I-“Hoovering”: I-Narcissistic Perverts Izama Kanjani Ukukukhanga Futhi?

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Ubucabanga ukuthi uqedile ngalobu budlelwano obunobuthi, kodwa manje i-ex yakho isibuyile. Lokhu kuziphatha kunegama: “hoovering”. Ake sithole ndawonye lesi simo esiqondene ngqo nabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic nokuthi singabhekana kanjani nakho.

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I-Hoovering: Isici Esibalulekile Sobudlelwane Be-Narcissistic

Ukugoqa kuyindlela yokwenza ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo Leli qhinga lisetshenziswa abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza ukuze bazame ukubuyisa umlingani wabo wangaphambili. Bangase basebenzise noma yiliphi ithuba lokuthumela umlayezo noma bavele ngendlela engalindelekile. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela le mizamo ngalokho eyikho: ukukhohlisa okulula nokumsulwa.

UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.

Bhukha iseshini yakho

Igama elithi “hoovering” livela kumkhiqizo we-Hoover wama-vacuum cleaners. Ngemva kokuhlukana noma inkathi yebanga, ufuna ukuphinde axhumane futhi akubuyisele ebudlelwaneni. Igama elithi “hoovering” lichaza ukuthi umuntu ohlanekezela u-narcissistic angase azame kanjani ukukunxenxa ukuthi ubuyele ebudlelwaneni bakho, noma ngabe ubashiyile noma bakushiyile.

I-Hoovering: ukukhohlisa ngobugovu, hhayi ubufakazi bothando

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukweqisa okwenziwa ngumuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic akuhlangene nhlobo nothando, noma nawe njengomuntu ongashadile. Le mizamo yokuxhuma kabusha ayikhuthazwa imizwa eyiqiniso noma isifiso esiqotho sokuvuselela ubuhlobo obunempilo. Eqinisweni, i-PN ifuna kuphela ukwanelisa izidingo zayo zobugovu. Emehlweni akhe, nimane niyindlela yokufeza izinhloso zakhe zomuntu siqu. Akanandaba nenhlalakahle yakho, imizwa yakho noma ukukhula kwakho.

I-PN ingakhomba kalula omunye umuntu uma lowo muntu ehlangabezana nezidingo zakhe zamanje. Lokhu kuqwashisa, nakuba kubuhlungu, kuyakhulula: kukuvumela ukuba unqamule ngokomzwelo futhi umelane nale mizamo yokukhohlisa ngokuphumelelayo.

Izindlela Ezijwayelekile Zokuhosha

Abaphendukezeli be-Narcissistic banamaqhinga angaphezu kwelilodwa ukuze bazame ukukuphumelelisa futhi:

“Impilo Yami Iyathusa Ngaphandle Kwakho” – Isikhalazo Secala: “Ngeke ngikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwakho, ngiyakudinga.” »

Leli qhinga lidlala emathembeni nasemicabangweni yakho. I-narcissist izokutshela konke owake wafuna ukukuzwa: “Bengingalungile,” “Ngikukhumbule kakhulu,” “Angikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwakho.” Qaphela, lawa magama azwakala emnandi endlebeni, kodwa awabonisi ushintsho lwangempela. Nazi izici eziyinhloko zaleli su:

  1. Icala : Itende lika ukwenza umuntu azizwe enecala isisulu ngenxa yokuhamba kwaso noma injabulo yaso.
  2. Ukuhlukunyezwa: Umuntu ohlanekezelekayo we-narcissistic uziveza njengesisulu esihluphekayo ukuze avuse isihawu.
  3. Idealization: Kusho ukuthi ubudlelwano bebungenasici futhi bungenakubuyiseleka.
  4. Ukuncika Komzwelo Okuzenzisayo: Izimangalo zokungakwazi ukusebenza ngaphandle kwesisulu.
  5. Ukuphathwa Kwemizwa: Kudlala ngemizwa yesisulu yozwela nokuzibophezela.
  6. Ukunciphisa Ukuhlukumeza Okudlule: Iziba noma ilulaza izizathu eziholele ekwehlukaneni.
  7. Ingcindezi esobala: Iphakamisa ukuthi isisulu kufanele sibuye ukuze “sisindise” i-narcissistic pervert.
  8. I-Induced Nostalgia: Imizamo yokuvuselela izinkumbulo ezinhle zobudlelwano.
  9. Izithembiso ezingamanga: Zingase zihambisane nezithembiso zoshintsho noma zentuthuko.
  10. Ukwenza iDrama: Ngokuvamile kwenza ihaba ubucayi besimo somuntu ukuze kwandiswe ithonya elingokomzwelo.

