilula. Oku kujonge ukumela amalungu osapho okanye amalungu eqela leenkwenkwezi. Nantsi indlela esebenza ngayo:
- Ukulungiselela: Ngaphambi kweseshoni ye-intanethi, lungiselela iibhokisi ezininzi zephepha ezinobukhulu obufanayo. Ungasebenzisa amaphepha angama-A4 asongwe abe ngaphakathi okanye amaqhekeza ekhadibhodi.
- Umelo: Bhala kwikhadi ngalinye igama okanye indima yomntu okanye into eliyimeleyo kwiqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho lwakho.
- Seta: Beka ezi bhokisi emhlabeni kwindawo ebonakalayo kwikhompyuter yakho okanye kwikhamera ye-smartphone. Ulungiselelo lokuqala lunokuba lula okanye lukhokelwa ngumququzeleli.
- Uphononongo: Ngexesha leseshoni, ungazihambisa iibhokisi ngokweemvakalelo zakho okanye imiyalelo yombhexeshi. Ezi ntshukumo zibonakalisa amandla obudlelwane phakathi kwenkqubo yosapho lwakho.
- Uqwalaselo: Umbhexeshi uya kukukhokela ukuba uqwalasele kwaye utolike ukuma kunye nokushukuma kweebhokisi, njengakwikroza lobuso ngobuso.
- Zive: Nokuba ukude, ungazibeka kwibhokisi nganye ukuze uzive amandla kunye neemvakalelo ezinxulumene nendawo nganye.
Le ndlela ye-family constellation kwi-intanethi ngeebhokisi zephepha ibonelela ngeenzuzo ezininzi:
- Ikuvumela ukuba wenze amaqela eenkwenkwezi osapho ukusuka kwintuthuzelo yekhaya lakho.
- Igcina imbonakalo kunye nendawo ebalulekileyo kumaqela eentsapho.
- Inika ukuguquguquka okukhulu, ukuvumela uhlengahlengiso olulula ngexesha leseshoni.
- Yenza ukuba amaqela eenkwenkwezi osapho afikeleleke, kungakhathaliseki indawo okuyo.
Njengomququzeleli onamava weqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho, ndingakukhokela ngempumelelo kule nkqubo ye-intanethi. Oku kunokukuvumela ukuba uzuze ngokupheleleyo kwiimbono kunye nempiliso enikelwa ngamakroza osapho, nokuba ukude.
Iqela leenkwenkwezi: indlela yonyango yokuguqula
Phaikroza lentsapho, ikwabizwainkqubo kunye neqela leenkwenkwezi, yindlela yonyango eyenziwa yiUBert Hellingerngeminyaka yee-1990. Iqaqambisa amandla aguqukayo angazi nto kunye nezithintelo ngokweemvakalelo ezizuzwe njengelifa kwinkqubo yosapho lwethu. Nokuba kuumntu ngamnyeokanye kwiiworkshop yeqela, le ndlela inika i-lever enamandla yokuguqulwa kwangaphakathi.
Kodwa yintoni kanye kanye iqela leenkwenkwezi ? Yinkqubo ye-psychotherapeutic apho umxhasi ebona okanye amanqanaba, esebenzisa imifanekiso, abameli okanye ngokuziva nje, ubudlelwane phakathi kwamalungu entsapho yabo (abazali, ootatomkhulu, ootatomkhulu, abantakwabo, njl. njl.). Injongo kukwenza kubonakale iimpembelelo ezihlala zingekho zingqondweni ezinokuchaphazela impilo yethu yengqondo, ukhetho lwethu lobomi okanye ubudlelwane bethu. Sihlala sisebenza no-umntwana wangaphakathi, umama, utata, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunye nezinto ezifihlakeleyo zentsapho, izinto ezifihlakeleyo okanye izinto ezifihlakeleyo.
Kwenzeka njani ukuba iqela lentsapho liqhubeke?
Iseshoni yekroza ye-family inokuthi yenzeke kwiqela okanye individual. Njengeqela, umxhasi ukhetha abantu abamele amalungu osapho lwabo. Ngomntu ngamnye, umsebenzi unokwenziwa ngemifanekiso, iiankile zomhlaba okanye ukubonwa. Ungasebenzisa le ndlela ukude, kwi-intanethi. Ziya zisanda family constellation therapists zibonelela ngevidiyo okanye iiseshoni zase-ofisini.
