I-syndrome yovelwano olugqithisileyo: xa uvelwano luba ngumgibe

Uvelwano ngokuqhelekileyo lugqalwa njengophawu oluxabisekileyo kulwalamano lwabantu. Nangona kunjalo, kubafazi abangamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators, uvelwano olugqithisileyo lunokuba ngumgibe wokwenyani weemvakalelo. Eli nqaku liphonononga i-syndrome yovelwano olugqithisileyo, imvelaphi yayo, ukubonakaliswa kwayo kunye neendlela zokuzikhulula kuyo.

Yintoni I-Excess Empathy Syndrome?

I-syndrome yovelwano olugqithisileyo luphawulwa kukukwazi ukuziva nokuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye, ukusa kwinqanaba lokutyeshela iimfuno kunye nemida yomntu. Abantu abanesi sifo badla ngokuhlala bebeka phambili impilo-ntle yabanye ngaphezu kweyabo.

Kumxholo wobudlelwane kunye ne-manipulator ye-narcissistic, olu phawu lomlingiswa othi “empathy ebusweni be-perversion” ingaba yingxaki ngakumbi. Amabhinqa anovelwano ngokugqithiseleyo aba ngamaxhoba afanelekileyo kwaba baqhatha, abasebenzisa imfesane yabo ukuze bafeze iinjongo zokuzingca.

Imvelaphi yovelwano olugqithisileyo

Kubalulekile ukuqonda imvelaphi ye-overempathy syndrome.

Ubuntwana obuphawulwa ngesidingo sokuziqhelanisa

Ngokuqhelekileyo iingcambu zesi sifo zibuyela ebuntwaneni. Abafazi abaninzi abanovelwano bakhulela kwiintsapho apho kwakufuneka bahlale beqhelana neemfuno zeemvakalelo zabazali babo. Bafunde kwangethuba ukuba bathathele ingqalelo nolona tshintsho luncinci lwesimo sabo basondeleyo kubo, ngaloo ndlela baphuhlisa hypersensitivity kwiimvakalelo zabanye.

Indlela yokusinda eye yaba lityala

Okwakuqala ibiyindlela yokusinda kunye nokumelana ebuntwaneni inokuba sisiqhwala sokwenyani xa umntu emdala. I-Hyper-empathy, eqale yaphuhliswa ukuze ikhuseleke kwaye igcine uxhulumaniso lweemvakalelo, iphelela ekuvezeni aba bafazi kubudlelwane obuyityhefu kunye nokuxhatshazwa.

Uvelwano olugqithisileyo lubonakala njani kubudlelwane obuyityhefu?

Kwi ubudlelwane obuyityhefu, uvelwano olugqithisileyo lunokuzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo:

• A utyekelo lokuzincama

Abasetyhini abanengxaki yovelwano olugqithisileyo badla ngokuzilibala ngokupheleleyo kubudlelwane babo. Bazimisele ukuncama impilo-ntle yabo, ixesha kunye namandla ukuze bahlangabezane neemfuno zeqabane labo le-narcissistic, naxa iqabane libonisa ukungahambisani.

• Ukulungiswa rhoqo kokuziphatha kakubi

Esinye sezibonakaliso ezicacileyo zesi sifo kukuthambekela ukwenza izizathu zokuziphatha okuyityhefu kweqabane. Abasetyhini abanovelwano baya kuthambekela ekunciphiseni ukuxhatshazwa, ukuthethelela nge-narcissist yexesha elidlulileyo elinzima okanye ngeemeko zangaphandle.

• Ubunzima bokuseka imida esempilweni

Abantu abanengxaki yovelwano olugqithisileyo bayasokola ukuseka nokugcina imida esempilweni kubudlelwane babo. Banobunzima bokuthi hayi, ukuvakalisa iimfuno zabo kunye nokuzikhusela kukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo.

Iziphumo zovelwano olugqithisileyo kubudlelwane obuyityhefu

Uvelwano olugqithisileyo lunokuba nemiphumo eyingozi, ngakumbi kwimeko yobudlelwane obuyityhefu.

• Emotional exhaustion

Ngokuzinikela ngokupheleleyo kwiimfuno zeqabane labo le-narcissistic, aba bafazi baphela bediniwe ngokweemvakalelo. Baziva bengento yanto, bedandathekile yaye bengakwazi ukuzinyamekela.

• Ilahleko yesazisi

Ngokuziqhelanisa rhoqo neminqweno kunye neemvakalelo zeqabane labo, abafazi abanovelwano kakhulu banokuphulukana nokuqonda kwabo. Abasazi ukuba bangoobani na ngaphandle kwendima yabo “njengomsindisi” okanye “umnyangi” weqabane labo elinetyhefu.