Isihloko esithi “Ngidinga Usizo”

Lapha, i-narcissist iveza ukuthi icindezelekile, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokuba sengozini. Angase acele imali noma ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo. Khumbula: awunasibopho ngenhlalakahle yabo. Uma ukhathazeke kakhulu ngokuphepha kwabo, xhumana nabezimo eziphuthumayo. Nazi izici eziyinhloko zale ndlela:

  1. Faka isicelo kuzwelo: Isebenzisa isihawu somuntu ohlukunyeziwe.
  2. Ukudalwa nomuzwa wokuphuthuma: Iphakamisa isimo esibucayi esidinga ukungenelela okusheshayo.
  3. Ukuguqulwa kwendima: Umkhohlisi uzibeka njengomuntu osengozini, efuna ukwenza isisulu sibe “umsindisi”.
  4. Ukuncika okubangelwayo: Imizamo yokwenza kusebenze umuzwa wesisulu sokuzibophezela ngokuphendukela ku-narcissistic pervert.
  5. Ukulawula Icala: Kungenza isisulu sizizwe sinecala uma senqaba ukusiza.
  6. Ukuqala ukuthembisana kabusha: Kuhloswe ukuvuselela ukuxhumana okungenzeka kube nobudlelwane obuseduze.
  7. Ukuhlolwa Kwemingcele: Ihlola ukuthi isisulu sizimisele kangakanani ukuya ukusiza.
  8. Ukwakhiwa kwesikweletu esingokomzwelo: Uma isisulu sisiza, lokhu kungase kusetshenziselwe ukucela usizo noma ukubuyisela.
  9. Ukunciphisa ukuhlukumeza okwedlule: Imizamo yokukhohlwa izizathu zokuhlukana ngokugxila esidingweni samanje.

Isithembiso soshintsho: “Ngiwaqondile amaphutha ami, ngizoshintsha. »

Ungalenzi iphutha: ushintsho lwangempela luthatha isikhathi futhi ludinga umsebenzi ojulile womuntu siqu. Ngisho noma bethi baye kokwelashwa noma bane-epiphany, qaphela. Imikhuba enobuthi ayishabalali ngokuphazima kweso. Nazi izici eziyinhloko zaleli su:

  1. Ukuqwashisa okungamanga: Uthi ube nesambulo mayelana nokuziphatha kwakhe okuyinkinga.
  2. Izithembiso zoshintsho.
  3. Faka isicelo ethembeni: Imizamo yokuvuselela ithemba lesisulu mayelana nokuba khona kobudlelwane obunempilo.
  4. Ukunciphisa Okwedlule: Ngokuvamile kunciphisa ubukhali bokuhlukumeza okwedlule ngokumane ukubize ngokuthi “amaphutha.”
  5. Ukudala umuzwa wokuphuthuma: Kungase kusikisele ukuthi leli yithuba eliyingqayizivele lokubuyisana.
  6. Ukufuna ukuqinisekiswa: Ifuna ukuthi isisulu sibone futhi sigunyaze lolu shintsho olucatshangwayo.
  7. Ukuqaliswa komjikelezo omusha: Kuhloswe ukuqalisa kabusha umjikelezo wobudlelwane obuhlukumezayo ngaphansi kwesithunzi sokuvuselela.

Isihloko esithi “Ungangiphatha Manje”

Amandla akho osanda kuwathola kufanele asetshenziselwe ukwakha impilo engcono, hhayi ukubekezelela ukuziphatha okunobuthi. Le ndlela yokukhohlisa inezici ezimbalwa ezibalulekile:

  1. Ukuba sengozini okungamanga: Umphendukezeli we-narcissistic uzenza “njengolawulekayo”, ophakamisa ubuthakathaka obusha noma ukukhululeka.
  2. Ukuguqulwa kwendima
  3. Faka isicelo ku-ego: Iphakamisa ukuthi isisulu manje “sesiqine ngokwanele” ukuze siphathe ubuhlobo, okungenzeka sithophe ukuzethemba kwaso.
  4. Ukunciphisa Ukuhlukumeza Okwedlule: Kusikisela ukuthi izinkinga zesikhathi esidlule zazibangelwa “ukungalawuleki” kwesikhashana.
  5. Isithembiso samanga soshintsho
  6. Ukudala umuzwa wokulondeka ongamanga: Imizamo yokwenza isisulu sikholelwe ukuthi sisazolawula ngalesi sikhathi.
  7. Ukuhlolwa Kwemingcele: Ihlola izinga isisulu esizimisele ngalo ukuhileleka ebuhlotsheni futhi.
  8. Ukuxhashazwa kwecala: Uma isisulu senqaba, singase sizizwe sinecala ngokungamniki “ithuba” othile obonakala eshintshile.

