Umyeni we-Narcissistic Manipulative Wife-Imiqondiso

Umyeni womfazi okhohlisayo onama-narcissistic: Umtshato yimeko ehambelana ne-narcissistic manipulator kakuhle. Ungenzi mpazamo, ngokwale mbono, umtshato awubobungqina bothando lwakhe ngawe. Kunokuba sisixhobo ukomeleza ulawulo alusebenzisayo kwixhoba lakhe.

Yintoni inkosikazi enenkohliso?

Ibhinqa elikhohlisayo lingumntu obonisa iimpawu zobuntu eziphawulwe ngesidingo esigqithisileyo sokunconywa, ukungabi naluvelwano, kunye notyekelo lokukhohlisa abanye ukugcina ulawulo lwengqondo kunye nokulawula. Ufuna ukuseka amandla akhe ngokujongela phantsi, ukugxeka okanye ukuphazamisa abo bamngqongileyo, ngakumbi kubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ngelixa egcina i-facade ye-charm kunye ne-charisma ukugcina umfanekiso omhle ngaye.

Kutheni i-narcissist ekhohlisayo itshata?

Siyakukhumbuza apha, kodwa i-narcissistic manipulator ayingomntu oyindoda. Kwenzeka ukuba iqabane narcissistic ngaphakathi isibini kwenzeka ukuba umfazi. Le ngcaciso kufuneka yenziwe ukuze kuthintelwe ukudityaniswa kunye nokugweba kakubi umntu ongalunganga. Njengoko ukwazi indlela i-narcissistic perversion ezibonakalisa ngayo inzima kakhulu.

Isizathu esiya kutyhala umntu okhohlisayo ukuba atshate iya kuba nguMachiavellian kuphela. Ukuba sisenzo soluntu esiguqula isimo somntu omnye kwaye oku komnye. Ngokulawula ukuzibophelela kweqabane lakhe emtshatweni, umbhexeshi we-narcissistic ufumana amandla anamandla. Umfazi utshata ngo ihambelana noluntu, kodwa nangenxa khulula u-narcissism yakho. Ukuphela kwendlela yokubaleka kweqabane kukwahlukana ngokuqhawula umtshato, i-narcissist kunye nomthuthumbisi akayi kwenza umsebenzi wakhe ube lula.

“Ukutshata nomntu okhohlisayo uhlala esihogweni yonke imihla”

Wazi njani ukuba inkosikazi yakho ingumxhaphazi we-narcissistic?

Ukwazi ukuba ukubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator, kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha onokuthi uzibhaqe.

• Yena kuqala kuzo zonkegxeka yonke into phakathi kwesibini. I-narcissistic manipulator iya kusebenzisa esi sicwangciso sokuukwenza umntu azive enetyalaumyeni wakhe.
• Yena uya kukwenzathoba ixabisongala mazwi, kwayekwezinye iimeko, uya kukuncoma. Injongo yayo kukuba‘yinyanzelise ingqondo yakhokwaye ikwenze uthambe ngakumbi. Ke ngoko uya kutshintsha ubuso ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko ukuze amfumanele okona kulungileyo.
• Owasetyhini othanda i-narcissistic uya kubonisa u- uvelwano kwiqabane lakhe. Emehlweni akhe, kuphela umdla wakhe obala kwaye omnye ukho kuphela ukumnceda akhanye.
• I-manipulative narcissist is very dominant kwaye ikwaegocentric. Uya kuzama ukongamela omnye kuzo zonke iimeko ezinokwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, oku kwenziwa rhoqo ngaphakathi kwekhaya. Akukho nto iya kubhaqwa ngabakhi-mkhanyo bangaphandle. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, uziva uyolo oluthile ekuboneni iqabane lakhe likwimeko elusizi. Uya kuvuyiswa kukubandezeleka kwakhe.

