I-EMDR: unyango oluthembisayo kumaxhoba

Abasetyhini abakhe baphathwa kakubi kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwi-narcissistic manipulator banokufumana iziphumo ezibalulekileyo zengqondo, nasemva kokuba belushiyile ubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Ukubanceda boyise ezi ntlungu, i-EMDR (I-Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) ibonakala ilunyango olunika umdla ngakumbi. Makhe sifumanise ukuba yintoni kanye kanye i-EMDR kunye nendlela enokunceda ngayo amaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators ukuba bakhe ngokutsha ubomi babo.

Yintoni kanye kanye i-EMDR?

I-EMDR, okanye i-eye movement deensitization kunye ne-reprocessing kwisiFrentshi, i-psychotherapy eyenziwa kwi-1980 yi-American psychologist uFrancine Shapiro. Le ndlela isekelwe ekutshintsheni ukuvuselela imizwa yamacala amabini, amaxesha amaninzi ngeentshukumo zamehlo ezikhokelwayo, ezidityaniswa nokukhunjuzwa kweenkumbulo ezibuhlungu.

Injongo kukuvelisa ngokungekho semthethweni inkqubo yokucubungula ulwazi lwendalo eyenzeka ngexesha lokulala kwe-REM. Enyanisweni, ngeli nqanaba lokulala, amehlo ethu enza iintshukumo ezithe tye ngokukhawuleza ezivumela ingqondo ukuba idibanise kwaye “icole” amava afunyenwe emini.

Ikhosi yeseshoni ye-EMDR

Iseshoni ye-EMDR idla ngokuqhubeka kwizigaba ezisi-8 ezahlukeneyo:

1. Ukuthatha imbali kunye nokucwangcisa unyango
2. Ukulungiselela umguli
3. Uvavanyo lwenkumbulo yokwenzakala ekujoliswe kuyo
4. Ukungabi nazinzwano ngokutshintshana kwezivuselelo zamacala amabini
5. I-anchoring yokuqonda okulungileyo
6. Ukuskena umzimba ukukhangela uxinzelelo olunokwenzeka
7. Ukuvalwa kweseshoni
8. Uvavanyo kwakhona kwiseshoni elandelayo

Isigaba esiphakathi se-desensitization sibandakanya ukucela isigulana ukuba sigxininise kwimemori ephazamisayo ngelixa silandela intshukumo yeminwe yonyango ngamehlo abo. Ezinye iintlobo zokuvuselela zingasetyenziswa njengokutshintshana kwezandi okanye ukucofa.

Iindlela zokusebenza ze-EMDR

Nangona ukusebenza kwayo kungqinwe ngokwenzululwazi, iindlela ezichanekileyo zokusebenza kwe-EMDR azikacaciswa ngokupheleleyo. Iingqikelelo ezininzi zibekwe phambili:

• Ukutshintshwa kovuselelo lwamazwe amabini kuya kudibanisa izixhobo zokuhoya, ngaloo ndlela kuncitshiswe intlawulo yeemvakalelo edityaniswe nenkumbulo ebuhlungu.
• Ingakhuthaza unxibelelwano phakathi kwee-cerebral hemispheres ezimbini, ivumela ukudityaniswa okungcono kolwazi.
• Iyakuvelisa kwakhona inkqubo yolwazi lwendalo yobuthongo obuyindida.
• Ingenza ukuba inkqubo ye-parasympathetic isebenze, ibangele imeko yokuphumla evumela ukuba iphinde icutshungulwe.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba, i-EMDR ibonakala ivumela ingqondo ukuba “igaye” amava abuhlungu kwaye idibanise ngakumbi ngokufanelekileyo kwimemori yexesha elide.

I-EMDR ukunyanga i-trauma enxulumene ne-narcissistic manipulator

Ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator ihlala ishiya imiphumo ebalulekileyo yengqondo emva kwemiphumo kumaxhoba: syndrome ofuxinzelelo lwasemva kokwenzakala, ukuxinezeleka, ukuxhalaba, ukulahlekelwa ukuzithemba, njl njl. I-EMDR inokuba luncedo ngokukhethekileyo ekuphatheni ezi mpawu zihlukeneyo.

Enyanisweni, olu nyango lukuvumela ukuba:

• Ukuphelisa iinkumbulo ezinxunguphalisayo ezinxulunyaniswa nokuphathwa kakubi nokuphathwa kakubi
• Nciphisa ukuqina kweemvakalelo ezinxulumene nezi nkumbulo
• Phuhlisa ingqiqo entsha, eyakhayo kwaye elungelelanisiweyo
• Yomeleza izixhobo zangaphakathi kunye nokuzithemba
• Khuthaza umgama kwi-narcissistic manipulator

Iinkcukacha ze-EMDR kumaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators

Ukuba iprotocol ye-EMDR ihlala ifana ngokubanzi, izinto ezithile kufuneka zithathelwe ingqalelo kumaxhoba abenzi bobuqhetseba be-narcissistic:

• Umsebenzi wangaphambili kukhuseleko kunye nokuzinzisa ngokweemvakalelo kuhlala kuyimfuneko ngaphambi kokujongana neenkumbulo ezibuhlungu.
• Ukuqonda okungalunganga ekujoliswe kuko kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa netyala, ihlazo okanye imvakalelo “yokuphambana” ebangelwa ngumbhexeshi we-narcissistic.
• Kunokuba luncedo ukusebenza kwiinkumbulo ezilungileyo ukusuka ngaphambi kobudlelwane obuyityhefu ukwakha ukuzithemba.
• Unyango lunokubandakanya umsebenzi “kumacandelo” okuzahlula-hlula ngokulandela ubuqhetseba be-narcissistic manipulator.