Ithi “Ngizomosha injabulo yakho”

Ama-Narcissists ayakuzonda ukubona ozakwabo bakudala bejabule ngaphandle kwabo. Uma bebona ukuthi usudlulile, bangase bazame ukuphazamisa impilo yakho entsha. Hlala uqaphile futhi uvikele injabulo yakho oyizuze kakhulu. Le ndlela yembula izici eziningana zokuziphatha kwabo:

  1. Ukulawula: Lona umzamo oqondile wokugcina ukulawula impilo yomzwelo yesisulu, ngisho nangemva kokuhlukana.
  2. Umona: Ukungakwazi ukwamukela ukuthi isisulu singajabula ngaphandle kwabo.
  3. Impindiselo: Isifiso sokujezisa isisulu ngokuqunga isibindi sokuhamba.
  4. Ukucekela phansi: Inhloso ngamabomu ukuphazamisa impilo nobudlelwano bomuntu ohlukunyeziwe.
  5. I-Projection: Imvamisa, i-narcissistic pervert iveza usizi lwakhe kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe.
  6. Ukwesabisa: Lolu uhlobo lokusongela okuhloswe ngalo ukufaka ukwesaba nokukhathazeka kulowo ohlukunyeziwe.
  7. Ukwehla kwenani: Okusho ukuthi isisulu asifanele ukujabula.
  8. Ukuxhaphaza Imizwelo: Ihlose ukuvusa imizwa yecala, ukungabaza nokungazethembi.
  9. I-Obsession: Iveza ukulungiswa okungenampilo empilweni yesisulu, ngisho nangemva kokuhlukana.
  10. Ukwehliswa kokuzimela: Ukwenqaba ukuqaphela ilungelo lomuntu ohlukunyeziwe lempilo yokuzimela eyanelisayo.

Izipho ngokuzumayo nokunaka

Phakathi kwamaqhinga okuhuquzela ayenga kakhulu yizipho nokunaka okungazelelwe. I-narcissist efuna ukubuyisela emuva ingase ivele ibe nesandla esivulekile futhi esikhathalelayo. Nakhu okudingeka ukwazi:

  • Uthando lwamabhomu – Ngokuphazima kweso, uthola izimbali, imilayezo emnandi, noma izipho obungazilindele. Lokhu kuphazamiseka kokunaka kungaba okuthopha kakhulu futhi kuvuse imizwa emidala.
  • I-Grand Romantic Gestures – I-narcissist ingase ihlele isimangaliso esikhulu, njengempelasonto yothando noma isidlo sakusihlwa endaweni yokudlela ephambili. 
  • Ukusetshenziswa kwezinsuku ezingokomfanekiso – Angakhetha izikhathi ezibalulekile njengosuku lwakho lokuzalwa, uSuku Lwezithandani noma usuku lwakho lokuzalwa lapho uhlangane ukuze wenze lokhu kuthinta.
  • Izithembiso zoshintsho zenziwe zabonakala – Izipho zingahambisana nezithembiso zoshintsho. Isibonelo, ukunikeza amathikithi ezokwelapha zezithandani noma incwadi yokuxhumana kwabashadile.

Isikhumbuzo sezikhathi ezimnandi esizichithe ndawonye

Ukukhumbula izikhathi ezimnandi ndawonye yi-narcissist iqhinga lokukhohlisa elaziwa ngokuthi thanda amabhomu »noma “uthando lwamabhomu”. Le nqubo isetshenziswa “ekuzungeni,” okuhloswe ukuheha isisulu ukuthi sibuyele ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi. Nanka amaphuzu abalulekile okufanele uwaqonde:

  1. Inhloso: Umgomo ukudala ukudideka ngokomzwelo kulowo ohlukunyeziwe ngokumkhumbuza izici ezinhle zobudlelwane.
  2. Ukukhetha: I-narcissistic pervert ikhetha ngokucophelela izinkumbulo ezinhle, ingaziba izikhathi ezimbi noma ezihlukumezayo.
  3. Idealization: Lezi zikhumbuzo zivame ukwenza ubudlelwano obudlule bube bungcono, bubuveze bungcono kunalokho obebuyikho ngempela.
  4. Isikhathi: Ngokuvamile sisetshenziswa ngemva kwesikhathi esithile sokuthula noma lapho isisulu sibonakala sihamba.
  5. Izithembiso ezingamanga: Zingase zihambisane nezithembiso zoshintsho noma ikusasa elingcono ndawonye.
  6. Umjikelezo Wokuhlukumeza: Ingxenye yomjikelezo ojwayelekile wokuqagela, ukwehla nokwenqatshwa kobudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic.

Ukukhohlisa labo abaseduze kwakho ukuze bakufinyelele ngokungaqondile

Ukukhohlisa labo ababazungezile ukuze bafinyelele isisulu ngokungaqondile kuyisu elisetshenziswa kumongo wokuzulazula ngabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic. Le ndlela engaqondile ikhohlisa kakhulu. Nazi izici eziyinhloko zaleli su:

  • I-Triangulation: I-narcissistic pervert ibandakanya abantu besithathu ku-dynamic ukudala ingcindezi kulowo ohlukunyeziwe.
  • Inethiwekhi Yokuxhumana: Ukusebenzisa abangani, umndeni, noma ozakwethu ukudlulisa imilayezo noma ulwazi kohlukunyeziwe.
  • Isithombe esisesidlangalaleni: Ukuguqulwa kombono wokuthi labo ababazungezile abanawo umuntu ohlanekezela i-narcissistic kanye nesisulu, ngokuvamile eziveza njengomuntu olimele.
  • Ukusabalalisa ulwazi: Ukwabelana ngokukhetha kolwazi noma amahlebezi ukuze kuthonye umbono walabo abaseduze nawe.
  • Ukuxhashazwa kwezibopho: Ukusetshenziswa kwezingane, uma zikhona, noma ezinye izibopho zomndeni ukugcina ukuxhumana okungaqondile.
  • Ukudalwa kwezingxabano: Ukutshala ukungezwani phakathi kwabahlukunyezwayo nalabo abaseduze kwabo ukuze baqhubeke nokubahlukanisa.
  • Ukugada okungaqondile: Sebenzisa labo abaseduze kwakho njengomthombo wolwazi mayelana nempilo yomuntu ohlukunyeziwe kanye nemisebenzi yakhe.

Leli qhinga lisebenza kahle kakhulu ngoba lidlulela kunoma yiziphi izivikelo eziqondile okungenzeka isisulu ziye zazenza, okwenza kube nzima ukukubona nokuphikisa ukukhuphuka kwe-aving.

  • I-Auto-Hoovering – Kwesinye isikhathi, yithina uqobo esilingekayo ukuthi sixhumane kabusha. Isizungu nezinkumbulo zezikhathi ezimnandi zingasishukumisela ukuba siphinde sixhumane. Melana nalesi silingo: ngokuvamile kuholela kuphela ebuhlungwini obengeziwe kanye nomuzwa wecala.

Kungani iHoovering iphumelela kangaka?

Kunezizathu ezimbalwa zokuthi kungani singaba sengozini kule mizamo:

  1. Ithemba loshintsho lwangempela
  2. Ukwesaba isizungu noma okungaziwa
  3. Icala kanye nesidingo “sokusindisa” omunye
  4. Ukuntula ngokomzwelo nezinkumbulo ezinhle ezibuyayo.

Indlela Yokulwa Ne “Hoovering”?

Nawa amasu okuzivikela:

  1. Gcina umsakazo uthule futhi uvimbele zonke iziteshi zokuxhumana
  2. Khumbula ukuthi kungani uqede ubudlelwano
  3. Zizungeze ngabantu abakhathalelayo nabamethembayo
  4. Sebenzela ukuzethemba kwakho nokuzimela ngokomzwelo
  5. Uma ungabaza, thintana nochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo.

I-Love Aspiration: I-Narcissistic Pervert Ikuyenga Kanjani Futhi?

I-narcissistic pervert ikuncela futhi ngokukutshela ofuna ukukuzwa. Bazi kahle ukuthi yini oyidingayo, ngoba yingakho ubashiyile. Basebenzisa i-charm, charisma, ukuzethemba, noma umuzwa wabo wokuba yisisulu ukuze badlale ngecala lakho. Kwesinye isikhathi basebenzisa konke lokhu.

