Ukuqhawula kunye nemiphumo yayo kwi-pulse: into encinci eyaziwayo

Abasetyhini abangamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators banokufumana amava anzulu ngokwasengqondweni nasemzimbeni. Phakathi kwezi, into ebizwa ngokuba “yi-pulse dissociation” ihlala ingaziwa kodwa ingaba neempembelelo ezibalulekileyo. Eli nqaku lijolise ekuchazeni ukuba yiyiphi i-dissociation, indlela echaphazela ngayo izinga lentliziyo, kwaye kutheni le nto iyenzeka rhoqo kumxholo wobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator.

Yintoni ukwahlukana?

Ukwahlula kuindlela yokuzikhuselangokwasengqondweni. Kwenzeka xa ingqondo iqhawula okwexeshana kwinto yokwenyani ukuze izikhusele kuxinzelelo olumandla. Kukusabela okungenakuzikhethela okukuvumela ukuba uzikhwebule kwimeko ojongene nayo njengenganyamezelekiyo.

Ngokucacileyo, umntu ozahlulayo unokuba noluvo lokuba ukhutshiwe kumzimba wakhe okanye kwindawo ahlala kuyo. Usenokuziva ngathi usenkunguni, ulibala, okanye azive ngathi izinto ezimngqongileyo aziyonyani. Ukwahlukana kunokusuka kwimvakalelo ethambileyo yokungazithembi ukuya ekulahlekelweni ngokupheleleyo kokuzazi.

Le nto ye-traumatic dissociation yimpendulo yendalo yengqondo kwi-trauma. Ikuvumela ukuba uthwale ukunganyamezeleki ngokudala umgama weemvakalelo. Kodwa ukuba iba yinto engapheliyo, inokuba nemiphumo emibi yexesha elide.

Iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuqhawula

Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zokuqhawula, ezinokuzibonakalisa ngokwamanqanaba ahlukeneyo:

• depersonalization: uvakalelo lokuzahlula kumzimba wakho okanye kwiingcinga zakhe.
• I-Derealization: ukuvakalelwa kukuba ihlabathi elijikelezileyo aliyinyani.
• I-dissociative amnesia: inkumbulo iyaphela malunga neziganeko ezithile ezibuhlungu.
• Indiza edissociative: Ukumka ngesiquphe ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo, ngokulibala ukuba ungubani na.
• Dissociative identity disorder: ubukho babantu abaninzi abahlukeneyo.

Kwimeko yobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator, ezona fom zixhaphakileyo zi-depersonalization kunye no-derealization. Bavumela ixhoba ukuba linyamezele ukuphathwa kakubi kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni.

Ikhonkco phakathi kokuqhawula kunye nesantya sentliziyo

Ukwahlukana kunemiphumo yomzimba, ngakumbi kwizinga lentliziyo. Enyanisweni, ngexesha le-dissociative episode, umzimba ungena kwindawo “yokukhenkceza” eguqula ukusebenza kwenkqubo ye-nervous autonomic.

Oku kudla ngokuba nesiphumo sokucotha kwe-pulse. Intliziyo ibetha kancinci, ngokungathi umzimba uzama ukugcina amandla xa ujongene nesisongelo. Le nto ichazwa ngokusebenza kwenkqubo ye-nervous parasympathetic, ejongene nokunciphisa imisebenzi ebalulekileyo.

Okumangalisayo kukuba, abanye abantu, ngokuchaseneyo, banokufumana ukunyuka kwesantya sentliziyo ngexesha lokuqhawula. Oku kuchazwa ngokusebenza kwenkqubo ye-nervous enovelwano, elungiselela umzimba ukuba usabele kwingozi.

Ezi zintlukwano kwisantya se-pulse ngexesha lee-dissociative episodes zinokuphazamisa umntu ojongene nazo. Banceda ukuqinisa imvakalelo yokungaqhelekanga kunye nokuqhawulwa komzimba.