• A umjikelo wetyala kunye namathandabuzo

Ukuba novelwano ngokugqithiseleyo kunokukhokelela kumjikelo ombi wokuziva unetyala nokungazithembi. Aba bafazi baziva benoxanduva lolonwabo kunye nentlalontle yeqabane labo, kwaye bazibeke ityala ngayo nantoni na engahambi kakuhle kubudlelwane.

Indlela yokuqonda i-excessive novelwano syndrome?

Nazi ezinye iimpawu ezinokubonisa ukuba une-overempathy syndrome:

• Uziva unoxanduva ngeemvakalelo kunye nentlalontle yabanye
• Unengxaki yokuthi hayi, naxa izicelo zingekho ngqiqweni
• Uziva unetyala xa uthatha ixesha lakho
• Uthanda ukutsala abantu abanetyhefu okanye abaxhaphazayo
• Uziva udiniwe kubudlelwane bakho

Ukubaluleka kokuxilongwa

Ukuqaphela le syndrome linyathelo lokuqala lokunyanga. Ukuba uyaziqaphela ezi mpawu, kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo egxile kubudlelwane obuyityhefu.

Uvelwano olulungeleleneyo: injongo entsha

A uvelwano Idosi echanekileyo idlala indima ebalulekileyo ekwakheni ubudlelwane obunempilo nobanelisayo. Ngaloo ndlela uvelwano olulungeleleneyo luba yinjongo ebalulekileyo yokuphepha imigibe yokugqithisa.

Fumana i medium eyonwabileyo

Injongo ayiyikuphulukana novelwano lwakho, oluhlala lusemgangathweni oxabisekileyo, kodwa ukufumana ukulinganisela. Uvelwano olulungeleleneyo lukuvumela ukuba uqonde kwaye uxhase abanye ngelixa uhlonipha imida kunye neemfuno zakho.

Iingenelo zovelwano olulawulwayo

Nje ukuba ufunde ukulawula uvelwano lwakho, uya kubona izibonelelo ezininzi:

• Ubudlelwane obuphilileyo nokulungelelana
• Ukuzithemba ngcono
• Amandla eemvakalelo agciniweyo
• Ukukwazi ukunceda abanye ngendlela ehlala ihleli

I-Bibliographic reference kwi-excess pathy syndrome

Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili malunga nomxholo wovelwano olugqithisileyo:

1. Kernberg, O. F. (2001). La personnalité et ses troubles. Paris : Éditions Desclée de Brouwer.
2. Decety, J., & Jackson, P. L. (2004). The functional architecture of the empathy network. Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews, 30(5), 711-728.
3. Bénabou, J., & Goleman, D. (2006). L’intelligence émotionnelle et l’empathie : fondements et applications. Paris : Éditions Odile Jacob.
4. Lemoine, A. (2015). Empathie et souffrance : quand l’empathie devient un fardeau. Psychologie Française, 60(3), 241-254.
5. Davis, M. H. (1994). Empathy: A Social Psychological Approach. Boulder, CO: Westview Press.
6. Saarni, C. (1999). Les émotions et l’empathie chez l’enfant. In Développement et émotions (pp. 155-174). Paris : Éditions PUF.
7. Zahn-Waxler, C., & Cummings, E. M. (1990). Altruisme et empathie chez les jeunes enfants. Développement de l’enfant, 31(2), 1-14.

Ezi zikhombisi kufuneka zikunike isishwankathelo esihle sophando malunga nesifo sovelwano olugqithisileyo.

Isiphelo: ukukhulula uvelwano

I-syndrome yovelwano olugqithisileyo inokuba ngumqobo omkhulu kubasetyhini amaxhoba e-narcissistic perverts . Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqaphela, sebenzela wena kunye nenkxaso efanelekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuguqula le hyper-empathy ibe ngamandla alinganayo kunye akhululayo.

Khumbula ukuba uvelwano lwakho lusisipho esixabisekileyo, kodwa alufanele luchithe ubomi bakho. Ngokufunda ukwalathisa olu velwano kuwe kunye nokuseka imida esempilweni, uya kuba nakho ukwakha ubudlelwane obunentsingiselo kunye nolwenyani.

Indlela eya kuvelwano olulungeleleneyo ingaba yinde kwaye inzima, kodwa ifanelekile. Inyathelo ngalinye olithathayo ekuqondeni ngcono wena kunye neemfuno zakho luloyiso. Khumbula ukuba ufanelwe yimfesane nengqalelo kangangoko unikela ngako kwabanye.