“Ukukhuphuka kothando” kuhilela ukuzitshela lokho ofuna ukukuzwa, izinguquko ezithembisayo, nokuvuselela ithemba lokuthi kulokhu zizohluka. Bangase basebenzise izimpawu zothando njengeholide noma ucansi ukuze bakwenze uzizwe sengathi uthola kabusha isigaba sokuqala sokuqomisana sobudlelwano.

“I-Guilt Hoovering”: Ukukhohlisa Kwemizwa Ye-Narcissistic Pervert

Olunye uhlobo lwe “hoovering” yilokho engikubiza ngokuthi “icala le-hoovering.” Noma ngabe unesibindi sokushiya ubudlelwano, umuntu ohlanekezela ama-narcissistic angadlala ngecala lakho. Bangakutshela ukuthi bazamile, babhekene nesikhathi esinzima, abamtholi onjengawe, futhi babonga lapho ubanikeza ithuba lesibili.

“Ukuzikhukhumeza” kusebenzisa isidingo sakho sokuba umsindisi, ukuba umuntu olungile, noma ngisho nesakhiwo sakho somfel’ ukholo esizuzwe njengefa emndenini wakho wendabuko. Abantu abanozwela, ikakhulukazi, basengozini enkulu yalokhu kuguquguquka.

“Ukuhamba Emsebenzini”: Lapho I-Narcissist Izama Ukulawula Umsebenzi Wakho?

Kwesinye isikhathi i-hoovering ayipheleli ebudlelwaneni bothando, kungenzeka nasemsebenzini. Uma ubusebenza endaweni ye-narcissistic lapho ukubaluleka kwakho kungazange kuqashelwe khona, umphendukezeli we-narcissistic angase azame ukukubuyisela ngokukunikeza imali eyengeziwe, izibopho, noma izinzuzo. Nokho, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lezi zinguquko zingase zibe ezesikhashana, futhi ungase uzithole uphathwa ngendlela efanayo nangaphambili, kodwa ngeholo elithe xaxa.

Kungani i-Narcissistic Pervert isebenzisa i-“Hoovering”?

Kunezizathu ezimbalwa zokuthi kungani ama-narcissistic perverts asebenzise i-hoovering. Okokuqala, bayakuzonda ukwenqatshwa futhi bafuna ukufakazela ukuthi bangakubuyisela. I-“Hoovering” iphinde isu lokulawula, evumela i-narcissistic pervert ukuthi igcine ukulawula kwakho phezu kwakho. Ekugcineni, bangase bashukunyiswe ukwesaba ukuhluleka ukukulawula, okuphambene nesidingo sabo esiyisisekelo sokulawula abanye.

Izizathu ezivame kakhulu zokuthi kungani i-narcissist ijwayela ukuhamba ngezinyawo yilezi:

  1. Ukuntuleka kokunikezwa kwamandla :
  2. Ukwenqatshwa nokuziqhenya okulimazayo 
  3. umhawu
  4. Isidingo sokulawula
  5. Isizungu
  6. Isithukuthezi.

Indlela yokuphatha ngendlela enempilo isifiso “sokuhosha”?

  • Hlakulela ukuzizwela – Ungazahluleli ngale mizwa. Zivamile futhi ziyingxenye ebalulekile yenqubo yokuphulukisa. Ziphathe ngomusa obungawunikeza umngane osesimweni esifanayo.
  • Hlola izidingo zakho ezijulile zemizwa – Cabangela ukuthi lesi sifiso sembulani mayelana nezidingo zakho ezingokomzwelo ezingahlangatshezwana nazo. Ingabe kuyisidingo sokuqinisekisa, ukuphepha, okungokwakho? Ungaqala kanjani ukuhlangabezana nalezi zidingo ngendlela yokuzimela futhi enempilo?
  • Qinisa ukuzethemba kwakho nsuku zonke – Gxila enanini lakho langaphakathi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi ukuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle. Bungaza ukunqoba kwakho okuncane kwansuku zonke futhi uqaphele izimfanelo zakho ezihlukile. Futhi uhlale uzungezwe uma kungenzeka ngoba ukubusa komphakathi komphendukezeli we-narcissistic wukuzihlukanisa ukuze kubuse kangcono.

