I-Narcissistic Perversion-Izibonakalisa njani?

Igama elithi narcissistic manipulator lisetyenziswe ngokukhululekayo kwiminyaka yakutshanje. Ukucacisa iinkolelo ezingeyonyani malunga nokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic, fumana ngeli nqaku zonke iinkcazo malunga nokuziphatha okutshabalalisayo, iimpawu zokuqonda ukugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic kunye neendlela zokuphuma kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator.  

Narcissistic ugqweso-Yintoni?

A i-narcissistic manipulator ngumntu onengxaki yengqondo yokuba sesichengeni nto leyo eya kumnyanzela ukuba abeke phantsi abanye ukuze bazive bexatyisiwe. Ugqwethiwe ngenxa yokuba enokuba nenkohlakalo, engenalo naluphi na uvelwano kwaye ufumana ulwaneliseko ekubandezelekeni kwabanye. I-Narcissistic, ngenxa yokuba unokuzithemba ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye unomlingiswa we-egocentric kakhulu. Ukuvala isithuba esingaphakathi kuye, kufuneka anconywe, athandwe kwaye abe sisazulu sehlabathi.

Ukuqala kokujonga, i-narcissistic manipulator inomtsalane kakhulu, inomtsalane kwaye inenkathalo. Iyakwenza ikhonkco le ukuxhomekeka phakathi kwakhe nexhoba lakhe. Emva koko, xa isigqubuthelo sobuso siwa, uya kutshintsha ngobusuku aze abe sisiphangi esingakhathaliyo.  I-Narcissistic perversion ichaphazela amadoda rhoqo kunabasetyhini. Yiyo loo nto sihlala sithetha nge-narcissistic manipulator. Nangona kunjalo, i umfazi okhohlakeleyo onama-narcissistic unokuba ngumntu okhohlakeleyo onobuntu obuyityhefu kakhulu.

Perversion kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic

Ugqweso lweNarcissistic luziveza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye. Ukuba i-manipulator enye ye-narcissistic ibonisa ubundlongondlongo kunye nomona ogqithiseleyo, omnye unokukwazi ukudlala indima yomntu othobekileyo, ozolileyo. Ukufumana ngakumbi malunga neempawu ezityhila ugqweso lwe-narcissistic, fumana ezona mpawu zixhaphakileyo apha:

1. Ugqweso lweNarcissistic – Ubeka ixhoba lakhe yedwa

I-narcissistic manipulator ifumana ulonwabo ngokubeka ixhoba lakhe yedwa. Nokuba liqabane lakhe, umntwana wakhe okanye umhlobo, uyathanda ukukholelwa ukuba ixhoba lakhe liqhagamshelwe kuye yedwa kwaye akasagcini ubudlelwane nosapho lwakhe, abahlobo bakhe kunye nabo bamngqongileyo. Ukwahlula ixhoba kukwalivumela ukuba lilawule ngokusisigxina lize liqinisekise ukuba alifumani ncedo okanye iimbono kuye nabani na. 

2. Ukuguqulwa kweNarcissistic – Ubuso obubini

I-narcissistic manipulator inobuso obubini. Phambi kwabantu, ungumntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kwixhoba lakhe ukhohlakele kwaye ukhohlakele. Ngoko ke, ukuba ixhoba lalo lizama ukuzityand’ igila okanye lixelele abo balingqongileyo oko lihlangabezana nalo ngokwenene, akukho mntu uya kulikholelwa. Yingakho kwenzeka ukuba ixhoba liwela kwinkohliso kwaye liyathandabuza ngokwakhe, kwaye sihlala sibona oku kwiifilimu ezigqwesileyo ze-narcissistic. 

3. Ugqweso lweNarcissistic-I-narcissistic manipulator uzenza ixhoba ukomeleza ulawulo lwakhe.

Ukugcina ixhoba lakhe phantsi kwempembelelo yakhe, i-narcissistic manipulator idlala ixhoba kwaye yenza ixhoba lokwenyani lizive linetyala. Uya kuzama ukwenza ixhoba lakhe liqonde ukuba ukuba ubudlelwane babo abusebenzi, lityala lakhe kuphela. Ekubeni engakwazi ukuthwala imbopheleleko, usoloko ezama ukubeka ityala komnye umntu. Udlala ixhoba ngokugqibeleleyo phambi komntu wonke kwaye azame ukurhwebesha ixhoba lakhe ukuba lisoloko limgcina lisondele kwaye lingaze limkhulule.

Ngubani onengxaki yeNarcissistic Perversion?