Ziziphi iingenelo zekroza lentsapho?
Phakathi kweiingenelo zekroza lentsapho, sifumana ukuqonda ngcono iingxaki zethu zobudlelwane, ukukhululeka ngokweemvakalelo, ukucaca ngakumbi kwangaphakathi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha imiphumo emihle kwimpilo okanye ekwenzeni izigqibo. Lunyango olunokuthi kwakhona luncedisane nezinye iindlela, ezifanangengqondo, THEumsebenzi wenguqu, Phaunyango amandlaokanye iukuvumisa ngeenkwenkwezi.
Ixabiso leqela leenkwenkwezi
I-ixabiso le-constellation yentsapho iyahluka ngokuxhomekeka kwifomathi kunye nonyango. Umntu ngamnye, ixabiso lidla ngokuba yi-100 euro ngeseshoni, njengoko kunjalo nge-Cristina Balan, esebenza kunye nokubonakaliswa kwentsapho, umntwana wangaphakathi kunye nomzali ongaphakathi. Eli xabiso liyafana neseseshoni yonyango lwesintu. Iikhosi zeqela zinokusuka kwi-80 ukuya kwi-euro eyi-150 ngesiqingatha okanye usuku olupheleleyo.
Kuphi ukwenza i-constellation yentsapho? (eFransi, eSwitzerland, eBelgium, eQuebec…)
Unokwenza iikroza lentsaphokwimimandla emininzi:iqela leenkwenkwezi zentsapho eBordeaux, EParis, eLyon, Nantes, eMontpellier, eToulouse, eStrasbourg, Grenoble, Intle, eMarseille, Ingqumbo, Iinqaba, Caen, Besançon, eClermont-Ferrand, La Rochelle, Bayonne, Perpignan, EBrussels, eGeneva, okanye nokubaeMontrealkwaye kwieQuebec. Kukho neengcali ezininzi ze-intanethi, kuqukaumgama uqeqesho lweenkwenkwezi zosapho. Kuzo zonke iimeko, ngokwenza idinga kwindawo yethu, unyango lwenziwa kwi-intanethi.
Uqeqesho lweqela lentsapho
Ukuba unqwenela ukuba yi-Family constellation practitioner, ezininzi ze-family constellation izifundo zoqeqesho ziyanikezelwa eParis, eLyon, eRennes, eGrenoble, eNausea, e-Montpelli, e-Montpellie Brittany, eSwitzerland okanye eBelgium. Abanye bafanelekile kwi-CPF. Izikolo zikwabonelela ngeefomathi ze-intanethi, ngamanye amaxesha ziqinisekisa. Unokuqeqesha nootitshala abafana no-Michelle Duhamel, Michel Diviné, Frédérique Isnard I-Jodorowsky, oye wavelisa inguqu engaphezulu yesimboli kunye ne-intuitive yale ndlela.
Inkwenkwezi yosapho: ingozi okanye ithuba?
Njengayo nayiphi na indlela yonyango, i-family constellation ayikhululwa ekugxekeni. Abanye bathetha nge-danger, ye-sect, okanye nge- ukutenxa okunokwenzeka ukuba isenzo asijongwanga kakuhle. Kubalulekile ke ngoko ukuba ukhethe i-therapist enzulu, eqeqeshiweyo, nenentlonipho kwisingqi somthengi. Kukho ubungqina obugwenxa, kodwa kufuneka buthelekiswe novavanyo oluninzi lwe-Qpositive kunye ne-amava aguqukayo aphila ngamawaka abantu emhlabeni jikelele.
Iingenelo zexesha elide zeqela lentsapho
Ngokuthatha inxaxheba rhoqo kumakroza osapho, unokuqaphela:
- Ukuziqonda ngcono wena kunye nobudlelwane bakho
- Ukukwazi ukwandisa ukumisela imida enempilo
- Ukukhululwa kwiipateni zobudlelwane obuyityhefu
- Inzuzo yokuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba
Indlela yokudibanisa i-constellation yosapho kuhambo lwakho lokuphilisa
Iqela leenkwenkwezi zentsapho linokuba sisixhobo esinamandla, kodwa kubalulekile ukusisebenzisa ukongeza kwezinye iindlela:
- Unyango lomntu lusebenza kwimiba yakho yobuqu
- Amaqela enkxaso ukunxibelelana nabanye abakwimeko ezifanayo
- Izenzo zempilo ezifana nokucamngca okanye i-yoga ukomeleza isiseko sakho
Inyathelo eliya kwinkululeko yeemvakalelo
Iqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho linokuba linyathelo elibalulekileyo kuhambo lwakho olusingise kubomi obuzalisekileyo, ukhululwe kwiimpembelelo zobudlelwane obuyityhefu. Khumbula ukuba ufanele ukonwaba noxolo. Inyathelo ngalinye elincinci libalulekile, kwaye ngexesha kunye nenkxaso, unokwakha kwakhona ubomi obukufanela ngokwenene.
Zinyamekele, ube nomonde kuwe, kwaye ungoyiki ukucela uncedo. Awuwedwa kolu hambo, kwaye ikamva elizolileyo likulindile.
Imikhosi yeentsapho: indlela yokuziphatha ekude nempatho egqithisileyo yamahlelo
Maxa wambi amakroza eentsapho adla ngokubuzwa ngendalo yawo nendlela awenza ngayo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba amaqela eenkwenkwezi okwenene eentsapho, akhokelwa yingcali eqeqeshelwe ukuziphatha kakuhle, akananto yakwenza nokugqith’ emgceni kwamahlelo. Ngokuchasene noko, le ndlela yonyango ihlonipha ngokunzulu ubuntu kunye nokuzimela komxhasi. Kwiseshoni yamakroza osapho, sisebenza ngokukodwa nentsimi yakho yobuqu kunye neyosapho.
Njengombhexeshi weqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho, indima yam kukudala indawo ekhuselekileyo kwaye ndikukhokele ngemibuzo efanelekileyo, ngaphandle kokunyanzelisa eyam ingcaciso. Oyena ndoqo wamakroza osapho kukuvumela ukuba ufikelele kwiimbono zakho kunye nezigqibo. Le ndlela igxile kumxhasi, uphawu lweenkwekhwezi zeentsapho ezisesikweni, iqinisekisa inkqubo yonyango eyinyani neyenzelwe umntu, inkcaso yayo nayiphi na inkohliso okanye ukukhukuliseka kwehlelo. Amakroza entsapho, aqheliselwa ngengqibelelo, asisixhobo esinamandla sokunyanga intsapho.
Ifilosofi yamaqela eentsapho kunye noovulindlela bayo
Amakroza osapho asekelwe kwintanda-bulumko enzulu eqaphela ukuthungelana kwamalungu osapho kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana. Le ndlela, eyaphuhliswa ngo-1990 nguBert Hellinger, i-psychotherapist yaseJamani, isekelwe kwingcamango yokuba asizuzi nje kuphela iimpawu zofuzo, kodwa kunye neepatheni zeemvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane kookhokho bethu. Ifilosofi yamakroza osapho ibeka ubukho beqela “lolwazi losapho” oluphembelela indlela esiziphatha ngayo kunye nokukhetha kwethu ubomi, rhoqo ngokungazi.
UBert Hellinger, ogqalwa njengoyise wamakroza eentsapho, wafaka iimpembelelo ezahlukahlukeneyo kwindlela yakhe yokwenza izinto, kuquka unyango lwentsapho olucwangcisiweyo, izinto ezenzekayo, kunye neenkalo zezithethe zaseAfrika awazibonayo ebudeni bomsebenzi wakhe wobuvangeli. Umsebenzi wakhe uye watyebisa kwaye waphuhliswa ngamanye amagcisa aziwayo afana nala:
- UVirginia Satir, uvulindlela wenkqubo yonyango lwentsapho, “imifanekiso eqingqiweyo yentsapho” yakhe yaba nefuthe ekuphuhlisweni kwamakroza.
- U-Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy, owazisa ingcamango “yokunyaniseka okungabonakaliyo” kwiinkqubo zentsapho.
- UFrancesca Mason Boring, owadibanisa ubulumko bezithethe zomthonyama kuqheliselo lweenkwenkwezi.
- UStephan Hausner, owaziwayo ngomsebenzi wakhe kumakroza osapho ngokunxulumene nokugula kunye nokuphilisa.
Intanda-bulumko yamakroza osapho isimema ukuba sithathele ingqalelo into yokuba ukuphiliswa komntu kudla ngokubandakanya ukuqondwa kunye nokusombulula usapho olugqithileyo. Ibalaselisa “imiyalelo yothando” – imigaqo uHellinger akholelwa ukuba ilawula ubudlelwane bentsapho obunempilo: ilungelo lokuba ngowakho, ukulingana phakathi kokupha kunye nokwamkela, kunye nolawulo phakathi kwenkqubo yosapho.
Ifilosofi yothando kumaqela eentsapho
Embindini wamakroza osapho yintanda-bulumko enzulu yothando, ingcamango esisiseko ekhokela yonke inkqubo yokuphilisa. Ngokutsho kukaBert Hellinger, uthando ngowona mandla aphambili adibanisa amalungu entsapho, kodwa olu thando maxa wambi lunokubonakaliswa ngeendlela ezigqwethekileyo, nto leyo edala iipatheni zolwalamano olungasebenziyo. Umsebenzi weenkwenkwezi zentsapho ujolise ekubuyiseleni ukuhamba kwemvelo kothando ngaphakathi kwenkqubo yentsapho, ngokuhambelana noko uHellinger akubiza ngokuthi “iMiyalelo yoThando.”
Le Miyalelo yothando ibandakanya imigaqo emithathu ebalulekileyo:
- Ilungelo lokuba lilungu: Ilungu ngalinye losapho linelungelo elingenakohluthwa lokuba lilungu lenkqubo, kwanabo bebengabandakanywa okanye balityelwe.
- Ulungelelwano phakathi kokupha nokwamkela: Kubudlelwane obuphilileyo, kufuneka kubekho ulungelelwano phakathi koko kunikelwayo noko kufunyenweyo.
- I-Pecking order: Kukho ucwangco lwendalo kwiinkqubo zentsapho, ngokusekelwe kwixesha lokungena kwinkqubo. Ngokomzekelo, abazali beza ngaphambi kwabantwana.
Kwiqela lentsapho, sisebenzela ukuchonga apho le miyalelo yaphazamiseka khona kwaye siyibuyisele kwakhona. Oku kusenokuquka ukugqala amalungu entsapho angabandakanywanga. Emva koko lungisa ukungalingani kubudlelwane obuphazanyiswe ziziganeko ezibuhlungu.
Ukubuyela kumthetho wothando kwenzeka ngeenkqubo zokuqaphela, intlonipho kunye noxolelwaniso. Umzekelo, sinokusebenza:
- Yiqonde indima yonk’ ubani entsatsheni, kuquka abo baye balityalwa okanye bakhatywa.
- Ukuhlonipha intlungu kunye nemibingelelo yezizukulwana ezidlulileyo.
- Ukukhulula ukunyaniseka okungabonakaliyo okusibophelela kwiipateni zentsapho ezingafanelekanga.
- Ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo ezingathethwayo okanye ukwenza izenzo ezifuziselayo zokuziphindezela.
Lo msebenzi unceda ukukhulula uthando olwaluthintelwa, luvumela umntu ngamnye ukuba alufumane ngokupheleleyo uthando lookhokho bakhe aze aludlulisele kwizizukulwana ezizayo. Ifilosofi yothando kumaqela eentsapho isikhumbuza ukuba, ngaphaya kweengxabano kunye neentlungu, kukho uthando olunzulu olusibophelela kwintsapho yethu.
Guqula amaqhina ayityhefu kwaye ubonakalise uthando usebenzisa amaqela eenkwenkwezi osapho
Imikhosi yosapho ibonelela ngesixhobo esinamandla sokuguqula ubudlelwane obuyityhefu, ngakumbi nabazali bethu, kunye nokuvumela uthando ukuba lubonakale ngokukhululekileyo ebomini bethu. Nantsi indlela le ndlela esebenza ngayo kule miba ibalulekileyo yempilo-ntle yethu ngokweemvakalelo:
Hlehlisa ubudlelwane obuyityhefu nabazali
- Ukuqondwa kwepateni: Iinkwenkwezi zisivumela ukuba sibe nombono kwaye sazi iipateni zobudlelwane eziyityhefu esizizuze njengelifa kubazali bethu okanye kwizinyanya.
- Ukuqonda ngovelwano: “Ngokufanekisa” abazali bethu kwiqela leenkwenkwezi, sinokufikelela kwimbono yabo, ngokufuthi siqonde okokuqala imiceli mngeni kunye nonxunguphalo abajamelana nalo.
- Ukukhulula iiNtembeko ezingabonakaliyo: Sichonga kwaye sikhulule ukunyaniseka okungazi nto okusigcina kwiipateni eziyityhefu ngemvakalelo engafanelekanga yomsebenzi wosapho.