Kutheni “i-pulse dissociation” ixhaphakile phakathi kwamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators?

Ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator ngumthombo woxinzelelo olungapheliyo kunye nokwenzakala kwengqondo okuphindaphindiweyo. Ukujongana nolu gadalala, ukwahlukana kuba yindlela yokusinda kumaxhoba amaninzi.

Izizathu ezichaza ukuphindaphinda kokwahlukana kulo mongo zininzi:

• Ukukhuselwa kwintlungu yeemvakalelo: Ukwahlukana kukuvumela ukuba ulahle ukubandezeleka okubangelwa kukuphathwa kakubi kunye nokuthotywa.
• Ukulungelelaniswa nokungahambelani: intetho ephikisanayo ye-narcissistic manipulator yenza i-cognitive dissonance ukuba i-dissociation inceda ukuxhasa.
• Ukuphepha ungquzulwano: Ukuqhawula unxibelelwano ngengqondo kukuvumela ukuba uphephe ukuphendula kwaye ke ungawuxhokonxi umsindo we-narcissistic manipulator.
• Ukugcinwa kokuzithemba: ukuhlukana kukhusela isazisi esinzulu sexhoba phambi kohlaselo oluphindaphindiweyo.
• Ukulawula imvakalelo yokungabi nakuzinceda: ukuzibamba ngokwasengqondweni kunika inkohliso yokugcina ulawulo kwimeko ethile.

Ukuqhawula ngoko kuba yinto ekhuselayo ebusweni bendawo enetyhefu kunye nokungalindelekanga. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, kunokuba nemiphumo emibi kwimpilo yengqondo neyomzimba yexhoba.

Imiphumo yokuhlukana okungapheliyo

Ukuba ukwahlukana kunika ukhuseleko lwexeshana, ukuphindaphinda kwayo kwixesha elide akukho miphumo:

Iimpembelelo zengqondo:

• Ubunzima bokugxila kunye nokukhumbula
• Iziphazamiso zengqondo (uxinzelelo, ukuxhalaba)
• Ukulahleka kwesazisi
• Ubunzima bobudlelwane
• Ukuziva ngokusisigxina kokungeyonyani

Iimpembelelo zenyama:

• Ukudinwa okungapheliyo
• Iingxaki zokulala
• Iintlungu zemisipha ezingachazwanga
• Ukuphazamiseka kweHormonal
• Ukuncipha kwamajoni omzimba

Ukwahlukana okungapheliyo kwakhona kugcina isangqa esibi: xa umntu ehlukana ngakumbi, ngakumbi elahlekelwa ukudibanisa neemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zomzimba. Oku kumenza abe sesichengeni ngakumbi kuxhatshazo kwaye ibethelela isidingo sokuzahlula.

Indima ye-narcissistic manipulator ekugcineni ukwahlukana

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic, ngokuqaphela okanye hayi, igcina imeko ye-dissociative yexhoba lakhe. Oku kumvumela ukuba agcine ulawulo lwakhe kwaye aphephe nayiphi na imibuzo.

Uninzi lweendlela zayo zokuziphatha zikhuthaza ukwahlukana:

• gaslighting: ngokukhanyela ubunyani obufunyanwa lixhoba, kubakhokelela ekubeni bathandabuze iimbono zabo.
• Ukuguquka kwemizwelo engalindelekanga: ukutshintshisana phakathi kwamaxesha obubele kunye nenkohlakalo kugcina ixhoba likwimeko yokudideka.
• I-i-social isolation: ngokunqumla ixhoba kubathandekayo babo, kubathintela kwiingongoma zangaphandle zokubhekisela.
• Uqikelelo: ngokutyhola ixhoba ngeentsilelo zakhe, wenza mfiliba imida phakathi kwenyaniso nobuxoki.
• Izithintelo eziphindiweyo: ngokunika imiyalelo ephikisanayo, idala imeko enganyibilikiyo etyhala ukwahlukana.

