I-mythomaniac ekhohlisayo: yiqonde, idodobalise, zikhusele kuyo

Ekuqaleni, amabali akhe athabathekile kuwe: ixesha elidlulileyo elingaqhelekanga, ubudlelwane obuhloniphekileyo, iiprojekthi ezinomdla. Emva koko iinkcukacha zaqala ukungadibanisi. Umhla oguqukayo, idiploma engafumanekiyo, umhlobo ongazange uve nge-anecdote. Xa ubuza, usoloko enempendulo, ibe nguwe ogqiba ekubeni azive enetyala ngenxa yokuthandabuza.

Usenokuba uyazibuza ukuba ngaba ujongene ne-mythomaniac ekhohlisayo. Eli nqaku likunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba yintoni i-mythomania, yahluke njani kwi-manipulation, indlela yokuyiqonda, indlela yokusabela kumntu ohlala exoka, kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke indlela yokuzikhusela.

Mythomania: isifo?

IMythomania ibhekisela kutyekelo lokuxoka ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngokufuthi ngokwenza amabali ahombisa into yokwenene okanye aqaqambise umntu. Sikwathetha “ngobuxoki be-pathological” okanye, ngeyona ndlela imangalisayo, ye-pseudologia fantastica, igama elisetyenziswe ngoogqirha bengqondo ngaphezu kwekhulu leminyaka.

Ngaba sisifo? Impendulo i-nuanced. I-Mythomania, ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ayilulo uxilongo ngokwalo kuhlelo olukhulu lwengqondo. Ithathwa njengophawu olunokuhamba nokuphazamiseka okwahlukeneyo, ngakumbi ukuphazamiseka kobuntu. Uphononongo olwenziwe ngo-2021 ngo European Psychiatry ukhumbula ukuba isifundo sihlala sixoxwa kwi-psychiatry, kwaye kubalulekile ukwahlula ubuxoki obuqhelekileyo kubuxoki be-pathological.

Abaphandi bakwacela ukuqondwa okucacileyo. Uphononongo olwapapashwa ngo-2020 nguDrew Curtis kunye noChristian Hart luchaza ubuxoki be-pathological njengokuxoka okuzingileyo, okuhlala kubonakala ngathi kunyanzelekile, ngamanye amaxesha kuqale kubuxoki bokuqala obandisayo, kwaye kubangele ukubandezeleka kokwenyani kunye nobunzima ebomini bomntu. Ukuze ufunde ngakumbi malunga nemvelaphi kunye nokusebenza kwe-mythomania, funda inqaku lethu olunzulu mythomania.

Mythomaniac okanye manipulator: yintoni umahluko?

Ayizizo zonke ii-mythomaniacs ezingama-manipulators, kwaye ayizizo zonke ii-manipulators eziyi-mythomaniacs. Umahluko ulele kwi-function yokuxoka:

• Kwi- mythomaniac “elula”, ukuxoka kusetyenziswa ikakhulu ukuhombisa umfanekiso kabani, ukuzalisa ukuziva ungento yanto okanye ukungafaneleki. Angaphantse aphele ewakholelwa amabali akhe. Udla ngokuphathwa yiyo ngokwakhe.
• Kwi-manipulator, ukuxoka sisixhobo sokufumana into: ukuncoma kwakho, imali yakho, ukuxhomekeka kwakho, okanye ukuzikhulula kwizenzo zakho.
• Kwi-manipulative mythomaniac, ezi zimbini zidibanisa: wenza umfanekiso ocekethekileyo ukuze ahende, emva koko asebenzise ubuxoki ukuze alawule, enze abantu bazive benetyala, kwaye baphazamise.

Yile profayile yokugqibela eyenza umonakalo omkhulu kubudlelwane, kuba ukuxoka akukona nje impazamo: kuba yindlela yokusebenza ejolise ukugcina ulawulo. Ihlala ifunyanwa kubantu abafaneleke ukuba ngama-narcisists agqwethekileyo. Jonga umzobo wethu we-QQiqa elisebenzayo .

Indlela yokuqonda i-mythomaniac ekhohlisayo

Nazi iimpawu eziqhelekileyo. Akukho namnye owaneleyo; yingqokelela yazo ekufuneka ikwazise.

