Ingcaciso: isiphumo sesipili, okanye mirroring, lutyekelo lwendalo lomntu lokuxelisa – ngokungazi okanye ngabom – izijekulo, ulwimi, ukuthanda incasa yakhe kunye nokudala incasa yakhe. Kubudlelwane obuphilileyo, le yinto eqhelekileyo kunye ne-symmetrical phenomenon. Kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator, iba sisixhobo sokuhenda ukusebenza okumangalisayo.
Umatshini: kutheni ukwenza isipili kusitsala kakhulu
Ingqondo yethu iyakuthanda ukufana. Xa umntu ebonisa amazwi ethu, iinqobo zethu ezisemgangathweni, ii-anecdotes zethu, uburharha bethu, siziva sinoluvo olukhawulezileyo lokuxakeka: “siyazana ngonaphakade”. Iingcali zengqondo zibiza le ifanayo , enye yezona ziseko ezinamandla zokukhanga. Ingxaki ayikokulinganisa ngokwe-se nganye – sonke siyenza kancinci. Ingxaki xa i uunilateral, strategic and total.
Indlela i-narcissistic manipulator isebenzisa ngayo umphumo wesibuko
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ayidibani nawe: yena ibonisa wena . Ngaba uyazithanda iintaba? Naye, “ngethuba”. Ngaba ukhe wafelwa? “Ulahlekelwe ngumntu naye”. Ngaba ukhe waphupha ngeqabane losapho elimamelayo, elithembekileyo? Uzibonakalisa kanye ngolu hlobo-hayi ngenxa yokuba enguye, kodwa ngenxa yokuba efunde kuwe umzobo wendoda okanye umfazi ofanelekileyo. Esi sigaba, esihlala sibizwa ngokuba yi-love bombing, sixhomekeke kakhulu kwisipili.
Uphawu oluxelayo luza kamva: umboniso uyanyamalala. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba impembelelo isungulwe, ukuxelisa kuyeka kwaye kushiye indawo yokugxeka – kwizinto ezithandayo “ezabelane ngazo” ekuqaleni. Olu tshintsho alulotshintsho lwesimo: sisiphelo seqonga.
Isiphumo sesipili esinempilo ngokuchasene nesipili esikhohlisayo: 3 umahluko
- Reciprocity: Kwisibuko esinempilo, abantu ababini balungelelanisa omnye nomnye. Kwisibuko se-manipulator ye-narcissistic, umntu omnye kuphela ubonakalisa – kwaye enye ibonakaliswe.
- Stability: Ukufana okwenene kuyaqhubeka ekuhambeni kwexesha. Ukubonakaliswa kobuchule kuyawa emva koloyiso.
- Ixabiso: isibuko esisempilweni asifuni nto. Isibuko se-narcissistic manipulator silungiselela ityala leemvakalelo: “akukho mntu wakha wakuqonda ukuba uyandithanda”.
Indlela yokuzikhusela
Ukuba udibana nomntu obonakala ngathi ngumdlalo wakho ogqibeleleyo kwiiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala, thoba isantya. Buza imibuzo evulekileyo ongazaziyo iimpendulo kuyo, jonga ubudlelwane bakhe bakudala, usapho lwakhe, oogxa bakhe. Eyokwenene ifunyenwe ngexesha kunye nokuchasana; Umboniso usoloko ugqibelele – yiloo nto kanye ekufuneka ilumkise. Kwaye ukuba uphuma kubudlelwane apho uziva “uqondwa kunanini na ngaphambili” kwaye emva koko watshatyalaliswa, ukuqonda iindlela emotional manipulation linyathelo lokuqala; Isikhokelo se-healing emva kwe-PN siya kukunceda ukulungisa inkohliso kwizinto eziyinyani.
Jonga kwakhona: Qall iinkcazo ezisuka kwisichazi-magama esigqwethekileyo se-narcissistic.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.