Ukwenzakalisa abanye – I-Sadism ye-Narcissistic Manipulator

ISadism sisiphithiphithiubuntu obuyityhefunto leyo eyenza umntu afune ukwenzakalisa abanye aze abalawule ukuze abatshabalalise. Akusoloko kulula ukujongana nokuziphatha okunjalo kwaye imiphumo ingaba yingozi kakhulu kwabo bajikeleze aba bantu. Ukuba unomntu ebomini bakho othanda ukwenzakalisa abanye, eli nqaku linokuba nomdla kuwe.

Sadist: othanda ukuvisa abanye ubuhlungu

Umntu odakumbileyo ngumntu onengxaki yengqondo eyityhefu kunye neyonakalisayo othanda ukwenzakalisa abanye. Usebenzisa iindlela zokuziphatha ezenzelwe ukuthoba isidima kunye nokulawula abanye. Amaxesha amaninzi, umntu olusizi uye afumane uyolo aze aneliseke xa evisa abanye ubuhlungu ngokwasengqondweni okanye ngokwasemzimbeni. Uyakuthanda ukubona abo bamngqongileyo bemoyika kwaye bezithoba kuye.

Nokuba i usizi inokuchaphazela wonke umntu, idla ngokubonakala kumakhwenkwe nasebudeni bokufikisa. Ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha okulusizi kuhlala kukhatshwa yi-narcissism okanye i-anti-socialism. Inene, ukongeza ekuthandeni ukwenzakalisa abanye, i-sadist inokuba yi-narcissistic manipulator. Udla ngokufuna ukulawula ixhoba lakhe kwaye asebenzise amandla agqithisileyo olawulo phezu kwawo kuwo onke amanqanaba obudlelwane.

Iimpawu zesadism: Indlela yokubona umntu othanda ukwenzakalisa abanye?

Kukho iimpawu ezimbalwa ezikunceda ukuba uziqonde:

• Umntu uhlala ebhenela kuyoubundlobongela ngokwasemzimbenikunye nenkohlakalo yokulawula ixhoba lakhe
• Uyakuvuyela ukwenzakalisa abantu phambi kwabanye
• Ubohlwaya ngokugqithiseleyo abo baphantsi kwakhe
• Akalibazisi ukuxoka ukuze enze abanye babandezeleke.
• Usebenzisa uloyiko ukunyanzela abanye ukuba benze oko akufunayo.
• I-sadist ithanda ukukhawulela inkululeko yabo basondeleyo kuye (iqabane okanye umntwana)
• Umntu onoburhalarhume unomdla wobundlobongela kunye nayo yonke into ehambelana nayo njengezixhobo, ukuhlushwa, ubugcisa bokulwa …

Umntu onosizi akayisebenzisi i-sadism yakhe kumntu othile njengeqabane lakhe okanye umntwana wakhe, unokuba buhlungu kumntu wonke, nakubantu angabaziyo.

I-Sadism kubuntu be-narcissistic: inyathelo eliya enzonzobileni

Esona sitayela sibalaseleyo sobuntu esinoburhalarhume sabelana ngeempawu kunye ne-narcissism kunye ne-psychopathy, kodwa iya phambili. Aba bantu bafumana ulwaneliseko olukhethekileyo ekuthotyweni ngabanye. Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni we-narcissistic manipulator engafuni kukulawula kuphela, kodwa uyonwaba ngokwenene ekukwenzeni ubandezeleke.

Iimpawu zeTelltale ze-Sadistic Narcissistic Manipulator

Nazi ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezinokubonisa ukuba ujongene ne-narcissistic manipulator enotyekelo olulusizi:

• Inkohlakalo yangabom
• Imfuneko emandla yolawulo
• Izenzo zokugrogrisa rhoqo
• Ukuthotywa okuphindaphindiweyo
• Ukuthintelwa kwenkululeko yakho

Umahluko phakathi kwe-narcissism kunye ne-sadism

Ngokungafaniyo ne-narcissist “yakudala” efuna ukubuyisela ukungakhuseleki kwakhe, i-narcissist elusizi ibonakala ikhutshiwe kulo lonke uvelwano lomntu. Kuba ngathi kukho ikhefu elipheleleyo kunye nento eyenza sibe nenkathalo ngabantu.

Ifuthe elibi kumaxhoba

Ukutyhileka kwi-narcissistic manipulator elusizi kunokubangela ukwenzakala ngokwasengqondweni. Amaxhoba ahlala echaza imvakalelo yokuba phambi kobubi obupheleleyo. Umothuko unokuba mkhulu kangangokuba iziphumo zasemva koko zinokuqhubeka iminyaka ukuba aziphathwa ngendlela eyiyo.

Unyango: ngumngeni omkhulu

Ngelishwa, njengakwi-psychopathy, kukho ubungqina obuncinci bempumelelo yonyango lwesitayile sobuntu esibuhlungu. Owona mqobo uphambili kukungaqapheli ngokupheleleyo ingxaki yabo phakathi kwaba bantu.

Kutheni i-narcissistic manipulator ithanda ukwenzakalisa abanye?

Njengomntu onoburhalarhume, umbhexeshi we-narcissistic uyakonwabela ukwenzakalisa abanye. Uyayoliswa kukubona ixhoba lakhe libandezeleka aze alithobele. Yindlela yokuba umbhexeshi we-narcissistic anelise uloyiko lwakhe lokulahlwa kwaye asebenzise ulawulo kwixhoba lakhe. Ukwenzakalisa abanye yindlela yokuba umxhasi we-narcissistic azondle ngokwakhe, kuba uzondla ngoloyiko, ixhala kunye namandla awasebenzisayo kwabanye.

