Yonke into ofuna ukuyazi malunga nesifo somsindisi wokomoya

Isifo somsindisi wokomoya : Sisoloko sidibana nabantu abasithandayo nabakholelwa ukuba banezisombululo kuzo zonke iingxaki zethu. I-Savior syndrome ngokomoya inokubangela uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo kumsindisi, ngakumbi ukuba baziva bebophelelekile ekuncedeni abanye kwimeko yenkolo okanye yokomoya. Noko ke, kubalulekile ukuba siyiqonde imida yamandla ethu okunceda abanye ngaphandle kokulalanisa. 

Yintoni iSavior Syndrome kuMoya?

THE umsindisi syndrome kukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, okukhokelela kumnqweno wokunceda abanye kuzo zonke iimeko. Xa unale ngxaki, usenokuzibeka emngciphekweni wokunceda ummelwane wakho, kwaye udakumbe ukuba uyasilela kumsebenzi wakho.

Kubumoya, esi sifo sisenokuba ngumqondiso wokuba akuxolanga nawe okanye ufuna ukukholisa abanye ukuze bazive uthandwa. Kwiimeko ezithile, ide ikuthintele ekuhlonipheni inkululeko yokuzikhethela yabanye, enokuthi ibe yingxaki ngokukhawuleza.

Zithini iimpawu zokuvuka ngokomoya?

• Ukuziva njengomntu omtsha
• Kulumkele ukuziphatha kwakho kakubi kunye nezimo zengqondo eziyingozi
• Ukuba nesidingo se-authenticity kunye nokungafuni ukuba phezulu
• Ukuba novelwano kunye nosizi xa ujongene nokubandezeleka kwabanye, behlabathi
• Yenza okulungileyo kwaye uthathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo malunga nawe
• Yiba ne-hypersensitivity kunye nophuhliso lweemvakalelo zomoya ezi-5 (intuition, ukwazi, iimvakalelo, inkuthazo kunye nokucinga)
• Ukuqhutywa sisidingo sokuqonda iiprojekthi / amaphupha akho, impembelelo eyandisiweyo kunye nobuchule
• Ukuba nesidingo sokuzazi, ukuzifumana kunye nokunxibelelana nawe
• I-orchestration emangalisayo kunye nokuhambelana ebomini (yonke into ihambelana ngokugqibeleleyo)
• Abantu abane-syndrome yomsindisi wokomoya bahlakulela imvakalelo yokubulela kunye neemvakalelo ezintle (ukuphela koloyiko, umkhwa wokukhathazeka, njl.
• Funa uxolo olunzulu kunye nokuzola
• Ukuhlalwa ngumnqweno wokuthanda nokunika ngaphandle kwezizathu, ngaphandle kokulindela nantoni na
• Yiba nemvakalelo yokutsalwa kwaye uqhagamshelwe kuyo yonke into (indalo, abantu, indalo, izilwanyana, njl.njl.)

Yintoni ebangela ukuvuswa ngokomoya?

Nazi izizathu eziphambili ze-syndrome yokuvuka ngokomoya:

1-Isiganeko esibalulekileyo

Ukuvuswa kokomoya kunokubangelwa sisiganeko esibalulekileyo okanye isiganeko esinganyangekiyo esinokuphakamisa ulwazi kuwe. Ngokutsho kukaShannon Kaiser, iziganeko eziphambili ezizisa utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho zezona zizathu zaziwa kakhulu zokuvuka ngokomoya. Isenokuba a ukugxothwa okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, isiporho yeqabane lakho, lokuhamba, njl.

2-Ukwenzakala

Ngaphaya koko, ukuvuswa ngokomoya kunokubangelwa kukwenzakala okuphindaphindiweyo kwemihla ngemihla.: ukuphulukana nomntu omthandayo, ingozi yendlela, imfazwe, hlala kwi usapho lwenarcissistic manipulative, njalo njalo. Olu vavanyo lubuhlungu lukhokelela ekubeni utshintshe i-paradigm yakho kwaye uphile ngendlela yokomoya ngakumbi.

3-Othandekayo okanye iqabane lomphefumlo

Pha inkampani okanye omnye wabathandekayo bakho inokuba yimvelaphi yokuvuka kwakho ngokomoya. Uya kukuvulela lo mnyango wokomoya ukuze uzuze ukuphakama ngokomoya. Igama elithi “ukuvuka” libhekisela kwisenzo sokuzibonakalisa okanye ukuvakalisa ubunzulu bakho (isenzo sokuzityhila).

Iziphumo zesifo somsindisi

Umsindisi we-syndrome ngokomoya unokuba nemiphumo ebalulekileyo, kumntu ogulayo kunye nakwabo bajikelezile. Nazi iimpembelelo eziphambili:

1. Ukudinwa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokudinwa ngokomoya

• Utyalo-mali olugqithisileyo ekuncedeni abanye
• Ukungahoywa kweemfuno zikabani kunye nempilo-ntle
• Ukuziva ungento yanto phezu kwako nje ukusebenza ngamandla ngokomoya

2. Uphuhliso lobudlelwane obuyityhefu

• Ukudala amakhonkco okuxhomekeka kunye nabantu “abancedisiweyo”.
• Ubunzima bokumisela imida enempilo
• Utyekelo lokutsala abantu abanobuqhophololo okanye abakhohlisayo

3. Ukuphazamiseka kokusebenza ngokomoya

• Ukusebenzisa ubumoya njengendlela yokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle
• Ukubhideka phakathi kwe-ego yokomoya kunye nendaleko yokwenene yomntu
• Ukulahleka kobunyani kwindlela yomoya

4. Impembelelo kwimpilo yengqondo

• Ukuphuhliswa kokuxhalaba okungapheliyo
• Imijikelo yetyala kunye neentloni
• Ukuphulukana nokuzithemba xa iziphumo zingahlangabezani nokulindelweyo

5. Ukungalingani kubomi bomntu

• Ubunzima bokugcina ubudlelwane obulungeleleneyo
• Ukungahoywa kweenkalo eziphathekayo zobomi
• Ukwahluka ekuhlaleni ngaphandle kwesangqa somoya

6. Izithintelo kuPhuhliso loMoya oluyiNyaniso

• Ukuvaleka kuphuhliso lomntu
• Ubunzima bokubona iindawo zakho ezingwevu
• Ukuchasana nomsebenzi wangaphakathi wokwenyani

7. Iziphumo zobuchwephesha

• Umsebenzi omninzi kwimisebenzi yenkxaso
• Ubunzima bokumisela imida yobungcali
• Ukudideka phakathi kobizo lokomoya kunye nomsebenzi

8. Impembelelo kwabo bakungqongileyo

• Ukudala ii-dynamics ezingafanelekanga kubudlelwane
• Ukuziva benetyala okanye benetyala phakathi kwabo bafumana uncedo
• Ukudinwa kwabathandekayo bajongene nokuziphatha okunyanzelekileyo kokunceda

Zeziphi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ze-savior syndrome?

Nazi iintlobo ezi-3 ze-savior syndrome:

I-1-Isifo somsindisi owonakele

Ungumntu ofuna ukunconywa, ukuqwalaselwa kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke ukuthandwa. Ufanele aqondwe ukuze abuyekeze okanye omeleze umfanekiso anawo ngaye. Le mfuneko yokucingelwa, ukunconywa kunye nokuqondwa kuyamnceda ukuba aphilise amanxeba akhe angaphambili. Ezi zibonakaliso zesifo somsindisi owonakele.

I-2-I-emphatic savior syndrome

Ihlala idibana kwizibini kunye nobudlelwane bothando. Uluhlobo lomsindisi obonisa isidingo esisisigxina sokunciphisa i-gap okanye umgama okhoyo phakathi kwakhe kunye neqabane / iqabane lakhe. Uyayilawula le yokugqibela ukuze angaphumeleli kakhulu kuba esoyika ukuba ngenye imini uya kumshiya okanye amshiye.

3-I-terrorizing savior syndrome

Le yityhefu yomsindisi syndrome, kuba umsindisi ufuna ngokupheleleyo ukulawula iqabane lakhe okanye umntu owabelana nobomi babo bemihla ngemihla. Isifundo esibandezelekayo kolu hlobo lwe-savior syndrome si-hypersensitive kwaye sifuna ukwazi iinkcukacha ezincinci zobomi bomlingane wabo.

Ireferensi yebhayibhiliyografi kwisifo somsindisi wokomoya

Nazi iireferensi ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili kumxholo othi “savior syndrome” kunye nokomoya:

1. Miller, W. R., & Rollnick, S. (2002). L’entretien motivationnel : Aider les personnes à changer. Paris : Éditions de l’Organisation.
2. Gagnon, M. (2017). Le syndrome du sauveur : Enjeux et impacts sur la relation d’aide. Revue québécoise de psychologie, 38(1), 45-62.
3. Bouchard, C. (2016). Les pièges de la bienveillance : Comprendre le syndrome du sauveur. Psychologies Magazine.
4. Férré, J. (2011). Spiritualité et psychologie : Regards croisés. Paris : Éditions L’Harmattan.
5. Cohen, L. (2019). La souffrance des sauveurs : Quand aider devient un fardeau. Psychiatrie et santé mentale, 25(3), 210-215.
6. Dumont, C. (2015). Les relations d’aide : Éthique et risques du syndrome du sauveur. Revue de la santé, 30(4), 33-40.
7. Pérez, A. (2018). Spiritualité et aide psychologique : Une approche intégrative. Paris : Éditions Eyrolles.

Ezi mbekiselo ziya kukunika isishwankathelo esihle salo mbandela.

Savior Syndrome yokomoya – Isiphelo

Ngokufutshane, i-spirit savior syndrome sisifo sobuntu. Esi siphazamiso sibangelwa kukwenzakala, imeko enxulunyaniswa nokhuseleko lweemvakalelo olungafunyanwanga kakuhle ngexesha lobuntwana. Ukufumana uncedo kwi-psychologist kuya kukuvumela ukuba unqobe izithintelo ezithile kwaye unciphise lo kuziphatha, okuzikhukhumeza kunye nokugqwetha.