Ubuthakathaka be-Narcissistic kanye nobudlelwano bothando: konke odinga ukukwazi!

I-Narcissistic perverts abantu abahlushwa yi-pathology. Bavame ukubonwa njengabanobugovu, abakhohlisayo, abangenalo uzwelo kanye ne-narcissistic. Kodwa uyakwazi lokho abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic bangaba nokwehluleka okuholela ekuzideleleni kwangempela kubo ? Nakhu okudingeka ukwazi mayelana nalokhu kuhluleka kwe-narcissistic.

Liyini iphutha le-narcissistic?

Igama elithi “narcissistic flaw” livame ukusetshenziswa emkhakheni we-psychoanalysis. Ngokungafani nobuntu be-narcissistic pervert, i-narcissist enesici ngumuntu ophansi kokuzethemba kwakhe kanye nokuzethemba kwakhe. Ngamanye amazwi, esikhundleni sokuzicabangela yena kanye nesithombe sakhe, i-narcissist ehlulekayo iyazingabaza kanye nekhono layo lokuthandwa yilabo abaseduze naye.

Kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi isilonda se-narcissistic futhi kuhlukile ku- iphutha le-narcissistic. Iphutha lijulile kunenxeba elikha phezulu. Ayipholi futhi ibangele ukuhlupheka okungalungiseki lapho icushiwe.

Iphutha le-narcissistic kanye nobudlelwano bothando: bubonakala kanjani?

Ukuba sebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kuwuvivinyo lwangempela kumuntu oyisisulu sakhe. Iphutha le-narcissistic livame ukuvela ubuhlobo obunobuthi, ngokuvamile okuholela imibhangqwana ukuba ihlukane.

Iphutha le-narcissistic libonakala kanjani ebudlelwaneni bezothando?

Umuntu ohlushwa ubuthakathaka be-narcissistic uvame ukuthinta kakhulu futhi acasuke kalula. Uzizwa enqatshiwe kalula futhi ubona ukugxekwa njengezinsongo. Ngalo mqondo, izingxabano zansuku zonke, ngisho nezincane kakhulu, ziba izingxabano ezinkulu.

Izici zabantu abanobuthakathaka be-narcissistic othandweni

Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, umuntu ohlushwa ubuthakathaka be-narcissistic akakwazi ukuzithanda yena. Ngalo mqondo, naye ukholelwa ukuthi akakwazi ukuthandwa. Upha kakhulu abanye, ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi yena yedwa akabalulekile ngokwanele ukuba angabuyekezwa. Ngenxa yalokho, uvame ukufuna njalo ukwenzela omunye okuthile futhi uwela ekuthembeleni ngokomzwelo. Ngaphezu kokuba nomuzwa oqhubekayo wokunganeli nokuzicabangela, uvame ukuzizwa enecala.

Imiphumela yephutha le-narcissistic kumbhangqwana

Noma ngabe kukhulu, kuncane, kwakamuva noma kundala, iphutha le-narcissistic linemiphumela eminingi kumuntu ohluphekayo nasebudlelwaneni bakhe. Uma kushiywe kungalashwa, ukwehluleka kwe-narcissistic kungaba ukugula okungokomzwelo kwangempela..

• Ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo,
• ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba,
• ubudedengu nokungakhathaleli impilo yomuntu,
• ukungaziphathi kahle,
• ukuzilimaza, ngisho nokuzama ukuzibulala,
• ukuziphatha okuluthayo noma ukuncika ezidakamizweni kanye/noma otshwaleni.
• ukutubeka,
• isisulu esilula sabahlanekezeli be-narcissistic,
• Ukufutheka kweNarcissistic: ukungasebenzi kahle kokuziphatha.

Ukwehluleka kweNarcissistic nakho kunemiphumela eminingi lapho umuntu ohlushwa yikho esothandweni. Owenzile angase abe:

• umuzwa wokuzizwa ungelutho uma uqhathaniswa nozakwethu,
• ubunzima ebudlelwaneni nothando,
• icala elikhulu,
• imizwelo ephakeme.

Yiziphi izimbangela zephutha le-narcissistic?

Imvelaphi yephutha le-narcissistic ayicacile. Kodwa-ke, lesi sifo singathola imithombo yakho ngokulandelana kwezenzakalo ezizolimaza unomphela isisekelo somuntu se-narcissistic. Ezimweni eziningi, lezi zenzakalo zenzeka ebuntwaneni. Phakathi kwezimbangela, singabala:

• ukuziphatha ngokweqile kwabazali,
• abazali abangenalo igunya,
• ukuntuleka noma ukungabi khona kothando lwabazali,
• ukuhlukunyezwa kwabazali,
• ukushaqeka ngokomzwelo,
• ukuntula ukuqashelwa ebuntwaneni,
• ingcindezi eyeqile noma ukulindela okuyihaba kubazali,
• ukuvikelwa ngokweqile kwabazali,
• udlame oluphindaphindiwe lomzimba noma olungokwengqondo.

Ngaphezu kokuhlukumezeka okwenzeka ebuntwaneni, iphutha lingavela lapho umuntu ebona ukuthi akayona into abecabanga ukuthi uyikho. Ngamanye amazwi, lapho eqaphela ukuthi isithombe anaso singamanga. Okungaba njalo uma kulahlekelwa isithunzi, ukulahlekelwa ukwethembeka noma ukubuzwa.

