Ukuzwela okweqile kwe-syndrome: lapho ububele buba ugibe

Uzwela ngokuvamile lubhekwa njengemfanelo ebalulekile ebuhlotsheni babantu. Kodwa-ke, kwabesifazane abayizisulu zokuphendukezelwa kwe-narcissistic, uzwela oludlulele lungaba ugibe lwangempela lomzwelo. Lesi sihloko sihlola ukuzwela ngokweqile kwe-syndrome, imvelaphi yayo, ukubonakaliswa kwayo nezindlela zokuzikhulula kukho.

Iyini I-Excess Empathy Syndrome?

I-syndrome yozwela eyeqile ibonakala ngamandla engeziwe okuzwa nokuqonda imizwelo yabanye, kuze kube seqophelweni lokudebeselela izidingo nemingcele yomuntu. Abantu abanalesi sifo bavame ukubeka phambili inhlalakahle yabanye kuneyabo.

Esimweni sobudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, lesi sici somlingiswa ” uzwela lapho ebhekene nokuhlanekezelwa » kungaba yinkinga ikakhulukazi. Abesifazane abanozwela ngokweqile baba yizisulu ezikahle zalaba baqili, abasebenzisa ububele babo ukuze bathole izinjongo zobugovu.

Umsuka we-excess empathy syndrome

Kubalulekile ukuqonda umsuka we-overempathy syndrome.

Ubuntwana obumakwe ngesidingo sokuzivumelanisa nezimo

Ngokuvamile, izimpande zalesi sifo zibuyela ebuntwaneni. Abesifazane abaningi abanozwela kakhulu bakhulela ezindaweni zomndeni lapho kwakudingeka khona njalo ukuzivumelanisa nezidingo zabazali babo ezingokomzwelo. Bafunda besebancane kakhulu ukunaka izinguquko ezincane zemizwa kwabathandekayo babo, ngaleyo ndlela bakha hypersensitivity emizweni yabanye.

Indlela yokusinda esiphenduke isibopho

Okwakuqala okwakuyindlela yokuphila nempilo ebuntwaneni kungaba ukukhubazeka kwangempela lapho usumdala. I-Hyper-empathy, eyasungulwa ekuqaleni ukuze ivikeleke futhi igcine ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo, igcina iveze laba besifazane ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi nobuhlukumezayo.

Uzwela oludlulele lubonakala kanjani ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi?

Ku-a ubuhlobo obunobuthiUzwela oludlulele lungabonakala ngezindlela ezahlukene:

• Ukuthambekela kokuzincisha

Abesifazane abahlushwa uzwela ngokweqile bavame ukuzikhohlwa ngokuphelele ebudlelwaneni babo. Bazimisele ukudela inhlalakahle yabo, isikhathi namandla ukuze bahlangabezane nezidingo zozakwethu othanda ukubhuqa, ngisho nalapho uzakwethu ebonisa ukungahoshelani.

• Ukuthethelelwa njalo kokuziphatha okuhlukumezayo

Okunye okusobala kakhulu kwalesi sifo ukuthambekela ekwenzeni izaba ngokuziphatha okunobuthi kozakwethu. Abesifazane abanozwela olukhulu bazothambekela ekunciphiseni ukuhlukumeza, bakuthethelele nge-narcissist yesikhathi esidlule esinzima noma ngezimo zangaphandle.

• Ubunzima bokusungula imingcele enempilo

Abantu abahlushwa uzwelo oludlulele balwela ukumisa nokugcina imingcele enempilo ebuhlotsheni babo. Banobunzima bokuthi cha, baveze ezabo izidingo futhi bazivikele ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo.

Imiphumela yokuzwela ngokweqile ebuhlotsheni obunobuthi

Uzwela oludlulele lungaba nemiphumela elimazayo, ikakhulukazi kumongo wobudlelwano obunobuthi.

• Ukukhathala ngokomzwelo

Ngokuzinikela ngokuphelele ezidingweni zomlingani wabo we-narcissistic, laba besifazane bagcina bekhathele ngokomzwelo. Bazizwa bengelutho, bedangele futhi bengakwazi ukuzinakekela.

• Ukulahlekelwa ubuwena

Ngokuhlala bezivumelanisa nezifiso nezimo zomlingani wabo, abesifazane abanozwela kakhulu bangalahlekelwa umuzwa wokuthi bangobani. Abasazi ukuthi bangobani ngaphandle kwendima yabo “njengomsindisi” noma “umelaphi” womlingani wabo onobuthi.

