Narcissistic Manipulative Ubuhlobo-Ukuqaphela ubuhlobo obuyityhefu

Nangona iimpawu zabaphathi be-narcissistic kubuhlobo zingasoloko zibonakala ekuqaleni (usenokuzifumana bezincama kwaye bezikhohlisa), obu buhlobo buhlala buba cala-nye, bungqubana, bube ngumhlaba kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bube ndlongondlongo. Abahlobo be-Narcissistic bafuna ukunconywa rhoqo, ukubeka phambili iimfuno zabo, ukungabi naluvelwano, balindele lukhulu kubahlobo babo, kwaye bahlala bephelisa ubuhlobo babo xa bengasabakhonza.

Impembelelo yobuhlobo-Yintoni?

Umhlobo we-narcissistic uzibona ephakamile, “ekhethekileyo” xa kuthelekiswa nabanye. Ukuze agcine esi sikhundla siphezulu, uhlala ebajongela phantsi abanye kwaye uzama ngamandla ukubenza bazive bephantsi.

I-manipulative narcissist idla ngokufuna ukuba sisazulu sengqalelo kwaye uziva engcatshiwe ukuba abahlobo bakhe abalulandeli ukhokelo okanye izicwangciso zakhe. Umhlobo okhohlisayo we-narcissistic uya kulindela ukuba ube neembono ezifanayo njengaye kwaye ungaphikisi. Kulapho kuqalwa khona ukubamba ubuhlobo. Kuba, ngokutsho kwakhe, kufuneka uhlale unezimvo ezifanayo kuzo zonke izifundo.

Okubangel ‘umdla kukuba, i-narcissist ihlala ine-low self-esteem abazama ukuyifihla kwihlabathi. Oku kuzibonakalisa ngobunzima bokwamkela ukugxekwa, ngokuziva ehlazekile okanye ehlazekile ngokuphathelele iinkalo ezithile zobuntu bakhe, ngesibakala sokuba wenzakala lula yaye uziva engamkelekanga ngamandla. Umhlobo we-narcissistic ongazibonakalisi ezi mpawu ngaphandle unokuvela njengongenamvakalelo okanye uzimele.

Yintoni i-narcissist enenkohliso?

I-narcissistic manipulator ngumntu onengxaki yobuntu ephawulwa:

• Ukuphathwa kwengqondo kwabanye
• Ukungabi naluvelwano
• Ukuziva wongamile kwaye unamandla onke
• Ukusebenzisa abanye ukufikelela usukelo lomntu
• Ukutshintshana phakathi kokuhenda kunye nokuthotywa kwexabiso lamaxhoba ayo

Lo mntu ufuna ukuseka ulawulo lwengqondo phezu kwabo basondeleyo kubo, ngokufuthi kubangela ixhala, ukuzithemba, kunye nokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kumaxhoba abo.

Iendlela zokuziphatha zabaqhubi be-narcissistic kubuhlobo-5 iimpawu

Abahlobo beNarcissistic badla ngokuba neengxaki kubudlelwane babo kunye nokunxibelelana kwabantu. Oku kusenokungabonakali xa uqala ukudibana nabo, njengoko ii-narcissists ezikhohlisayo zisebenzisa amaqhinga, afana nala “ukuthanda ibhombu“, ukuba abonakale enomtsalane kwaye enomtsalane. Uya kufumanisa ukuba umlingane wakho omtsha ubonakala ebandakanyeka, enomdla kwaye exhasa kwizigaba zokuqala zobudlelwane.

Abahlobo beNarcissistic banokubonisa ezi mpawu zilandelayo kubuhlobo:

1. Bafuna ukunconywa nokunconywa: Kuba bengayazi indlela yokuziqinisekisa okanye ukufumana ixabiso labo, abahlobo abakhohlakeleyo bafuna, balindele, bade bafune ukunconywa nokunconywa ukuze bakhulise ukuzithemba kwabo.
2. Babeka iimfuno zabo kuqala: Ngenxa yokuba abantu abasebenzisa ubuqhetseba bazijonga “njengabaphakamile” okanye abangcono kunabanye, badla ngokuzixakekisa ngokuzanelisa nokungabi naluvelwano ngeentswelo zabahlobo babo.
3. Iincoko zihlala zingekho phezulu: Abenzi bobuqhophololo beNarcissistic ekuqaleni banokubonwa ngabahlobo babo njengabangenalwazi okanye babucala. Enyanisweni, bagcina incoko ingekho ngqiqweni ngelinge lokuphepha ukusondelelana.
4. Azikho kuwe xa uzifuna ngokwenene: Narcissistic manipulators banobunzima bokuchonga iimfuno zabanye, ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabo, kunye nokubonelela ngokuqinisekiswa ngaphandle kokuba kubonwa njengento efanelekileyo okanye eyinzuzo kubo ngokobuqu.
5. Bacinga ukuba ixesha lakho lelabo: Abasebenzisa ubuqhophololo balindele ukufumana oko bakufunayo kwaye bahlala bekholelwa ukuba bayatyala okanye bafanelwe ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo babo. Usenokufuna ukuba uchithe ixesha naye, ucaphuke, okanye ugqabhuke ngumsindo ukuba uyalurhoxisa ucwangciso lwakho.

Ububona njani ubuhlobo obuyityhefu?

Ubuhlobo yindlela ezimbini, apho sinikela kwaye sifumana; isekelwe ekuthembaneni, ekunyanisekeni nasekuvelaneni. Ngokwenkcazo, ii-narcissists ziswele uvelwano kwaye azifane zithembeke okanye zinyaniseke, kwaye ngenxa yoko azikwazi ukuba ngumhlobo wokwenene. Ke nali icebo lokwazi ukuba unobuhlobo obuyityhefu (ubudlelwane obuyityhefu) :

• Banokudinwa ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo. Umzekelo, bafuna ukuqinisekiswa rhoqo, bafuna ingqalelo yakho, baphule imida yobuhlobo, bakubeke phantsi, njl.
• Abanakuzifaka ezicathulweni zakho, abazi ukuba bamamele njani kwaye bathethe kuphela ngabo. Unokuphendula ekugxekeni kwakho ngento ethi, “Gqiba kuyo, yonke into iya kulunga.” Ngoko ke mandikuxelele ngokuthandana kwam!”
• Bahlala beziva benelungelo, basebenzise ithuba lakho, kwaye banolindelo olungekho ngqiqweni. Umzekelo, bafuna inkonzo “engxamisekileyo” kwaye balindele ukuba ulahle yonke into ukuze ubancede.
• Abakuthathi kakuhle ukugxekwa. On ngokuchaseneyo, bavame ukukujika kwaye bathethe into enje: “Uthetha ukuthini, kufuneka ndiphucule izakhono zam zokubhala? Ndicinga ukuba uyaziveza!”
• Umntu usenokugqajukelwa ngumsindo okanye abe nomsindo xa ekhathazekile. Oku kudla ngokwenzeka xa engayifumani into ayifunayo okanye xa efumana ukonzakala.

Ireferensi yebhayibhili malunga nobuhlobo kunye ne-narcissistic pervert

Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili kumxholo wobuhlobo obuyityhefu:

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7. Perrot, C. (2023). L’impact des amitiés toxiques sur le bien-être psychologique. Journal de Psychologie Clinique, 40(1), 12-25.

Ezi mbekiselo ziya kukunika isiqalo esihle sokuphonononga isihloko sobuhlobo obuyityhefu kwiimbono ezahlukeneyo.

Ubuhlobo kunye nomxhaphazi we-narcissistic – Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukubaleka?

Ukuba nomhlobo we-narcissistic manipulative kunokuba yinkohliso kwaye kunokubangela iingxaki kubomi bakho kunye nempilo. Kubalulekile ukuchonga iimpawu zomhlobo we-narcissistic ukuze kulungiswe le miba yokuziphatha. Eli linyathelo lokuqala ekuphuhliseni izakhono ezifanelekileyo zokulawula i-narcissism yomntu, kubandakanya ukuhlengahlengisa ubudlelwane bakho, iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzikhathalela kunye nokumisela indlela yokuziphatha esempilweni, kunye nokufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha.

Khumbula ukuba usoloko unokhetho kwaye kukho iindlela eziphilileyo zokuqhubela phambili, nokuba ugqiba ekubeni uqhubeke nobuhlobo okanye akunjalo.