Kwintetho yakhe

• Amabali amangalisayo: wayesoloko efumana izinto ezingaqhelekanga, ebazi abantu ababalulekileyo, esondela kwizinto ezisetyenziswayo.
• Iinkcukacha ezitshintsha : ianecdote efanayo ixelwa ngokwahlukileyo ngokuxhomekeke kusuku okanye abantu othetha nabo.
• Ready iimpendulo: xa ubona ukungahambelani, ngokukhawuleza kunengcaciso, ihlala iyinkimbinkimbi.
• UA edlulileyo kunzima ukuqinisekiswa: amangqina ambalwa, “enomsindo” okanye “uhambe kude” izalamane.

Ngendlela asabela ngayo

• UA ukucaphuka okukhulu xa sithandabuza: “Ngaba undibiza ngexoki? Emva kwayo yonke into endikwenzela yona?”
• Role reversal: nguwe okrokrayo, unomona, othandabuzayo.
• Gaslighting: Uyakhanyela ukuthetha into ayithethileyo, ikwenza uyithandabuze inkumbulo yakho. Inqaku lethu malunga ne-gaslighting phrase inika imizekelo emininzi.
• Iinyembezi okanye ukuxhatshazwa okomzuzwana efunyenwe.

Kubudlelwane

• uhlala uziva ubhidekile, ngokungathi inyaniso iyaguquguquka;
• uyakhangela, ukhangele ubungqina, emva koko ukucaphukele ukuyenza;
• abantu obathandayo banexhala okanye bayekile ukukholelwa;
• imibuzo yemali ihlala ingacacanga (amatyala, iimali-mboleko, iiprojekthi azizange zenzeke).

Narcissistic mythomaniac: kutheni ikhonkco lixhaphake kangaka

Ubuxoki be-narcissistic mythomaniac buhlala bujolise ekukhuseleni umfanekiso wesiqu sakho. Ukuqaphela impazamo, ukungaphumeleli okanye ubuthathaka akunyamezeleki kuye: ukhetha ukuyibhala kwakhona inyaniso. Kwakhona uyaxoka ukuze afumane ukuthandwa. Xa lo mntu engena kubudlelwane, ukuxoka kuba sisixhobo sokulawula: uyayazi into akuxelele yona, awusazi ukuba yinyani. Abasetyhini banokubonisa oku kusebenza: inqaku lethu ku-i-narcissistic manipulator iyayibonisa.

Qaphela ukuba ungabhidanisi yonke into: abanye abantu abanengxaki yengqondo banokwenza iinkcazo ezingachanekanga ngaphandle kokufuna ukukhohlisa. Inqaku lethu le-bipolar, i-manipulator okanye ixoki? ikunceda ukuba uxelele umahluko.

Ungazinzisa njani i-mythomaniac (kwaye ngaphezu kwakho konke zikhusele)

Abantu abaninzi bazama “ukujika” i-mythomaniac, ukumenza avume. Oku kuyaqondakala, kodwa kudla ngokudinwa kwaye akusebenzi kakhulu: unomkhwa wokudoda. Kungcono ukujolisa uzinzo lwakho kunokuba avume. Nantsi indlela enamanqaku asi-7:

1. Themba iinyani, hayi amagama. Into ayenzayo ibaluleke ngaphezu koko akuthethayo. Qwalasela ukungqinelana phakathi kwezi zimbini.
2. Gcina iirekhodi. Qaphela imihla, izithembiso, iinguqulelo ezilandelelanayo. Gcina imiyalezo. Oku kukukhusela kwintandabuzo kunye nezibane zegesi.
3. Buza imibuzo ethile, ezolileyo. “Ngowuphi usuku?” Nabani ? » Ubuxoki abuchazi kakuhle kwiinkcukacha ezibambekayo. Kodwa musa ukuyenza ibe yimibuzo rhoqo.
4. Ungathethelela ukuthandabuza. Ukuthandabuza ebusweni bokungangqinelani kusempilweni. Isivakalisi esinye sanele: “Into oyithethayo ayihambelani nento endiyaziyo.”
5. Yala iingxoxo ezingapheliyo. Ukuba ingxoxo iya kwisangqa kwaye ekugqibeleni utyholwa, yiphelise: “Andizukuqhubeka nale ncoko.”
6. Khusela iimali zakho kunye namaxwebhu. Musa ukuboleka imali ngaphandle kwerekhodi ebhaliweyo, musa ukusayina nantoni na phantsi koxinzelelo, gcina ukufikelela kwiiakhawunti zakho.
7. Thetha ngayo ngaphandle. Umntu othandekayo, ingcali, umbutho: imbono yangaphandle ikunceda ukuba ugcine unyawo kwinyani.

