I-microtrauma ehlanganisiwe: incazelo nokuthi kungani ibhubhisa kancane kancane

Incazelo: Ukulimala okuncane okuhlanganayo kuwuchungechunge lwamanxeba amancane angokwengqondo—ukulunywa, ukululazwa, ukunganakwa, ukuthula, ukuhlekisa—okuphindaphinda ezinyangeni noma eminyakeni, okudala ukulimala okukhulu njengokushaqeka okukodwa. Kuwubuthi beconsi lamanzi kunokuba kube yi-tsunami.

Kungani ukuphindaphinda kubuhlungu kakhulu kunobukhulu

Isenzakalo esingazelelwe sibangela ukusabela okubonakalayo: siyaqashelwa, selashwe. Nokho, ama-microtrauma awabonakali. I-barb ngayinye ehlukanisiwe ibonakala ingabalulekile—”wayekhathele,” “Ngizwela kakhulu”—kodwa isimiso sezinzwa sibhala konke. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isisulu siba nesimo sokucindezeleka okungapheli: ukuphaphama ngokweqile, ukukhathala, ukuphazamiseka kokulala, ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba ekwahluleleni kwaso. Le ndlela iyinhloko yokulawula okuphoqelelayo, njengoba kuchaziwe ku… izimpawu zesisulu somhlukumezi oziqhenyayo.

Zibukeka kanjani lezi zimpawu ezincane nsuku zonke?

• Ukubhuqa esidlangalaleni, kulandelwe ngokuhlelekile ukuthi “kodwa ngiyadlala, awunawo amahlaya?”
• Ukukhohlwa “ngokungahlosile” okubalulekile kuwe: usuku lwakho lokuzalwa, ukuhlolwa kwakho, ingxoxo yakho.
• Ukububula, ukubukeka okucasukile, umnyango ovalwe ngendluzula — ulimi oluthule lokwehlisa isithunzi.
• Ukuqhathanisa okucashile: “Owayengudadewethu, uyena ophumelele.”
• Ukuphika imibono yakho: “uyayiqisa”, “akwenzekanga kanjalo”.

Into ngayinye ethathwe ngokwehlukana ayinamsebenzi. Ndawonye, ​​zakha inkungu ehlala njalo lapho isisulu sigcina singabaza ngakho konke. Lokhu kungabaza okuhlelekile kufana nokuthi ukukhanyisa igesi, lapho ama-microtrauma awo ngokuvamile ewuhlobo lwezinto zokusetshenziswa.

Umphumela ohlangene: kungani labo abakuzungezile bengaqondi

Lapho isisulu ekugcineni sikhuluma, bezwa: “Kodwa lokho akulutho!” Labo abaseduze nabo bahlulela wonke amaconsi, hhayi ulwandle. Yilokhu kuhlukana okubahlukanisayo: iqiniso lokulimala alibonakali emhlabeni wangaphandle. Isisulu siqala ukukholelwa ukuthi “siyayiqisa” – kanye nomphumela ohlosiwe.

Indlela yokwelapha kusuka ku-microtrauma eqongelelayo

Ukwelapha kuqala ngokuqaphela: lokho okubonile bekungokoqobo, ngisho noma kungekho zigcawu ezihlekisayo. Ukubiza amaqiniso, ukuwathola ngesikhathi, nokuwabhala phansi kubuyisela inkumbulo yokuthi ukuxhashazwa kuhlukanisile. Okulandelayo kuza ukuphepha: ibanga elingokomzimba neledijithali ukusuka emthonjeni. Okokugcina, kukhona ukwakhiwa kabusha—umzimba, ubudlelwano, ukuzethemba—izigaba zazo ezichazwe kabanzi ku Kungani ukuphulukiswa ekuzicabangeleni ngokweqile kuthatha isikhathiUma le migqa ichaza impilo yakho yansuku zonke yamanje, uhlelo lwezinyathelo ezi-6 shiya i-narcissistic pervert kuyisiqalo esihle.

Bheka futhi: isichazamazwi esiphelele somuntu ophambukile oziqhenyayo.