QQAPHELA: Iimicrotraumas eziqokelelweyo lulandelelwano lwamanxeba abonakalayo amancinci ngokwasengqondweni – ukuhlaba, ukuhla, ukulibala, ukuthula, isigqebelo – ethi, ephindaphindwa kwiinyanga okanye iminyaka, ivelise ukwenzakala okunzulu njengomothuko omnye. Yityhefu yethontsi lamanzi kunaleyo yetsunami.
Kutheni ukuphindaphinda kwenzakalise ngaphezu kobukhulu
Isiganeko esikhawulezileyo sibangela ukusabela okubonakalayo: sibiza igama, siyayiphatha. I-Microtraumas ingena phantsi kwe-radar yokwazisa. I-spike nganye eyodwa ibonakala ingabalulekanga – “wayediniwe”, “ndinomdla kakhulu” – kodwa inkqubo ye-nervous irekhoda yonke into. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ixhoba livelisa imeko yokuxinezeleka okungapheliyo: i-hypervigilance, ukukhathala, iingxaki zokulala, ukulahlekelwa yintembelo kwisigwebo sabo. Sifumana lo matshini entliziyweni yokulawula, njengoko kuchazwe kwi-Izibonakaliso zexhoba le-narcissistic pervert.
Zibukeka njani ezi microtraumas mihla le?
- I-Sarcasm esidlangalaleni, ilandelwa ngokucwangcisiweyo ngokuthi “kodwa ndiyadlala, awunawo uburharha?”
- Ukulibala “ngokuzenzekelayo” kwizinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe: usuku lwakho lokuzalwa, uviwo lwakho, udliwano-ndlebe lwakho.
- Ukuncwina, ukujonga okucaphukisayo, ucango olubethayo – ulwimi oluthe cwaka lokuthotywa kwexabiso.
- Uthelekiso olucekethekileyo: “i-ex kadade wethu, uphumelele”.
- Ukuchaswa kweembono zakho: “uyayibaxa”, “ayizange yenzeke ngolo hlobo”.
Into nganye ethathwe ngokwahlukeneyo ayinakuphikwa. Ngokudibeneyo, benza inkungu esisigxina apho ixhoba liphela lizithandabuza ngayo yonke into. Oku kuthandabuza okucwangcisiweyo kufana ne-gaslighting, apho i-microtraumas ihlala iyinto ekrwada.
Isiphumo esongezelekayo: kutheni abo bakungqongileyo bengaqondi
Xa ekugqibeleni ixhoba lithetha, uyeva: “Kodwa akukho nto!” » Abo bakungqongileyo bagweba onke amathontsi, hayi ulwandle. Kuko oku kungafani okuzihlukanisayo: ubunyani bokwenzakala akubonakali ngaphandle. Ixhoba liqala ukukholelwa ukuba “uyayibaxa” – kanye injongo.
Indlela yokuphilisa ukwenzakala okunyukayo
Ukuphilisa kuqala ngokuqonda ukuba oko wakubonayo bekuyinyani, nangaphandle kwesiganeko esinomtsalane. Ukubiza izibakala, umhla, ngokubhaliweyo, ubuyisela inkumbulo ukuba impembelelo iye yaqhekeka. Okulandelayo kuza ukhuseleko: umgama obonakalayo kunye nedijithali ukusuka kumthombo. Okokugqibela, ukwakha kwakhona – umzimba, unxibelelwano, imbeko – izigaba zazo zichazwe kwi-kutheni ukuphiliswa kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic kuthatha ixesha. Ukuba le migca ichaza ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, isicwangciso se-6-step se-Ukushiya i-narcissistic pervert yindawo efanelekileyo yokuqala.
Jonga kwakhona: iglosari epheleleyo ye-narcissistic pervert.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.