I-bipolar, i-manipulative okanye ixoki? Yahlula nge-narcissistic manipulator

Ukuthembisa ngezimanga ngenye imini, angakuhoyi kolandelayo. Wakuxokisa ngezinto ezibalulekileyo, waza walila. Ngaba uzama ukuqonda: ngaba le ngxaki ye-bipolar? Ukulawula? Ubuxoki obusulungekileyo nobulula? Okanye ukusebenza kwe-narcissistic manipulative?

Umbuzo ufanelekile, kwaye ufuna impendulo enzima. Okokuqala kuba kufuneka uyiqonde into ojongene nayo ukuze uzikhusele. Ke ngenxa yokuba abantu abane-bipolar disorder sele benocalucalulo oluninzi, kwaye bekuya kuba yinto engafanelekanga ukubabhidanisa nee-manipulators. Eli nqaku likunceda ukuba uxelele umahluko, ngaphandle kokwenza ukuxilongwa endaweni yengcali.

I-bipolar disorder, ngamagama ambalwa

I-bipolar disorder sisifo se-QQAPHELA ingqondo ephawulwa ngokutshintsha kwemo yengqondo. Ngokutsho kweGunya eliPhakamileyo lezeMpilo, lidibanisa iziqendu ezidandathekileyo kunye neziqendu ze-elation (mania okanye i-hypomania), ehlulwe ngamaxesha apho i-mood izinzile. I-Inshurensi yezeMpilo ibonisa ukuba esi sigulo esinganyangekiyo esinokunyangwa ngonyango olufanelekileyo kunye nokubekwa kweliso.

Ngexesha le-manic okanye i-hypomanic episode, umntu unoku:

• thetha kakhulu, ngokukhawuleza kakhulu, suka kwenye ingcamango uye kwenye;
• ukulala kancinci ngaphandle kokuziva udiniwe;
• ukwenza inkcitho enkulu okanye izigqibo ezinobungozi;
• thenga kakhulu ubuchule bakho, yenza izithembiso ezingenakwenzeka;
• ukucaphuka, ngamanye amaxesha ube buhlungu.

Ngexesha lokudakumba, ngokuchaseneyo, unokuhoxisa, alahlekelwe yiyo yonke isantya, angasaphenduli kwimiyalezo, okanye azive engenamsebenzi.

Olu lwahlulo yi engakhethwanga. Ayikokufumana nto kuwe. Lo ngumahluko obalulekileyo ngokukhohlisa.

Ngaba umntu one-bipolar unenkohliso?

Hayi, ingxaki yebipolar ayikwenzi ube nobuchule bokukhohlisa. Umntu one-bipolar unako, njengaye nabani na, ukubonakalisa ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo, kodwa oku akusiyo impawu yesigulo. Uphononongo olucwangcisiweyo olupapashwe kwi-2023 kwiInternational Journal of Bipolar Disorders ibonisa indlela abantu abaphila nesi sifo, kunye neentsapho zabo, abachanabeka ngayo kwibala. Ukuzifanisa ngokuzenzekelayo kwii-manipulators kukhuthaza oku kukhatywa.

Yintoni esinokuyiqwalasela, nangona kunjalo:

• Broken izithembiso ezenziwe kwisigaba sochulumanco, ukunyaniseka okwangoku, akunakwenzeka ukugcina emva koko.
• Hurtful comments ngexesha lokucaphuka, uhlala uzisole xa umoya uzinzile.
• A ukukhanyela ukugula ngamaxesha athile, anokubonakala ngathi ukholo olubi.

Ezi ziphatha zibangela ukubandezeleka kwabo bakungqongileyo, kwaye unelungelo lokubeka imida. Kodwa imvelaphi yabo yahlukile kuleyo yeqhinga lokulawula.

Ngaba i-bipolar lixoki?

Akunjalo ngendalo. Nangona kunjalo, iindlela zokuziphatha ezithile zinokufunyanwa njengobuxoki: ukukhanyela inkcitho eyenziwe ngexesha le-manic, ukunciphisa ukuphinda ubuyele ehlazweni, ukubalisa izicwangciso ezinkulu ezingayi kuzaliseka. Iintloni kunye noloyiko lokugwetywa zidlala indima enkulu. Ukuxoka, xa kukho, kudla ngokukhusela isiqu sakho kunokuba kuxhaphaze abanye.

Ngokwahlukileyo koko, kumntu okhohlisayo okanye we-mythomaniac, ubuxoki yi-util: isetyenziselwa ukufumana ukunconywa, imali, amandla okanye ukuzihlambulula. Ukuyiqonda ngcono le profayile, bona inqaku lethu mythomania kunye neengcebiso zethu zokwazi ukwenza njani ngexoki.

I-bipolar, i-manipulative, ixoki okanye i-narcissistic manipulator: itafile yokwahlukana

Nazi ezinye iibenchmarks. Abayithathi indawo yengcebiso yezonyango, kodwa bakunceda ukuba ufunde imeko.

Iikhrayitheriya	Ukuxhuzula	I-Narcissistic manipulator/i-manipulator
Imvelaphi yeeyantlukwano	Iziqendu zomoya, ezizimeleyo kuwe	Isicwangciso sobudlelwane, esihlala sinxulunyaniswa nento oyenzayo okanye owalayo
Isantya	Iziqendu ezithatha iintsuku eziliqela okanye iiveki	Utshintsho olukhawulezileyo, kuxhomekeke kumxholo nabaphulaphuli
Esidlangalaleni	Iimpawu zibonakala kuyo yonke indawo	Ukuthandeka esidlangalaleni, kunzima ngasese
Emva kwentlekele	Ngokufuthi ukuziva unetyala, ukuzisola, ukucela uncedo	Ukuchaswa, ukuguqulwa kwendima, izinyeliso
Ubudlelwane nenkathalo	Unyango luhlala luzinzisa umoya	Akukho “unyango” oluguqula isicwangciso ukuba umntu akazibuzi
Inzuzo	Akukho nzuzo ifunwayo	Ukulawula, ukuncoma, izibonelelo eziphathekayo

Inqaku eliphambili: ukuhambelana kokuziphatha kunye nenjongo. Ukuba “ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo” kwenzeka ngokukodwa xa usithi hayi, xa ubona abahlobo bakho, okanye xa usenza isigqibo ngokwakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba yinto engeyiyo ingxaki yeemvakalelo.

Inqaku lethu malunga ne-apparent “bipolarity” kunye nobubi be-narcissistic pervert ihlalutya nzulu kule ngxabano eqhelekileyo.

Kwaye ngaba i-schizophrenic manipulative?

Lo mbuzo uvela rhoqo. I-Schizophrenia sisifo sengqondo esichaphazela ukubonwa kwenyani; ayikwenzi ukuba ukhohlise. Njengakwibipolar disorder, abo bachaphazelekileyo badla ngokuba ngamaxhoba omkhethe kunokuba ngumthombo wokuqhathwa.

Xa ezi zimbini zihlala kunye

Ngamanye amaxesha umntu onengxaki yengqondo kunye ne- unokuba neempawu zobuntu ezikhohlisayo, ezinarcissistic okanye ezididayo. Kule meko, unyango lunokuzinzisa isimo sengqondo ngaphandle kokutshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo kubudlelwane. Le yimeko enzima, efuna imbono yengcali. Inqaku lethu malunga ne-ubuntu be-paranoid manipulative inokukukhanyisela kwenye iprofayile ehlala ibhidekile.

Yintoni onokuyenza ngokwenene

Nokuba yeyiphi na ingcaciso, impilo yakho ibalulekile. Nantsi indlela enamanqaku ama-6:

1. Chaza izibakala, kungekhona amagama. “Wandithuka phambi kwabantwana,” kunokuba “unebipolar” okanye “uligcisa elikhohlisayo.”
2. OQAPHELA umxholo. Ngaba iimpawu zokuziphatha zivela kwiziqendu, okanye ngokusabela kukhetho lwakho kunye nokuzimela?
3. Beka imida ecacileyo. Isigulo sichaza ukuziphatha, akukunyanzeli ukuba wamkele yonke into.
4. Khuthaza umntu ukuba adibane ne ukuba ukrokrela ukuphazamiseka kwemizwelo, ngaphandle kokuyisebenzisa njengesixhobo kwiingxabano.
5. Zikhusele wena kuqala. Ukuba uphantsi kokuthotywa, izoyikiso okanye ulawulo, olu lugonyamelo lwengqondo, nokuba yintoni unobangela.
6. Zifunele inkxaso. Izalamane zabantu abagulayo njengamaxhoba okuqhathwa zifuna indawo yazo.

Ukuqaphela abaqhubi beemvakalelo bobudlelwane obukhohlisayo, unokufunda kwakhona iphepha lethu the manipulator yeemvakalelo kunye nesikhokelo sethu Qmental manipulation.

Iimpawu ekufuneka zikulumkisile, nokuba siyintoni na isizathu

Awudingi ukwazi “yintoni engalunganga” ukuze uqaphele ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Imiqondiso ethile ithethelela ukuzikhusela, nokuba kukho ukugula emva kwayo okanye hayi:

• uyoyika indlela abasabela ngayo kwaye uhlengahlengisa ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla ukuze ubaphephe;
• uhlala ujongelwa phantsi, uthukwa okanye usoyikiswa;
• ulawula imali yakho, ifowuni yakho okanye uhambo lwakho;
• uziva ulikheswa ngakumbi nangakumbi kubantu obathandayo;
• uhlala uthandabuza inkumbulo yakho okanye ukuqonda kwakho;
• izizathu, xa zikhona, azitshintshi nto.

Ezi zinto zichaza ubudlelwane apho ungakhuselekanga khona. Isigulo sinokubachaza ngokuyinxenye; ayibenzi bamkeleke.

Ukuhlala nomntu omthandayo onebipolar: ukugcina indawo yakho

Ukuba iqabane lakho lifunyaniswe line-bipolar disorder kwaye lifuna unyango, ubudlelwane bunokusebenza ngokuqinisekileyo. Izikhokelo ezimbalwa zinceda kakhulu:

• Thetha ngayo ngamaxesha azinzileyo: Eli lelona xesha lilungileyo lokuvumelana ngento eniya kuyenza xa kusondela ingxaki.
• Spot iimpawu zokulumkisa: ukulala ukunciphisa, inkcitho engaqhelekanga, ukucaphuka. Ukubathiya kwangethuba kudla ngokukuthintela ukwanda.
• Ungabi ngumkhathaleli wabo: uliqabane labo, hayi ugqirha wabo. Ukujongwa kwezonyango kuhlala kuluxanduva lwakhe.
• Zinakekele: abantu obathandayo badla ngokudinwa bengaqondanga. Unxulumano lweentsapho lukho ukubaxhasa.

Yintoni eyahlula ubudlelwane obunzima ukusuka kwelinye lolawulo kukukwazi ukuthetha, ukuqaphela iimpazamo kunye nokulungelelanisa. Ukuba oku kunokwenzeka, okanye ukuba zonke iinzame zibuyela umva, lixesha lokufuna uncedo lwangaphandle.

Inqaku lezempilo: ngugqirha wengqondo kuphela onokuxilonga i-bipolar disorder. Ukuba unemibuzo malunga nawe okanye othandekayo, thetha nogqirha.Kwimeko yengozi, mbize17, THE112okanye i3919(ubundlobongela basekhaya, bukhululekile kwaye bungaziwa).

Imibuzo ebuzwa qho

Ndazi njani ukuba iqabane lam li-bipolar okanye li-manipulative narcissistic?

Yingcali kuphela enokwenza ukuxilongwa. Icebiso eliluncedo: Iiyantlukwano kwi-bipolar disorder zihlala zihlala iintsuku okanye iiveki kwaye zivela kuzo zonke iimeko, ngelixa utshintsho kwisimo sengqondo somqhatha luhlala luxhomekeke kwimeko, abaphulaphuli, kunye neempendulo zakho.

Ngaba umntu one-bipolar unokuba ne-manipulative narcissistic?

Zombini zahlukile. Umntu ofanayo unokuba nengxaki yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye neempawu zobuntu eziyingxaki, kodwa enye ayikhokeli kwenye.

Ngaba unyango lwe-bipolar luphelisa ukuziphatha okulimazayo?

Ihlala inciphisa iziqendu kwaye ngoko ke ukuziphatha okudityanisiweyo kubo. Ukuziphatha kobuntu akupheli kunye nomlawuli wemood.

Ngaba ndifanele ndihlale neqabane le-bipolar elindenza ndibandezeleke?

Sisigqibo sobuqu. Ukugula akukunyanzeli ukuba uhlale okanye uhambe. Okubalulekileyo lukhuseleko lwakho, impilo yakho kunye nokukwazi kwesibini ukusebenza ngaphakathi kwemida ehloniphekileyo.

Ukuqukumbela

I-bipolar, ixoki, i-manipulator: la magama achaza iinyani ezahlukileyo kakhulu. Ibipolar sisifo esinokunyangeka; ukukhohlisa yindlela yokunxibelelana ejolise kulawulo. Kuzo zombini ezi meko, unelungelo lokuzikhusela uze uncedwe. Ukuba ufuna ukubona izinto ngokucacileyo kubudlelwane bakho, unokufumanisa inkxaso enikezelwa kumaxhoba okukhohlisa.

Imithombo

• Igunya eliPhakamileyo leMpilo, “Iingxaki ze-Bipolar: ukuchongwa kunye nokuxilongwa njengendawo yokuqala yokuphumla”: has-sante.fr
• I-Inshurensi yezeMpilo, “i-Bipolar Disorder”: ameli.fr
• Latifian M. et al., « Stigma in people living with bipolar disorder and their families: a systematic review », International Journal of Bipolar Disorders, 2023 : PMC9941403