Inkcazo: Mobbing – eguqulelwa ngokuthi “i-pack harassment” – luhlobo oluthile lokuxhatshazwa kokuziphatha apho iqela, elihlala lilawulwa ngumntu omnye, lihlasele into ekujoliswe kuyo ngexesha elide. Eli gama livela kwi-Swedish mobba kwaye yayisekelwe kwi-psychologist Heinz Leymann kwi-1980s. Apho intlondi eqhelekileyo ifaka umntu ohlaselayo kwixhoba, amahlokondiba ahlasela ixhoba all the others.
Inkqubo: inkokeli, abadlali
Ukuhlokoloza akufane kuzenzekele. Phantse ngamaxesha onke, umntu onomdla kunye onobuthi – emsebenzini, uhlala engumntu ophakamileyo okanye osebenza naye onempembelelo – uqalisa ubutshaba: ukugxeka, amahemuhemu, ukuthotywa koluntu. Emva koko iqela lilandela, ngenxa yokwesaba, ubugwala, umnqweno wokukholisa okanye ukupakisha isiphumo esilula. Wonke umntu uyazixelela ukuba “andenzanga nto inzulu” – yiyo kanye le nto yenza ukuba ihlokondiba litshabalalise: uxanduva luyahlanjululwa lude luphele. Ithagethi iphantsi kokuxhatshazwa ngu-cumulative microtrauma: ukukhutshwa kwiintlanganiso, ukuthula okubalwayo, imisebenzi esusiwe, imiyalezo engahoywayo, “iziqhulo” eziphindaphindiweyo.
Iimpawu zokuhlaselwa emsebenzini
- Ukhutshiwe ngaphandle ngokucwangcisiweyo kulwazi oluyimfuneko kwisikhundla sakho.
- Impumelelo yakho iyancipha, iimpazamo zakho ziyandiswa kwaye zihlonyelwe njengeqela.
- Amahemuhemu ahamba ngawe kungekho mntu uwajongayo.
- Abanye batshintsha indlela abaziphatha ngayo xa ungena nje egumbini.
- Izindululo zakho zithathwa… xa zivela komnye umntu.
Lo mfanekiso uhlala uhambelana nobukho be-narcissistic pervert emsebenzini, oququzelela ipakethi ngelixa egcina izandla zakhe zicocekile ngokusemthethweni. Inkokeli ayifane ibonise ubuso bayo: yenza abanye ukuba bayenze.
Iziphumo koko kujoliswe kuko
Ukuhlokoma kuvelisa ukudinwa okuthe ngqo: ukuxhalaba ngokweemvakalelo, ukuphuthelwa, ukuphelelwa isidima, ukuziva “uyingxaki”. Ixhoba lihlala liphetha likholelwa ukuba lifanelwe olu nyango – le yi-Learned helplessness, efanayo ebeka kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane bokulawula. I-Izibonakaliso zexhoba ziyafana, kuphela ukuhombisa utshintsho.
Indlela yokusabela: isicwangciso esi-4
- Docuenter: amanqaku abhalwe umhla, ii-imeyile, amangqina, izatifikethi zonyango. Ukuhlokoma akunakwaliwa de kubhalwe; iphepha lenza ukuba libekho.
- Ukuphuma ube wedwa: CSE, ugqirha wasemsebenzini, umanyano, umhloli wezabasebenzi, igqwetha lomthetho wentlalontle. Ukuxhatshazwa ngokokuziphatha kulawulwa ngumthetho; ukuhlokoloza yinxalenye enkulu yalo.
- Ungazami ukukholisa ipakethe: umenzi wobubi ngamnye kufuneka alikholelwe ityala lakho ukuze azikhulule. Amandla akho afanele aye ekukhuseleni, kungekhona ekucengeni.
- Ukulungiselela ukuphuma: Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhamba kukuphumelela, kungekhona ukoyiswa – ukuphuma okuxoxisiweyo, okubhaliweyo, okulungiselelwe ngemali.
Kwaye ukuba i-mobbing ishiye umkhondo onzulu – ukuzithemba, ukulala, ukukwazi ukusebenza kwakhona – ukwakhiwa kwakhona kulandela indlela efanayo healing emva kwe-narcissistic pervert: ukhuseleko, umzimba, amakhonkco, intsingiselo.
Inkcazelo esuka kwi-Glossary ye-narcissistic pervert.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.