I-Narcissistic manipulative elivisayo-Uyiqaphela njani?

Unomntwana okhulayo ekhayeni lakho kwaye ucinga ukuba unokuba naye ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic ? Kukho imiqondiso ethile enokuchonga a ulutsha olunarcissistic olunenkohliso ! Ngokufumanisa esi sifo kuselithuba emntwaneni wakho, unokuthatha amanyathelo athile okumnceda ukuba ahlukane nalo ukuze abe nobomi obonwabisayo nobuzinzileyo. 

Ngaba umntwana ofikisayo unokuba ngumgibi we-narcissistic?

Kunokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo ukuba umntu okwishumi elivisayo abonise iimpawu zomlinganiswa kufutshane nokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba unengxaki yobuntu bakhe. Khumbula ukuba i-narcissistic manipulator sisidalwa esibonakalisa impatho ye-pathological ephawulwa ngumkhwa oqinileyo wokuxhaphaza kunye nokukhohlisa abanye, ukuzithemba okuphezulu kunye nokungabi navelwano okukhulu.

Umntwana ofikisayo okhohlisayo noxokayo kufuneka athathwe njengo i-narcissistic manipulator ukuba kwaye kuphela ukuba iipatheni zakhe zokucinga okanye zakhe ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo Zingisa kwaye ube ngqongqo. Amaxesha amaninzi, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu ekufikiseni kuhlala kubangelwa luxinzelelo lwentlalo okanye lwabazali kunye nokutshintsha kwehomoni. Bona ugqirha wengqondo okanye ingcali yempilo yengqondo ukuba ezi ziphathamandla zichaphazela.

Umqaphela njani umntu ofikisayo okwishumi elivisayo onamaqhinga?

Nazi ezinye iimpawu zokuqaphela umntwana ofikisayo oyi-narcissistic:

• I-propensity to jealousy: ukubonakaliswa kwekhwele elingafanelekanga kubantwana abafikisayo luphawu lokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic. Umona wengqwalasela ehlawulwe kwabanye, umona wempumelelo kunye nokuthotywa kwemigudu yabanye ukuba bacinge ngakumbi kwaye bazive ngokwabo, njl.
• Ukungabi novelwano: inyaniso yokungabaqondi abanye okanye ukungabi novelwano ngenxa yentlungu / ukubandezeleka kwabanye kutyhila. Umntwana ofikisayo onetyhefu akazikhathaleli iimfuno zabanye kwaye akazikhathaleli iimvakalelo zabanye.
• Ingqondo ebalaseleyo yokuzicingela : umntu ofikisayo okwishumi elivisayo uphuhlisa imvakalelo echwayitisayo yokuba wongamile ngokusekwe kulindelo olungalinganiyo. Udla ngokufuna ukunconywa nokuqondwa ngabanye.
• Imfuneko yolawulo nokulawula: ukongamela, ukoyikisa kunye nokufuna ukulawula abanye ukuze bafezekise iinjongo zabo yimiqondiso yokuba umntu okwishumi elivisayo unotyekelo olunamandla lokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic.
• Sharpen criticism: ukuba okwishumi elivisayo ugxeka kakhulu okanye uyonwaba ukwenza izigwebo zexabiso kunye rhabaxa, nokugxeka okuyingozi kwabanye, mhlawumbi unengxaki yobuntu be-narcissistic.

Ungamnceda njani umntu ofikisayo onarcissistic onenkohliso?

Unyango lwe-pathology edityaniswe nengxaki yobuntu be-narcissistic ifuna indlela yeendlela ezininzi. Uvavanyo olucokisekileyo olwenziwa yingcali yezempilo yengqondo luyimfuneko ukuze kunyangwe ukuphazamiseka kwiingcambu zayo. Kodwa kuqala, nantsi indlela ukunceda umntwana ofikisayo ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwabo:

• Seka unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo ukumbonisa indlela
• Nika ingxelo rhoqo ukuyinceda iphuhle
• Yiba ngumzekelo kumntwana wakho
• Ziphephe iingxabano ezingeyomfuneko kwaye ukhuthaze ukusonjululwa kwengxaki
• Khuthaza uvelwano
• Ungatshintshi, uqine kwaye ube nobulungisa kumntwana wakho ofikisayo
• Qwalasela unyango lwentsapho
• Khuthaza ukuzithemba okulinganiselweyo nokunempilo

Ukuba nomntwana ofikisayo onarcissistic: ingaba lityala labazali?