- Ukulungiswa kweSimboli: Ngezenzo zokuphilisa kunye namabinzana akhokelwa ngumququzeleli, sinokulungisa ngokufuziselayo ukuphuka kubudlelwane bomzali nomntwana.
- Ukuchaza ngokutsha imida: Iinkwenkwezi zisinceda ukuba simisele imida efanelekileyo nabazali bethu, esivumela ukuba sibahlonele ngaphandle kokuthwala imithwalo yabo.
Ukuvumela uthando lubonakale ebomini bethu
- Ukuvula uthando: Ngokucombulula amaqhina anamandla enkqubo yentsapho, sivula uthando oluye lwathintelwa.
- Ukuqatshelwa kothando olufihlakeleyo: Iinkwekwezi zihlala zisivumela ukuba sibone uthando olusemva kwezona ndlela zokuziphatha zinzima. Bakwavula indlela yovelwano noxolelo.
- Ukuphilisa amanxeba okuncamathela: Ngokusebenza kubudlelwane bethu nabazali bethu, sihlala siphilisa amanxeba anzulu okuncamathela. Oku kuya kusivumela ukuba sakhe ubudlelwane obunempilo kubomi bethu abadala.
- Ukuvula Intliziyo: Inkqubo yekroza inokudala amava anzulu ngokweemvakalelo. Le yokugqibela ivula iintliziyo zethu, isenze samkele ngakumbi uthando kubo bonke ubuhlobo bethu.
- Ukulungelelaniswa nendalo yethu yokwenyani: Ngokuzikhulula ekunciphiseni iipateni zentsapho, silungelelaniswa ngakumbi nendalo yethu yokwenyani, ngokwemvelo sitsala uthando olungakumbi kunye nokuvisisana kubomi bethu.
Guqula i-dynamics eyityhefu
- Ukuchonga iindima ezingasebenziyo: Iinkwenkwezi zisikhanyisela ngeendima eziyityhefu esizidlalayo singaqondanga kubudlelwane bethu. Le yimeko ye-savior, ixhoba okanye umtshutshisi syndrome.
- Uhlengahlengiso lweNkqubo: Ngabameli abahamba ngokwenyama ngaphakathi kweqela leenkwenkwezi, singakwazi “ukulungisa” ngokoqobo inkqubo yethu yentsapho yangaphakathi, senze iipateni ezintsha, eziphilileyo.
- Ukulingelwa ngamandla amatsha: Iinkwenkwezi zibonelela ngendawo ekhuselekileyo yokuzama iindlela ezintsha zokunxibelelana. Singakuhlanganisa ke oku kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla.
- Usombululo lweNgxwabangxwaba engaphaya kwemida: Ngokusebenza nabameli bezizukulwana ezininzi, sinako ukusombulula iingxabano eziye zagqithiswa ngokungazi ukusuka kwisizukulwana ukuya kwesinye.
- Ukudityaniswa kweendawo ezikhatywayo: Iinkwekwezi zisinceda ukuba siqaphele kwaye sidibanise iinxalenye zethu. Zikwanceda nokudibanisa imbali yosapho lwethu ebesiyigatyile.
- Ukudala amabali amatsha: Ngenkqubo yeenkwenkwezi, sidala amabali amatsha ngembali yosapho lwethu. Oku kuthabathel’ indawo amabali anetyhefu aze awondle kwaye axhobise ngakumbi.
Ngokusebenza nale miba kumaqela osapho, senza utshintsho olunzulu lwangaphakathi. Oku kubonakaliswa ngokwemvelo kubudlelwane bethu bangaphandle.
Cristina Balan: umququzeleli oqondayo uhambo lwakho
NjengoMququzeleli weNkwenkwezi yoSapho, mna, Cristina Balan, ndiyaluqonda nzulu uhambo olulo. Ndikhe ndanamava obudlelwane obuyityhefu kunye nama-narcissists akhohlisayo ngokwam, kwaye ndiyayazi indlela anokuba yingozi ngayo la mava. Uhambo lwam lokuphilisa lundikhokelele ukuba ndiphonononge iindlela ezininzi zonyango, kubandakanya neenkwenkwezi zosapho, ezidlale indima ebalulekileyo kutshintsho lwam.
