I-Flying monkey: izinto ezihambisana ne-narcissistic manipulator (inkcazo)

QInkcazo: “inkawu ephaphazelayo” (ngokubhekisele kwifilimu UmGqirha Oz apho igqwirha lithumela iinkawu zalo ukuba zihlasele uDorothy) ngumntu oyenzelwe ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe. intlola, yenza abantu bazive benetyala, bahlukumeze, banyelise okanye banyelise ixhoba. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic iyaqaphela ukuba ingabonakali: isebenza ngokubambisana.

Indlela I-Narcissistic Manipulator Eziqesha Ngayo Iinkawu Zakhe Ezibhabhayo

Ukuqeshwa kusekwe kwiqonga: umxhasi we-narcissistic uzibonakalisa njengexhoba. “Ndinexhala ngaye, ushiywa ziingqondo”, “undishiye ngobusuku, ngaphandle kwesizathu”. Izalamane eziguqukileyo, ezishukunyisiweyo zifuna ukunceda – kwaye zibe ngamajelo onxibelelwano: zidlulisela imiyalezo, zibeke uxinzelelo (“uyakuthanda kodwa”), zichaze iinkcukacha zakho, zahlula abo bakuxhasayo. Abanye benza ngokunyaniseka, abanye ngenxa yokuthanda idrama, abanye ngenxa yokungazithembi; I-narcissistic manipulator ivele yavula iintliziyo zabo ezilungileyo kuwe. Luhlobo lwe-emotional manipulation.

Amabinzana aqhelekileyo kwiinkawu ezibhabhayo

• “Undixelele ukuba uza kutshintsha ngokwenene, awukwazi ukumnika ithuba?” »
• “Uyabaxa, akulunganga kangako, zonke izibini ziyaxabana.”
• “Usapho lucinga ukuba kufuneka wenze umzamo.”
• “Andithabathi cala, kodwa…” (ilandelwa lucalucalulo olungenakuthelekiswa nanto).
• “Ingaba undixelela yonke into ngenene? ​​Unexhala ngawe.”

Kutheni iphumelela kangaka kwixhoba?

Ixhoba lizifumana lichaphazeleka ngokuphindwe kabini: yi-narcissistic manipulator, emva koko ngabo bafanele ukumkhusela. Inkawu nganye ebhabhayo iqinisa ukuthandabuza – “ukuba wonke umntu utsho njalo…” – kwaye ivuselela eyona gaslighting engundoqo. Ikwasisixhobo sokuzahlula: siyazinyanzela ukuba sithule, kwaye ukuthula kugqiba umsebenzi. Emva kokwahlukana, iinkawu ezibhabhayo zisetyenziselwa intlanganisela hoovering: “akasatyi, ubhitya, kufuneka uthethe naye.”

Indlela yokuzikhusela

• Chonga amajelo: ngubani ohambisa ntoni kubani. Imephu yengqondo yeereyilayi inceda ukunqumla ukuvuza.
• Ulwazi oluncinci: ungathembisi nantoni na kwabo babuyela kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic – lo ngumgaqo we-grey rock esetyenziswa kwabo bakufutshane nabo.
• Iimpendulo eziqhelekileyo, i-neutral: “enkosi ngomyalezo wakho, ndiya kulawula” – ngaphandle kwesizathu, ngaphandle kokuhlaselwa.
• Ukukhetha oogxa bakho: abantu ababini abalumkileyo bangcono kunabantu abalishumi abanobubele nabanokulawuleka.

Ukushiya ukubamba kwakhona kuthetha ukushiya inethiwekhi eyigcinayo – i-plan yokushiya i-PN inikezela inyathelo elipheleleyo kule nto.

Inkcazelo esuka kwi-Glossary ye-narcissistic pervert.