• Umjikelezo wecala nokungabaza

Uzwela oluningi lungabangela umjikelezo ononya wokuba necala nokungazethembi. Laba besifazane bazizwa benesibopho ngenjabulo nenhlalakahle yomlingani wabo, futhi bazisole nganoma yini engahambi kahle ebudlelwaneni.

Ungayibona kanjani i-excess syndrome?

Nazi ezinye izimpawu ezingase zibonise ukuthi une-overempathy syndrome:

• Uzizwa unomthwalo wemfanelo ngemizwa nenhlalakahle yabanye
• Unenkinga yokuthi cha, ngisho nalapho izicelo zingenangqondo
• Uzizwa unecala uma uzinika isikhathi
• Uvame ukuheha abantu abanobuthi noma abahlukumezayo
• Uphelelwa amandla ebudlelwaneni bakho

Ukubaluleka kokuxilongwa

Ukuqaphela lesi sifo kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokwelapha. Uma uhlangabezana nalezi zimpawu, kubalulekile ukufuna usizo kuchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo onguchwepheshe ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi.

Uzwela olulinganiselayo: umgomo omusha

a uzwela Ukuthasiswa kahle kudlala indima ebalulekile ekwakheni ubudlelwano obunempilo nobanelisayo. Ngakho uzwela olulinganiselayo luba umgomo obalulekile wokugwema izingibe zokweqisa.

Thola imidiya ejabulisayo

Umgomo awukona ukulahlekelwa uzwela lwakho, oluhlala luyimfanelo ebalulekile, kodwa ukuthola ibhalansi. Uzwela olunokulinganisela lukuvumela ukuba uqonde futhi usekele abanye kuyilapho uhlonipha imingcele nezidingo zakho.

Izinzuzo zozwela olulawulwayo

Uma usufunde ukuphatha uzwela lwakho, uzobona izinzuzo eziningi:

• Ubudlelwano obunempilo nobulinganiselayo
• Ukuzethemba okungcono
• Amandla angokomzwelo agciniwe
• Ikhono lokusiza abanye ngendlela ehlala njalo

Ireferensi ye-Bibliographic ku-excess empathy syndrome

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa ze-bibliographic ngesihloko se-excess empathy syndrome:

1. UKernberg, O.F. (2001). Ubuntu kanye neziyaluyalu zabo. I-Paris: Editions Desclée de Brouwer.
2. U-Decety, J., & Jackson, P. L. (2004). Isakhiwo esisebenzayo senethiwekhi yozwela. Ukubuyekezwa kwe-Neuroscience & Biobehavioral, 30 (5), 711-728.
3. Bénabou, J., & Goleman, D. (2006). Ubuhlakani bomzwelo nozwela: izisekelo kanye nezicelo. EParis: Editions Odile Jacob.
4. I-Lemoine, A. (2015). Uzwela nokuhlupheka: lapho ukuzwelana kuba umthwalo. I-French Psychology, 60 (3), 241-254.
5. UDavis, M. H. (1994). Uzwela: Indlela Yokuhlalisana Ngokwengqondo. IBoulder, CO: I-Westview Press.
6. Saarni, C. (1999). Imizwa nozwela ezinganeni, e Ukuthuthukiswa kanye nemizwa (amakhasi 155-174). I-Paris: I-PUF Editions.
7. Zahn-Waxler, C., & Cummings, E.M. (1990). I-Altruism nozwela ezinganeni ezincane. Ukukhula kwengane, 31 (2), 1-14.

Lezi zikhombo kufanele zikunikeze umbono omuhle wocwaningo mayelana nesifo sozwela ngokweqile.

Isiphetho: ukuya ekukhululeni uzwelo

I-Excess Empathy Syndrome Ingaba Isithiyo Esikhulu Kwabesifazane izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts. Kodwa-ke, ngokuqaphela, zisebenzele wena kanye nokwesekwa okufanele, kungenzeka ukuguqula lokhu-kuzwelana okukhulu kube amandla alinganiselayo nakhululayo.

Khumbula ukuthi uzwela lwakho luyisipho esiyigugu, kodwa akufanele lufike ngokulahlekelwa inhlalakahle yakho. Ngokufunda ukuqondisa lolu zwelo kuwe futhi umise imingcele enempilo, uzokwazi ukwakha ubudlelwano obanelisayo nobuyiqiniso.

Indlela eya ekuzweleni okulinganiselayo ingaba yinde futhi ibe nzima, kodwa kuyafaneleka. Zonke izinyathelo ozithathayo ukuze uziqonde kangcono wena nezidingo zakho ziwukunqoba. Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ububele nokunakwa ngendlela opha ngayo abanye.