Ukunqongophala kokuzithemba kubudlelwane: Iimpawu ezi-7

Ukuzithemba kubudlelwane kubalulekile. Abanye abantu bahlala bethetha ngentlonipho, uthando, unxibelelwano kunye nokusondelana, kodwa ukuzithemba kunye nobudlelwane nazo zihamba kunye. Ukungazithembi ngokukodwa kuchaphazela ubudlelwane. Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi ngayo.

Oonobangela abaphambili bokungazithembi kwabatshatileyo

Ukuzithemba kunye nepsychology enxulumene zinxulunyaniswa kuba zichaphazela ukuncamathela komntu. Ukuze uqonde iqhina labo kunye nefuthe lokungazithembi okunokuba nalo kwisibini, kubalulekile ukuqonda apho kuvela khona.

Ekubeni ubomi buhlukile kumntu wonke, kunokubakho iziganeko ezinokutshintsha ukuzithemba kwakho. Nantsi eminye imizekelo:

• ukuba nolindelo olungekho ngqiqweni lobuhle ngenxa yemidiya yoluntu, iimagazini kunye neentengiso;
• ukwenzakala kubudlelwane bangaphambili;
• ukuziphatha kwamaqabane;
• ukufumana ubuhlanga, ukugwetywa kunye nebala eluntwini;
• ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokuxhatshazwa;
• iimeko zonyango okanye emzimbeni;
• ukwahlukana okanye uqhawulo-mtshato;
• ukusilela ukuphumelela okanye ukuphelelwa ngumsebenzi;

Abanye abantu banokujongana nala mava kwaye balawule ukuwoyisa. Ngokubhekiselele kwabanye abantu, bajamelana nayo, kodwa bengazi, ukuzithemba kwabo kuyachaphazeleka.

Zeziphi iimpawu zokungazithembi kubudlelwane?

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu okwi-relationship ongazithembiyo unayo iimpawu okulandelayo:

Uphawu #1: Isidingo sokuqinisekiswa malunga neemvakalelo zakho

Kubudlelwane, enye yeempawu esinokuzibona kumntu ongazithembiyo kukufuna ukuqinisekiswa. Le yokugqibela isetyenziselwa ukucela ubungqina bothando okanye ukuzibophelela. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba obu bungqina abanelanga kwaye awusazi ukuba wenzeni ngexesha elithile.

Uphawu #2: Isidingo sokuqinisekiswa ngexabiso lakho

Kwisibini, iqabane elingazithembanga ngokufuthi liya kufuna ukuqinisekiswa ngexabiso neempawu zalo. Unokuziva ngathi uluvo lwakho lubalulekile ekuqinisekiseni ukuzithemba kwakhe. Ngokuqonda iimfuno zeemvakalelo zeqabane lakho ngo ukudakumba, unokumnceda azive ekhuselekile yaye ezithembile kulwalamano.

Umqondiso #3: Imfuno eqhubekayo yokuqinisekiswa

Olunye uphawu olunokukuxelela ukuba iqabane lakho alizithembi kukuba aliqinisekanga ngezigqibo zalo. Usenokubuza uluvo lwakho ngalo lonke ixesha kuyo yonke into emxhalabisayo.

Uphawu #4: Utyekelo lokuzibeka phantsi

Iqabane elingazithembiyo nalo liya kutyekela ekuzijongeleni phantsi. Oku kusenokubangelwa kukuba ezama ukuziqinisekisa ngeempawu zakhe, ingakumbi ngokulindela ukuba umncome. Utyekelo lokuzibeka phantsi lusenokubangelwa kukuba iqabane elingazithembiyo livakalelwa kukuba alifanelekanga kuyo yonke into eliyenzayo, nto leyo equka ukuba kubudlelwane bothando.

Uphawu #5: Utyekelo lokuba nomona

Kwisibini, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nomona. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba omnye wamaqabane uhlala evakalisa umona ogulayo, esinye sezizathu zoku kusenokuba kukungazithembi. IKusenokwenzeka ukuba unovelwano kuloyiko lokungalanelisi iqabane lakhe aze lo mva alukuhlwe ngumntu ongcono kunaye..

