I-Co-narcissism: inkcazo, iprofayili kunye nokwahlukana kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator

Ingcaciso :i-co-narcissism ibhekisa kumbutho wobuntu obunjwe bubomi ecaleni kwe-narcissist – umzali okanye iqabane. I-co-narcissist ayiyo-narcissistic: nguyeesinye isiqingathawenkqubo ye-narcissistic, lowo uzicimayo ukuze omnye akhanye, olungisayo, alindele, athethelele kwaye afunxe. Eli gama, lixhaswe yingcali yezengqondo u-Alan Rappoport, lichaza abantu abanovakalelo olukhulu kunye noluvo olukhulu loxanduva … lubekwe kwinkonzo yokungalingani.

Iimpawu zeprofayili ye-co-narcissistic

• Hyper-responsibility: uziva enoxanduva ngeemvakalelo zomntu wonke, okokuqala nezo ze-narcissistic manipulator.
• Alergy kwimpixano: Ingxabano ifunyanwa njengengozi yokupheliswa kuzo zonke iindleko, nokuba uzikhanyele.
• Isidingo sokuvunywa: I-narcissist idinga ukunconywa, i-co-narcissist ifuna ukukholisa-ezi ziqwenga zimbini zihambelana.
• Ubunzima bokuchonga iimfuno zomntu: ngokuphila uphendukele kwabanye, umbuzo othi “kwaye ufuna ntoni?” »iba yintsonkotha.
• Ukunyamezela okungaqhelekanga kokungamkelekanga: yintoni eya kwenza ukuba wonke umntu abe ne-bristle abonakale “enokulawulwa”, ngomkhwa ofunyenwe kwangoko – rhoqo kunye no-narcissistic umama okanye uyise we-ilk efanayo.

I-Co-narcissist ≠ I-narcissistic manipulator: umahluko obalulekileyo

Amanye amaxhoba ayoyika: “Ngaba nam ndingunorharha ukuze ndihlale?” Hayi.ukuxhaphazaukungabi naluvelwano; i-co-narcissistiyaphuphuma. Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic wala uxanduva; i-co-narcissist isoloko iyithatha kuqala. I-narcissistic manipulator ayikhathazwa butyala; i-co-narcissist ihlala kuyo. Inkqubo idinga ukuba zombini zisebenze – kodwa omnye ngumhlaseli, omnye umthwali. Ukubhidanisa aba babini kukubeka ixhoba ematyaleni ukuze lizibambele ngokwakhe. Ukuba umbuzo uyakukhathaza, theiimpawu zokuba lixhoba le-narcissistic manipulatoryenza kucace ukuba ngubani ojongene nantoni.

Ukuphuma kwindima ye-co-narcissistic

• Uxanduva lokukhetha : unoxanduva for izenzo zakho, soze du ulonwabo lomntu omdala guilt othi ngokuchaseneyo sisixhobo sokulawula.
• Qeqesha ungquzulwano olusempilweni: yithi hayi kwimiba encinci, nyamezela ukuphoxeka komnye ngaphandle kokwenza ukulungiswa kwangoko.
• Ukufunda kwakhona iimfuno zakho: umbuzo “ifuna ntoni i-je?” “, ebuzwa yonke imihla, ngokubhala, ekugqibeleni uya kufumana impendulo.
• Ukukhetha ubudlelwane obuthe tye: emva kwe-manipulator ye-narcissistic, isilingo “somsindisi olandelayo” sikhona; ukuphiliswa kuza ngamabhondi apho kungekho mntu kufuneka athwalwe okanye anqulwe – indlela echazwe kwi-kutheni ukuphiliswa kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic kuthatha ixesha.

Inkcazelo esuka kwi-Glossary ye-narcissistic pervert.