Ukuhlala kunye neqabane elikhohlisayo le-narcissistickuvele kubenzima kakhulu kwaye kuyingozi ngenene. Nangona kunjalo, okwangoku, abaninzi abafazi abaninzi bahlala kwi-ubudlelwane obuyityhefungoluhlobo lomntu. Landela eli nqaku kwaye uya kuzazi iingozi ojongene nazo kobu budlelwane, indlela yokuphuma kuyo kunye nolunye ulwazi ekufuneka uyazi.
Wazi njani ukuba uhlala ne-narcissistic manipulator?
I-UA i-narcissistic manipulator ngumntu ofuna ukulawula yonke into. Ufuna ukubulawula ngokupheleleyo ubomi bakhe nobabo bamngqongileyo. Kubo bonke ubomi bakhe, umbhexeshi we-narcissistic uchitha lonke ixesha lakhe elawula kwaye ekhohlisa abanye. Usoloko efuna ukubonwa njengomntu ophakamileyo. Ixhoba le- legqwetheki le-narcissistic liphathwa kakubi mihla le, izinyeliso, izoyikiso kunye nokunganyaniseki. Ihlala iphelela ekubeni yodwa kwihlabathi.
Indlela yokuphila kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator – Iingozi zokuhlala naye
Nazi iingozi zokuhlala kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator:
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- Kunzima ukufumanisa i-narcissistic manipulator ngomhla wokuqala. Ekuqaleni, uya kuba ibe luncedo kakhulu kwaye i- intle, iyifanele ngokwenene inkosana enomtsalane. Kodwa, ngokuhamba kwexesha, uya kuba lelona phupha libi kakhulu lexhoba kwaye i-narcissistic manipulator iba yingozi kakhulu.
- Ekuqaleni, wonke umntu uya kuwela phantsi kopelo lwakhe. Ngoku ekubeni eyinxalenye yobomi bakhe prey, uya kumrhwebesha aze ekugqibeleni amtshabalalise ngokupheleleyo. Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic uya kuzibonakalisa njengomntu ekudala efuna ixhoba.
- Umntu onothando, omamelayo, onobubele, njl.njl. Enyanisweni, umntu okhohlisayo wenza nje isenzo. Ixhoba linokuhamba lide lingakwazi ukubona abahlobo babo kunye nosapho ngenxa yokuqhathwa kwe-narcissistic manipulator.
- Emva kwayo yonke le mifanekiso, i-narcissistic manipulator iya kutshintsha ubuso bakhe. Uya kukwenza ukholelwe ukuba nguwe okhohlakeleyo ebalini kwaye yena ulixhoba. Ixhoba liwela ngokukhawuleza kulo mgibe kwaye liqalise ukuzibeka ityala. Ukongezelela, uya kuba nokuphazamiseka engqondweni aze adandatheke ngakumbi de ekugqibeleni azibulale.
Iingcebiso ezi-5 zokuhlala kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator
Ukuba ungu-Qingwa le-narcissistic pervert kodwa umthanda ngokwenene, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ungahlala njani nomyeni wakho ogqwethekileyo okanye umfazi onamaqhinga. Landela la macebiso ma-5 alandelayo kwaye uya kwazi ukuba uhlala njani neqabane elinobuntu obungalawulekiyo?
1. Ukumamela
Amaxesha amaninzi, ama-manipulative narcisists ahlala ebonwa njengabantu ababi. Kodwa, banokuba yinkosana enomtsalane. Umzuzu wonwabile kubudlelwane bakho, ungahoya yonke into eyenzekayo malunga nawe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba useneengxaki kubudlelwane bakho, kuyimfuneko ngokwenene ukuphucula izakhono zakho zokuphulaphula. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, ngoko kuqinisekileyo ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lusecicini lokuqhawuka. Ke, ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho, sebenzisa iindlebe zakho kakhulu.
2. Buza kuphela imibuzo efanelekileyo
Uninzi lwamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulator ahlala naye kuba wenza konke okusemandleni ukuba umntu azive exabisekile. Oku kuye kucace ngakumbi xa usapho kunye nabahlobo bakhe bemnqula kwaye bebonisa ukuncoma iqabane lakhe le-narcissistic. Kwaye eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba ixhoba libuze umbuzo: ngaba ubudlelwane bufanelekile okanye akunjalo?
3. Ukuqinisa into entle
Ngokweengcali, ukomeleza okulungileyo kunceda ngokwenene ekuphuculeni indlela yokuziphatha ye-narcissistic manipulator kwaye inceda ixhoba lakhe ukuba liphile ngcono kunye naye. Ukongeza, ukuzithemba kwe-manipulator ye-narcissistic xa usengxakini ihlala iphucula.