Ukwakha kula mava kwaye ndikhuthazwa ngumnqweno wokunceda abanye abafazi kwiimeko ezifanayo, ndagqiba ekubeni ndiqeqeshe ngokufanelekileyo. Namhlanje, ndinebhongo ngokubamba idiploma kumaqela eenkwenkwezi. Ndiyincoma kakhulu le ndlela yokuphilisa ngokunzulu ubudlelwane obungasebenziyo bosapho kunye namandla anetyhefu.
Amava am obuqu, adityaniswe noqeqesho lwam lobuchwephesha, andivumela ukuba ndenze indawo ekhuselekileyo neyokuqonda. Kule meko, unokuhlola iipatheni zakho zobudlelwane. Ndiyazi ukuba kunokuba nzima kangakanani ukujongana nale mingeni, kodwa ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba ukuphiliswa kunokwenzeka. Amaqela osapho anika indlela enamandla yokuguqula ubudlelwane bethu nobomi bethu.
Ukuba ukulungele ukuqala olu hambo lokuphilisa, ndingakuvuyela ukukukhapha. Ungalibazisi ukuqhakamshelana nam ukuze ufumanise ukuba ingakunceda njani amakroza osapho.
Kutheni usenza iqela leenkwenkwezi?
Mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba yintoni inqaku leenkwenkwezi? Yazi ukuba olu nyango lukuvumela ukuba:
- Sombulula iingxaki zomtshato: isenokuba lulwalamano olubi phakathi kwesibini, ngokuphindaphindiweyo Qoxing ubudlelwane, uqhawulo-mtshato, inkohliso, njl.
- Ukusonjululwa kweengxaki zentsapho: Ulwalamano olungekho mhle phakathi kwabazali, ukungquzulana kobudlelwane phakathi komzali nomntwana, ukuziva ungabandakanywanga phakathi kwabantakwabo okanye intsapho.
- Mourning: ukufa ngequbuliso, ukuphunyelwa sisisu, ukuzibulala,
- Sombulula ezinye iingxaki zobuchwephesha ezinjengoxinzelelo olunxulumene nomsebenzi, ukungquzulana phakathi koogxa, ukungakwazi ukwenza izigqibo, ukungakwazi ukugcina umsebenzi ixesha elide, njl.
- Chonga kwaye usombulule amanxeba athile kwiimbali zakho zobuqu kunye neentsapho eziyimvelaphi yobunzima obuninzi kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
- Qinisekisa ubunzima ngokunxulumene neziganeko ezithile ezenzeke kwizizukulwana ezidlulileyo nezikuchaphazelayo. Ewe, wonke umntu uyazi ukuba iitalente ezithile okanye ukufana ngokomzimba kudluliswa ukusuka kwisizukulwana ukuya kwesinye. Kodwa akuphelelanga apho! Kwaneenkumbulo zeziganeko ezibuhlungu zinokudluliselwa (ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, amava emfazwe, iimfihlo, iimvakalelo, njl.) ukusuka kwisizukulwana ukuya kwesinye.
- Sombulula iingxaki zokuziphatha: utywala, ukungakwazi ukuzithemba, ukuphazamiseka kokutya, njl.
Iqhuba njani iseshoni yeqela leenkwenkwezi?
Kukho iindidi ezimbini zeeseshini:
- Iiseshoni zeqela leenkwenkwezi
- Iiseshoni zomntu ngamnye
Iqela leenkwenkwezi zentsapho
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ngaphezu kosuku olunye. Ebudeni beli qela leqela leqela lentsapho, kudla ngokusekwa isangqa sabantu abazimiseleyo. Emva koko, i-constellation therapist yentsapho ihlala ecaleni kweqela leenkwenkwezi (umntu oza kusombulula ingxaki ethile). Kufuneka ahlale ezisa i-genosociogram yakhe (isishwankathelo sosapho phezu kwezizukulwana ezi-4). Ngokusekelwe kolu xwebhu, ugqirha uya kwandula ke abuze iqela leenkwenkwezi uthotho lwemibuzo ukuze amncede afumane ingxaki yakhe ebalulekileyo, ngokusekelwe kwiziganeko ezithile ezibalulekileyo zentsapho.
Yakuba yenziwe loo nto, ingcali iya kucela iqela leenkwenkwezi ukuba lisebenzise abantu abathile abakwisangqa ukumela amalungu entsapho yalo nokuba libabeke ngendlela elifuna ngayo. Kwaye kuxhomekeke kwisikhundla ukuba ingcali iya kukwazi ukusebenza njani. Injongo yale seshoni kukubeka umntu ngamnye kwindawo yakhe, nto leyo eya kukhokelela kwiinguqu ezinzulu kubomi beqela leenkwenkwezi.
Iqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho
Iiseshoni zomntu ngamnye zinokwenziwa kwi-intanethi okanye kumntu. Kwaye njengakwiiseshoni zeqela, i-constellate kufuneka ihlale ine-genosociogram ngexesha leseshoni.
Umahluko ngolu nyango kukuba ingcali isebenzisa izinto ezithile ukumela amalungu entsapho yenkwenkwezi (iingqalutye, i-cushions, njl.). Kodwa injongo iyafana: ukukhulula inkwenkwezi kwiimbandezelo ezahlukeneyo kunye nemithwalo, ukuze azive elula kwaye aqhubele phambili ngokuthula ebomini. Ixabiso lale seshoni yeenkwenkwezi zentsapho iyahluka malunga ne-150 euro.
Iqela leenkwenkwezi zentsapho: iinzuzo ezahlukeneyo
Nazi iingenelo zekroza losapho:
- Inceda ukusombulula iingxabano phakathi kwamalungu entsapho enye okanye iingxabano phakathi kwesibini
- Kwenza kube lula ukuqonda imfihlelo yosapho.
- Inceda ukulungisa iingxaki ezithile zobudlelwane.
- Olu nyango lunceda ukusombulula iingxabano zemali, ezinokunxulumana okanye zinganxulumananga nelifa.
- Le ndlela yonyango ikuvumela ukuba uqonde imvelaphi yezigulo zakho kwaye ukhulule ukubanjwa kwebhondi ye-transgenerational.
- Imikhosi yentsapho inceda ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane kunye nawe kunye nabanye.
- Iinkwekwezi zeentsapho zivumela ukuphiliswa kokudlula isizukulwana
- Ikuvumela ukuba usebenzise ixesha elidlulileyo njengamandla okuphumeza iinjongo zakho.
- Olu nyango lunceda ukuphucula impilo yakho kunye nemeko yengqondo.
Ingaba ikhona ingozi kwikroza lentsapho?
Iqela leenkwenkwezi zentsapho ayilonyango oluyingozi, ngokuchaseneyo. Inceda ukusombulula iingxabano kunye neengxaki ngaphakathi kwenkqubo yosapho. Nangona kunjalo, isenokungakhululeki. Ukuba awukhululekanga ngeemvakalelo zakho, olu qheliselo lunokudinisa ngokweemvakalelo.
Kwakhona, unyango lwamakroza osapho lunokuthwala ezinye iingozi. Umzekelo, ukuba udibana nombhexeshi ongalunganga, banokwenza izigqibo ezizezakho ezinokuthi zenze mandundu ukudandatheka kwakho ngokwasengqondweni endaweni yokukukhulula.
Ungayenza phi iqela leenkwenkwezi zentsapho?
Ngaba ujonge apho ungenza khona iqela leenkwenkwezi eFransi? Oku kuya kuxhomekeka kwindawo ohlala kuyo. Ukuba uhlala e-Annecy, eBrittany, eHaute Savoie, unokufumana ugqirha weqela leenkwenkwezi kufutshane nawe. Into ekufuneka uyenzile kukungena kwi-Intanethi kwaye wenze uphando lwakho.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba awukwazi ukufumana ugqirha weqela leenkwenkwezi okanye ugqirha wengqondo kufutshane nalapho uhlala khona, unokuhlala ukhetha ukubonisana okude. Ezinye iingcali zibonelela ngeeseshoni zeqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho kwi-intanethi.
Ungamkhetha njani umnyangi oza kudibana neenkwenkwezi?
Umsebenzi weenkwenkwezi awukavunywa ngokusemthethweni. Akulula ke ngoko ukubona umbhexeshi olungileyo. Ungadibana nengcali yonyango yeenkwenkwezi ezinjengoDominique Jacob, u-Idris Lahore, uMaureen Boigen, uMichelle Duhamel. Kodwa unokuphinda ufumane ama-scammers kunye nama-charlatans. Ke, uhamba njani ngokufumana umququzeleli olungileyo? Nanga amanye amacebiso:
- Ask around: nokuba lusapho lwakho, abahlobo, oogxa bakho okanye amanye amagcisa, banokucebisa umntu osebenza kakuhle.
