Ubuxoki Self Symptoms – Yonke into okufuneka uyazi malunga neempawu ze-3

False Self Symptoms: Uluntu luya lusanda ngokutyhala abantu ukuba banxibe imaski ukuze babonise ubuntu babo bobuxoki kwaye bafihle eyona yokwenyani. Emva koko, baya kuba nobunzima ekuyisuseni. Kutheni bebonakalisa ubuxoki? Ungazikhulula njani kubuntu bakho bobuxoki? Landela eli nqaku ukuze ufumane yonke into. 

Ukuzikhohlisa-Yintoni?

Isiqu sobuxoki sichazwa njengesigqubuthelo soluntu esisetyenziselwa ukufihla ubuntu bokwenene bomntu kwihlabathi langaphandle.. Ngamnye wethu unomntu wobuxoki kodwa ubonakala ngakumbiii-manipulators ze-narcissistic. Sihlala siyisebenzisa xa uxinzelelo lwentlalo luphezulu, njengaxa kufunwa abantu. Ngamaxesha anje, sonke sihendwa ukuba sibonise omnye umfanekiso wethu ukuze siqinisekise umqeshi. Ingxaki ayikho kodwa ekuboniseni isiqu sobuxoki kuphela umzuzu ngamnye wobomi.

Isiqu Sokwenyani – Yintoni?

Ukususela ebuntwaneni, sonke sineendlela zethu zokuziphatha. Ngeli xesha, ubuntu bethu bokwenene bakhelwa. Ngokutsho kukaWinnicott, ukuba uluntu luqinisekisa ukuziphatha komntwana, uya kucinga ukuba le yindlela yokuziphatha afanele abe nayo. Kwelinye icala, ukuba uluntu alwamkeli olu kuziphatha, akasayi kuphinda alwenze. Ukongezelela, xa uluntu luqinisekisa ukuziphatha kwabo, ukuzithemba komntwana kuyanda. Ke, isiqu sokwenyani bubuntu bokwenyani bomntu, into ayiyo ngokwenene.

Ziziphi iimpawu zokuZikhohlisa?

1. Akunakwenzeka Ukuba Nguwe

THEubuqu bobuxokiibonakala ikwanelisa ulindelo lwabanye oluhlala luqala ngolo lwabazali. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abazali bafuna abantwana babo bafezekise amaphupha abo ngabo. Ngoko ke, ngenxa yokoyika ukulahlwa ngabazali babo, abantwana baya kuyibekela bucala iminqweno yabo, amaphupha abo ukuhlangabezana nolindelo lwabazali babo.Kwakhona kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu lowo ubonakalisa isiqu sobuxoki ukuze angahluka kwabanye.. Oku kuxhaphake kakhulu phakathi kwabantu abanesiphiwo kunye neii-manipulators ze-narcissistic.

2. Isazisi esingeyonyani

Ukubonakala komntu oyinyaniso kunye nobuxoki buxhomekeke kwimeko esijongene nayo. Sityekele ekuboniseni umfanekiso ombi ngathi ukuze sifane nabanye. A ngokubonisa ubuninzi bobuxoki, umntu unobunzima bokwazi ukuba ungubani ngokwenene. Uba ngumbukeli wobomi bakhe bobuxoki. Umntu ohlala nomntu oxokayo uya kuba novalo oluya kuthi lufikelele suicide.

3. Ingxaki yesazisi kunye nemibuzo

Ukusukela ebuntwaneni, ukuba umntwana uphendule kuphela kwizinto ezilindelwe ngabazali bakhe, uya kuqhubeka ephila ngolu hlobo de abe mdala. Uya kuqhubeka ebonakalisa ubuntu bakhe obubi kuba nje efuna ukukholisa abanye. Uphononongo luthi uninzi lwexesha, sesona siphiwo sibaninzi abadibana nengxaki yokuzikhohlisa kunye nabantwana abanabazali abaphupha ngokuba nabantwana abafezekileyo. Baya kuba nobunzima ekufumaneni isiqu sabo sokwenyani xa sele bebadala.