4. Ukuziqhelanisa nokuqaphela
Ngokwenza olu qheliselo, iqabane lakho le-narcissistic elikhohlisayo liya kuqala ukuba nobomi obungcono. Ukuziqhelanisa nokuqonda kuya kunceda umxhasi we-narcissistic aqonde ukuqala komsindo wakhe kwaye atshintshe imo yakhe kwangoko. Ukuze wenze iqabane lakho livume ukuyenza, kufuneka uzame kuqala. Wandule ke, ngokuthe ngcembe, umazise ngoqheliselo.
5. Hlala unengqondo
Kuyimfuneko kakhulu ukuba ixhoba libe nengqiqo. Kuya kufuneka akhumbule ukuba ubuntu be-narcissistic manipulator abuyi kutshintsha kodwa indlela yakhe yokuziphatha iya kutshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ngoko ke, ixhoba kufuneka liyazi into elitsalayo kulo mntu.
Indlela yokuphuma kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator?
Kukho amaxhoba ee-narcissistic manipulators acinga ukuba angawanceda aphume kwindlela yawo yokuziphatha. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abasebenzisa i-narcissistic abafuni uncedo kuba becinga ukuba baqhelekile. Ngokwaba bantu, iingxaki zihlala zivela kwabanye. Nkqu neengcali zengqondo azikwazi ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kwii-narcissistic manipulators. Ukuba bayalwamkela uncedo lweengcali zengqondo, oko kubanceda baphume kudandatheko.
Abenzi be-Narcissistic manipulators abasoze bamkele iimpazamo zabo. Ke ngoko, baya kuyeka ukuya kwidinga lakhe kunye nesazi sezengqondo. Nje ukuba bamkele iimpazamo zabo, amaxhoba kufuneka azikhwebule kwangoko kuzo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuba nzima ukuba amaxhoba ahambe, ngoko ke imfuneko yoncedo lweengcali. Ngokufanayo, uncedo oluvela kubathandekayo.
Lixesha lokubayeka ukuzikhathaza ngeqabane lakho. Iqinisekile ukuba ayisayi kuphinda itshintshe. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyaphuma kubudlelwane, kufunekatshintsha zonke iinkcukacha zakho zoqhagamshelwanonjengenombolo yefowuni, idilesi ye-imeyile, njl.Musa ukushiya nawuphi na umkhondo wobu bugqwirha kubomi bakho obutsha.
Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic malunga “nendlela yokuphila nomntu okhohlisayo”?
Nalu ukhetho lwemisebenzi esixhenxe yesiFrentshi ejongene nokuhlalisana nomntu one-narcissistic kunye neempawu zobuntu obukhohlisayo:
- “Les manipulateurs et l’amour : Faire face aux pervers narcissiques”
Auteur : Isabelle Nazare-Aga
Éditeur : Éditions de l’Homme
Année : 2013 - “Le harcèlement moral : La violence perverse au quotidien”
Auteur : Marie-France Hirigoyen
Éditeur : Éditions La Découverte
Année : 1998 - “Les pervers narcissiques : Qui sont-ils ? Comment fonctionnent-ils ? Comment leur échapper ?”
Auteur : Jean-Charles Bouchoux
Éditeur : Éditions Eyrolles
Année : 2010 - “Vivre avec un manipulateur”
Auteur : Christel Petitcollin
Éditeur : Éditions Guy Trédaniel
Année : 2010 - “Les manipulateurs sont parmi nous”
Auteur : Isabelle Nazare-Aga
Éditeur : Éditions de l’Homme
Année : 1997 - “La manipulation affective dans le couple : Faire face à un pervers narcissique”
Auteur : Pascale Chapaux-Morelli et Pascal Couderc
Éditeur : Éditions Eyrolles
Année : 2009 - “Les personnalités narcissiques”
Auteur : Alberto Eiguer
Éditeur : Éditions Dunod
Année : 2014
Ezi ncwadi zibonelela ngemibono enzulu kunye neengcebiso ezisebenzayo zokuqonda nokulawula ubudlelwane nabantu ababonakalisa iimpawu zokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic.
Ukuqukumbela
Ukujongana ne-narcissistic manipulator ngumngeni onzima ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela iimpawu, ugcine impilo yakho yengqondo kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ufune uncedo kwiingcali kunye nabo ubathandayo ukuze uzikhulule kubo. Ukuqonda kunye nokuqapha ngamanyathelo aphambili okufumana kwakhona ukuzimela kunye nokwakha ubomi obanelisayo, kude netyhefu.
Ukuqhagamshelana: Kutheni umkhohlisi we-narcissistic ekuhlola nje?
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.