Indlela Yokujongana Nomntu Oxokayo? Kwenziwe ntoni?

 Indlela yokujongana nexoki? Ixoki ngomnye wezidalwa ekunzima ukuzilawula. Isizathu sikukuba ulichule ekuxokeni. Kubuhlobo, uthando kunye nobudlelwane bomsebenzi, ixoki lihlala livela ngokulula ngakumbi kunabanye.

Indlela yokuqonda ixoki? Iimpawu ezi-6

Ukujongana nexoki, kukho amanyathelo athile ekufuneka uwathathe ukuze wazi indlela yokujongana nexoki elinamava:

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1. Ulwimi loMzimba kunye nokuManywa koBuso
2. Imbonakalo yobuso: amehlo kunye nomlomo
3. Ton kunye nenkcazo
4. Mr ndazi yonke into
5. Qinisekisa ukunyaniseka
6. Fumana ukungangqinelani

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1. Ulwimi lomzimba kunye nokubonakaliswa kobuso

Nika ingqalelo kulwimi lomzimba wakho kunye nembonakalo yobuso: Ixoki lidla ngokuba nezimbo zomzimba xa lixoka. Izakuba kwimo eyahlukileyo. Sinokubona inkangeleko yembonakalo yobuso ethile. Umzekelo: iimpumlo ezivuthayo, ukuluma imilebe okanye ukuqhwanyaza kwamehlo ngokukhawuleza. Ekugqibeleni, kunokuba micro-expression, imfutshane kakhulu. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ke ngoko iya kuba kukujonga kwaye ubeke ingqalelo kwizijekulo zomngeneleli wakho ukuba ujongene nexoki.

2. Ukubonakaliswa kobuso: amehlo kunye nomlomo

Ngaphandle koku, kuyimfuneko ukuba kuthathelwe ingqalelo ikakhulu izijekulo zamehlo nomlomo: Xa ixoki lilungisa ubuxoki, liya kuzigquma umlomo okanye amehlo. Ezi ntshukumo zidla ngokunxulunyaniswa nomnqweno wokufihla iimvakalelo zethu zokwenene.

3. Ithoni kunye neMibonakaliso

Khumbula ithoni yayo kunye nokwakheka kwezivakalisi ezisetyenzisiweyo: xa engene nzulu kubuqhetseba bakhe, ixoki linokuba nembono eyahlukileyo. Isenokuqalisa ukungxola okanye ithobe isandi. Kwaye unokungena kwiinkcukacha ezininzi kwizinto azithethayo. Ukongeza, iya kuphepha ukusebenzisa awona magama avulelekileyo “Mna” Okanye “Mna”. Oku kunceda ixoki le-pathological ukuze uzifumane ngobuxoki bakho ngengqondo.

4. UMnu Yazi Yonke

Ixoki liya kuhlala linempendulo kuyo yonke into, kwaye kwangoko: umntu oqhelekileyo uya kunqumama ukuze akhumbule iinkumbulo zakhe ukuba ubabuza umbuzo. Oku kunokubonakala kungenangqondo, njengoko kukholelwa ukuba umntu oxokayo uthatha ixesha ukuyila ibali. Ngelixa ixoki lokwenyani liya kuphendula ngokukhawuleza kwaye liziphindaphinda ukuze ungenise ulwazi. Le fomu ibonakala ngokukodwa kwingxaki ye mythomania.

5. Nyanzelisa ukunyaniseka

Uya kuzama ukuzibonakalisa njengomntu onyanisekileyo:  ngenxa yoko, ixoki liya kubethelela ubunyani bento ayibikayo. Uya kuvakalisa imfuneko enamandla yokukholelwa ukuze azive ukuba ubuxoki bakhe budlulile. Yaye usenokungcatshwa ziimvakalelo zobuxoki azibonisayo ukuze akuqinisekise.

6. Khangela izinto ezingahambelaniyo

Fumana ukungangqinelani koko akutshoyo: kufuneka uyityhale ukuya kule mida yokugqibela. Ukuze wenze oku, mbuze imibuzo ebengayilindelanga. Uya kuzinziswa kwaye kuya kuba lula ukujongana naye ngezityholo ezingavumelaniyo.

Unokwenza njani xa ujongene nexoki? 8 iingcebiso

Abantu abaninzi abahlala kunye nabantu mythomania, A ixoki le-pathological ukubona ixoki eligqwethekileyo, uzibuze ukuba kunjani ukuhlala nomntu oxokayo?

