I-EMDR: ukwelapha okuthembisayo kwabahlukumezekile

Abesifazane abaye baphathwa kabi futhi bahlukunyezwa umuntu ohlanekezelwe we-narcissistic bangathola imiphumela ebalulekile yengqondo, ngisho nangemva kokushiya ubudlelwano obunobuthi. Ukuze ibasize banqobe lokhu kuhlukumezeka, i-EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) ibonakala iwukwelapha okuthakazelisa ngokukhethekile. Ake sithole ukuthi iyini ngempela i-EMDR nokuthi ingasiza kanjani izisulu zabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic bakhe kabusha izimpilo zabo.

Iyini ngempela i-EMDR?

I-EMDR, noma i-eye movement deensitization and reprocessing in French, i-psychotherapy eyakhiwa ngeminyaka yawo-1980 isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uFrancine Shapiro. Le ndlela isuselwe ekushintsheni izinzwa ezihlangene zombili, ezikhathini eziningi ngokusebenzisa ukunyakaza kwamehlo okuqondisiwe, okuhlanganiswe nokuvuswa kwezinkumbulo ezibuhlungu.

Umgomo uwukuphindaphinda ngokuzenzekelayo inqubo yokucubungula ulwazi lwemvelo eyenzeka phakathi nokulala kwe-REM. Eqinisweni, phakathi nalesi sigaba sokulala, amehlo ethu enza ukunyakaza okuvundlile okusheshayo okuvumela ubuchopho ukuthi buhlanganise futhi “bugaye” okuhlangenwe nakho okuphila phakathi nosuku.

Isifundo seseshini ye-EMDR

Iseshini ye-EMDR ngokuvamile yenzeka ngezigaba ezihlukene eziyi-8:

1. Ukuthatha umlando nokuhlela ukwelashwa
2. Ukulungisa isiguli
3. Ukuhlolwa kwenkumbulo ehlasimulisayo ehlosiwe
4. Ukungazweli ngokushintshanisa ukuvuselela kwamazwe amabili
5. I-anchoring ye-positive cognition
6. Ukuskena umzimba ukuze kutholwe ukungezwani okungaba khona kwensalela
7. Ukuvalwa kweseshini
8. Ukuhlola kabusha phakathi neseshini elandelayo

Isigaba esimaphakathi sokuqeda ukungezwani komzimba sihlanganisa ukucela isiguli ukuthi sigxile enkumbulo ebuhlungu kuyilapho silandela umnyakazo weminwe yomelaphi ngamehlo. Ezinye izinhlobo zokuvuselela zingasetshenziswa njengokushintshana kwemisindo noma ukuthepha.

Izindlela zokusebenza ze-EMDR

Nakuba ukuphumelela kwayo kufakazelwa ngokwesayensi, izindlela eziqondile zokusebenza ze-EMDR azikacaciswa ngokugcwele. Kubekwe ama-hypotheses amaningi:

• Ukushintshanisa ukuvuselela kwamazwe amabili kuzohlanganisa izinsiza zokunaka, ngaleyo ndlela kunciphise ukukhokhiswa ngokomzwelo okuxhunywe kwinkumbulo ebuhlungu.
• Kungakhuthaza ukuxhumana phakathi kwama-cerebral hemispheres amabili, okuvumela ukuhlanganiswa okungcono kolwazi.
• Izokhiqiza kabusha inqubo yokucubungula ulwazi lwemvelo yokulala okuyindida.
• Izokwenza kusebenze uhlelo lwe-parasympathetic, yenze isimo sokuphumula esivumela ukucutshungulwa kabusha.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi, i-EMDR ibonakala ivumela ubuchopho ukuthi “bugaye” okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu futhi kuhlanganiswe ngokufaneleka kakhulu kwinkumbulo yesikhathi eside.

I-EMDR yokwelapha ukuhlukumezeka okuxhumene ne-narcissistic pervert

Ubudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ngokuvamile bushiya imiphumela ebalulekile engokwengqondo kwabahlukunyezwayo: i-syndrome of ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba, njll. I-EMDR ingaba yinzuzo ngokukhethekile ekwelapheni lezi zimpawu ezihlukene.

Eqinisweni, lokhu kwelashwa kukuvumela ukuthi:

• Yehlisa ukungezwani kwezinkumbulo ezibuhlungu ezixhumene nokuxhashazwa kanye nokuhlukunyezwa okukhona
• Yehlisa ukushuba kwemizwa okuhlotshaniswa nalezi zinkumbulo
• Thuthukisa ukuqonda okusha, okuhle nokuguquguqukayo
• Qinisa izinsiza zangaphakathi kanye nokuzethemba
• Thuthukisa ukuqhela kuphendukezeli we-narcissistic

Imininingwane ye-EMDR yezisulu zama-narcissistic perverts

Uma iphrothokholi ye-EMDR ihlala injalo ngokujwayelekile, imininingwane ethile kufanele inakwe kuzisulu zama-narcissistic perverts:

• Umsebenzi wangaphambili wokuvikeleka nokuzinzisa imizwa ngokuvamile uyadingeka ngaphambi kokubhekana nezinkumbulo ezibuhlungu.
• Imibono engemihle okufanele uqondiswe ivamise ukuhlotshaniswa nomuzwa wecala, amahloni noma imizwa “yohlanya” ebangelwa umphendukezeli we-narcissistic.
• Kungaba usizo ukusebenzela izinkumbulo ezinhle kusukela ngaphambi kobudlelwane obunobuthi ukuze wakhe ukuzethemba.
• Ukwelapha kungase kuhlanganise ukusebenza “ezingxenyeni” zomuntu siqu ezihlukanisiwe ngenxa yokukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic pervert.

