Ukomelezwa okwethutyana: isixhobo esenza ubudlelwane bukhoboke

Inkcazo: Ukomelezwa okwethutyana yindlela esuka kwisayikholoji yokufunda: umvuzo onikezelwe ngendlela engalindelekanga nengaqhelekanga udala uncamathiselo olomeleleyo noluhlala luhleli kunomvuzo ocwangcisiweyo. Yinjini yoomatshini be-slot – kwaye, ngaphandle kokuba ixhoba liyazi, injini yobudlelwane obuninzi kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator.

Amava achaza yonke into

Ngomnyaka we-1950, isazi sengqondo se-psychologist u-B. F. Skinner sabonisa ukuba isilwanyana esifumana umvuzo kwisenzo ngasinye ngokukhawuleza siba nesithukuthezi – kodwa ukuba isilwanyana savuzwa sometimes, ngaphandle komgaqo obonakalayo, siphinda isenzo ngokunyanzeliswa, ixesha elide emva kokuba umvuzo uphelile. Ukungaqiniseki kuba sisibaso sokuqhuba. Ishishini lokudlala liye lakha i-empire kule ngqalelo. Ubudlelwane obulawulayo buvelisa kwakhona, ngokuqaphela okanye hayi.

Indlela i-narcissistic manipulator isebenza ngayo ukuqinisa okwethutyana

Umjikelo ucacile xa unikwe igama:

• Isigaba somvuzo: ingqalelo, ububele, ukuncoma, izicwangciso – incasa yangaphambili yolonwabo olugqibeleleyo.
• Punishment phase: ukuthula, ukubanda, umsindo, ukuhla kwexabiso – ngaphandle kwengcaciso ecacileyo.
• UImbuyekezo eqikelelwayo yomvuzo: uxolo olubuhlungu, izipho, “Ndiza kutshintsha”.

Ixhoba alisafuni ulonwabo: lifuna ukubuyisela umvuzo olahlekileyo, kanye njengoko umdlali efuna ukubuyisela isibonda sakhe. Uxolelwaniso ngalunye luvelisa isiqabu esinzulu—njengethamo—esomeleza iqhina. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, bonke ubomi bengqondo bulungelelaniswe malunga nombuzo omnye: “Iya kuphinda ibe yithenda nini?” »Esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba kutheni i-healing kwi-narcissistic manipulator ithatha ixesha: ingqondo kufuneka ingayifundi imeko yokwenyani, hayi intliziyo elula.

Iimpawu ukuba ukulo mjikelo

• Uhlalutya umyalezo ngamnye, ithowuni nganye, ukuqikelela “yeyiphi inguqulelo” yakhe oya kuba nayo ngokuhlwanje.
• Uyitshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo ukuze ifanele ukubuyiswa bububele.
• Izihlandlo zolonwabo ziba mfutshane kwaye zifutshane, isohlwayo side kwaye side.
• Abo bakungqongileyo babona kuphela imivuzo – iintyatyambo, iifoto ezimomothekayo – azizange zibe zisohlwayo.

Phuma kwi-conditioning

Iindaba ezimnandi: into efundiweyo ayinakufundwa. Undoqo kukuqikelelwa – eyakho, hayi eyabo. Ukusika okanye ukukhawulela ngokungqongqo uqhagamshelwano kuphazamisa umvuzo / isiphaluka sesohlwayo. Ukuqonda ezinye iindlela-ezifana nokukhohlisa kwe- ngenxa yetyala okanye isiphumo sesipili sokuhenda – kuphelisa ityala “lokungabonwa.” Kwaye ukuba usebudlelwaneni, i-6-Isinyathelo seSicwangciso sokuhamba siqala ngokuchanekileyo ngokuthiya lo mjikelo.

Inkcazelo esuka kwi-Glossary ye-narcissistic pervert.