Abasetyhini abangamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators bajongene nemeko enzima kakhulu kunye neyokuzinzisa. ubuntu Complex kunye ukuziphatha okuyityhefu kwaba bantu banokuba neziphumo ezibi ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo. Eli nqaku lijonge ukukunceda ukuba uqonde ngcono iindlela zokusebenza kunye nokukunika iindlela zokuzikhusela.
Yintoni iBipolarity?
Ibipolar disorder sisifo sengqondo esibonakaliswa kukutshintshatshintsha okubalulekileyo phakathi kwezigaba zolonwabo (ezibizwa ngokuba zii-manic episodes) kunye nezigaba zokudakumba.
Kumntu okhe wahlala ne-narcissistic manipulator, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba:
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- I-bipolarity sisifo sengqondo sokwenyani, ngokungafaniyo neendlela zokuziphatha ze-narcissistic manipulator ezizimpawu zobuntu eziyityhefu.
- Umntu onebipolar akakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, ngoxa inarcissist enenkohliso ilawula iimvakalelo zabanye.
- Abantu abane-bipolar banokufumana i-empathy kwaye babe nobudlelwane obunempilo xa bephathwa, ngelixa ii-narcissists ezikhohlisayo zingafane zenjenjalo.
- I-bipolarity ayibandakanyi ukukhohlisa ngabom okanye ukuphathwa kakubi kwabanye, ngokungafaniyo nokuziphatha kombhexeshi we-narcissistic.
Kubalulekile ukungazibhidanisi ezi meko zimbini, njengoko imvelaphi yazo, ukubonakaliswa kwazo kunye nonyango lwahluke kakhulu.
Iingcambu zobubi bombhexeshi we-narcissistic
Uburhalarhume obuboniswa yi-narcissistic manipulator inemvelaphi ebuntwaneni bakhe. Ukwenzakala kwangethuba, ukwenzakala okukhulu ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukungahoywa kwabazali kwaphazamisa ukukhula kwakhe ngokwasengqondweni. Oku kuye kwadala imvakalelo yokungakhuseleki kunye nokuba sesichengeni kuye ukuba ufuna kuzo zonke iindleko ukufihla emva kwe-facade yamandla onke.
Lo monzakalo wokuqala wamkhokelela ekubeni akhe igobolondo elikhuselayo kunye nokuphuhlisa iindlela zokukhusela ezigqithisileyo. Isiqubulo sakhe sangaphakathi sinokushwankathelwa ngolu hlobo: “Andisayi kuphinda ndenzakaliswe okanye ndibe sesichengeni. Andisoze ndikuyeke ukulinda kwam.”
Kutheni le nto ubutshijolo bombhexeshi we-narcissistic ingesiso isigulo?
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba i-bipolarity kunye nobubi be-narcissistic manipulator ayisosiphumo sesifo sengqondo esifana nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo:
- Lukhetho olusengqondweni lokuziphatha
- Kukho injongo ecacileyo yokulawula nokulimaza
- I-manipulator ye-narcissistic iyakwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe esidlangalaleni
- Akukho mathandabuzo okanye umnqweno wotshintsho
- Amaxhoba akhethwa ngabom kwaye ajoliswe kuwo
Ngokungafaniyo nomntu onokuthi afune uncedo kwaye afumane unyango, i-manipulative narcissist ayiboni ngxaki kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo.
Iimpawu ezilahlekisayo ezinokuthi zibonise ukuphazamiseka kwe-bipolar
Ekuqalekeni, iindlela ezithile zokuziphatha ezinje nge-bipolarity kunye nobubi be-narcissistic manipulator zinokufana neempawu ze-bipolar disorder:
- Ukutshintsha kwemo engalindelekanga
- Amaxesha ovuyo alandelwa ngamaxesha obumnyama
- An ego oversized ngamanye amaxesha
- Ugqabhuka ngumsindo ngequbuliso
- Ukungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo
Oku kufana kunokwenza ukuxilongwa kube nzima, nakwiingcali. Nangona kunjalo, xa kuhlolisiswa ngokucokisekileyo, iyantlukwano esisiseko inokubonwa.