Ukufumana ezinye iimpendulo ezibambekayo zokuxoka, jongana nesikhokelo sethu the manipulator ngokweemvakalelo.

Uluhlu lokukhangela: ngaba uthandana nomntu oyintsomi okhohlisayo?

• ☐ Amabali akhe atshintsha ngokuxhomekeke kumhla okanye umntu.
• ☐ Andikwazi ukuqinisekisa okuninzi koko andixelele kona.
• ☐ Xa ndithandabuza, ndim ogqiba ngokuxolisa.
• ☐ Ndihlala ndibhidekile emva kweengxoxo zethu.
• ☐ Imicimbi yemali ihlala ingacacanga okanye ingasonjululwa.
• ☐ Abo basondeleyo kum baye babonisa amathandabuzo ngaye (okanye ngaye).
• ☐ Izingxengxezo zakhe, xa zikho, azitshintshi nto.

Indlela yokuphatha i-mythomania?

Umntu onentsomi unokuvela ukuba uyayibona ingxaki yakhe kwaye athathe unyango lwengqondo. Indlela yokwenza kufuneka ivele kuye: awukwazi ukumphatha ngenxa yakhe. Umsebenzi udla ngokugxininisa ukuzithemba, ihlazo, imfuneko yokuqatshelwa. Inqaku lethu malunga ne-mythomania kunye nokuphilisa zichaza ezi ndlela. Xa ubuxoki busetyenziselwa ukukhwabanisa kwaye umntu akaboni ngxaki kwindlela yokuziphatha kwabo, amathuba okutshintsha aphantsi.

Inqaku lezempilo: ukuba uyazibuza malunga nobuxoki bakho, unganqikazi ukubonisana nodokotela wengqondo okanye ugqirha wengqondo: akusiyo ihlazo, linyathelo lokuqala. Ukuba ubudlelwane buye bakushiya uziva uxhalabile, udiniwe, okanye udandathekile, thetha nogqirha wakho.Kwimeko yengozi : 3919, 17Okanye112.

Imibuzo ebuzwa qho

Ngaba umntu wasentsomini uyazi ukuba uyaxoka?

Amaxesha amaninzi ewe, ubuncinane xa exoka. Nangona kunjalo, abanye baphetha ngokukholelwa amabali abo kangangokuba umda uba luzizi nakubo.

Ngaba lukhona uvavanyo lwe-mythomania?

Akukho vavanyo oluthembekileyo lwe-intanethi. Yingcali kuphela enokuvavanya ukuxoka kwe-pathological, ethathela ingqalelo imbali yomntu kunye nokuphazamiseka okunxulumene noko.

Ngaba kufuneka sijongane nomntu wasentsomini?

Ungazichaza iinyani ngokuzolileyo, kodwa ulindele ukukhanyelwa okanye ukuchaswa. Ungquzulwano lusetyenziswa ikakhulu ukuchaza isikhundla sakho, hayi ukufumana isivumo.

Ngaba i-manipulative mythomaniac ingatshintsha uthando?

Uthando lodwa alwanelanga. Utshintsho oluhlala luhleli lufuna ulwazi kunye nomsebenzi wonyango kwicala lomntu ngokwakhe.

Ukuqukumbela

Ukuhlala ne-mythomaniac ekhohlisayo kuthetha ukuhlala kwinkungu esisigxina. Unelungelo lokufuna inyaniso, kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke unelungelo lokuzikhusela. Themba izibakala, gcina iingxelo, zingqonge, kwaye ukhumbule ukuba amathandabuzo akho ayefanelekile. Ukuba ungathanda inkxaso yokuphuma kule nkungu, fumana i-inkxaso kumaxhoba e-narcissistic perverts.

Imithombo

• Curtis D. A. et Hart C. L., « Pathological Lying: Theoretical and Empirical Support for a Diagnostic Entity », Psychiatric Research and Clinical Practice, 2020 : PMC9176035
• Valadas M. T. et Freitas R. M., « Lying in psychiatry: A review », European Psychiatry, 2021 : PMC9475576
• Inkonzo-Uluntu.fr, “Ubundlobongela basekhaya”: service-public.gouv.fr