1. Akufunekanga wenze phantsi kweempembelelo zempembelelo. Kufuneka uhlale uzolile kuzo zonke iimeko. Eneneni, lisabela njani ixoki xa libhaqwe? Uza kusabela kobunye ubuxoki obuninzi.
2. Chat ngokuzolileyo nangokuzolileyo. Musa ukuba ngumtyholi, kufuneka uthathe indlela yobuhlobo. Kuya kufuneka usondele kwisihloko esinomsindo ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo kwaye ngenxa yoko, ukuzola kubalulekile.
3. Qhagamshelana naye xa uziva ukuba uya kude ngaphaya kwe limits. Isikhumbuzo esincinci sokuyalela kunye nokujongana naye sinokuvula amehlo akhe. Uya kwazi ukuba ukuxoka ayisosisombululo sayo yonke into.
4. Musa ukumbetha ngemibuzo. Ixoki le-pathological liya kuzama ukuphuma kuyo. Ngoko okukhona eziva ehlaselwe, kokukhona exoka.
5. Flatter him. Oku kuyinyaniso ngokukodwa kwimeko ye-mythomania. Oku akunjalo ngengqiqo yokumxokisa. Menze azive ebalulekile okanye umhlonele. Eneneni, umntu ofunda iintsomi udla ngokuba ngumntu onengxaki yokungazithembi.
6. Be nomonde. Ixoki le-pathological aliyi kunyangwa ngokukhawuleza. Kufuneka uzimisele ukuyibona kude kube sekupheleni.
7. Kuphephe ukumbeka kwiimeko ezicinezelayo. Ixoki liya kusoloko lisabela kubuxoki xa likwimeko engenakulawuleka kulo.
8. Cebisa ukubona ugqirha wengqondo. Uncedo lwengcali lubalulekile ukumnceda adlule kuyo. Ukuxoka kudla ngokuba yindlela elula yokuphuma. Ke, ixoki kufuneka likwazi ukushiya indawo yalo yokhuseleko.

Uhlala njani nomntu oxokayo?

Lo mbuzo usemthethweni ngakumbi ukuba wandulelwa oku: singamthemba njani umntu osixokisileyo? Kunzima ukucinga ngokuthemba umntu osele esingcatshile. Kwizibini ezininzi, ukuxoka ngokwenene kuluphawu lokungcatshwa. Impendulo ixutywe kule meko. Besiya kuhendelwa ekubeni sithi ukuxoka kunemilinganiselo eyahlukahlukeneyo enzulu yaye kunokusetyenziswa ngenjongo entle kwiimeko ezithile.

Ke ewe, ungaphila nexoki ukuba nje alidluli kumda othile. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka senze ugcino, kuba ixoki sisidalwa esinemvelo eyahlukileyo. Kwimeko ka i-narcissistic manipulator kunye nobuxoki, akunakwenzeka ukuba nethemba lobomi obuzinzile kunye nokugqibela.

Kwenziwa ntoni xa iXhoki lityhiliwe?

Emva kokuba eli nyathelo lithatyathwe, ngaba kufuneka uyazi indlela yokufumana umntu oxokayo ukuba athethe? Kule nto, eyona ndlela ingcono ihlala ilula, oko kukuthi. Ukubandakanyeka, ingxabano evulekileyo iya kumnika isizathu sokuba axoke. Inyaniso yokuba uzolile iya kumphazamisa kakhulu. Yiba nengxoxo ecingisisiweyo malunga nokuba kutheni umntu ekhethe ukukuxokisa kunokuba akuxelele inyani.

Iiprofayili ezahlukeneyo zamaxoki e-pathological: i-narcissistic manipulator kunye neMythomaniac

Ezi profayili zimbini ngokungathandabuzekiyo zezona meko zinzima kakhulu zamaxoki e-pathological.

• I-narcissistic manipulator inokusebenzisa ubuqhetseba bobuxoki. Njengomntu okhohlisayo, sisixhobo esiluncedo kakhulu kuye ukuze aphephe ukutyhila ubuntu bakhe bokwenene. Kodwa ngaphezu kwako konke, isebenza njengendlela yokulawula ixhoba lakhe. Ukujongana nexoki eligqwethekileyo kunzima ngakumbi.
• I-mythomaniac lixoki eliya kusebenzisa ubuxoki ngokukholelwa kubo. Oko kuthetha ukuba kwi-mythomaniac, ubuxoki buyinyani kuye, ukholelwa ngokuqinileyo kuyo.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukutshintsha uMlingane wakho oxokayo?

Ewe, kunokwenzeka ukutshintsha iqabane elixokayo ukuba uyayazi indlela yokwenza. Ukumenza aqonde ukuba ukuxoka kuyonakalisa kakhulu impilo-ntle yobudlelwane bakho sisiseko. Khumbula ukuba ukufumana ixoki kulo mkhwa akuyi kuba ngumsebenzi olula. Ngoko kuya kubaluleka ukugcina yonke inkqubo. Kuwe, nceda ubambelele, ungagxininisi kwesi siphene. Kwakhona jonga ezinye iimpawu zeqabane lakho. Oku kuya kukunika amandla okumnceda kutshintsho lwakhe ukuze akusindise kwi-mythomania.