Imiphumo emihle ebonwa kumaxhoba

Izifundo ezininzi zibonise ukusebenza kwe-EMDR ekunyangeni ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo. Phakathi kwamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators athe axhamla kolu nyango, sibona ngokubanzi:

• Ukuncipha okuphawulekayo kwiimpawu zokuxhalaba-uxinzelelo
• Ukuncitshiswa kwe-hypervigilance kunye ne-traumatic relivings
• Ukuphucula ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba
• Ikhono elingcono lokubeka imida kubudlelwane
• Ukuthomalalisa umsindo neemvakalelo zokungekho sikweni
• Ukufumana kwakhona ukulawula ubomi bakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho

Imida kunye nezilumkiso ekufuneka zithathwe

Nangona ithembisa kakhulu, i-EMDR ayisosisombululo esingummangaliso kwaye inemida ethile:

• Ifuna uthethathethwano olusebenzayo nesigulana kwaye inokurhafisa ngokwasemphefumlweni.
• Ukusebenza kwayo kunokunqongophala kwiimeko zokuphazamiseka okukhulu kwe-dissociative.
• Ayifanelekanga kuzo zonke iiprofayili zesigulane kwaye ifuna ukuvavanywa kwangaphambili.
• Iziphumo zinokuthatha ixesha ukuzibonakalisa ngokupheleleyo.

Ngaphaya koko, kubalulekile ukuba unyango lwenziwe ngugqirha oqeqeshiweyo nonamava, kwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Ukujongwa okongeziweyo kwengqondo kunokuba yimfuneko ukuxhasa utshintsho olwenziwe yi-EMDR.

I-EMDR kunye nezinye iindlela zonyango: yintoni ehambelanayo?

I-EMDR inokudityaniswa kunyango lwehlabathi jikelele, ngaphezu kwezinye iindlela zonyango:

• Unyango lwengqondo-yokuziphatha ukusebenza kwiipateni zokucinga ezingasebenziyo
• Unyango olucwangcisiweyo lokujongana nosapho kunye nobudlelwane
• hypnosis ukomeleza izixhobo zangaphakathi
• Unyango lomzimba ukukhulula uxinzelelo lomzimba olunxulunyaniswa nokwenzakala
• Amaqela eengxoxo ukuze ahlukane nokuba yedwa kwaye abelane ngamava

Ukudityaniswa kweendlela ezahlukeneyo, ezilungelelaniswe kwiimfuno ezithile zesigulane ngasinye, kudla ngokuvumela iziphumo ezingcono.

Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic ngonyango lwe-EMDR

Nalu uluhlu lwebhayibhilografi kunyango lwe-EMDR (I-Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing):

• Shapiro, F. (2018). I-Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Unyango: Imigaqo-siseko, iiProtocol, kunye neeNkqubo (3rd ed.). Guilford Press.
• Leeds, A.M. (2016). Isikhokelo kwiMigangatho ye-EMDR yoNyango lweeProtocol kwiiKlinikhi, abaphathi, kunye nabaCebisi (2nd ed.). Inkampani yoPapasho yaseSpringer.
• USolomon, R.M., & Shapiro, F. (2008). I-EMDR kunye neModeli yokuLungiselela iNgcaciso yoLwazi: IiNdlela ezinokuthi ziTshintsho. Umbhalo we-EMDR wokuSebenza kunye noPhando, i-2 (4), i-315-325.
• van der Kolk, B.A. (2014). Umzimba ugcina iNqaku: Ingqondo, iNgqondo kunye noMzimba ekuPhilisweni kweNtshukumo. Viking.
• Luber, M. (Mhl.). (2015). I-Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) IiProtokholi zeSikripthi kunye naMashidi aSishwankathelo: Ukunyanga ukuxhalabisa, ukunyanzeliswa kwe-Obsessive-Compulsive, kunye neeMeko eziNxulumene neMood. Inkampani yoPapasho yaseSpringer.

Ukuqukumbela

Ukuqukumbela, i-EMDR ibonakala ilunyango oluthembisayo lokunceda abafazi abangamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators ukuba bazakhe kwakhona. Ngokunceda ukuphelisa iinkumbulo ezibuhlungu kunye nokuphuhlisa izixhobo ezitsha, ikhuthaza “ukuhlelwa ngokutsha” kokwenene kwengqondo. Ngelixa ingenako ukucima ngokupheleleyo iziphumo zobudlelwane obuyityhefu, inika amaxhoba izixhobo ezixabisekileyo zokuphinda alawule ubomi bawo kwaye aqhubele phambili. Idityaniswe nezinye iindlela zonyango, i-EMDR yenza iqabane elixabisekileyo kwinkqubo yokuphilisa kunye nokukhululwa kwamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators.