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Ukuchaza ngokufanelekileyo igama elithi “i-narcissistic manipulator”, kubalulekile ukuthatha igama ngalinye, lichaze kwaye liqonde intsingiselo yalo ukufumanisa inkcazo jikelele.

Okokuqala, umntu ogqwethekileyo ngumntu obonakalisa ubugwenxa okanye ubugwenxa. Ngamanye amazwi, ngumntu onandiphayo ukwenza ububi okanye ukubukhuthaza.

Emva koko, isichazi se-narcissistic sihambelana ne-narcissism, oko kukuthi, ukulungiswa kweemvakalelo kunye nawe kunye nokuncoma, ukuzicingela. Ngamafutshane, i-narcissistic manipulator ngumntu onomfanekiso ozixabisayo kwaye uyazixabisa ngokuthoba abanye.

Iimpawu ze-narcissistic manipulator-Iprofayile yeNarcissistic Manipulator

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ngumntu onobuhlobo, onomtsalane kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ogciniweyo. Icala lakhe elinomtsalane nelincomekayo liyabakholisa abo bamngqongileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokukhawuleza, ukungonwabi kuqalisa xa ukubudlelwane obupheleleyo nolu hlobo lomntu. I-narcissistic manipulator ivakalelwa kukuba ifuna ukunconywa kwaye izenze ibonakale iphezulu kunabanye. Akaze azibeke ityala xa evisa abanye ubuhlungu. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic yi-manipulator enkulu: abo basondeleyo kuye bangamaxhoba.

Ixhoba le-Narcissistic Manipulator

Ixhoba le-narcissistic manipulator lihlala libanjwa lobudlelwane. Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic uzibona emsulwa kwaye utyhola ixhoba lakhe ngokukhanyela, okanye nokubaxa izinto. I-narcissistic manipulator ibamba ixhoba layo isebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokukhohlisa:

1. Uchonga ubuthathaka bexhoba lakhe ngokuphulaphula ngenyameko. Uya kukwazi ukusebenzisa amaxesha akhe okuthandabuza kunye noloyiko lwe-  ngokuchasene neli xhoba.
2. Ngelixa kuqwalaselwe ubuthathaka bexhoba kunye nokungazithembi, i-narcissistic manipulator iya kubenza babe ngcono. Uyawuncoma umzimba wexhoba lakhe kwaye usoloko ephindaphinda ukuba ixhoba ngumntu olungileyo. Injongo yayo kukufumana intembeko epheleleyo yexhoba layo.
3. Nje ukuba olu kuzithemba lufunyenwe, i-narcissistic manipulator iya kuqala ukugxeka umzimba okanye ubuntu bexhoba lakhe. Lo mva uya kuziva usisidenge kwaye akayi kubuza i-manipulator ye-narcissistic.

Ngaloo ndlela ixhoba liya kuhlala lingunodoli walo. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic iya kuqinisekisa ukuba umdlalo wayo ufihliwe kakuhle kwaye akukho mntu uya kuqaphela.

Iimpawu ze-Narcissistic Manipulator-Imiqondiso ye-Manipulator 

Iimpawu ze-manipulator ye-narcissistic zininzi, ezikhokelela ekubeni sifumane iimpawu ze-manipulator. I-narcissistic manipulator:

• useka unxibelelwano olungacacanga nabo bamngqongileyo,
• uhlala etshintsha uluvo lwakhe,
• ubuxoki,
• uziva enomona,
• akayazi indlela yokuvuma iimpazamo zakhe kwaye athathe uxanduva ngezenzo zakhe,
• akakwazi ukuqonda iimvakalelo kunye neemfuno zabanye,
• uhlala ejonge impumelelo okanye ukuqondwa,
• ihlala iveza ubuso obuphindwe kabini okanye obuninzi,
• akawazi umonakalo awenzayo.

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic isebenzisa impembelelo ebalwe ngokugqibeleleyo kwabanye.

Indoda yeNarcissistic Manipulator

I-Narcissistic perversion ichaphazela amadoda amaninzi kunabasetyhini. Iimpawu ze-narcissistic manipulator ebantwini ziyahluka:

• unomnqweno kunye nemvakalelo yokuba mkhulu kunabanye;
• Ungumntu othanda izinto ezininzi, oko kukuthi, unqwenela ngamandla, uzuko nempumelelo;
• uqinisekile ukuba ungumntu okhethekileyo kwaye uthanda kuphela ukunxulumana nabantu abakhethekileyo,
• I-il  ihlala iziva imfuneko yokuvuselela umdla,
• uvakalelwa kukuba unelungelo lokufumana unyango olukhethekileyo yaye abanye bayavuma ukuzithoba koko akulindeleyo;
• udla ngokuxhaphaza abanye ukuze afeze iinjongo zakhe,
• Akakwazi ukubonisa uvelwano.

Umfazi weNarcissistic Manipulator

Ubugwenxa beNarcissistic abugcinelwanga amadoda kuphela. Kukwakho nabafazi abaninzi abagqwethekileyo be-narcissistic, nokuba kusapho, isibini, abahlobo kunye nasemsebenzini. Njengabantu, inkqubo kunye neempawu ziyafana. Nangona kunjalo, kwabasetyhini, kukho ama-nuances afihlakeleyo:

• ungumhedeni ongenakulinganiswa nanto,
• uziva enesidingo sokubonisa impumelelo yakhe,
• Ulala ngesondo njengesixhobo sokulawula,
• ufuna ukukhuselwa ngenkangeleko yakhe yomfazi eethe-ethe.

Uyiqaphela njani i-Narcissistic Pervert -Ukuziphatha kweNarcissistic Manipulator

Ukuqonda i-narcissistic manipulator, nantsi ezi ndlela zokuziphatha:

• ungumkhohlisi wokwenyani,
• akanaluvelwano,
• Uyinkosi yenkohliso,
• wenza ukuba ixhoba lizive linetyala,
• ungumntu ozicingela yedwa,
• ufuna imfezeko kwabanye;
• ushumayela ubuxoki,
• uneemfuno ezinamandla zesini,
• uyagxeka kwaye uthoba ixabiso,
• uyaphambana.

Uvavanyo lweNarcissistic Manipulative

Uvavanyo lokuqonda ukuba uyi-narcissistic manipulator kukuphendula imibuzo ethile: 

• Ngaba andinaluvelwano nokuzisola?
• Ngaba ndinekratshi, ndingaphezulu?
• Ngaba ndinesiqu esiphakamileyo kodwa esibuthathaka?
• Ngaba ndiyabaxhaphaza abanye kwaye ndibajongele phantsi?
• Ngaba ndisoloko ndifuna ingqalelo nokunconywa?
• andikwazi ukumelana nokugxekwa kuthambileyo?
• Ngaba ndinoluvo oluphakamileyo lokubaluleka kwam?
• Ngaba andiyihloniphi imida yabanye abantu?
• Ngaba ndiyazingca kakhulu kwaye ndiyazingca?
• Ngaba ndinobudlelwane obuphezulu?
• Ngaba andinakukwazi ukumela abanye abantu bandenzele izigqibo?
• Ngaba andithwali xanduva ngeempazamo zam?
• ngaba ndinomona kwaye ndiyakholelwa ukuba abanye bayandimonela?
• ngaba ndiyabaxhaphaza abanye ngaphandle kokuziva ndineentloni okanye ndinetyala?
• Ngaba ndiziva ndingcono kunabanye?
• Ngaba ndibujonga ngokugqithiseleyo ubukrelekrele bam nomzimba wam?
• ndinekratshi kwaye ndinobutshaba?

I-narcissistic manipulator kunye neMali

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic kunye nemali ngabathandi ababini abakhulu. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic isebenzisa imali ukulawula. Ukuba nokuninzi, nokuba nokuncinane, kumnika imvakalelo yolawulo namandla phezu kwabanye.  Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kokuthanda imali ukuze uyonwabele ukuyithanda, umntu okhohlisayo uyayithanda imvakalelo yokuba imali imnika yona. Ngokutsho kwabo, imali inika ukunconywa kwabanye, intlalontle, ukuzithemba okuphezulu, inkululeko, amandla kunye nokhuseleko.

I-narcissistic manipulator isebenzisa imali njengesithuthi ukumsa kwindawo ekuyiwa kuyo. Imali inokuthenga ubuhlobo, uthando kunye nolonwabo, i-narcissistic manipulator icinga. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo, akaniki kubaluleka kakhulu koku. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ifuna nje ukuziva ixatyiswa kwaye inqulwa.

i-narcissistic manipulator emsebenzini-umphathi we-Narcissistic manipulative

I-narcissistic manipulator emsebenzini ikhona. Kulishwa ukucinga ukuba umphathi ngabom ufuna ukwenzakalisa impilo-ntle yomntu nomsebenzi wakhe wobugcisa. Emva kwemaski yenkokeli yakhe, umphathi unenjongo enye kuphela: ukwenza umqeshwa wakhe abandezeleke. Nantsi indlela olu lwaphulo-mthetho luzibonakalisa ngayo ngezinye iimpawu:

• umphathi uhlasela ingqibelelo yomzimba womqeshwa wexhoba,
• mnye kuphela umqeshwa oya kukunyamezela ukungakhathali komphathi wakhe;
• umphathi ngobuchwephesha unyelisa umsebenzi olixhoba,
• ukuxhatshazwa ngokuziphatha kusekelwe kuphela kwisizathu esinenjongo,
• umphathi ulijongela phantsi ixhoba phakathi kweqela,
• ixhoba lodwa,
• umphathi uyalinqanda ixhoba ekuthetheni.

Narcissistic manipulative ubawo

I-narcissistic manipulator inokuba lilungu losapho, iqabane, umntu osebenza naye, umhlobo. Apha siza kubona ukuba umzali unokuba yi-narcissistic manipulator. Uyise, ophethwe bubugqwirha bokungakhathali, ngumzali onenkohliso ekufuneka azive emkhulu kunabantwana bakhe. Ukuzithethelela, utata okhohlakeleyo ubajongela phantsi abantwana bakhe kwaye wenzakalisa ukwakha ukuzithemba kwabo. Ukhuphisana nabantwana bakhe kwaye ubona impumelelo yabo njengesisongelo. Amaxhoba omntwana wakhe uya kukhula eziva engaxabisekanga, enetyala yaye engazithembi. Utata okhohlisayo ubonisa ezi mpawu:

• egameni lamaqhina osapho, wenza abanye bazive benetyala,
• naxa engekho, uhlala exoxwa,
• uyababuza abantwana bakhe (izakhono zabo, ubuntu babo, iimpawu zabo),
• uyagweba, abeke phantsi;
• uyagxeka,
• unyanzela intsapho yakhe ukuba yenze izinto ebingenakuzenza ngokuthanda kwayo,
• unomona,
• uvusa kusapho lwakhe imvakalelo yokubanjiswa,
• uyaxoka,
• uyabukhanyela ubungqina kwaye akakwazi ukunyamezela ukugxekwa,
• ukuze abe nosizi, uzenza ixhoba,
• usebenzisa i-blackmail evulekileyo okanye izoyikiso ezifihlakeleyo,
• ungumntu ozicingela yedwa,
• uyakwazi ukwahlula isibini,
• udala ingxabano;
• uyahlula aze oyise.

Narcissistic manipulative umama

Unina ogwenxa ngumonakalisi wabantwana bakhe. Oku kuphawula ubomi babantwana bakhe ngonaphakade. Iimpawu zalo mama wenyoka zininzi kakhulu:

• usebenzisa amazwi othando ukufihla inkohlakalo yakhe,
• akabashiyi abantwana bakhe inkululeko;
• ithanda umntwana oyimpambano kwaye ijongela phantsi abanye abadlala indima yebhokhwe,
• uyayibona impumelelo yomntwana wakhe kuphela ukuba unokuthatha imbeko ngayo,
• ngokutsho kwakhe, abantwana bakhe bahlala bengalunganga.
• umenza umntwana wakhe abonakale njengegeza,
• unomona kwaye ufuna ukulawula yonke into,
• uyila iimeko zobuxoki,
• ufuna ukuba yintloko yengqwalasela,
• ungumkhohlisi wokwenza abanye bangonwabi,
• kuphela iimfuno zakhe, iminqweno kunye neemvakalelo ezibalulekileyo,
• akakwazi ukumelana nokugxekwa,
• uhlwayela uloyiko;
• Umncinci kwaye ungumntwana.
• Uneentloni kwaye undlongondlongo;
• ungumntu owenza inzuzo,
• uveza iziphoso zakhe kubantwana bakhe,
• akaze axolise okanye azisole ngento ayenzileyo,
• akazi ukuba abanye bayabandezeleka,
• uya kubabeka uxanduva kwabanye ngayo yonke into embi eyenzekayo ebomini bakhe,
• uyawonakalisa ubudlelwane,
• Uba sesichengeni okanye angakwazi ukuzinceda xa sele ejamelane nemiphumo engenakuphepheka yokuziphatha kwakhe okubi.

Narcissistic manipulative umntwana

Umntwana okhohlisayo uzisa iphupha elibi elingapheliyo kwabo bamngqongileyo, ngakumbi abazali bakhe kunye nabantakwabo noodade wabo abangamaxhoba akhe aphambili. Le manipulator ye-narcissistic kulwakhiwo ibonisa ezi ziphatho zimbi:

• akakwazi ukumelana nokuxelelwa “NO”
• umntwana oyi-narcissistic manipulative uyakhala,
• unyanzelisa ukufumana oko akufunayo,
• i-manipulator encinci ye-narcissistic inomsindo,
• uyakhalaza,
• umntwana uyakhala,
• uyathanda ukuzenza ixhoba lamaqabane akhe kunye nootitshala bakhe,
• uyabaxhaphaza abazali bakhe,
• umntwana okhohlisayo ucela umngeni kwigunya lootitshala bakhe, abafundisi bakhe,
• uyaphaphazela,
• uyasala nasiphi na isicelo esinganelisiyo ukuthanda kwakhe.

narcissistic manipulator Isibini

Kwisibini, i-narcissistic manipulator ingabakho. I-narcissistic manipulator inokuhenda kwaye yoyikise iqabane layo. Ngexesha lobudlelwane, uya kubona ukuba iqabane liqhinga eliyingozi elixhaphaza kwaye lisebenzise yonke into ngale miqondiso:

• wathandana ekuqaleni xa udibana neqabane lakho,
• Unekhwele elibi, ekuniphethe kakubi;
• uya kuthoba phezu kwako nje ukunconywa okufumanayo kuye;
• nguwe osoloko unempazamo,
• uyaxoka kwaye uhlala ebhidekile,
• i-narcissistic manipulator ihlala ikunika uncedo lwezemali,
• akanyamezeleki ukugxekwa,
• ufuna ukuba yedwa ofuna ulonwabo lwakho.

Indlela yokuphila kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator?

Ukuphila ne-narcissistic manipulator, sifumene ezi ngcebiso:

• kufuneka ube nenyani,
• kubaluleke kakhulu ukumamela ngokwakho,
• ukuqonda kufuneka kwenziwe,
• kufuneka uzibuze imibuzo efanelekileyo,
• ukuqinisa i-positive nayo iyimfuneko.

Kusenokubakho ezinye izisombululo ezisebenzayo, kodwa ezi zezona zilula.

Unokuba yi-manipulator ye-narcissistic njani?

 siba yi-narcissistic manipulator:

• ukuba nokuzithemba okuphantsi
• ukuba kwimeko yokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo,
• engazi ukubakho kwesi sifo,
• ngokungaqapheli ukuba i-narcissistic perversion disorder ingaba khona. 

I-narcissistic manipulator kunye nomama wakhe

Esemncinci, i-manipulator ye-narcissistic inomdla kumzali wesini esahlukileyo: inkwenkwana iya kuthandana nonina. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic iya kutsalwa kubafazi abamkhuthazayo ngendlela efanayo nonina. Uyakuthanda ukubuyela kwindawo yakhe yokuthuthuzela: iingalo zikanina owayemkhathalele. Ngoko ke uya kukhangela iimpawu ezintle okanye ezimbi okanye ezingokomzimba. ngamanye amaxesha isempilweni okanye hayi kwaphela. Obu budlelwane phakathi kwe-narcissistic manipulator kunye nomama wakhe iguqulela ngolu hlobo:

• yonke into kunye nechasana nayo
• ubudlelwane obungazange bulungelelaniswe.

Nantsi imizekelo:

• uthando oluphambeneyo / intiyo, ukwaliwa,
• ukungathandi / umnqweno wokumsindisa,
• ibandakanyeka kakhulu,
• akukho mda, tangle,
• ingahoywa / ithandwa,
• ulawulo,
• ukuncoma, ukufuna uthando
• ukubandakanyeka ngokugqithisileyo,
• ukugxeka / ukuzaliseka,
• ubudlelwane bokuhenda, phantse ukuba ngokwesondo,
• ukhuphiswano,
• hlala unombolo 1 ebomini bakho,
• ukufuna imvume yokuthandwa.

Ngaba i-narcissistic manipulator ingatshintsha?

I-narcissistic manipulator inokutshintsha ukuba uyazi kwaye uzenzele umsebenzi. Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zonyango zengqondo eziya kumnceda ukuba akhuphe ukungonwabi kwakhe:

1. Unyango losapho: iiseshini ezininzi zeengxoxo zijolise ekuphononongeni iingxaki zonxibelelwano kunye neengxabano zokujongana neengxaki zobudlelwane,
2. I-Unyango lweqela: i-manipulator ye-narcissistic iya kudibana nabantu abanengxaki efanayo kwaye iphucule ubudlelwane bakhe nabanye,
3. Unyango lomntu: oku kunokuhlala iminyaka emininzi. Unyango luya kuhlengahlengisa ubuntu kwaye luvelise kwakhona umfanekiso wokwenene kunye nolungileyo;

Kubalulekile ukunxibelelana ukuba akukho yeza lokugqwesa i-narcissistic. Nangona kunjalo, amayeza okulwa noxinzelelo okanye i-antidepressants anokunceda ngeempawu zokudakumba.

Ukushiya i-Narcissistic Manipulator-Ukwahlukana kwe-& Uqhawulo-mtshato kwi-Narcissistic Manipulator

Ukushiya i-manipulator ye-narcissistic kukuphunyuka ekudinweni kunye nokulahlekelwa ukuzithemba. Ukuba sisibini esithandanayo, naliphi na ithemba lobomi obulungeleleneyo nobunempilo aliyi kuba lilize. Kungxamisekile kakhulu ukwazisa abo bakungqongileyo. Kusenokufuneka ukuba uqeshe igqwetha kuba i-narcissistic manipulator yingcali yongcoliso. Ngamanye amaxesha, umntu olixhoba le-narcissistic pervert unokuncedwa ngabahlobo bakhe. Ukubonisana nogqirha wengqondo nako kuyacetyiswa. 

Indlela yokulibala i-manipulator ye-narcissistic?

Ukulibala i-manipulator ye-narcissistic, unokulandela imiyalelo yakhe:

• phumla,
• qalisa kwakhona ubomi boluntu,
• dlala umdlalo okanye umsebenzi owonwabileyo,
• qhagamshela kwakhona nabantu obathandayo, abahlobo bakho. 

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