Imiphumela enenzuzo ebonwa kuzisulu

Ucwaningo oluningi luye lwabonisa ukuphumelela kwe-EMDR ekwelapheni ukuphazamiseka kokucindezeleka kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka. Phakathi kwezisulu zama-narcissistic perverts eziye zazuza kulokhu kwelashwa, ngokuvamile sibona:

• Ukuncipha okukhulu kwezimpawu zokukhathazeka-ukucindezeleka
• Ukwehliswa kwe-hypervigilance kanye ne-traumatic reliving
• Ukuzethemba okuthuthukisiwe kanye nokuzethemba
• Ikhono elingcono lokubeka imingcele ebuhlotsheni
• Ukudambisa intukuthelo nemizwa yokungabi nabulungisa
• Ukuthola kabusha ukulawula impilo yakho nemizwa yakho

Imikhawulo kanye nezinyathelo zokuphepha okufanele uzithathe

Nakuba ithembisa kakhulu, i-EMDR ayisona isisombululo esiyisimangaliso futhi inemikhawulo ethile:

• Kudinga ukuzibandakanya okusebenzayo okuvela esigulini futhi kungakhalisa ngokomzwelo.
• Ukusebenza kwayo kungase kube nomkhawulo ezimweni zokuphazamiseka okuphawulekayo kwe-dissociative.
• Ayiwafanele wonke amaphrofayili esiguli futhi idinga ukuhlolwa kwangaphambili.
• Imiphumela ingase ithathe isikhathi ukuze ibonakale ngokugcwele.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile ukuthi ukwelapha kwenziwe ngudokotela oqeqeshiwe nonolwazi, endaweni ephephile. Ukuqapha okungokwengqondo okwengeziwe kungase kudingeke ukuze kusekelwe izinguquko ezenziwe yi-EMDR.

I-EMDR nezinye izindlela zokwelapha: yikuphi ukuhambisana?

I-EMDR ingahlanganiswa ekwelashweni komhlaba wonke, ngaphezu kwezinye izindlela zokwelapha:

• Ukwelashwa kwengqondo-yokuziphatha ukuze kusebenze emaphethini okucabanga angasebenzi
• Ukwelashwa okuhlelekile ukubhekana nezimo zomndeni nezobudlelwano
• Thekokulutheka ukuqinisa izinsiza zasekhaya
• Ukwelashwa komzimba ukukhulula ukungezwani komzimba okuhlobene nokuhlukumezeka
• Amaqembu okuxoxisana ukuze ahlukane nokuzihlukanisa futhi abelane ngolwazi

Inhlanganisela yezindlela ezihlukahlukene, ezivumelaniswe nezidingo ezithile zesiguli ngasinye, ngokuvamile kuvumela imiphumela engcono.

Izinkomba ze-Bibliographic ngokwelashwa kwe-EMDR

Nalu uhlu lwezincwadi zokwelashwa kwe-EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing):

• Shapiro, F. (2018). I-Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy: Basic Principles, Protocols, and Procedures (3rd ed.). I-Guilford Press.
• Leeds, A.M. (2016). Umhlahlandlela Wezinqubo Zokwelapha Ezijwayelekile ze-EMDR Zabahlengikazi, Abaqondisi, kanye Nababonisi (2nd ed.). I-Springer Publishing Company.
• USolomon, R. M., & Shapiro, F. (2008). I-EMDR kanye Nemodeli Yokucubungula Ulwazi Oluguquguqukayo: Izindlela Ezingaba Khona Zokushintsha. Ijenali ye-EMDR Practice and Research, 2(4), 315-325.
• van der Kolk, B.A. (2014). Umzimba Ugcina Amaphuzu: Ubuchopho, Ingqondo, Nomzimba Ekuphulukisweni Kokuhlukumezeka. I-Viking.
• Luber, M. (Umhl.). (2015). I-Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Scripted Protocols and Summary Sheets: Ukwelapha Ukukhathazeka, Obsessive-Compulsive, and Mood-Related Conditions. I-Springer Publishing Company.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, i-EMDR ibonakala iwukwelapha okuthembisayo ukusiza abesifazane abayizisulu zama-narcissistic perverts ukuthi bazakhe kabusha. Ngokuqeda amandla izinkumbulo ezibuhlungu nokuthuthukisa izinsiza ezintsha, kukhuthaza “ukuhlelwa kabusha” kwangempela kobuchopho. Nakuba ingeke isuse ngokuphelele imiphumela yobudlelwano obunobuthi, inikeza izisulu amathuluzi abalulekile ukuze ziphinde zilawule izimpilo zazo futhi ziqhubekele phambili. Ihlanganiswe nezinye izindlela zokwelapha, i-EMDR ingumfelandawonye ozikhethela wona enqubweni yokuphulukisa nokukhululwa kwezisulu zama-narcissistic perverts.