Elona xhoba lomfazi onama-narcissistic-Umyeni

Yintoni eyenza Umyeni lixhoba elifanelekileyo le-manipulator, Kukuba kufutshane kwayo. Ngokungafaniyo nabanye abantu abamngqongileyo, umyeni nguye ofikeleleka lula kuye. Ukuhlala phantsi kophahla olufanayo kunye nokwabelana ngebhedi enye, unokulusebenzisa ulawulo lwakhe ngokulula. Ngokukodwa ekubeni ukusetwa kwabucala kwekhaya kuhlala kuthintela ukuphazamiseka kwabangaphandle. I-narcissistic manipulator ke inamandla okulawula kunye nokomeleza ulawulo lwakhe kumyeni wakhe.

“Igumbi lethu liye laba sisisele sam, indlu yam intolongo yam nomfazi wam umgcini wamabanjwa”

Ingaba umenzi we-narcissistic uthembekile?

Ukunyaniseka yingcinga engabalulekanga kangako kwi-narcissistic manipulator. Ekubeni engenamvakalelo ngendoda yakhe, ifanele ibe njalo ukuthembeka kukwindawo yesibini ngokupheleleyo. Ubudlelwane abugcinayo kunye neqabane lakhe ngaphakathi kwesakhelo somtshato lobo bento ezalisekisa iimfuno zakhe. Inene, kumgibi we-narcissistic, ixhoba lakhe likhona ukuze likwazi ukwanelisa iimpembelelo zalo.

Nangona kunjalo, uya kuzibonakalisa unomona kakhulu kwezinye iimeko. Isizathu kukuba sisicwangciso kuphela. Oku kumvumela ukuba afihle ukungabi namdla ngokweemvakalelo kwiqabane lakhe. Nangona kunjalo, uya kufuna ukunyaniseka okungapheliyo kuye ukuze aqinisekise ukuba unolawulo olupheleleyo kwixhoba lakhe. Pha umona we-narcissistic manipulator uyingozi yeqabane.

Umyeni weGqwetha – Kufuneka enze ntoni ngomfazi wakhe okhohlakeleyo, okhohlakeleyo?

Inyathelo lokuqala indoda emele ilithabathe ukuze ihlangabezane nenkosikazi ekhohlakeleyo, ekhohlisayo kukufumana ubuthathaka bakhe. Ubuthathaka bomntu okhohlisayo eluthandweni luya kuxhomekeka kubuntu bakhe. Nangona kunjalo, kukho uphawu olunye olungaguqukiyo kumntu ogqwethekileyo. Kwaye yinyani yokuchasa impembelelo yayo kunye ne Yaphula inkoloseko yogwenxa kwaye oku ngokufumana i indawo ebuthathaka ye-manipulator. Indoda ifanele ijamelane namaqhinga omfazi wayo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, uya kuzenza ixhoba lokukhohlisa elona xhoba. Ukoyisa oku, kubalulekile ukuba uzixhobise ngesigqibo esinamandla.

Ireferensi yebhayibhilografi

Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi ezithetha ngomxholo “womyeni wendoda ekhohlisayo”:

1. Marie-France Hirigoyen – Le Harcèlement moral : la violence perverse au quotidien (1998).
   Marie France Hirigoyen
2. Paul-Claude Racamier – Les perversions narcissiques (1986).
3. Alberto Eiguer – Le pervers narcissique et son complice (2010).
4. Isabelle Nazare-Aga – Les manipulateurs sont parmi nous (1997).
5. Marie-France Hirigoyen – Femmes sous emprise : les ressorts de la violence dans le couple (2005).
6. Christel Petitcollin – Échapper aux manipulateurs : les solutions existent (2010).
7. Marc Joly – La perversion narcissique : étude sociologique (2024).

Le misebenzi ibonelela ngokuqonda okunzulu kokutshintshatshintsha okubandakanyekayo kubudlelwane nomntu obonisa iimpawu ezigqwethekileyo ze-narcissistic, enika iimbono zethiyori kunye neengcebiso ezisebenzayo.

Ukuqukumbela

Elokuqukumbela, ukuhlala nebhinqa elinobuqhophololo yingxaki enzulu ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo kwiqabane, elisoloko lizifumana lisetyenziswa kwaye livaleleke kubudlelwane obutshabalalisayo. Ukuqonda le ntshukumo eyityhefu kubalulekile ukuvumela iqabane ukuba lifune inkxaso kwaye liqwalasele iindlela zokuzikhulula kule mpembelelo.