Umona ogulayo: Ungawuqonda njani kwaye udlule kuwo?

Umona, xa uthambile kwaye ubakho ngamaxesha athile, ukhumbuza isibini ukuba singathatheli omnye komnye. Kodwa xa inetyhefu kwaye ingenangqiqo, ichaphazela ukuzinza kobudlelwane bothando. Ikhwele elingafanelekanga liyatshabalalisa kwaye likhokelela kwiingxabano ezingakumbi. Kweli nqaku, fumana iimpawu zomona onetyhefu, iziphumo ezibangelayo kunye nendlela yokuyinyanga.

Sick Umona: yintoni?

Umona ongafanelekanga yimvakalelo engafanelekanga enokuthi ivele kuzo zonke iintlobo zobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Isondela kwi-paranoia ngokuzithelekisa nabanye kwaye uzive ukhathazekile, uphantsi kwaye unovelwano. Injongo apha kukulawula ngokupheleleyo ubudlelwane. Yiyo loo nto ukuzibaxa, ukuzisizela, ubuxoki, izoyikiso kunye/okanye ukukhohlisa kudla ngokusetyenziswa liqabane elinomona.

Zintoni iimpawu zekhwele elibi? Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo

Nazi ezinye iimpawu ezinokukuxelela malunga nengxaki yomona ongenampilo kwiqabane elinomona:

1. L a uloyiko lokuphulukana nothando lomnye.
2. Ukuziva uphantsi kwaye ukuphelelwa ukuzithemba
3. Umnqweno wokulawula abanye kwaye ube sembindini wobomi babo

1 er uphawu: uloyiko lokulahlekelwa uthando lomnye.

Njengenxalenye ye umona enetyhefu, uloyiko lokuphulukana nothando lwabanye luphawu lokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo. Iqabane elinomlutha liyoyika ukushiywa ngumthandi wabo. Uyesaba ukwaphula iqhina lokuncamathela elimbophelela kumlingane wakhe. Olu loyiko lungafanelekanga lokulahlekelwa ngumsa womnye umntu ludibaniswa nemvakalelo enzulu yokungakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kweli qabane.

2 e uphawu: ukuziva uphantsi kunye nokulahlekelwa ukuzithemba.

Bonke abantu abaxhomekeke emphefumlweni baphuhlisa ukuziva bephantsi kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Bane- ukuzijongela phantsi kwaye uqhubele phambili kubudlelwane bothando kunye nokuncipha kokuzithemba. Ukuzithanda ngumthombo wozinzo lweemvakalelo. Isisiseko sokwakhiwa kwe-narcissistic ethi, xa kwidosi efanelekileyo, emva koko ikuvumela ukuba uhlakulele ukuzithemba okunamandla.

Oku kukunceda uzixabise yaye uzive ukufanelekele ukuthandwa. Nangona kunjalo, iqabane elixhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo alisoloko libonisa iimpawu zomntu ofanelwe luthando. Akazange aqinisekiswe ngothando kunye notyalo-mali lomntu amthandayo. Uziva ngathi akalufanelanga ulwalamano okanye akalufanelanga uthando.

3 e uphawu: umnqweno wokulawula abanye kunye nokuba sembindini wobomi babo

Ukuze agcine ukuzithemba kwakhe kukwincopho, umntu oxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo ufuna ukunconywa ngabanye. Ufuna ukuba ajongwe kakuhle, athandwe nguye kwaye azithobe ukuze avuselele ukuzithemba kwakhe. Ngenxa yokuba akunakwenzeka ukuba akholelwe kubukho bakhe ngaphandle kobukho emehlweni abanye, uya kufuna yonke ingqalelo yeqabane lakhe. Ukongeza, uya kuba nekhwele elingafanelekanga kulo naluphi na utyalo-mali olwenziwe ngomnye umntu ongaphandle kobudlelwane.

Umona onetyhefu: iziphumo kubomi bomtshato

Umona ogqithisileyo udla ngokuba nefuthe elibi kumgangatho uwonke wobudlelwane:

1. Kukhokelela ekuxhomekekeni ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokungabikho kokuthembana phakathi kwamaqabane. Iqabane elinomona linokuba ne-paranoia ngenxa yomona onetyhefu.
2. Ikwabangela ukuphazamiseka ngokwasengqondweni nakwindlela yokuziphatha kumntu onomona. Iqabane elinomona linokuthi, umzekelo, libe nobundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngamazwi. Kunokubangela unxunguphalo, ukungazithembi nokuzixabisa. Ngokukwanjalo, unokuzenza izinto eziphambeneyo ezinokumfaka kwisiphithiphithi. 
3. Ukunyaniseka kweqabane kuyabuzwa kwaye uba lixhoba lezityholo zobuxoki. Ezi zityholo ezicingelwayo ziyaloyikisa iqabane lakho. Okulandelayo kukwahlukana nokuphela kobudlelwane.
4. UUmona osempilweni nawo udala iingxaki ezithile zomzimba ezizibonakalisa nge-impawu ezifana nokubetha ngamandla ngenxa yexhala, uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu, ukuphazamiseka kokulala nokungalali, intloko ebuhlungu kunye nesisu esibuhlungu, amajoni omzimba, ukuncipha kobunzima bomzimba, ukuncipha kobunzima bomzimba, ukuncipha kobunzima bomzimba, ukuqaqanjelwa yintliziyo, ukuqaqanjelwa yintliziyo okanye ukuqaqanjelwa yintliziyo.

