Ubudlelwane phakathi kwe-narcissistic manipulator kunye nomama wakhe

Ukunqongophala kwesazisi, ngokomzimba, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo … Umntwana okhohlisayo akanabudlelwane obuqhelekileyo nabazali bakhe. Ukuziva enqabisekile akwanelanga ukuxhasa ukuzithemba kwakhe. Ukucacisa ubudlelwane phakathi i-narcissistic manipulator kunye nomama wakhe.

Yintoni i-narcissistic manipulative mother?

A umama okhohlisayo uchatshazelwa yi-a I-narcissistic engaguqukiyo kunye nokuphazamiseka okugwenxa. Indlela yakhe yokusebenzisana nabanye ijika ibe yityhefu, ingalungelelananga kunye ne-pathological. Ukwangumntu ocingela isiqu sakhe kwaye uneqhinga. Kumama okhohlisayo, ubomi bubonakala njengomdlalo awulawulayo ngendlela athanda ngayo.

• Iimpawu zikamama zeNarcissistic: ungumxhaphazi we-pathological kunye netyhefu

Ukwimvelaphi ibhinqa le-narcissistic ongumntu ozingcayo, ohendayo kunye nonobuqhophololo ongatshintshiyo xa esiba ngumama. Usafuna ukuhoywa kakhulu. Umama ongenalo uvelwano novelwano. Iingcamango zothando, uvuyo kunye nokhuseleko ziphantse zingabikho.

• Kubudlelwane be-narcissistic kamama nonyana, umntwana uyifoyile kuphela

Uyisebenzisa ukuphumeza iinjongo zakhe. Umama we-narcissistic manipulative naye ufuna ukugcina umfanekiso wakhe. Ufuna ukubonisa umfanekiso kamama oxhalabileyo ngekamva lomntwana wakhe. Ukanti ngasese, wenza konke okusemandleni ukuze umntwana wakhe azive enetyala aze angaphumeleli. Angade abe nomona ngomntwana wakhe adale ukhuphiswano oluyityhefu. Imfuno yokuncoma ibalulekile kumama othanda u-narcissistic. Uthatha umntwana wakhe njenge-pawn kumdlalo wakhe womngcwabo. Ubuntwana babantwana bakhe abanethuba eliqinileyo lokuba ngabaqhubi be-narcissistic nayo iyoyikeka.

Ngaba i-narcissistic manipulator iyamthanda umama wayo?

I-narcissistic manipulator ayikwazi ukwenza nantoni na. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kuye kukuba negunya phezu kweemeko nokulawula abanye. Kunye nabazali bakhe, i-narcissistic manipulator icinga inkqubo yobudlelwane bomzali nomntwana njengento ephazamisayo. Endlini ka umntwana onarcissistic manipulative, zininzi iingxaki ezinokuvela:

• ubundlongondlongo
• intloko ebuhlungu;
• uloyiko ebusuku…

Umntu osebenzisa i-narcissistic manipulator akanaluvelwano. Akaneliseki yaye usoloko efuna okungakumbi. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukuhlala nenarcissist kudla ngokudinwa, ngakumbi kwabo baxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo kwaye banengxaki yokuphazamiseka ukungazithembi.

Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic kunye nomama wakhe: Kutheni le nto i-narcissistic manipulator inqula umama wakhe?

Kumntwana onarcissistic manipulative, umama wakhe ngumntu wokuqala ebomini bakhe. Yile:

• ngubani na owondlayo;
• okholwayo kuye;
• ngubani na omkhuselayo.

Kunjalo ke exhomekeke kuye.

I-narcissist ekhohlisayo kunye nomama wakhe banobudlelwane obuyityhefu. Inene, umama we-narcissistic manipulator uyamqhwabela izandla kwaye uyamncoma nantoni na eyenzekayo. Umenza akholelwe ukuba ungoyena mntu ubalaseleyo aze amqinisekise ukuba abahlobo bakhe abamfanelanga. Umama we-narcissistic manipulator ke ngoko umnika umfanekiso omkhulu.

Ngokunjalo, i-narcissistic manipulator ayinatyala kumama. Usoloko emkhusela. Nokuba uthe wangcatsha iphulo lakhe okanye abahlobo bakhe, uya kuthi ngabanye abanempazamo hayi umntwana wakhe. Umama ukwatyekele ekuzijongeleni phantsi iimpazamo zomntwana wakhe. Lo ke ngoko unalo a ubuwena phezulu kakhulu. Kwinyani, unqulo-zithixo ludla macala omabini.

Ubudlelwane phakathi kwe-narcissistic manipulator kunye nomama wakhe bunokuba yingxaki ngakumbi kumenzi we-narcissistic kunye nephulo lakhe. Inyaniso kukuba umama wakhe uya kuhlala ethatha indawo yokuqala ebomini bakhe.

Iimpawu zokuqaphela umama okhohlisayo

Kukho imiqondiso emininzi ekufuneka ibonwe iprofayile yomama okhohlakeleyo.

1. I-Manipulator

Kumama we-narcissistic, kuphela iimfuno zakhe ezibalulekileyo. Ubeka indawo yakhe yokubamba esebenzisa:

• blackmail;
• handling;
• devaluation;
• victimization.

Kwakhona akalibazisi ukubaxhaphaza abantwana bakhe ukuze abalawule ngendlela athanda ngayo.