Ngaloo ndlela, ukuhlukana kuba sisiphumo sokuxhatshazwa kunye nomhlaba wokuzala wokuqhubekeka.

Ikhonkco phakathi kokwahlukana kunye nokuxhomekeka

Ukwahlukana okungapheliyo kunokukhuthaza ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane obuxhomekeke kwi-narcissistic manipulator. Enyanisweni, ngokulahlekelwa ukunxibelelana neemfuno zabo kunye nemida, ixhoba liba lula ngakumbi ukugxila kuphela kwezo zeqabane labo.

Ukuxhomekeka kuphawu:

• Imfuno egqithisileyo yokuvunywa
• Ubunzima bokuthi hayi
• Utyekelo lokuzincama ngenxa yabanye
• Uloyiko lokulahlwa
• Ukuzijongela phantsi

Ezi mpawu zomlinganiswa, zomelezwa kukuhlukana, zenza ixhoba libe semngciphekweni ngakumbi ekusetyenzisweni kwe-manipulator ye-narcissistic. Kwakhona ziyamthintela ekubeni ayiphaphele imeko yakhe nasekucingeni ngokwahlukana.

Ukwahlukana njengomqobo kwinkqubo yokuphilisa

Okumangalisayo kukuba, indlela eyavumela ixhoba ukuba lisinde kulwalamano lokuxhatshazwa linokuba ngumqobo ekuchacheni kwalo xa luphelile. Enyanisweni, ukuhlukana okungapheliyo:

• Ikuthintela ukuba uzive ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo zakho, inyathelo eliyimfuneko kwinkqubo yokuba buhlungu.
• Ugcina uhlobo lokukhanyela olulibazisa ulwazi ngoxhatshazo olufunyenweyo.
• Iphazamisa isakhono sokucwangcisa ikamva kunye nokuzakha ngokutsha.
• Ugcina uhlobo lweqela elenza kube nzima ukwenza ubudlelwane obutsha obunempilo.

Ukongezelela, ukuhluka kweentliziyo ezinxulumene nokuhlukana kunokubangela ukuxhalaba okongeziweyo kunye noxinzelelo. Umntu unokoyika ukuphulukana nolawulo lomzimba wakhe, nto leyo eyomeleza imfuneko yokwahlukana.

Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic malunga nokuzahlula

Nalu ukhetho lweereferensi ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi ngesiFrentshi, ikakhulu ezenzululwazi, kumxholo wokwahlula:

1. Dermesropian, A., Goffinet, S., & de Becker, E. (2018). “La dissociation : conceptualisation, intérêt d’une intrication avec la scarification et protocole d’intervention”. Psychologie Clinique, 2018/1 (n°45), pp. 115-133.
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Ezi zikhombisi zibonelela ngenkcazo enzulu yeenkalo ezahlukeneyo zokuqhawula, kubandakanywa nengqiqo yayo, amakhonkco ayo kwintlungu, kunye neendlela zonyango ezinxulumene nazo.

Ukuqukumbela

“I-Pulse dissociation” yinto entsonkothileyo ebonisa unxibelelwano olusondeleyo phakathi komzimba nengqondo. Kwabasetyhini abangamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators, imele zombini isicwangciso sokusinda kunye nomqobo onokubakho ekuphiliseni.

Ukuqonda le ndlela kusivumela ukuba siqonde ngcono ubungakanani bomonakalo owenziwe bubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Oku kukwagxininisa ukubaluleka kokhathalelo olubanzi, kuthathelwa ingqalelo imiba yengqondo neyomzimba yokwenzakala.

Ukwahlukana, nangona ekuqaleni kukhuseleke, akufanele kube sisisombululo sexesha elide. Ukufumana kwakhona ukunxibelelana nomzimba wakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho linyathelo elibalulekileyo lokuzikhulula kwimpembelelo ye-narcissistic manipulator kunye nokuzakha kwakhona.