1. Ukusekwa kokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo okuvezwe lixhoba layo:
Obu buchule buyinto eqhelekileyo kubo bonke ubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Umbulali uya kuqinisekisa kwasekuqaleni ukuba ixhoba lakhe liphelele “likhoboka” ukuba ungaphinde uphume. Uya kutshintsha uthando kwaye ukungcatsha umbuso, ubuxoki nembonakalo yenyaniso ukuze ixhoba lakhe libhideke ngokupheleleyo.
2. Iingxaki kwiinjongo zakhe:
Uya kuphawula ukuba amazwi akhe maxa wambi akangqinelani, ade aphikisana, neenjongo zakhe zokwenene. Uyakuhlala ukwintandabuzo kuba oku kuphikisana kunokujikela kuwe ngokukhawuleza. Akacacanga entlokweni yakhe.
3. I-blackmail efihliweyo, amabinzana athi:
Ngaba ukhe wayiqaphela into yokuba uye wakugxeka ngexesha leengxabano zenu? Ewe, awuphuphi, yinyani. Uyayazi indlela yokulisebenzisa eli binzana “Ndiyahamba xa ungandifuni” ukukutyhafisa, kwaye lo ngumzekelo nje omnye. Ukutshintsha imeko ibe yinzuzo yakhe yeyona nto ibalaseleyo yakhe.
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4. I-Egocentrism, ukugqithisa kwe-narcissistic:
Uzicingela kakhulu, eqhayisa ngokumfanela kwakhe, italente yakhe kunye nento ayenzayo ngoku. Ubajongela phantsi abanye, ingakumbi iqabane lakhe elixhatshazwayo ukuze lizive libhetele kunabanye, yaye oko usoloko ekwenza oko. Ukuncoma isiqu sakho kunye nokuhlaziswa kwabanye kuhlala kuyeyona nto iphambili kuye.
5. Umona oguqulwe njengobunikazi obubandisiweyo:
Ixhoba liya kucinga ukuba ikhwele labo liqhelekileyo, ngothando, kodwa liphosakele kakhulu. Ubunini be umfazi okhohlakeleyo onama-narcissistic ingaphaya kokuqonda kuba ithanda ukukhohlisa, ukwenza ixhoba layo likholelwe ukuba indawo eyingqongileyo ayilunganga kuye okanye kwimpilo yakhe yengqondo.
6. Ubuxoki obunyanzelekileyo:
Owasetyhini okhohlakeleyo ulala ngathi uyaphefumla. Ngokwenene, ukukhohlisa kuhlala kuhamba nge ubuxoki ukuze ngaloo ndlela alawule ixhoba lakhe. Oku kunokubonwa kwiinkcukacha zemizuzu yobomi bemihla ngemihla, uya kuqaphela ukuba ifihla iinyaniso, ifihla izinto, njl.
7. Uvuthela kushushu nokubanda:
Akasweli mdla wokukuthanda kwaye kwangaxeshanye uyakutshutshisa. Kukwenza ube mnene kwaye ube ndlongondlongo ngaxeshanye. Amazwi ahlabayo, athob’ isidima nanyelisayo aqhelekile phakathi kwayo.
8. Ucenga abo bamngqongileyo ukuba bacace kwaye bazimisele xa besenza izigqibo:
Ngokungafaniyo neyona nto imbi kakhulu ayenzayo, akakuyeki ukuzingisa kwakhe phambi kwabanye ngokubanyanzelela, ngokuthe ngqo okanye ngobulumko, ukuba baziphathe ngokugqibeleleyo. Unyanzelisa ukunyaniseka, ukuthetha ngokuphandle kunye nokucaca kwinto ayenzayo naye, izinto angazenziyo ngokupheleleyo.
9. Isasaza uluvo loluntu ukuba lulawule ngcono:
Imbono eqhelekileyo ayimkholisi umfazi okhohlakeleyo, okhohlisayo. Uyathanda ukwahlula abantu, axele into ethethwe ngomnye aze ayiphinde komnye.
