Isidingo Sokukholisa kwiPsychology-I-Obsession?

THE idinga ukukholisa kwipsychology sisigulo esikhoyo kwinani elikhulu labantu. Inene, uloyiko oluqhubekayo lokugwetywa kwabanye yeyona nto iqhubayo kule ngxaki. Olu loyiko lusenza sizive sifuna ukukholisa abanye nangayiphi na indlela.

I-blemmophobia okanye imfuno yokukholisa abanye – yintoni na?

Ukuhendwa okunyanzelekileyo okanye i i-blemmophobia sisigulo esityhalela umntu ukuba afune ukuhoywa nokuqondwa. Oku kuyingozi kangangokuba olu phando alujoliswanga kumntu omnye kumntu ngamnye. Ufuna ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na ukuba abe sisazulu sengqalelo kwaye ufuna ukuthandwa ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na. Nokuba lusapho lwakhe, abantu asebenza nabo okanye abahlobo bakhe.

“ndifuna wonke umntu ajike xa ndidlula”

Injongo ephambili yolu hlobo lomntu ngaphezu kwayo yonke into ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantu abanandaba ngenxa yobukho babo. Yonke into ayenzayo iya kuba nenjongo yokutsala umdla nokuhenda abo babangqongileyo.

Sivela phi isidingo sokukholisa kwisayikholoji?

Esi sidingo sokukholisa amadoda okanye abasetyhini banokuba nezizathu ezahlukeneyo zengqondo. Oku kufuna rhoqo ingqalelo kunye nokujongwa kunokuvela kwiindlela ezithile zokuziphatha.

• Ukungazithembi: Le meko yingxaki ngokwayo. Oku kubonakala rhoqo kumntu oye wafumana umonzakalo. Ngokubanzi, kusebudeni bobuntwana apho le ntlungu yenzeke, njenge emotional blackmail abazali. Indlela akhuliswe ngayo lo mntwana iya kubumba indalo yakhe. Kuku- ukujonga okuhle kwabanye apho aziva ebalulekile kwaye exabisiwe.
• Ubunzima bokwamkela ukugxekwa: Akukho mntu uthanda ukugxekwa. Oku kucacile, kodwa kwimeko ye-blemmophobic iqhubela phambili kakhulu kunokuchasa ukugxeka. Injongo yayo kukuphepha ukugxekwa, kodwa ukufumana indumiso nokuxatyiswa ngabanye.
• Indawo yokuhlala eyedwa: UA Umntu olilolo udla ngokufuna intuthuzelo kunye nomntu obalekela intolongo yokuba yedwa. Ke, uya kwamkela zonke iimpawu ezifunwa ngabantu, nokuba ayinyanisekanga. Into ebalulekileyo kuye kukuba azive ekhathalelwe, exatyiswa yaye ethandwa.

Ukufuna ukukholisa ngazo zonke iindleko: ngaba oku kuthabatheka?

Le mfuno iqhubekayo yokukholisa kwisayikholoji ibizwa ngokuba yi-obsession. Ngokwenene, i-blemmophobic inokuxakekiswa kukukhangela rhoqo le ngqalelo. Umphumo unjalo ukuba umntu ochaphazelekayo uya kukhathazeka ngokukholisa abantu. Kwaye yonke into ayenzayo iya kuba kukufezekisa le njongo kuphela. Oku kuyisondeza kakhulu ekuziphatheni komntu ophethwe yiyo umsindisi syndrome eluthandweni.

Oku sikubona kwamanye amabhinqa. Le mfuneko iyingozi yokukholisa amadoda, echaphazela impilo yomntu kujongwa njengokuthatheka kwipsychology. Umfazi akasayifuni enye injongo ngaphandle kwaleyo, uphilela inkangeleko yamadoda kuphela.

Ufuna ukukholisa – Ibonakala njani ingxaki?

Olu kuphazamiseka kokutsala umdla kunokuzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo:

• I-Ukuma njengendawo yokuqwalasela . Uziva ufuna ukubalaseliswa ukuze unconywe ngabaphulaphuli bakho. Ingqwalasela kufuneka igxile kuwe kwaye kuphela kuwe.
• Uzenza ngathi akanazo . Umntu one-blemmophobic uya kude axoke ukuze azibonakalise ngeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo. Ukuvuma ukuba isifundo singaphaya kwayo akunakwenzeka. Nokuba kuthetha ukudlula kumntu ophethwe yi-mythomania.
• Enxibe imaski ukuze ilingane . Usenokugqiba kwelokuba acime ubuntu bakhe ukuze alinganise obabo bakufutshane naye.
• I-Ibonisa ngokuzithandela kwaye ivulekile. Umkhohlisi olungileyo unomtsalane kwaye ukhazimle, ngoko uya kwenza konke ukunika i-pseudo-positive vibes.