Nangona ezibonisa njengomntu onamandla kwaye ongenamdla kakhulu, i-narcissistic manipulator iyahlupheka yokuphazamiseka okumtyhalayo ukuba azikhusele kwaye alindele ngokwenza ubundlobongela kuqala ukuphepha ukwenzakaliswa kuye. Luhlobo lwempindezelo ayenzayo ukufihla uloyiko lwakhe kunye nokungakhuseleki kwakhe.

• Ulonwabo olungenampilo lwe-narcissistic pervert

Ngokungafaniyo noninzi lwethu, i-narcissist ekhohlisayo ifumana uyolo kwiimeko ezothusayo okanye ezikhohlakeleyo. Oku kuziphatha kufana nohlobo lwe-sadomasochism yeemvakalelo, apho ukubandezeleka kwakho kuba ngumthombo wabo wokuzonwabisa.

• Ukuthotywa esidlangalaleni: indawo abayithandayo

Enye yeendlela ezizithandayo ze-narcissistic manipulator kukuhlazisa esidlangalaleni. Bathanda ukukubeka phambi kwabanye, baveze ubuthathaka bakho kunye neempazamo zakho. Lo msebenzi ubenza bazive benamandla kwaye bephezulu, ngelixa bejongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwakho.

• Iintlebendwane kunye nolwazi olungelulo: ixesha abalithandayo lokudlala

I-manipulative narcissist iyakuthanda ukuhleba kunye nokusasaza ulwazi lobuxoki ngawe. Le ndlela yokuziphatha ibanika imvakalelo yokulawula umfanekiso wakho kwaye ityisa i-ego yabo ekhulayo. Ngelishwa, oku kunokonakalisa kakhulu isidima sakho kunye nobudlelwane bakho.

• Ukubhideka ngamabom: umdlalo okhohlakeleyo

Olunye uhlobo lwe-sadomasochism yeemvakalelo lubandakanya ukuzibhida ngabom. I-narcissistic manipulator ithatha uyolo olugqwethekileyo ekwenzeni ukuba uzithandabuze wena kunye nombono wakho wokwenyani. Olu qheliso lujolise kukukwenza ube sesichengeni ngakumbi kwiimpembelelo zabo.

• Isigculelo esikhohlakeleyo: isixhobo esoyikekayo

Amahlaya akhohlakeleyo kunye nokugculelwa zizinto eziqhelekileyo phakathi kwe-narcissistic manipulator. Bajolise ekungakhuseleni kwakho kunye nokuba semngciphekweni, bethatha uyolo oludabukisayo lokukubona ubandezeleka. Le ndlela yokuziphatha inokuchaphazela ngokunzulu ukuzithemba kwakho.

• Ukonwaba ebusweni bentlungu yakho: ukuphakama kwe-sadism

Kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu, ezinye ii-manipulators ze-narcissistic zinokufumana ulwaneliseko kwiintlungu zakho zomzimba okanye ukungonwabi. Oku kungabikho ngokupheleleyo kovelwano kuyothusa kakhulu kwaye kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu kumaxhoba.

Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic malunga ne-sadism ye-narcissistic manipulator

Nalu ukhetho lweereferensi zesayensi kwisiFrentshi kumxholo we-sadism kwi-narcissistic manipulator:

1. Chabert, C. (2006). Les organisations perverses. Dans Le Journal des psychologues, n° 8, pages 20-25.
2. Bergeret, J., & Houser, M. (2002). Le sadisme… à travers ce qu’il n’est pas. Dans Revue française de psychanalyse, vol. 66, n° 4, pages 1269-1284.
3. Eiguer, A. (2003). Outrage à l’intimité. Dans Revue française de psychanalyse, vol. 67, n° 3, pages 873-893.
4. Sirota, A. (2017). Pervers narcissiques : comprendre, déjouer, surmonter. Éditions Le Manuscrit.
5. Althaus, V., & Cintas, C. (2018). Recension de l’ouvrage Pervers narcissiques : comprendre, déjouer, surmonter d’André Sirota. Dans Nouvelle revue de psychosociologie, n° 26, pages 215-218.
6. Babonneau, M. (2003). L’Ad-miroir à deux places. Dans Revue française de psychanalyse, vol. 67, n° 3, pages 897-909.
7. Chabert, C. (2003). Regardez-moi !. Dans Revue française de psychanalyse, vol. 67, n° 3, pages 911-923.

Ezi mbekiselo zibonelela ngembono enzulu malunga nemiba ebuhlungu kunye nekhohlisayo yobuntu obugqwethekileyo be-narcissistic, iqaqambisa iindlela zabo zengqondo nezokuziphatha.

Ukuqukumbela

I-Sadism, ngakumbi xa inxulunyaniswa ne-narcissism, ityhila ukuguquguquka kwengqondo entsonkothileyo kunye neyonakalisayo, apho ukubandezeleka kwabanye kuba ngumthombo wokwaneliseka kwaba bantu banetyhefu. Ukuqonda ezi ndlela, ngokusebenzisa uhlalutyo lwenzululwazi kunye nonyango olukhoyo, kwenza kube lula ukuchonga iimpawu zolu kuziphatha kunye nokuxhasa ngcono amaxhoba. Nangona kunjalo, umngeni uhleli umkhulu, ngokumalunga nothintelo kunye nonyango, kuba ezi ziphazamiso zihlala zikhatshwa kukungaziqondi kwabo bantu bachaphazelekayo.