Zeziphi izizathu zokuZikhohlisa?

Umntu akayi kugqiba ekubeni abonise ubuxoki ngokuthanda kwakhe. Kufuneka kusoloko kukho isizathu. Ke, nazi izizathu ezityhalela abantu ukuba babonise ububuxoki:

• Iimfuno zabazali – Kukho abazali abaninzi abasileleyo ukufezekisa amaphupha abo. Ngoko ke, bayabanyanzela abantwana babo ukuba bakwenze oko. Oku akubavumeli ukuba babonise ubuntu babo bokwenene kodwa baphile kuphela emthunzini wabazali babo.
• Izigwebo zombutho – Ngamanye amaxesha, xa umntu ehlukile kwabanye, uluntu ludla ngokumgatya. Ngoko ke, ukuphepha oku, umntu utyekele ekubonakaliseni ubuxoki ukuze nje amkelwe ngabanye.

Iingozi Zomntu Obubuxoki

Umntu obonakalisa isiqu sobuxoki phambi komntu wonke akabuqondi ubungozi obunokumchaphazela. Noko ke, ujamelene neengozi ezininzi. Nazi ezinye iziphumo zobuxoki ekufuneka uzazi:

• Umntu uphoswa bubomi bakhe.
• Akaziva eyona mvakalelo yokuba ngowenyama.
• Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuhlangabezana neengxaki zempilo kamva ezinjengokudakumba njengoko kunjalo Qonga lee-narcissistic perverts.
• Umntu akaziva naluphi na uvakalelo kuba ingebubo ubomi bakhe bokwenyani.
• Ulahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe, uyahleka ngamaxesha alusizi kwaye alile ngamaxesha ahlekisayo. I-

Ukuzikhohlisa Phakathi Kwabanesiphiwo

Ukuzingca okungeyonyani kuya kuxhaphaka ngakumbi phakathi kwabantu abanesiphiwo kunye nabenzi bobuqhetseba be-narcissistic. Bathanda ukufihla ubuntu babo bokwenyani ukuze bafane nabanye. Ukuba abakwenzi oku, uluntu kunye nabo basondeleyo kubo baya kubagxeka. Ukuze athandwe ngabazali bakhe, umntwana onomgangatho ophezulu wobukrelekrele udla ngokubonisa ubuxoki. Unikezela amandla akhe okuphumelela uthando lwabazali bakhe kunye noluntu. Ngaloo ndlela, i-false self kunye nesiphiwo zizinto ezimbini ezingenakwahlulwa.

Iingcebiso ezi-3 zokuFumana isiqu sakho sokwenyani

1. Ukuzalwa komntu ongeyonyani

Ukuphuma kule nto, into yokuqala ongayenza kukuchonga ukuba yeyiphi indawo ebomini bakho obonisa i-self yakho. Isenokubonakala kancinane kancinane ngenxa yeemeko ezithile ojamelana nazo ekuhlaleni okanye imfuneko yabazali bakho ukususela ebuntwaneni bakho.

2. Ziqaphele Umntu Obubuxoki

Ngoku lixesha lokuqaphela umntu ongeyonyani. Injongo kukwazi ukuziphatha kwakho, indlela osabela ngayo, ubomi bakho ukususela mhla wabonisa i-self-fake yakho. Emva koko kufuneka uthelekise ubuntu bakho bokwenyani kunye noko abanye bacinga ukuba uyiyo.

3. Veza isiqu sakho esiyiNyaniso

Uninzi lwabantu abawela kwixhoba lobuxoki bafumanisa ukuba isigaba seukubonakaliswa kobuntu bokwenyanilelona nyathelo linzima. Eli nyathelo linzima kakhulu kuba libangela ixhala emntwini. Uqala ukucinga ukuba ukuba ubuqu bakhe bokwenyani buchasene nobubuxoki bakhe, ubomi bakhe buya kuba bubi ngakumbi kunokuba bunjalo ngoku. Ukufezekisa oku, kuyimfuneko kakhulu ukufuna uncedo kwi-psychologist.