10. Kuthethwa ngaye ngendlela embi:
Ekubeni ekwazi ukugqama, naxa engekho, abantu bathetha ngasemva. Ngokukodwa njengoko ngamanye amaxesha ekhuthaza uloyiko kunye nokuthula kwabo bamngqongileyo, bavame ukuthetha ngezenzo zakhe kunye namazwi xa umqolo wakhe ujikiwe.
Iimpawu zeVidiyo zeNarcissistic Manipulation
Iimpawu zomfazi okhohlisayo
Ukuze uyiqonde, kufuneka wazi ukuba ayizange ibe yinto i-narcissistic manipulator ngenxa yolonwabo olunyulu. Mhlawumbi umzali ongekhoyo nongakhathaliyo, umama obandayo nozolileyo ngoyena nobangela.
- lo mfazi uphuhlisa iinkalo ezininzi: unobuso obuninzi obuguqukayo ngokweminqweno yakhe okanye imeko engqongileyo. Qaphela ukuba ukwabonisa ezinye iimpawu ze-bipolarity. Ngamanye amaxesha uyathetha, umnandi kwaye unobubele kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akanyamezeleki.
- Uswele kakhulu uthando: uya kukwazi ukubona ngeliso eliqondayo ukuba akanako ngokwemvelo ukubonakalisa uthando. Njengomntwana oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala ongazaziyo ukuba ufuna ntoni, ukhawuleza azivumele ukuba oyiswe ziimvakalelo zakhe.
- I- iyona nto ibalaseleyo: i-anchoring ye-narcissistic perversion ayinakufezekiswa ngokubonakalayo ngaphandle kokuguqulwa. Owokugqibela uzibonakalisa ngokulawula ixhoba lakhe aze alishiye ezandleni zakhe.
Ngaba unokwenza umntu othanda ukunyathela athandane?
Lo mbuzo udumileyo ubuzwa ngamandla ngabatshati abangamaxhoba okugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic. Impendulo nguhayi, ekubeni le yamva iqala kwaye eyona nto iphambili yi-pathology efumana indawo phakathi kombulali.
Ngoko ke, kunzima, okanye akunakwenzeka, ukuba ibhinqa elikhohlisayo live uthando ngommelwane walo. Ubona kuphela ukukhohlisa kwixhoba lakhe, uyondla ngokubandezeleka kwabo, uloyiko lwabo kunye namathandabuzo okufumana amandla, ngaphandle kokuqwalasela uthando olunokubakho.
Iimvakalelo ezinjengothando lukulinganisa kuphela kwaye akukho nto ihleliyo.
Uziphatha njani umfazi okhohlakeleyo kusapho? I-
Emehlweni omntu wonke, wenza njengomfazi kunye ne iprofayili yomama onama-narcissistic imodeli. Ibonisa umfanekiso wentsapho efezekileyo ngelixa ifihla emva kweemifanekiso.
Enyanisweni, abantwana bakhe bangamaxhoba nje alishwa eqhinga lakhe. Ungumama ongakhathaliyo nongenaluthando ekhaya, kwaye abantwana bakhe bancama ukwenza oko akucelayo ukuze bafumane uthando lwakhe.
Iqabane elixhoba liyabandezeleka ngenxa yokuba izenzo zalo zisenceba yakhe.
Ungazikhusela njani kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic?
Umgama kuphela kwesisombululo esinempumelelo onokuba naso. Yenza isigqibo esiqatha, suka kude ukuze ingabi nakubamba.
- Qhagamshelana nabantu obathandayo, abahlobo bakho kwaye uthethe ngayo ngokuphandle. Indlebe evayo ilungile ngaphezu komlomo odelayo.
- Qhagamshelana nengcali ukuba kuyenzeka njengoko oku kuya kukunceda ukuba udlule kuyo kwixesha elide.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.