Umntu osebenzisa i-manipulative narcissistic akasoloko ebonwa xa umjonga nje. Kodwa kusekho imiqondiso enokuchonga esi sifo ngokwasengqondweni nangokwengqondo: 

• Ngubani ekufuneka ebeke abanye phantsi ukuze azive exabisekile
• Ngubani ongakwaziyo ukubuqonda ubugwenxa babo kwaye usoloko efuna ukwenza abanye bazive benetyala.
• Ngubani ofuna ukunconywa rhoqo, aqondwe, athandwe kwaye abe sisazulu sehlabathi
• Ngubani ongakwaziyo ukuziva uthando novelwano kwabo babangqongileyo

Umahluko phakathi kokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic kunye ne-bipolarity

Ukuba a umntu one-bipolar uyayazi imeko yakhe, umntu okhohlisayo akakwazi ukuqaphela imeko yakhe yeemvakalelo. Ngokwenene, xa ephuma kwintlekele ye i-bipolarity, umntu onebipolar uyakwazi ukubeka iingcinga zakhe ngolungelelwano aze abe ngumntu oqhelekileyo ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okubonakalayo. Ukugqithisa kwakhe kunye nokungakhathali kwenzeka kuphela ngexesha lesigaba sakhe somntu.

Kwelinye icala, i i-narcissistic manipulator Akakwazi ukuyiqonda indlela aziphatha ngayo kwaye akalokothi ayeke uku-narcissism kunye ne-egocentrism yakhe. Ucinga ukuba wonke umntu ufanele amhlonele kwaye amhlonele, kuba ukholelwa ukuba ungaphezu komntu wonke. 

Ubugqwetha ngokwesondo kunye ne-narcissistic

Ukuba ezi ntlobo zimbini zokuphazamiseka kwengqondo ziyafana ngeendlela ezininzi, umahluko ukwisenzo sobundlobongela kunye nokuba likhoboka lesondo. THE i-narcissistic manipulator uzicingela ngokugqithiseleyo kangangokuba ufuna ukunqwenelwa ngabo bamngqongileyo ingakumbi ixhoba lakhe.  Kwelakhe icala, i ngokwesini esigqwethekileyo unesidingo esiqhubekayo sokwanelisa iminqweno yakhe yesini. Akazithatheli ngqalelo iimfuno zabanye okanye iqabane lakhe, ufuna nje ukwanelisa unxano lwakhe kwaye okuseleyo akunamsebenzi kuye. 

Ngaba singakwazi ukuphuma kubudlelwane be-Narcissistic Perversion?

Kunokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo ukuba uzikhulule kubudlelwane be-narcissistic perversion. Inyathelo lokuqala lokuphilisa liya kukuqonda imeko. Injongo apha kukufumanisa imvelaphi yokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic. Ubuntwana obubuhlungu nobungazinzanga ngokwasengqondweni bunokuba ngunobangela wokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic. Emva koko, kuya kufuneka uqale ukuzihlukanisa kwaye uphelise ubudlelwane. Ukunyanga ukugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic, kufuneka ufumane unyango olunzulu kwaye wenze umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ke, ungathandabuzi ukufumana uncedo kwisayikholojisti egqwesileyo kwi-narcissistic perversion.

Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic ngogqweso lwe-narcissistic

Nazi izingqinisiso ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi ngesiFrentshi kumxholo wokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic:

1. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Le harcèlement moral : La violence perverse au quotidien. Éditions La Découverte & Syros.
2. Racamier, P.-C. (1992). Les perversions narcissiques. Payot.
3. Tisseron, S. (2013). Le mystère des perversions. Éditions Albin Michel.
4. Cori, J.-J. (2000). Les manipulateurs sont parmi nous : Qui sont-ils ? Que veulent-ils ? Comment s’en défendre ?. Éditions de l’Homme.
5. Coutanceau, R., & Gabel, C. (2005). Les violences perverses au quotidien. Dunod.
6. Caldwell, L. (2005). Perversion et narcissisme. In Caldwell, L. (Ed.), Perversion : Psychanalyse et clinique (pp. 45-60). Presses Universitaires de France.
7. Meloy, J. R. (2002). Les personnalités narcissiques et antisociales. In Meloy, J. R. (Ed.), Les personnalités difficiles : Diagnostic et prise en charge (pp. 75-98). Masson.

Le mi sebenzi inikezela ngombono onzulu malunga nokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic, ukujongana nemiba yethiyori kunye neklinikhi yomxholo.

Ukuqukumbela

Ukuqukumbela, ukuqonda ukugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic kusivumela ukuba sichonge ngcono le ndlela yokuziphatha eyonakalisayo kwaye sizikhusele kuyo. Eli nqaku libonise iimpawu eziphambili ze-narcissistic manipulators, iindlela zabo zokulawula kunye neendlela zokuphuma kubudlelwane obunjalo. Ukuba ujongene nolu hlobo lwemeko, unganqikazi ukubonisana nochwepheshe ukuze uzuze kwinkxaso efanelekileyo.

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