Iimpawu ezili-10 zokuba ufuna ukukholisa abanye

Kwipsychology, le miqondiso ilandelayo ingathetha imfuneko yokukholisa abanye:

1. Ufuna wonke umntu akonwabele ukuba kufutshane nawe.
2. Uzifumana ucela uxolo ngalo lonke ixesha.
3. Uziva unesidingo sokuqinisekiswa ukuba ungubani na. Kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke ukubonwa ngoko ukufezileyo.
4. Abantu badla ngokukuxhaphaza kuba unengxaki yokuthi hayi.
5. Uyithiyile ingxabano.
6. Ubeka iimfuno zakho okwesibini. Ukuzinyamekela akubalulekanga kuwe.
7. Inyaniso yokuba abantu bayayigxeka into oyenzayo ayinyamezeleki kuwe
8. Unika uncedo ebantwini. Uluncedo kwaye ukhoyo nakwabanye.
9. Isimo sakho seemvakalelo sibonakala singabalulekanga xa sithelekisa nendlela abanye abaziva ngayo.
10. Unemigangatho engqongqo nephezulu kakhulu kuwe.

Ngaba umlukuhli otyhutyhayo ngumgibi we-narcissistic?

Kuyenzeka ukuba kubekho unxibelelwano phakathi kwaba bantu babini. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kuba umntu ogqwethekileyo okhohlisayo uya kufuna ukutsala ingqalelo yexhoba lakhe ngokuhenda. Ixhoba lothando lixhoba eliphambili le-narcissistic manipulator.

Nangona kunjalo, kukho umahluko othile. Umlukuhli otyhutyhayo uya kwenza ukufumana ingqalelo kubantu abaninzi kangangoko. Ngelixa umgqwetheki uya kusebenzisa ukuhenda njengesixhobo sokuzisa ixhoba lakhe phantsi kwempembelelo yakhe.

Impembelelo yesidingo sokukholisa abo bakungqongileyo

Le mfuno eqhubekayo yokukholisa wonke umntu inokubangela iingxaki ezinzulu. kwindawo yakho. Kwaye oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kumxholo wobudlelwane bakho. Ngokwenene, lo mlingiswa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kulicaphukisa iqabane lakho. Ukucela ingqalelo kwabanye kuya kubonwa njengokunganeliseki kwicala lakho. Uya kubonwa njenge iparanoid kunye nobuntu obukhohlisayo.

Kwabo ubathandayo, oku kunako kuba nzima ukuhlala naye. Ngokuzibona ujonge indawo kwi-pedestal ngalo lonke ixesha, ukucaphuka kwakho kunokukhula ngokukhawuleza. Ukuthobeka luphawu oluxabisa abaninzi kwaye ngokwenza okuchaseneyo uya kutsala ingqumbo yabo.

Indlela yokujongana namehlo abanye?

“Ndiyeyona nguqulelo ilungileyo kum”, kholelwa kuwe, sisiseko eso. Intsika yakho, inkxaso yakho yokuqala, esona sixhobo sakho sinamandla kukukholelwa kuwe. Imbono kunye noluvo lwabanye lunokubaluleka kunye namandla ofuna ukukunika wona.. Ke, ungalibali ukuba ubalulekile kuwe, ubala kakhulu njengabanye, kwaye uzimela wena kuqala.

Ireferensi yebhayibhili yokuqonda “imfuno yokukholisa”

Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi kumxholo othi “ukufuna ukukholisa kwisayikholojisti”:

1. Bourdieu, P. (1992). Les Règles de l’art : genèse et structure du champ littéraire. Éditions du Seuil.
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5. Tajfel, H., & Turner, J. C. (1986). The social identity theory of intergroup behavior. In S. Worchel & W. G. Austin (Eds.), Psychology of Intergroup Relations (pp. 7-24). Chicago: Nelson-Hall.
6. Dijkstra, P., & Barelds, D. P. H. (2010). The effects of perceived partner’s attractiveness and need for approval on relationship satisfaction. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 27(5), 745-765.
7. Delouvrier, M. (2011). Le besoin de plaire : une approche psychologique. In Revue de Psychologie sociale, 10(2), 145-162.

Ezi mbekiselo ziya kukunika imbono eyahlukileyo ngesidingo sokukholisa kwisayikholoji.

Ukuqukumbela

Ukuqukumbela, isidingo sokukholisa sisifo esintsonkothileyo esichaphazela abantu abaninzi, esihlala sisekelwe kumava adlulileyo kunye neendlela zokuzikhusela ngokuchasene nokoyika isigwebo. Oku kuziphatha okugqithisileyo kunokulimaza kungekuphela nje umntu ochaphazelekayo, kodwa kunye nobudlelwane babo phakathi kwabantu. Ukoyisa le mfuno icinezelayo yokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle, kubalulekile ukuphuhlisa ukuzithemba okuqinileyo kwaye ufunde ukuzithethelela ngaphandle kokuzama ukuhenda ngazo zonke iindleko. Ukuqonda kunye nokusebenza ngokwakho kunokukhokelela kubomi obuyinyani kunye nokwanelisayo, apho umntu egxininise kwintlalontle yakhe kunokufuna okungapheliyo kokuvunywa kwabanye. Iimbekiselo zebhayibhilografi ezibonelelweyo zinika isiseko esiluqilima sokwenza nzulu ukuqondwa kwesi siganeko kunye neendlela zokuyoyisa.