Ungahlala kanjani nomlingani onobuthakathaka be-narcissistic?

Ukuhlala nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic kungaba uvivinyo lwangempela nsuku zonke. Ukubhekana nalokhu, kufanele kuthathwe izinyathelo ezimbalwa ukuze kube lula ukuxhumana nobudlelwano.

• Funda kahle umlingani wakho : lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi ubone umthombo we-pathology yayo.
• Qonda umjikelezo we-narcissistic : ukuzizwa usongelwa, uhlukumeza abaseduze kwakho, ukuba yisisulu, uzizwa unamandla.
• Dlala umdlalo.
• Aphakele i-ego yakhe.

Indlela yokuphatha ubuhlobo bothando nomuntu onobuthakathaka be-narcissistic?

Iphutha le-narcissistic, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi likhulu noma lincane, lingaba nemiphumela eyinhlekelele empilweni yomuntu ohlushwa yilo kanye nalabo abamzungezile. Nokho, kufanele wazi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuzikhulula kukho.

• Ukuqwashisa : Lesi yisinyathelo sokuqala sokugqabula amaketanga esikhathi esedlule. Ukuthatha isinyathelo emuva kukuvumela ukuthi ubone ukuthi kukhona okungalungile. Ngokuchaza izinkinga, wamukela ukuthi zikhona nokuthi zilimaza ukuphila kwenu njengombhangqwana..
• Shiya amapotimende ngemuva : ngokushiya amapotimende abo, umuntu onalesi sifo ushiya okwedlule emuva. Kube sekwenza indawo yamanje, kodwa nekusasa.
• Gwema ukuzizwa unecala : ebudlelwaneni, umahluleli we-narcissistic uzizwa enecala futhi unesibopho sayo yonke into. Ngokufunda ukuzithanda nokuzihlonipha ngokwenani lakhe langempela, uyoyeka ukuzizwa enecala ngokuba yena.
• Funda ukuthethelela.
• Ukuzithanda wena.
• Lalela futhi ugcine izwi lakho elingaphakathi.
• Zitholele wena.

Indlela yokuphulukisa iphutha le-narcissistic futhi ube nempilo evamile njengombhangqwana?

Iphutha le-narcissistic alinakugwemeka. Ukuze ululame kukho futhi ube nempilo evamile njengombhangqwana, udinga ukudlula ukwelashwa. Ukuphila nephutha le-narcissistic kanye nokwehluleka kwe-narcissistic kuyakhathaza nsuku zonke. Ngakho-ke kuyodingeka ukuthola indlela yoku phatha i-narcissistic pervert ukuze ukwazi ukuphuma kukho.

Ukucela usizo kungadambisa futhi kupholise ukuhlukana kube kuhle. Unalokhu engqondweni, kunconywa ukuthi uthintane nomelaphi okhethekile. Lesi sakamuva sizokwazi ukukunikeza izixazululo ezisebenzayo ezivumelaniswe nenkinga yakho.

Ireferensi yeBhayibheli mayelana “nephutha le-narcissistic kanye nobudlelwano bothando”

Nali iqoqo lezinkomba zebhayibhili ngesi-French ngendikimba yamaphutha e-narcissistic nobudlelwano bothando:

1. I-Kernberg, OF (1998). Ubuntu be-narcissistic: Isakhiwo kanye nokwelashwa. Izinhlobo ze-Desclée de Brouwer.
2. Bocquet, M. (2011). Ubudlelwano bezothando: Phakathi kokucabanga nokudumala. Editions L’Harmattan.
3. De Mijolla, A. (2006). I-Narcissism kanye nezindaba zayo kumbhangqwana, e Narcissism nothando. Editions Érès.
4. Lemaire, A. (2014). I-Narcissism kanye nobudlelwano babantu: Izinkinga zesibopho sothando, e I-Psychoanalysis kanye ne-narcissism. Ama-edishini ashicilelwe.
5. Zarifian, P. (2012). Ukulimala kwe-Narcissistic ku-psychotherapy: Imodeli yokuqonda imibhangqwana. Izinhlobo ze-Le Champ Social.
6. Jouan, F. (2018). I-Narcissism ebudlelwaneni bothando: indlela ye-psychoanalytic. Ijenali yePsychology, 2(4), 12-20.
7. Lemoine, J. (2010). I-Narcissism nothando: Izindlela zephutha le-narcissistic. Odile Jacob Editions.

Lezi zithenjwa kufanele zikunikeze isisekelo esiqinile sokuhlola ukuxhumana phakathi kobuthakathaka be-narcissistic kanye nobudlelwano bothando.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, iphutha le-narcissistic limelela indaba eyinkimbinkimbi futhi ebuhlungu, kokubili kubantu abahlushwa yiyo kanye nabalingani babo. Ukuqonda umsuka wayo nokuvela kwayo kubalulekile ekuzulazuleni ubudlelwano obuvame ukuphawulwa ukuhlupheka nokuncika. Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka ukuqala indlela ebheke ekwelapheni ngokuqwashisa nokwesekwa kokwelapha. Ngokufunda ukuthandana nokuhlonipha izidingo zabo, wonke umuntu angaba nethemba lokwakha ubudlelwano obunempilo nokwanelisayo.