Uphawu #6: Iimpendulo zokuba semngciphekweni

Ukungazithembi kukwanxulunyaniswa nokuba semngciphekweni. Xa umntu ezixabisa kakhulu, kuba nzima ukwamkela ukungafezeki kwakhe okunokukhokelela ekubeni alahlwe ngabanye. Akakwamkeli ukugxekwa kunye namagqabaza, nokuba akhayo kwaye anesiseko esihle okanye akunjalo.. Ngaphezu koko, ukhawuleza akhubeke.

Uphawu #7: Kunzima ukulawula impixano

Ejongene neemeko zongquzulwano, umntu ongazithembiyo unokwenzakala ngokweemvakalelo okanye angazinzi. Usenokuzivalela ngaphakathi kuye aze azifumane ekwimeko yonxunguphalo olugqithisileyo. Nto leyo eyenza unxibelelwano lubenzima kwisibini.

Zithini iziphumo zokungazithembi kubudlelwane?

Ukungazithembi ngokukodwa kuchaphazela ubudlelwane kwaye kunokubangela iingxabano, ukungakhuseleki, ukungalingani, kunye nezinye iintlobo zobunzima bobudlelwane. Nantsi eminye imizekelo yeziphumo zokungazithembi ezinokuchaphazela isibini:

Uloyiko lokubeka iimfuno zakho kuqala

Umntu ongazithembiyo usenokuba nobunzima ekuceleni uncedo kwabanye. Oku kuthetha ukuba usenokungazifumani iimfuno zakhe kubudlelwane kuba esoyika ukubuza.

Ukonyuka kovakalelo lweemvakalelo

Umntu onemiba yokuzithemba usenokuthabatha amagqabaza okanye agxeke yena ngokwakhe. Ngokomzekelo, unokuziva engafunwa okanye ebuhlungu xa iqabane lakhe lithetha ngempahla. Kusenokude kubekho ingxabano.

Umona nokungakhuseleki

Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokukhokelela ekubeni nomona kunye nokungazithembi kubudlelwane. Umntu ongazithembiyo unokubuza ixabiso labo kwiqabane lakhe kwaye akholelwe ukuba yimpazamo yokuba uyabathanda. Ngaloo ndlela, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ezi ntlobo zabantu boyike ukuba iqabane labo liya kutsaleleka komnye umntu okanye boyike ukuba baya kushiya ubudlelwane.

Indlela yokoyisa ukungazithembi kubudlelwane?

Ukuze ubuyisele i ukuzithemba yeqabane lakho, nantsi amanye amanyathelo afanele ukuthatyathwa :

• Bonisa uxabiso nakwizinto ezincinci

Xa unombulelo ngezinto ezincinci onazo, njengempilo entle, niya kwenza ukhetho olungcono omnye komnye.

• Qho zinike izincomo

Xa uzincoma kwaye uzixabisa izinto ozenzayo kubudlelwane bakho, indlela ozijonga ngayo wena neqabane lakho iya kuphucuka kakhulu yonke imihla.

• Ngamanye amaxesha, nika iqabane lakho ityala ngezinto ezintle ezenzeka kubudlelwane bakho

Ngamathuba athile, zama ukunika uzuko ngemeko entle ozifumana ukuyo kwiqabane lakho.

• Yiva ngezinto ezintsha kunye

Enye indlela yokwandisa ukuzithemba kweqabane lakho kunye nokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho kukufumana izinto ezintsha kunye.

• Ukuya kunyango

Ukuba ukufumanisa kunzima ukusebenzela ekuphuculeni ukuthembana kubudlelwane bakho, kunokuba kuhle ukuba udibane nogqirha wezibini. Le ngcali iya kukunceda unxibelelane ngcono kwaye ubuyisele ukuzithemba.

👇 Ukuya phambili:

• Ukuphatha njani ukungazithembi?
• Ikhonkco phakathi kokungazithembi kunye nokudakumba
• Ukukhanya kwisibini – Iimpawu ekufuneka uzilumkele!