Ukuphindaphinda: Inkcazo kwaye kutheni i-narcissistic manipulator ikufuna

Inkcazo: Ukubuyiselwa kwakhona kukusebenza ngokwasengqondweni apho umntu aphinda ahlawule i-narcissism yakhe – imvakalelo yakhe yexabiso, amandla, ubukho – ngeendleko zabanye. Apho umntu omdala osempilweni efumana imbeko kwizinto aziphumezileyo kunye nonxibelelwano lwakhe, i-narcissistic manipulator isebenza njengesixhobo ekufuneka sihlaziywe rhoqo: ukuncoma, ukuzithoba, ukuncoma, uloyiko, nokubandezeleka kwabanye kusebenza njengesibaso.

Itanki evuzayo

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic idla ngokuba nokulimala kwangaphambili – oko uncwadi lubiza ngokuba yi-narcissistic flaws – evimbela ukuba agcine umfanekiso omhle ngaye ngokwakhe. Kungoko kujongwe kwimithombo yangaphandle: iqabane elithandekayo, oogxa aboyikisayo, abantwana abathobekileyo, abadlulayo abathandanayo. Umthombo ngamnye “unikezelo lwe-narcissistic”. Xa umthombo ukhathala okanye uvukela, umbhexeshi we-narcissistic kufuneka aphumelele ukubabuyisela kwakhona (le yi-hoovering) okanye afumane enye – ngokukhawuleza.

Yintoni ngokwenene utshintsho kubudlelwane

• Awuthandwa, uyasetyenziswa: umsebenzi wakho kukubonisa ukuba mkhulu – owenziwe ukuba kwenzeke yi-mirror effect kwasekuqaleni.
• Impumelelo yakho iyamgrogrisa: naluphi na uzuko olungelulo olwalo luphambukisa ukukhanya kwaye lwenza buthathaka unikezelo lwakhe kwakhona. Yiyo loo nto i-devaluations ecwangcisiweyo, ngokulandelelana kwe-microtrauma.
• Iemvakalelo zakho ziyayondla: umona, umsindo okanye ukuphelelwa lithemba okubonisayo kungqina amandla ayo. Ukungakhathali okubonakalayo = ukunqongophala.
• Imijikelo ilandela itanki yayo: ibamba xa izele, ikhohlakele xa ingenanto. Asinto imo, lulawulo lwempahla.

Kutheni oku kuqonda kukhulula

Amaxhoba amaninzi ayazikhathaza ngokuzibuza ukuba “ndenze ntoni na?” “. Impendulo, kunye ne-renarcissization engqondweni, iyacaca: akukho nto. Awuzange uqalise ubungqwabalala bakhe – uvele wayeka, okomzuzwana, ukuhambisa umthamo. Akuyona ingxaki yothando; yingxaki yokubonelela. Ukuqonda le ndlela, njengokoukuqinisa okwethutyanaehamba nayo, ithomalalisa ubutyala kwaye ilungiselela ukuphuma – i6 Inyathelo leSicwangciso sokuMyeka uMphathi weNarcissisticqala apho.

Inkcazelo esuka kwi-Glossary ye-narcissistic pervert.