UNgaba umntu onomona ongagungqiyo angatshintsha?

Ewe, umntu onekhwele ngokugqithiseleyo unamandla okutshintsha aze aphile. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuphumeza oku. Ngaphezu kwako konke, umntu onomona kufuneka aqonde lo mkhwa unetyhefu yena kunye neqabane lakhe. Angakwenza oku kuphela kwisakhelo sonxibelelwano olungafihlisiyo nolungahluzwanga kunye neqabane lakhe.

Udibana njani neqabane elinomona omkhulu?

Ngoku uyazi ukuba ungawubona njani umona ongenampilo, nazi ezinye iingcebiso kumaqabane omabini, nokuba awunguye okanye awukho iqabane elinomona.

Ukuba uneqabane elinomona omkhulu

• Qinisekisa ukuba ngaba wenza into evuselela umona
• Yeka lo msebenzi okanye ukuthatha inxaxheba kangangexesha elithile ukubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba uzibophelele kubudlelwane bakho bomtshato.
• Be bonisa uthando lwakho kwiqabane lakho
• Thetha ngokukhululekileyo malunga nengxaki neqabane lakho
• Buza imbono yabo rhoqo kwaye ujonge izisombululo kunye

Ukuba uliqabane elinomona omkhulu

Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi indlela yokunyanga umona ongafanelekanga? Landela la macebiso:

• Chat kunye kwaye umamele abahlobo abathembekileyo 
• Umona obonisiweyo unokuvela kuwe hayi iqabane lakho
• Thembeka kuwe kwaye uzijonge ukuze ufumanise ukuba yintoni ebangela ezi mvakalelo.
• Qeqesha ukucamngca kunye nezenzo zesisa
• Jonga kakuhle iqabane lakho
• Xelela iqabane lakho indlela oziva ngayo
• Vuma ikhwele lakho kwaye uthethe ngokuphandle ngaphandle kokutyhola okanye ukukhohlisa.

Ikhonkco phakathi komona ongafanelekanga kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwe-narcissistic

Umona ongafanelekanga kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwe-narcissistic zihlala zinxulunyaniswa ngokusondeleyo, zenza umjikelo owonakalisayo kubudlelwane. Abantu abane-Narcissistic banokubonakalisa umona ogqithisileyo kumaqabane abo. Lo mona uba sisixhobo sokuxhaphaza ngokweemvakalelo, uvumela i-narcissist ukuba igcine ulawulo lwakhe phezu komnye.

Kwangaxeshanye, umona we-pathological unokuba ngumhlaba ochumileyo apho izimilo ezixhaphazayo ze-narcissistic zikhula. Ukungakhuseleki okunzulu okudala umona kutyhala umntu ukuba asoloko efuna ukuhoywa kunye nokuncoma, iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ze-narcissism. Ke, ezi mpawu zimbini ngokwasengqondweni zondla omnye komnye, zenza imekobume yobudlelwane obuyityhefu apho ukuthembela kweqabane, ukuzimela, kunye nokuzithemba kujongelwa phantsi ngokucwangcisiweyo.

Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic ngekhwele elingafanelekanga

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   World Journal of Biological Psychiatry, 4(1), 55-61.
2. Djerada, S. (2019). “Jalousie et psychopathologie : La jalousie dans les relations de couple.”
   Revue de Psychopathologie Clinique et Thérapeutique, 35(2), 77-89.
   Une analyse approfondie de la jalousie pathologique et ses liens avec différents troubles psychologiques dans les relations de couple.
3. Limosin, C., & Azorin, J.-M. (2015). “Jalousie morbide : Approches cliniques et thérapeutiques.”
   Psychiatrie de l’Adulte, Vol. 7, 103-120.
   Cet ouvrage aborde les différentes formes de jalousie maladive ainsi que les traitements possibles.
4. Silva, H., & Leite, P. (2017). “Pathological jealousy: Symptoms, causes, and treatment options.”
   Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, 68(3), 512-518.
   Une revue complète des symptômes et des causes de la jalousie pathologique, avec un aperçu des options de traitement.
5. Dutton, D.G., & Painter, S. (1981). “The Criminal Jealousy Syndrome: Impressions from Criminal Justice System Professionals.” International Journal of Law and Psychiatry, 4(2), 201-210.
   Cette étude se concentre sur les implications criminelles de la jalousie pathologique, en particulier dans les cas de violence conjugale.
6. Mullen, P.E. (1990). “Jealousy: The Pathology of Passion.” The British Journal of Psychiatry, 157(5), 593-601.
7. Easton, J.A., Schipper, L.D., & Shackelford, T.K. (2007). “Morbid jealousy and intimate partner violence.” Aggression and Violent Behavior, 12(3), 364-375.

Umona ogulayo njengentolongo

Ngamafutshane, ikhwele elingafanelekanga kumabhinqa okanye emadodeni likude ukuba libe yindawo yoxolo kwisibini. Yintolongo apho ibanjwa kufuneka lilandele imigaqo kunye nokungakhuseleki komgcini wejele okanye lijongene nesohlwayo. Akukho ndawo okanye kuqwalaselwa ukuzithemba, imvelaphi okanye ukukhula komntu. Ngethamsanqa, kukho izisombululo ezinokwenzeka ezinokunceda isibini ukuba woyise umona.