Zakhe kabusha ngaphandle kokulinda “ukukhuphuka”

  • Yenza ukuxhumana okusha, okuyiqiniso – Faka imali ebudlelwaneni obunempilo nabangane, umndeni noma abantu obajwayele. Zizungeze nabantu abakwazisa ngalokho oyikho ngempela.
  • Phinda ubhale indaba yakho siqu – Bhala indaba yakho ugxile emandleni akho, ukuqina kanye nokukhula komuntu siqu. Awuchazwa ngokungabibikho kwe-narcissist, kodwa ngohambo lwakho lokuphulukisa.
  • Cabangela ukwesekwa kwezokwelapha – Uchwepheshe okhethekile angakusiza ukuthi uzulazule kule mizwa eyinkimbinkimbi, ukhiphe amaphethini anobuthi futhi uqinise ukuzimela kwakho ngokomzwelo.

Amasu okumelana nokuhamba nge-hoover

  • Gcina umsakazo uthule – Uma uthola umlayezo ovela ku-PN yakho yakudala, khumbula ukuthi awuphoqelekile ukuthi uphendule. Ukuthula kuvame ukuba yimpendulo engcono kakhulu ekuphakameni.
  • Kancane kancane nciphisa ukusebenzisana – Uma usuphendulile, unganciphisa kancane kancane ukusebenzisana kwakho. Shintshela ezimpendulweni ezimfushane, bese uzibekela eceleni uze uyeke ukuxhumana ngokuphelele.
  • Qinisa imingcele yakho – Khumbula njalo ukuthi unelungelo lokuthi cha. Uma uvumelene nomhlangano ngokushesha, ungashintsha umqondo wakho ngaso sonke isikhathi. Inhlalakahle yakho iza kuqala.

Ukugxila kuwena kabusha ngemuva kokuzama ukuzungeza

  • Cabangela okuhlangenwe nakho njengokufunda  – Konke ukusebenzelana nomuntu owayeyi-PN yakho kuyithuba lokufunda nokuqinisa ukuzimisela kwakho. Sebenzisa lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho ukuze uqinisekise isinqumo sakho sokuhlala kude nalobu budlelwano obunobuthi.
  • Hlakulela ukubuyisana ebudlelwaneni bakho – Gxila ebudlelwaneni obunempilo obunikeza ukushintshana kwangempela. Ukubuyisana kuyisici esibalulekile sobudlelwano obulinganiselayo, ngokungafani nalokho ohlangabezane nakho nge-PN.
  • Ukuzijwayeza ukuzihawukela lapho ubuyela emuva – Uma uvumela umzamo wokuhamba phezulu, ungazisoli. Kuyinto evamile ukuba nezikhathi zobuthakathaka, ikakhulukazi lapho uphuma ebuhlotsheni obuqine kangaka. Into esemqoka ukuthola kabusha ukulawula ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
  • Ukubhekela ikusasa – Ngemuva kokumelana nomzamo wokukhuphuka, manje isikhathi esifanelekile sokuqinisekisa izinjongo zakho zomuntu siqu. Gxila enhlalakahleni yakho nasekuthuthukeni komuntu siqu. Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubuhlobo obusekelwe ekuhloniphaneni nasekulinganiseni ngokomzwelo.

Ukubuyela emuva: inselele evamile enqubweni yokutakula

Ukubuyela emuva kuyinto eyenzeka njalo futhi evamise ukungaqondakali kahle ohambweni lokukhululeka ebuhlotsheni ne-FN. Njengokulutha izidakamizwa, ukuphindela ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi kungenzeka ngisho nangemva kwesikhathi eside sokuhlukana. Lezi zikhathi zobuthakathaka zivame ukubangelwa isizungu, ingcindezi, noma nje ukulangazelela “izikhathi ezimnandi” zobudlelwane.

Ukwenqaba ukuzulazula kumuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kuthatha ukuzijwayeza kanye nesineke kuwena. Nsuku zonke kude nalobu buhlobo obunobuthi kuwukunqoba. Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo futhi ukhumbule ukuthi unamandla okwakha impilo eyanelisayo, unomlingani noma ungenaye.

Udinga usizo lokuphuma kulesi simo?

Akudingeki ubhekane nale nselele wedwa. UCristina uzokuqondisa ngezinyathelo eziqondile kanye nohlelo lokusebenza oluqondene nawe. Izikhathi zokuqeqesha zomuntu ngamunye ngevidiyo (Skype noma WhatsApp) — €100 ngeseshini.

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