Amaxesha amaninzi, oku kunjalo! Oyena nobangela wolu kuphazamiseka kubalelwa kubomi bomntu ofikisayo ngoko nangoko. Kule meko, abazali ngokuyintloko bajongene nokuphuhliswa kokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic kubantwana abafikisayo.

Umzekelo, a uyise narcissistic manipulative okanye umama ongenalo umsa kunye novelwano kumntwana wakhe, unokubangela ukuphuhliswa kokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic ekugqibeleni. Ngokufanayo, umzali okhohlisayo we-narcissistic kunokwenzeka ukuba adlulisele ukuziphatha okufanayo kumntwana wabo. Ngenxa yokuba uhlala phantsi kophahla olufanayo, i-narcissistic manipulator kunye nentombi yakhe okanye inkwenkwe iya kubelana ngendalo efanayo apho umzali eya kukhuthaza ukuphuhliswa kokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic kumntwana ofikisayo.

Enye imeko: Umzali othanda ukugxeka ngokugqithiseleyo nozijonga ngendlela eyakhayo akayi kuba ngumzekelo omhle emntwaneni wakhe. Lo okwishumi elivisayo ngokwemvelo uya kufuna ukufana noyise okanye owakhe umama okhohlisayo kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe uya kukhula iimpawu zokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic.

Ngaba uMfikindi weNarcissistic unokunyangwa okanye atshintshwe?

Kuyenzeka ukuba ubethelele amaxabiso athile kwi-narcissistic manipulative adolescent ukuze alungelelanise indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kwaye amvumele ukuba atshintshe. Qaphela ukuba oku akuyi kuba ngumsebenzi olula ukufezekisa, kuba olu hlobo lokuziphatha lukhula ukususela ebuntwaneni.

Ubume bolu kuphazamiseka, oluzinze ngokunzulu kwiipateni zengqondo zomntwana ofikisayo, kuya kufuna ungenelelo lwengcali. Ugqirha wengqondo oqeqeshiweyo okanye ugqirha wengqondo unokunceda umntwana ofikisayo ngendlela yonyango esekelwe kuphuhliso lwezakhono zentlalo kunye nokuzazi.

Ireferensi yebhayibhili yokwazisa umntu okwishumi elivisayo oyinarcissistic

Nazi izingqinisiso ezisixhenxe zenzululwazi kumxholo wokufikisa kunye nokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic:

1. Racamier, P.-C. (1992). Les perversions narcissiques. Paris : Payot.
2. Eiguer, A. (2008). La perversion narcissique, un concept en évolution. L’Information psychiatrique, 84(3), 193-199.
3. Marty, F. (2007). Soutiens narcissiques à l’adolescence. Le Journal des psychologues, 25(2), 22-27.
4. Roman, P. (2019). Narcissisme blessé et identité en souffrance à l’adolescence. Filigrane, 28(1), 75-87.
5. Maïdi, H. (2014). Narcissisme à l’adolescence. Journal de la psychanalyse de l’enfant, 1, 123-140.
6. Marty, F. (2006). Peut-on parler de perversion à l’adolescence. Adolescence, 24(3), 593-601.
7. Eiguer, A. (2024). L’emprise du mal dans la perversion-narcissique. Adolescence, 42(1), 43-55.

Ezi zikhombisi zibonelela ngembono enzulu malunga nokuguqulwa kwe-narcissistic ebusheni, ukujongana nemiba yethiyori kunye neklinikhi.

Conclusion

Ngamafutshane, ukugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic sisifo esikhula ebuntwaneni kwaye siqala ukukhula. Nangona kunjalo, kuyenzeka ukunceda umntwana okwishumi elivisayo onenkohliso atshintshe indlela aziphatha ngayo. Emva kokuxilongwa, ugqirha wengqondo unokukhetha unyango lwengqondo-yokuziphatha ukunceda umntwana ofikisayo okhohlisayo kunye nomama wakhe aguqule iipatheni zakhe zokucinga okanye iipatheni, kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe okuyingxaki.