Iimpawu ezinceda ukwahlula i-bipolarity kunye ne-narcissistic perversion
Ukunceda ukucacisa imeko, nantsi imiba ephambili yokuthelekisa:
- Ukuhambelana kokuziphatha:
- Bipolar: Ukutshintshana phakathi kwezigaba ze-manic kunye noxinzelelo
- I-narcissistic manipulator: Ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo rhoqo
- Ukuqonda izenzo:
- Bipolar: Unokuvakalisa ukuzisola emva kwesiqendu
- i-narcissistic manipulator: Ukungabikho ngokupheleleyo kokuzisola
- Ubudlelwane nabanye:
- Bipolar: Unokuba nobudlelwane obunempilo ngaphandle kweziqendu
- i-narcissistic manipulator: Bonke ubudlelwane busekelwe ekuxhatshazweni
- Impendulo ngokugxekwa:
- Bipolar: Inokwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwisigaba (i-hypersensitivity okanye ukungakhathali)
- I-narcissistic manipulator: Umsindo we-narcissistic
- Ukukwazi ukuvelana:
- Bipolar: Yangoku, kodwa inokutshintshwa ngexesha leziqendu
- i-narcissistic manipulator: Ukungabikho okupheleleyo kunye nokusisigxina kovelwano
Izinto ezibangela ingqumbo ye-narcissistic manipulator
Umsindo oqhumayo we-narcissistic manipulator unokubonakala ungekho ngqiqweni kwaye ungalingani. Enyanisweni, ithobela ingqiqo yangaphakathi echanekileyo. Nazi izinto eziphambili ezinokubangela umsindo wakhe:
- Nakuphi na ukubuza, nokuba kuncinci, ukongama kwakhe okanye izakhono zakhe
- Okona kugxekwa kuncinci okanye ukungamkelwa
- Ukunqongophala kokunconywa okanye ukuqatshelwa kwabo bakungqongileyo
- Imvakalelo yokungabi nalawulo olupheleleyo kwimeko okanye emntwini
- Ukoyika ukulahlwa okanye ukwaliwa
I-narcissistic manipulator ihlala ilumkile, ilungele ukusabela ngokugqithisileyo kwesona sisongelo sincinci esibonwayo kubukhulu bakhe obugqithisileyo.
Indlela yokuzikhusela kwi-manipulator ye-narcissistic?
Ukujongana ne-bipolarity kunye nolunya lwe-narcissistic manipulator, olona khuseleko lubalaseleyo luhlala lukude, okanye luqhawule ngokupheleleyo unxibelelwano. Noko ke, oku akusoloko kusenzeka okanye kunqweneleka, ingakumbi xa kubandakanyeke abantwana. Nanga amanye amacebiso okuzikhusela:
- Yomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzithemba: Esi sesona sixhobo sakho singcono.
- Funda ukumisela imida ecacileyo kwaye uyinyanzelise ngaphandle kokuba netyala.
- Ungazami ukuyitshintsha okanye “ukuyinyanga”. Yamkela ukuba mhlawumbi soze itshintshe.
- Yakha inethiwekhi yenkxaso eyomeleleyo (abahlobo, usapho, umnyangi) ukuze ungahlali wedwa.
- Bhala iindlela zokugqwethwa kwe-narcissistic ukuze zichonge ngcono.
- Ziqhelise indlela “grey rock“: hlala ungathathi hlangothi kwaye unesithukuthezi ukuba ungabi nomdla kuye.
- Kwimeko yokwahlukana, fumana inkxaso yezomthetho ukuze uzikhusele.
- Sebenzela ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ekwenze ukuba ube sesichengeni solu hlobo lobudlelwane obuyityhefu.
Isiphelo: phinda ufumane amandla phezu kobomi bakho
Ukuba lixhoba le-bipolar kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator ekhohlakeleyo yinto ebuhlungu kakhulu enokushiya iziphumo ezingapheliyo. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukudlula kwaye uphinde wakhe. Undoqo kukubuyisela ngokuthe ngcembe ubomi bakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho.
Khumbula ukuba awunaxanduva lokuziphatha okunetyhefu komxhasi we-narcissistic. Ubugwenxa bakhe kunye nokungazinzi kubonakalisa amanxeba kunye neziphene zakhe, kungekhona zakho.
Ngokuziqonda ngcono iindlela zokusebenza, ngokuthe ngcembe uya kukwazi ukuzibamba ngokweemvakalelo kwaye uphinde ufumane inkululeko yakho. Ungalibazisi ukufuna uncedo kwiingcali okanye imibutho eyingcali kule nkalo. Unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe okoyisa le ngxaki kwaye uzakhe kwakhona.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.