Ukuvaleka ngokweemvakalelo emva kobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator: ukuzikhulula kuyo

Ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator ihlala ishiya imiphumo enzulu emva kwemiphumo, ngakumbi ukuvaleka kweemvakalelo okunokuthi kuqhubeke ixesha elide emva kokuphela kobudlelwane. Eli nqaku liphonononga iindlela zolu thintelo kwaye licebisa iindlela zokuzikhulula ngokuthe ngcembe kuyo.

Ukuqonda ukuvaleka ngokweemvakalelo emva kobudlelwane obuyityhefu

Ukuthintelwa ngokweemvakalelo kukukhusela ngokwasengqondweni kwintlungu efunyenweyo. Emva kokufumana ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator, abafazi abaninzi bazifumana sele bendisholo ngokweemvakalelo. Le anesthesia inokuzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo:

• Ubunzima bokuziva okanye ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo
• Ukuziva Empty ngaphakathi
• Ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo
• Ukoyika ukuthanda okanye ukuthembela kwakhona
• Iindlela zokukhusela ukuphepha ukubandezeleka

Oku kuthinteleka ngokweemvakalelo sisiphumo esithe ngqo sokuqhathwa kunye nokuphathwa gadalala. Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic ngokuthe ngcembe waphelisa ukuzithemba kwexhoba lakhe kunye nokuzixabisa, walikhupha kwiimvakalelo zakhe.

Iingcambu ezibangela ukuvaleka ngokweemvakalelo emva kokwenzakala

Zininzi izinto ezichaza ukusekwa kolu thintelo ngokweemvakalelo:

• Uloyiko lokubandezeleka kwakhona: Emva kokufumana ubudlelwane obuyityhefu kunye nobuhlungu obunje, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukufuna ukuzikhusela ukuba ungaphindi udlule kuloo nto kwakhona. Isithintelo sisebenza njengekhaka leemvakalelo.
• Ukulahleka kweebheringi kunye nokuzithemba: Ngokukhohlisa kunye nokunciphisa ixabiso, ixhoba liphetha lithandabuza ngokwabo kunye nemibono yabo. Akasenabuganga bokuthemba iimvakalelo zakhe.
• Ukufakwa ngaphakathi kwintetho yenkcuba-buchopho: Ngokuva ukuba unovelwano kakhulu, ukhathazekile okanye akazinzanga ngokwasemphefumlweni, ixhoba liphetha licinezela iimvakalelo zalo ukuze zihambelane noko kulindelwe ngumgqwethezi.
• Imvakalelo yokuba netyala: Amaxhoba amaninzi aziva enoxanduva ngoko athe ahlangabezana nako yaye ayakuphepha ukuvakalisa ukubandezeleka kwawo, ngenxa yokuhlazeka.
• I-i-traumatic dissociation: Ujongene ne-Ubundlobongela obungokwengqondo iyazikhusela kwi-psymotion ngokwayo, i-psyche iyazikhusela ngokwayo.

Iziphumo zexesha elide zokuvaleka ngokweemvakalelo

Ukuba oku kuthintelwa ekuqaleni kunomsebenzi wokukhusela, kuba yingxaki kwixesha elide kwaye kukuthintela ukuba uphile ngokupheleleyo. Nazi ezinye iziphumo eziqhelekileyo:

• Ubunzima bobudlelwane kunye noloyiko lobudlelwane obusondeleyo
• Ilahleko yentsingiselo kunye nokuziva bengento yanto
• Iindlela zokuzitshabalalisa
• Ukuxhalaba kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo
• Iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ze-somatizations
• Ukuziphatha okumluthayo ukuzalisa isithuba

Kubalulekile ke ngoko ukuba ufunde ukuphinda uqhagamshelane ngokuthe ngcembe neemvakalelo zakho ukuze ufumane ubomi obanelisayo.

Indlela yokuchonga iimpawu zokuvaleka ngokweemvakalelo?

Nantsi imikhondo enokuthi ibonise ubukho bokuthinteleka ngokweemvakalelo:

• Ubunzima bokuchaza okanye ukuchaza iimvakalelo
• Utyekelo lokuqiqa endaweni yokuziva
• Ukuphepha iimeko ezinzima ngokweemvakalelo
• Ukuziva unqanyuliwe kuwe nakwabanye
• Ukunqongophala kokusabela ngokweemvakalelo kwiziganeko ezibalulekileyo
• Ubunzima bokwenza izigqibo ezisekelwe kwiimvakalelo

Ukuba uyaziqaphela kwezi mpawu, kubalulekile ukuba ungahlali kule meko ivaliwe. Izisombululo zikhona ukuze uzikhulule ngokuthe ngcembe kuyo.