- Yenza uphando kuGoogle : abantu abathe baneliseka ngexesha leseshini yeqela lentsapho kunye nonyango bahlala beshiya ubungqina obuhle kunye nophononongo kwi-intanethi. Unako ke ngoko ukubabonisana nabo phambi kokuba ukhethe umgqirha wakho.
Ngaphezu kwako konke, khetha ingcali enamava eminyaka emininzi ebaleni. Ngoko unokuqiniseka ukuba ukhulile, amava obomi obuhle kunye nomntu okwaziyo ukwahlula iimvakalelo.
Ukushwankathela
Ukudala i-family constellation kuthetha ukuphonononga imbali yosapho lwakho ukuze uzikhulule ngcono kwinto engeyiyo eyakho. Sisimemo sokuxolisa, uxolelwaniso lwangaphakathi kunye nokuvulwa kwamathuba amatsha. Nokuba yeyakho, kubudlelwane bakho, kubantwana bakho, okanye ngokulula ukuziqonda ngcono, olu nyango lwenkqubo lubonelela ngesixhobo esixabisekileyo nesinamandla sotshintsho.
QBibliographic iimbekiselo zeqela leenkwenkwezi zosapho
Nalu ukhetho lweereferensi kumxholo wamakroza osapho:
- Bert Hellinger. À la découverte des constellations familiales : De la théorie à la pratique. Éditions Jouvence, 2010.
- Gérard Schmit. “Les constellations familiales complexes”. La santé mentale en actes, 2005, pp. 41-50.
- Axel Tai Trinh Cong. “Les constellations familiales : fondements et éléments de preuve scientifiques”. La Voie Symbolique, 2019.
- Joëlle Maurel. Constellations familiales : Guérir les blessures familiales et se libérer du destin transgénérationnel. Support pédagogique, Association Espace Harmonie, Albi.
- French Federation of Practitioners in Systemic Constellations (FFPCS). “Amanqaku kunye noshicilelo”.
- Murielle Ortmans. “Constellations familiales et Psychogénéalogie : exploration des dynamiques familiales invisibles”. ETSN Blog, 2024.
- Maureen Boigen. “Les constellations familiales”. Les Constellations Familiales, 2024.
Ezi mbekiselo zinika amagqabantshintshi abanzi ngamakroza osapho, ukusuka kwisiseko sethiyori ukuya kwizinto ezisebenzayo, kubandakanywa neengxoxo zenzululwazi nezibalulekileyo.
Conclusion
Ukuqukumbela, i-constellation yentsapho ibonakala iyindlela entsha kunye nefanelekileyo yonyango yokuphonononga amandla osapho kunye nokusombulula iingxaki ezisekelwe kwixesha elidlulileyo. Nangona ukusebenza kwayo kunokwahluka phakathi kwabantu kunye neengcali, le ndlela inika izixhobo ezinomdla zokuqonda ngcono nokuphilisa amanxeba adlulayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqaphela kuyafuneka ekukhetheni i-therapist ukuze kuqinisekiswe umsebenzi wobugcisa kunye nenkathalo.
Uluhlu lweencwadi zeNkwenkwezi zeNtsapho
- “IiNkwekwezi zoSapho: Ukuqonda iindlela ze-pathologies zosapho” nguBert Hellinger
- “Iqela leNenkwenkwezi yoSapho: Unyango lwengqondo kunye nokuphilisa umphefumlo” nguBert Hellinger
- “Xa ndivala amehlo am, ndibona ngokucacileyo” ngu-Ursula Franke
- “Owu, zinyanya zam!” nguAnne Ancelin Schützenberger
- “Ukunyaniseka okungabonakaliyo: Ukuphindaphinda kwi-Intergenerational Family Therapy” ngu-Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy & uGeraldine M. Spark
- “Ukwenziwa kwabantu okutsha” nguVirginia Satir
- “Ithiyetha yokuPhilisa” nguAlejandro Jodorowsky
- “Nokuba Indixabisa Ubomi bam: Iinkwekwezi zeNkqubo kunye nokugula okuMandundu” nguStephan Hausner
- “Ukunxibelelana nookhokho bethu bamandulo: Ukuphilisa ngamaQela oSapho, uMthendeleko, kunye neSiko” nguFrancesca Mason Boring.
- “I-Symmetry efihliweyo yothando: Yintoni eyenza uthando lusebenze kubudlelwane” nguBert Hellinger, uGunthard Weber & Hunter Beaumont
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