2. Ayimncedi umntwana wakho ukuba azimele

Umama obhuqabhuqayo akamniki umntwana wakhe ukuba ngasese. Ngoko ke, akalibazisi:

• ukufunda idayari yakhe;
• ukubuza imibuzo engacacanga;
• yenza ngendlela yokuba ungene ngaphakathi kwentloko yomntwana wakho.

Emva koko uthintela umntwana wakhe ukuba avele kwaye akushiyi ukuzimela geqe.

3. Inetyhefu

Umama okhohlisayo uyabukhanyela ukuba ungubani umntwana wakhe. Uyamjongela phantsi, ngelixa esebenzisa ubundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo. Oku kuphathwa kakubi kumvumela ukuba azalisekise i-narcissism yakhe. Kubudlelwane obunetyhefu kamama we-narcissistic kunye nentombi yakhe, akavumeli akukho ndawo yabucala, inkululeko yokuzikhethela kunye nobuntu bomntwana.

4. Hlala ugxeka

Xa umama ehlaselwa sisifo senarcissistic, uhlala emgxeka umntwana wakhe ukuze amenze azive ephantsi. Uzakufihla oku ngeenjongo ezithi zinobubele.

5. Sebenzisa uthando njengomvuzo

Abantwana bomama we-narcissistic abaqhelanga ukufumana uthando, ingqalelo okanye uthando. Konke malunga nokugqibela. Umama we-narcissistic unquma ukubonisa uthando kubantwana bakhe nje gcina imbonakalo okanye ukufumana into ngembuyekezo.

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic kunye nokufa kukanina – Usabela njani?

A manipulator narcissistic akaphenduli njengomntu oqhelekileyo ukufa kukamama wakhe.

1. Iimvakalelo zakhe

Abenzi beNarcissistic aba ngaphandle kosizi nokuzisola. Baziva benomsindo ngakumbi, becaphuka kwaye beziphindezela xa bengayifumani le nto bayifunayo. Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic ucinga ukufa kukanina njengokulahlwa.

2. Ukuziphindezela okungazalisekanga

Kwanokuba umama we-narcissistic manipulator uyaluphala okanye ugula kakhulu, umntwana wakhe akathamba. Okuphikisanayo, ukuziphatha kwakhe kusenokuba mbi ngakumbi. I-narcissistic manipulator inokumgxeka ngakumbi ngokungafumani ngqalelo eyaneleyo kunye nothando.

3. Isimo sakhe sengqondo

Naxa umama wakhe esifa, umgibi we-narcissistic usafuna ukutsalela ingqalelo kuye. Usebenzisa imeko ukutsala uvelwano lwabantu. Uhlala ehenda kwaye akalibazisi ukuzenza ixhoba ngokuthetha kakubi ngonina. Enyanisweni, ukugqala ukufa kukanina njengoku ukungcatshwa komgangatho ophezulu. I-narcissism yakhe iyaqhubeka ikhula. Usenokude asole unina ngengqalelo ayifumanayo.

Ireferensi yebhayibhilografi malunga nobudlelwane phakathi kwe-narcissistic manipulator kunye nomama wakhe

Nazi iireferensi ezisi-7 zesayensi kwisiFrentshi ezijongana nomxholo wobudlelwane phakathi kwe-narcissistic manipulator kunye nomama wakhe:

1. Paul-Claude Racamier – “Ubugqwetha beNarcissistic”
   Umthombo: lapsychanalyse.fr
2. “Ukumelwa kwabazali kunye nezitayile zokuncamathisela kubaphuli-mthetho ngokwesondo”
   Umthombo: erudit.org
3. “Ukusuka kumama okhohlakeleyo ukuya kwiqabane elikhohlakeleyo”
   Umthombo: hal.science
4. “Ukuguqulwa kweNarcissistic” – Indlela yePsychoanalytic
   Umthombo: openition.org
5. “I-Hysteria kunye nokugqwetheka: i-manipulator ye-narcissistic”
   Umthombo: cairn.info
6. “Ubugqwetha beNarcissistic – uPaul-Claude Racamier”
   Umthombo: psychoanalysis.com
7. “i-manipulator ye-narcissistic kunye neprofayili yengqondo”
   Umthombo: psychotherapie-calonne.be

Ezi zimbekiselo zibonelela ngohlalutyo olunzulu kubudlelwane obuyityhefu kunye nefuthe likamama ekubumbeni ubuntu bomntu we-narcissistic manipulator.

Ukuqukumbela

Ukuqukumbela, ubudlelwane phakathi komcebisi we-narcissistic kunye nomama wakhe yityhefu kunye nomjikelo okhohlakeleyo, ophawulwa ngokukhohlisana kunye nokunqula izithixo okungenasiseko. Umama we-narcissistic manipulative ubumba ubuntu bomntwana wakhe ngokumvalela kwipateni yokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuzingca okugqithisileyo. Olu lwalamano, olwakhelwe phezu kolawulo nempembelelo, luthintela umntwana ekuphuhliseni ubuntu bokwenene bokuzimela, bumfaka kumjikelo wokungasebenzi kakuhle ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuqonda olu tshintsho luntsonkothileyo kusenza ukuba siqonde ngcono iziphumo kubomi bomntu omdala bomntu we-narcissistic manipulator, kokubini kwibhalansi yakhe kunye nobudlelwane bakhe nabanye.