Izixhobo ezisebenzayo zokuphinda uqhagamshelane neemvakalelo zakho

Nazi ezinye iindlela zobuchule ezinokunceda ukuzikhulula ekuthinteleni ngokweemvakalelo:

• Ukucamngca ngeMindfulness: Ikuvumela ukuba ukhulise ulwazi olwandisiweyo ngalo mzuzu wangoku kunye neemvakalelo zakho zomzimba nezeemvakalelo.
• Ukubhala ngendlela ecacileyo: Ukugcina idayari kukunceda ubeke iimvakalelo zakho kumagama kwaye uhlolisise nzulu.
• Unyango lomzimba: Iindlela ezifana nesophrology okanye i-yoga zikuvumela ukuba uqhagamshelane kwakhona nomzimba wakho kunye neemvakalelo zawo.
• Unyango lwe-Art: Ukuzibonakalisa ngobugcisa (umzobo, ukupeyinta, ukwenza imodeli, njl. njl.) kunokunceda ukuvula iimvakalelo ezingcwatywe.
• Unyango lwe-EMDR: Le ndlela isebenza ngokukodwa ekunyangeni umonzakalo kunye nokususa imiqobo yeemvakalelo ehambelanayo.

Ukubaluleka kwenkxaso yonyango ukuze uzikhulule

Ukufuna inkxaso kwingcali kudla ngokuyimfuneko ukoyisa ukuvaleka okunzulu ngokweemvakalelo. Ugqirha uya kuba nakho uku:

• Nceda uqonde imvelaphi yokuvaleka
• Khokela ukuba uphonononge iimvakalelo zakho ngokukhuselekileyo
• Nikeza izixhobo ezilungele imeko yakho
• Ukuxhasa ngamaxesha anzima kwinkqubo
• Nceda uphinde wakhe umfanekiso omhle ngawe

Ungalibazisi ukudibana nogqirha wengqondo okanye i-psychotherapist egxile kumonzakalo wobudlelwane.

Fumana kwakhona ukuzithemba kuwe kunye neemvakalelo zakho emva kokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo

Njengoko uhamba kwinkqubo yokunxibelelana kwakhona ngokweemvakalelo, uya kuphawula ukuphucuka ngokuthe ngcembe ekuzithembeni kwakho. Nazi ezinye iimpawu ezikhuthazayo:

• Ukwazi ngcono ukuchonga nokuvakalisa iimfuno zakho
• Unobuganga bokuthi hayi kwaye ubeke imida yakho
• Uyayithemba intuition yakho ngakumbi
• Uziva unyanisekile ngakumbi kubudlelwane bakho
• Ufumana amaxesha ovuyo kunye nokukhaphukhaphu

Kancinci kancinci, ufunda ukuthemba iimvakalelo zakho kunye nesiqu sakho kwakhona. Olu luphawu lokuba uyazikhulula ekuthinteleni ngokweemvakalelo.

Ukusingise kubomi obutyebileyo nobanelisayo ngokweemvakalelo

Ukunxulumana kwakhona neemvakalelo zakho emva kobudlelwane be-toxic yindlela enzima kodwa ekhulula ngokunzulu. Oku kukuvumela ukuba:

• Fumana ubudlelwane obuyinyani kunye nobanelisayo
• Ukufumana intsingiselo kunye nolonwabo kubomi bemihla ngemihla
• Yenza izigqibo ezihambelana nawe ngakumbi
• Phuhlisa ubuchule bakho kunye namandla akho
• Zive uphila ngokupheleleyo

Khumbula ukuba le nkqubo ithatha ixesha. Yiba nomonde kwaye ube nobubele kuwe. Inyathelo ngalinye elincinane libalulekile.

Ireferensi yebhayibhilografi “ngokuvaleka ngokweemvakalelo”

Nazi iireferensi ezisixhenxe zebhayografi kumxholo “wokuthinteleka ngokweemvakalelo”:

1. Lévy, J. (2010). La gestion des émotions : entre sciences et pratiques. Paris : Dunod.
2. Roussillon, R. (2002). Le blocage émotionnel : origines et solutions. Lyon : Éditions de l’Atelier.
3. Cloître, C. (2015). Émotions et psychothérapie : comprendre les blocages émotionnels. Paris : Presses Universitaires de France.
4. Fuchs, T. (2013). La maladie de l’âme : psychopathologie et émotion. Paris : Éditions Eres.
5. Karsenty, S. (2016). Les émotions : des clés pour mieux les vivre. Toulouse : Éditions Erès.
6. Baudouin, A. (2011). Émotions et santé : le corps parle, la psyché aussi. Bruxelles : De Boeck.
7. Nuss, P. (2014). Psychopathologie des émotions : quand le corps et l’esprit se bloquent. Paris : L’Harmattan.

Ukuqukumbela

Ukuqukumbela, ukuzikhulula kuthintelo lweemvakalelo emva kobudlelwane ne-narcissistic manipulator yindlela enzima kodwa eyimfuneko. Ngokufunda ukuqaphela kunye nokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ngokufuna inkxaso efanelekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uphinde ube nokuzithemba kwaye ube namava obudlelwane bokwenyani. Ngomonde kunye nobubele kuwe, inyathelo ngalinye elincinci libalela kubomi obanelisayo nobunenjongo.

Unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe okuzikhulula kwimpembelelo yeemvakalelo ye-narcissistic manipulator kwaye ufumane ubomi obutyebileyo kwiimvakalelo ezakhayo. Zithembe kwaye uzingqonge ngabantu abakhathalayo ukuze bakuxhase kolu hambo. Ufanele ukufikelela kwisakhono sakho esipheleleyo!